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Politics / Re: Politics Of Oyo State, Why And How Ajimobi Won by ImBae(f): 4:42pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
I totally agree with this post. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Reasons Why You Should Consider Staying Unmarried (FOR GUYS ONLY)! by ImBae(f): 3:15pm On Apr 06, 2015 |
Timbuktou: |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 10:46am On Mar 22, 2015 |
johnny1980: Lol. For how long should I keep searching before I find the "Good" thing? |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 10:43am On Mar 22, 2015 |
johnny1980: I don't agree with your analysis. I do not have a "type" or a particular description of what I want in a male. I like who I like as long as he's intelligent and I'm not bluffing. Rich, Tall, Dark and Handsome yeah? My last boyfriend does not fall within this description and he cheated, same as the one before. Many married men cheat and they are not even close to this description. I would say that for most women, its all about the money, they don't care if you ugly or light skinned. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 10:26am On Mar 22, 2015 |
nurey: We'll have rules and regulations. He doesn't bring them home and the kids won't know about the plan. I understand its risky, I'm reconsidering. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 10:20am On Mar 22, 2015 |
johnny1980: So you're saying I should keep trying out relationships till I get the right person. That's a whole lot of physical and emotional stress. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 10:18am On Mar 22, 2015 |
iykedare: Lol, you're saying all women are married to prince charming and they have their happily ever after. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 10:16am On Mar 22, 2015 |
pickabeau1: We'll make an arrangement as regards provision, its 50/50 cos kids are involved. Well, no one is going to bother him about his other relationships..some men want that Plus I'm not asking him to stay with me, I'm saying be a baby daddy and housemate. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 10:10am On Mar 22, 2015 |
johnny1980: Ladies aren't wired the same way men are. We are emotional beings. I am a very emotional person myself, and I don't see most of my mistakes until I'm out of the relationship and reality sets in. I take responsibility for my actions actually especially my last relationship- I shouldn't have. For these reasons, I'm not willing to try again. This not to say I take all the responsibilities. There's a problem with the menfolk |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 9:57am On Mar 22, 2015 |
pickabeau1: I didn't see a question there. But if what you are saying is that since the man provides the house and security and you (the woman) don't seem to do anything for him, you should kiss his a.ss, I'll address that. I'll agree to the fact that most of our women are materialistic and they'll totally worship a guy with money and probably leave him when he has nothing. I can't explain why this is so, but I will say something based on my own background and perception. If I am in a relationship, its a relationship and I'm in it because I want to be with you and not because of what I want to get from you and I expect that that's your reason for being in a relationship with me too. Now you provide the house and security, you do so because you are the head of the house and you shouldn't expect me your wife to reward you for doing what you are supposed to do. If you want me to provide the house and security, fine but you'll be giving that position to me and in this case you should kiss my as.s too cos I provide the house and security. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 9:34am On Mar 22, 2015 |
Johnny1980 This is my observation about men (Nigerian) They feel its totally okay for them to cheat, they totally support the Main Chick/Side chick idea, why not? As long as he pays their bills, they shouldn't complain. They have this idea of " A man's heart belongs to just one woman even though he sleeps around". Does that make any sense? She should stay home and take care of your house and kids while you go sleeping around and then when you come back, she should give you a warm welcome. I was in a 5 year relationship with a guy and on three different occasions he cheated with three different girls. This was a guy I loved and who claimed to love me too and who did everything to get me back each time I broke up with him. On his forth attempt to cheat, I had become nonchalant and didn't even bother, my mind was already off the relationship then, this probably made him drop the girl. I finally broke up with him when he left the country. I had another relationship after then, the guy cheated and we are no longer together. Now, how many more should I try? I'm not using my own experience alone to judge, I have friends going through the same bull.shit. The sorry part is they are all accepting it now. When I complained about my last relationship to my friend, she said "it doesn't matter if he cheats, as long as you are the one he comes back to. It can't be helped". I was so furious, I didn't know what to say to her. I don't hate men, I've just given up on them. Even the society support them when they cheat. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 9:02am On Mar 22, 2015 |
johnny1980: Yes, not giving up always result in success but this isn't 100 percent true when it comes to relationships. Its not a business contract, its a relationship. You put your emotions into it, you believe you love the person and he loves you back and you believe you both have something real going. Then suddenly you realise its all a lie, you are saying just brush it off and try again times seventy times seven? Maybe that's true about women, but I don't fit in that description. I do not hate men. What I feel about man has nothing to do with hate. I'll explain. 1 Like |
Family / Re: If You Had The Opportunity To Change Your Name, Which Name Would You Choose by ImBae(f): 8:37am On Mar 22, 2015 |
For some unknown reason, I'd like be called Tomilola or Tomisin Not sure I'd like to change my name, even though its so common....love it still. *love struck* |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 8:05am On Mar 22, 2015 |
cococandy: Falling in love is all nice and sweet. Finding the right person is the problem. Men have short attention span, today they are in love with you, tomorrow they are chasing after someone else. Not willing to take the risk again, heartbreak isn't fun. |
