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SpencerForbes:
I think that’s what Robert Greene meant by “despise what you can’t have” in the 48 laws of power. Now I understand it wasn’t really hate but just being indifferent 💯

Exactly❤️

Some thoughts on Abundance mindset


Be agnostic. Agnosticism isn't indifference. Indifference is the opposite of love and a strategy to hate. Being agnostic is a strategy to love. Being agnostic is the best method towards always staying chosen. Because agonisticism comes out of options, while hate is borne out of scarcity.
Therefore: Be indifferent towards what doesn't choose you, but be agnostic towards what does.

Truly, the US invading Nigeria based on a Christian genocide to kill bandits would be disastrous. It is innocent Nigerians and civilians who would suffer it the most and wouldn't reduce any banditry, but rather would escalate it. Have things not escalated since Trump made the announcements?

If Trump and the US love Nigeria so much, they should rather invade the financiers - shebi they say know them. Once the financers and complicit politicians are truly invaded, their bank accounts frozen, and they deal with them sweet and clean, these predominantly teenage bandits/Boko Boys would be a clean sweep for the lowest battalion of the Nigerian Army. But no, they won't do that - or could the US itself be indirectly complicit in empowering corrupt Governments in Africa? The USAID and Boko link comes to mind...

The US should save its war artillery and not attempt to waste it on militias that are tightly integrated with innocent civilians, and not destabilize Nigeria any further. The main casualties on the losing end, including the bandits and the victims, are all poor and vulnerable people. Going to kill poor people is more injustice; deal with the financiers.

Oh my...Such a beauty to the ears❤️

The irony is if these leaders are removed, the peace in these countries would go. Not because they are good leaders, but for some reason - they get to keep the balance between what divided them in the past and pacifying their colonial masters. It's sad. I think we Africans need a different form of democracy+mornachy that works for us defined by our values.

Who here has read Rollo's new book reignite?

I think it's a good book for newcomers, though disjointed as always, but passes the message. Some of the concepts that he explains well this time that struck a new meaning for an old timer like me are proximate vs ultimate outcomes, sexual vs mating strategy, and local vs global SMP.

This year has sparked several exposure in me as I have been doing a lot of travel and putting on my RP lenses in those journeys. One thing I can say is location really matters in how much you can maximise your potential here on earth. Don't be scared to take the risk of being nomadic and you'd be surprised you can even get to the top 1% and be a high value man in your community.

That said, there is a long missing item in the trio of Money, Muscles, and Game. The missing item is Location.

Money. Muscles. Game. Location.

Location does not only mean physical location. It means improving your value in any of the meeting point that qualify as a viable sexual market place. Instagram is a location. Tinder is a location. Physical places are location. Work could be a location. Master your location and where you would best thrive - and continually move, change, or improve your knowledge of those locations.

Wishing you all a great week ahead.

Every human has some form of narcissism and perform some of manipulation to a degree. It's simply part of survival. Even what Regina is doing right now is both of them - emphasizing the age, the emotional undertones, etc. is all part of the game...

One effective way to know you are winning the game of power and seduction is when someone uses any of these words on you - "you are manipulative or/and narcissistic".

I predict that at the end these two fighting couples would get back together like she had earlier stated one time. That's the only way it'd be a win-win for all parties involved. You need a lot more to win any Nigerian Politician in a fight. Don't you see how machiavellian they are in power and the level of sycophancy the gullible followers give them? The power that man holds is too much to win fighting directly like this.

If she really wanted to opt out of the marriage and win, she should have pretended everything is good, and make her seduction well-thought plans whilst he is unaware. You don't directly attack and expect to win a man of power.

This also points to why we should not support the abuse of power. When Ned arrested one Tunma guy then who said he had videos of Regina cheating, they never knew that same abuse of power can also be used on them.

I think Davido with you would win it this time. I wonder what that Eddy Kenzo's music is doing here.

Btw, all the songs are very strongly sampled tune. Grammy loves sampling a lot.

You can also use voice to power off.

8. Tonsils

You can do without them easily. But why?

prof2007:
3. REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS
Interestingly, in some male populations, removal of both testicles may lead to an increase in life expectancy.

Hmm...because their risk appetite reduce, I guess.

R.I.P Liutenant.

There is something making this story incomplete. Unless he was drugged, sleeping, or unconscious, I doubt that a trained military man would not have involuntarily or reflexively defended himself. Or maybe he thought it was all a joke and the wife wouldn't act - I wouldn't be surprised, some men fall so much in love that it would defeat any reflexive military training.

