Well it's amazing how this topic has gain a lots of popularity and well meaning and interested men and women has expressed their views in this very matter in the past. And i must confess that am most delighted to opine my views, well b4 now i have atticulated the minds of some folks on this same issue and i consulted some authors too still was not satisfied with the responds reasons being that they all spoke well and intelligently though i must say but it was from their individual piont of view hence was not absolute. Still with a currious mind i decided to ask the all knowing , God and He referred me to His word the Bible, (the manual for man). When i was done i realize that  the popular saying that "you don't give what you don't have" is indeed true which means like what Adekan said it takes God's to be able to 1st love yourself and then some else. Now the joker here is How much do YOU love yourself? will determine how much you can love someone else and when one does not have God inside, he can only love based on conditionalities. Mind you the subject LOVE is different from relationship and friendship. Compatibility and understanding are just the ingredience of friendship, permit me to expain in a second these varrious terms, and how they are related, Love is God as simple as that so outside God what u have could perhaps be reciprocations of mere feeling which could be inspired by lost, infatuation, hormones yes hormones b'cos it's this biological component that''s responsible for homesuxuality coupled with evil spirits. And others conditions like facial look, talents and material aquisations (money). Friendship is God's gift to us so we can co relate and co inhabit  and the beauty of friendship is that is based on Respect, the Joy of friendship is that based on Trust while the Strenght of friendship is that is based on LOVE. This is what it takes for two to be in relationship and the relation btw them is friendship which they share in common just as the relation btw you and your biological maternal parent is that she is your mother. In other words relationship simply means to be related,  two folks or more having something in common in a ship,  And haven given a clear picture of these terms you can now deduce that any friendship or relationship without God (Love) is weak (strenghtless) hence can't stand the test of time or doesn't end well. And if u don't have it then u can't give it to someone else as simple as A.B.C, on this note i rest my case.

adaezee, just follow ur heart if truely u r a xtian GOd 'll never forsake u.

hi, what exactly do u mean? Anyways i got this to tell u that we r wonderful people though some few folks has actaully given us a bad image but i can tell that we are most fun to be with in this world. Just incase you like to meet me u can come to yahoo mesenger (talk2iknick) so we can meet to talk more but for now take care.
Nick