Family / Re: He Wanted To Perform All Kinds Of Sex Styles With Me —wife by ImBae(f): 6:28pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Amuga: Where are they? |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 6:07pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
AtheistD: Okay Boss. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 2:31pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
freecocoa: Hmmm Thanks |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 2:30pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Richy4: LOL |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 1:24pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
AtheistD: I found an inbetween |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 1:14pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Onegai: Crumbs.... Did you miss the part "he must not be interested in marriage"? |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 1:08pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Onegai: Thanks :-) Maybe I am mature, maybe not. I don't see it as a case of standing up to them..I see it as being considerate and I have my reasons. :-) |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 12:58pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
bukatyne: Lol, Can't find one. Nigerian/African men think they are polygamous in nature and act that way. On a second thought, I could try other races |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 12:49pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
AtheistD: I mentioned that it is basically because of my parents. If I had just the society to deal with, I wouldn't even bother. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 12:44pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
bukatyne: Lol. Good suggestions but I don't want to involve feelings that was why I said no sex. I'd rather see side chicks around someone I don't have feelings for than someone I'm attached to. I can't stand it. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 12:32pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Old enough to get married. |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 12:04pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
rofemiguwa: You changed your mind because of what people said about the 28 years old unmarried consultant. Hmmm |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 12:00pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Timbuktou: FWB? This isn't FWB, no "benefits" whatsoever. [/quote author] I'm very sure you'll find a willing partner, and in Nigeria too! Nevertheless, however good this plan seems on paper, time and reality has a way of making us look stewpid. Also, have you considered the effect of this on any children you might have? I'm sure someone more versed in child psychology can help out in this department. By the way, what exactly is your grouse against marriage; surely, not all men womanise. Or is this a backhanded ploy at getting as much diick as you want after marriage. Are you insatiable, ImBae? [/quote] I'm sure we won't look so stewpid. This isn't an arrangement the kids will know about, we are one big happy family as far as they will be concerned. The possibility of them faring well is high as they don't have to through what kids in "real" marriages go through watching their parents "kill" each other. Lol, not all men womanise but most do, its rare to find one that does not. I am not insatiable....but getting as much Ds as u want comes with this kind of arrangement. (that's not the plan tho ) |
Family / Re: My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 10:15am On Mar 21, 2015 |
kelvin1191: What's the rating for? |
Family / My "Marriage" Plan by ImBae(f): 9:24am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Infidelity all over the place, these men can't put their thing in one place, always chasing after one girl or the other after marriage. Our dear Nigerian society will always blame the woman- its because she's not doing enough; if her husband cheats, its her fault ( I even listened to a radio programme where this was emphasized) I understand that some women are so crazy that they drive their husbands away, but how many cases of such do we have? I focus on males here simply because I'm a female. I am not implying that only men cheat. My point here is that marriages don't work, so why bother? Why bother? In my society, everyone carries marriage on their head. They see a woman in her thirties and pity her because she's not married, they may even blame witches and wizards. It does not matter if you remained single by choice, they will still pray for you. I heard my dad mutter a prayer for our unmarried family friend "God please provide a husband for ....". Now I'm more concerned about my parents than I am about the society. I'm totally fine being single considering all the stress that comes with marriage regardless of what people think. I am however the first and only daughter in my family. When I tell someone of my intention to remain single, they reply with "your mom will kill you". I know that will probably happen, so to make "everyone" happy, here's the plan I'll look for a guy with all the qualities I want. He must be intelligent, this comes before good looks. Good looks! This is important, aint nobody gon be making ugly babies. He must be Well to do- money. He must be well behaved and most importantly he must not be interested in marriage as well. Now I don't care if he womanizes or nah, Cos we won't be in a real relationship. We'll be married just to shut everybody up, he's just going to be my house mate and baby daddy. No sex involved, that would bring unwanted emotions and "we" don't want that. We'll make babies through artificial insemination and we'll live happily ever after. Perfect right? No? Cons: Can't see any Pros: *No fights (at least not like in real marriages) *I don't have to worry about him cheating, he can but that's none of my business. *i can be as rich as I want, don't have to worry about a husband feeling inferior *im as good as independent 2 Likes |
Family / Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by ImBae(f): 9:07am On Mar 21, 2015 |
muafrika: My Exact thought. 1 Like |
Family / Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by ImBae(f): 9:02am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Me! Me! Me! Why am I just seeing this thread. Hate is a strong word though. |
Family / Re: What's That You Can't Be Caught Doing? by ImBae(f): 8:57am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Can't be caught Smoking Can't be caught Drunk |
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