One of such men is the car dealer who says the late ex-wife wanted to take him along via suicide, but didn't even spend much time learning from the experience, instead he continued with his simpish lifestyle with another dramatic woman, and now he is getting a breakup from that one after all. On the dealer's social handles, you'd always see comments calling him a "strong man". I wonder if that is what being a strong man is about.

How old is your Dad? For you to be 33 years old, your Dad must have lived to an old age.

There are people with a healthy lifestyle that didn't get to half of that age. Health issues can happen to anyone. Not to excuse your Dad's womanizing or alcoholism but the truth is it might not even be related to any of his current problems.

I don't believe in the concept of "abstinence" in the concept of "running away" from anything. God made everything good.

Rather, I believe in delayed gratification. For me, it's okay to do the pleasures you love as long as it is legal, enjoyable to you, and doesn't infringe on another human's comfort. But make sure that pleasure is a reward for having done the hard/right things. Pleasure shouldn't be a lifestyle but a reward for personal improvement. As "Cheat day" is to the fitness enthusiast, so should pleasure be to a "man".

pansophist:
Salary work is a flash in human history, it is not the norm. It is the invention of a capitalist, exploitative system, and such system in roughly a century has proven to be ineffective.

For most of human existence, work has always been individualised. You do your own thing, hire someone for a short time if needed (eg clear the farm), or exchange what you have for what you want (trade by barter).

The pendulum is just reseting back to normal. It will be a painful adjustment, but a necessary one. People have to figure way to sustain a living, than depending on others to put them on a permanent payroll.

A payroll that demands sacrifices like autonomy, lack of individualism, uncertainty, stagnant income under constant attacked by inflation, etc

The smart one are readapting and going with the tides, while the rest are busy looking for a better job or doing more than one job to further enslave themselves.

You are so observant and long-sighted.

With proper education, we can eliminate this virus. There are so many alternatives for prevention these days, I don't know why Africa is still plagued by this.

In all you do, do not stay weak. I don't care about whatever you are going through as a man; if you keep sulking and don't take action, it will get worse. We have no choice but to build. We either build for one of these two at a time, per situation:

Building for strength is a raw, often painful process. It's when you're at your weakest and you have to dig deep, living with a certain delusion to push through. It’s a period where you have to believe in a future you can’t yet see.

Building for habits is different. It’s about consistency, using the strength you've already built to stay on track. This phase is about maintenance and momentum.

When a man gets unplugged from the matrix, he starts to build for strength, now knowing the truth. It is the hardest part. All of his beliefs, and everything he holds dear, are shattered. But once a man finds the strength and goes beyond this stage, it gets easier. But because it gets easier - now he simps no more, now he understands the game better, most men then get complacent and do not build for the habits. They forget the daily pill, the periodic dread, the hourly grind, the daily avoidance of instant gratification, the gym, till they lose their frame unconsciously.

Do not forget the pill. Stay updated. It's beautiful to be here again.

FaAbData:
Please, the link to ubunja's material on this

This is a succinct take by Ubunja on this issue. Ubunja was a genius:

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know/944#107726481

Walking outside is very natural. You can even do it while sick, recovery rate is high...If you walk for 8hrs in a day, highest that would happen to you would be, you sleep deep. No haemorrhoids, strain, pain...etc.

However, walking in the city with all of the pollutants, lack of nature, fast people, noise, machines, etc. is not recommended.

Very valid response. What else does he want? True that, only yourself can give yourself joy and peace - besides they are emotions not state of being.

It's okay for girls not to bring anything to the table. What's not okay is removing things from the table lol, like taking the Joy and peace he already claims he has. And that you can't find out via a WhatsApp convo, you find out through actions.

So having this convo in the first place is a waste of time. At least this girl is honest. Another girl would say what he wants to hear and not only bring anything but shatter the table eventually during the long term relationship.

Time that he is meant to be using to bang the poor student in the other room, he is using to ask stupid questions.

So what you get darker? Are we not blacks?

canada123:
I’m into tech space , last year took a business analysis course finished top of my class . Some of my colleagues have gone on to get top jobs and I’m still here .

I do well in a class setting and all, but struggle with HR especially at the final round . Just struggle , prepare really hard , practice but I get to final rounds but no offer letter .

Getting a job is actually the anomaly. I'm sure only few of your colleagues got the jobs you are comparing yourself with. Take it easy on yourself, enjoy the damn moment and forget all of those past "top of my class". What are you doing with the present? How many certs have you gotten this unemployed period? What have you improved this unemployed period?

canada123:
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Thanks for the kind words , after so many rejections and no’s don’t even know if I deserve this words or I’m even good enough or it’s just my mind deceiving itself . Cause I have no results to show for it which is technically a fact . Just don’t know at this point . Never been at a point in life where I felt so hopeless and clueless and don’t even know what’s going on again. Like I just keep telling myself I don’t honestly know. Like I have no answers at all to it. Literally no answers

When last did you have validational sex from a woman or many women at once? Sometimes, we men just want to let go of the steam lol. That could be your problem.

I work in big tech. You can get fired at anytime. So you obviously can't be having this mentality you have if you are going to work for one. You might get fired the month you are hired lol. What do you do? Back to depression? Lol.

The moment is all that matters, bro. Live it. Rn, I miss when I was unemployed, because I would be touring the world more if I was and taking more risk like working on products that can change my life in this AI booming era. So live the moment, and enjoy bro.

canada123:
I think I get you honestly , but always feel frustration is when your goals and reality is too far apart , I’ve always wanted to start a tech company be in that space , my plan was get a job , save money , leave start my own thing , but to even get a NOC job after so many interviews is difficult even getting a regular job . I honestly don’t know . I don’t want to seem ungrateful but my head is battling leaving a life of penury and mediocrity versus just calling it a day accepting my fate and exiting it peacefully , than living everyday being reminded of my failures and worthlessness , some people can do that or figure that out in their head, I just can’t do it, trying to just can’t .

All what you just wrote is not factual, bro. It's your mind playing games on you. Like I said, you need to force yourself to practice gratitude. I just told you how rich you are, so what are you talking about penury? In any case you don't know, it could get worse. You are no better or have 2 heads than the homeless man. Which mediocre would be doing interviews with Google, Scotia, and have a good education at 28 years? I live you to this Robert Greene's quote maybe it'd make you feel better as regards your worth:

"Your faith in yourself should overcome your insecurities. Imagine yourself a King and you will become a King."

All you need is gratitude, bro. Be grateful for everything and stop comparing yourself to others. Till you can look within, and count your blessings one by one, that's when you'd be mentally prepared to handle life. You think not having a job in Canada is the worst/best thing that can/will happen to you in life?

Funny enough, na people like you dey fear to take the jump when skydiving or boujee jumping.

If you count your blessings, you would realise having a family - a rich one at that, having good health are also riches.

Enjoy your unemployment bro. You would miss it when you get a job finally. Enjoy your single life too, you would miss it when in a relationship or married. Live the moment and have an abundance mindset(meaning taking all the resources, money, and time) you have now as all that you need to be great. Instead of looking at someone else's or what you don't have.

Nonexisting1:
He is not smart. I'm sure chioma will tattoo his name as David and not as Davido so she can easily add verse and turn it to a Bible verse when everything goes south. It's no news that celebrity wedding no dey last.

Lol. Chioma can be changed to mama too.

Same Amaechi that said Nigeria can never be better.

For men, it depends on the circumstance and the kind of knack you want to have. If you love being a player, having 3/nsomes, dominance, and the kind of quality validational knack a man should have, then other African countries especially East Africa is the way to go for a Naija guy. It's a monogamous world especially in sparsely distributed places like Canada, so even if you are knacking, it would only be safe for you to stick to one knackee at a time. There are a lot of complexities to having that kind of validational knack and multiple partners in places like that. Also, if you are a student, or working in circumstances that open you to more social engagement, you could get away with some of the risky knacks.

For women, there would always be a willing guy and if not, they seem to invest in soapy and it's equipment more than men.

Anxiety kills faster than HIV. Live in the moment. Only God knows the future. It could even be much better than you think. Who knows if there's be a cure sooner than you think.

Handsome and composed.

Lovely clear videos too.

Scarcity is dangerous. No one of them rewards an appearance of scarcity, no matter how small. If they have been wicked, they become even more wicked in multiple folds for accepting the bare minimum. You must choose yourself. You must be your mental point of origin. Remember the triad: there is no greater power than the one that comes from within, nor is there a greater love than control, and never will there be more to mystery than actually being mad.

Why are you doing this to yourself?

You are looking for drugs to hinder the natural workings of life...

pansophist:
Travelling abroad is like being a guest in a rich relative's house.

Sure you might have everything you want in your room, but his wife doesnt like you. She wont show it, but you know due to the exclusion during gatherings, the foods they dish out to you, and her daughter who always frowns anytime you turn on the tv.

You might be comfortable materially, but you sacrificed your esteem, the feeling of belonging, being the default, and swallowing your eba in peace without someone looking at you like youre a bushman,

If where you have to return to is not worse like a warzone, you may go back and regain your sanity. But when you see where you have to return to, you might just as well stay back and hope for better days.

Sound!