Emodeee:




Crazzzzzzyyyyy😯🙂.

Bruv, the craziest part is, he doesn't understand how by not smashing but housing her can get him into a lot of trouble. If he was in the west where they are big on consent, if they later have "accidental" sex without those clear straight discussions, he may just be playing with jail or being tagged a sex offender just for being nice.

That's why it's said taking the redpill is not just about game but even saving lives.

Ericmaestrooffi:



I’ve no intention to smash even though she’s very attractive, I just want to help her.

And yes I’m in a relationship but long distance (my gf is working in another state).

Then don't invite her over.

Sometimes, I wonder the rational in these statements. You want to be housing a girl that is attractive i.e. sexy, while you are providing and you would not be smashing. Listen to yourself bro. Is that possible? Of course. With simps, all stupid heights are possible. And I'm sure you don't want to be a simp.

Brother, if you want to be smashing her, just make it clear to her. She might agree to the deal and might want to run you streetz when she comes saying she is on her period, sick etc. based on how she has viewed you already. So make sure your discussions cover all edge cases even before coming. For instance, you agree to go from the other hole if on her period or you can't accomodate a sick person for safety reasons lol.

But if you are really genuine about not wanting to smash, then why invite her over?

Lol. Dread game used negatively.

jaszplus12:

Poor rejected man will start afresh, seeking gratification isn't going to be a big deal, less physical trauma of house chores, nagging and children issues to deal with, just get another job and run yourself a little, few years hence results will begin to manifest....
Unless you bury yourself in self pity and unnecessary depression....or...
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This is true. Any sensible man would see the opportunity in the restart and freedom.

But trust many men to make the same mistakes again and get into the same loop even after bouncing back.

olamoses75:
women are naturally wired to leech, but your orientation as a man might change that. Every woman irrespective of tribe will still leech on you by turning you to father Christmas if they perceive you as weak. That girl will tells you to have money before talking about love with her is actually fucking another dude for free. I can remember some years back. A man that was so keen on dating my then gf sent her huge amount of money to get a phone. She brought the money to me for sharing. I used mine to get an android phone and she used her's to get some clothes. I don't really care if she was sleeping with that man or not, but the bottom line is; I'm getting for free what the other man was paying heavily for. Yes, I dated 2 Igbo girls in the past one married and the other one,single. I can still control either of them if I see it fit to do so.

Man. You are right. But unfortunately, many men would never get to this level of the game because of the factors involved.

I believe the concept you have with those girlfriends of yours spending on you is closely knitted with the game of dread. Many think dread/indignation is a game tied to only emotions but it can be financial as well.

Many men won’t play the game of financial dread because of the natural provider instinct that inhibits them, and the risks involved.

You’d notice this kind of experience with your gfs happens mostly with broke guys because they are the ones that can think of dread using financial means as many of the inhibitors not to do so is absent. He can easily play moody because of lack of money, which suddenly poses a danger to the relationship, but due to the guy’s abundance of options, the girl wants the dread to go even if it means getting money from another guy to salvage the situation.

This strategy is the same as what a woman would do when gold-digging a man of his resources. The problem with men trying out this strategy is the fact that it is too risky. It is not something you stop. Once you start applying financial dread, it must continue periodically. There is no “this girl has tried for me…let me return…” or “this kind of girl deserves commitment” or “I am rich now…let me take care of her”. A female golddigger would never do that. She would keep at it.

And worse for men, a woman’s money means more to her. So, if you dare stop dreading her financially, you’ll be dealt with.

This is the reason most men would never get to this level of game. It is a risk too much and most can’t keep up fighting the provider/commitment inhibitors.

To excel in this, financial indignation must be the woman's choice of drug, and you must forever be her drug dealer.

Note: Any woman you have played the Financial Dread on must not be shown commitment. She must end up as your Alpha widow for your sanity.

The opposite of love is indifference. Not hate.

The opposite of hate is understanding. Not love.

The moment you grasp this, things start to hit you differently.

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No one in the actual sense wants or can be "happy" forever. It's boring.

It's not your job to make people happy. Stop worrying about things that is not in your control.

If you ever are to make someone happy, do it to make yourself feel good instead. Do it to raise your oxytocin.

You are not married to a woman to make her happy.

You don't have kids to make them happy.

People have every right to be sad or feel whatever emotion they want at any point in time. Rich or poor. Single or married.

Stop letting other people's emotions rob on yours. Decide how you want to feel.

Happiness is a choice. And that choice is personal.

And besides, there is a lot to life than happiness.

Why do I feel this has a spiritual undertone to this?

God is speaking through that boy's intuition. They shouldn't take it lightly.

Hmm...

This should only come as a surprise to people who think this refinery would have any real impact on Nigeria's economic progress anyway.

Kobojunkie:

Marriage does not and has never been a reasonable cure or treatment for loneliness.

True.

JESHAL007:
IF you keep simping, remember that one day, you'll kiss your bride in the front of her 27 exes, 10 besties who have fvcked and dumped her, her favorite one-night stand guy and her 5 sugar daddies which she introduced as her uncles.

They'll eat your food recklessly like they did to your Wife.

Lol. Why evils?

whatss:
@texaco1 ,@Danhumprey,
There are two sides of a coin , Truth /Lie , Just as i have said , Time would tell , Its a Dangerous thing Claiming to do the work of Almighty God and Molesting Innocent People , Its quite Dangerous , In addition as i have earlier said , time would tell , it is very Controversial but i tell you i don't expect anyone to believe it , never ,As at Present , the address i have mentioned is very visible in Ikotun , I can say it again and again , Governor Road is very accesible , ABIOLA ADEYEMI Street , the house of the Abiola Family is on a one hectare , with tress , The street bears the name of the late man Called Abiola , TB JOSHUA Slept with all the late man Daughters ,There mother is Tall , she was sad when she discovers it, He TB JOSHUA once lived in the compound before , the room he lives in is still there , the late Abiola liked TB JOSHUA helped him got a Job in a POULTRY IN OLE AFA , it was TB JOSHUA Blood sister a Nurse that Introduced TB JOSHUA to Mr Abiola. One day , i said one day , The truth Shall Prevail , Yes he gives rice to the Needy , He gave food to the Widow , he did this he did that , Must he Molest Innocent Girls? When the Matter was Taken to the Lagos High Court , Ikeja , The Abiola Family was threatened .

KAYODE FALARUGBON former wife , what happened to her? He TB JOSHUA Impregnate her , when his husband KAYODE FALARUNGBON who was sent to Ghana by Synagogue on an Evangelical Mission knew about his wife pregnancy he was shocked because he has been away in Ghana for long and he never slept with his wife , the unanswered question remains , later Lola Confessed to her husband and that was the end of the Marriage , they came to Synagogue because they needed a child. Kayode left the Synagogue , with the help of a good Samaritan Ghanian woman he was able to continue the work of God , now happily Married .

There is a girl called AJOKE TB JOSHUA Claimed that the girl was dumped in the church by unknown woman , lies , that girl is actually his daughter , a different woman had that girl for him , lies . Why .Like i said , Some old members who are still attending the church or are not know all these . Yet some would say he his not a perfect man , off-course he his human but how about an Intended Evil .
Like i said don't bother yourself to Believe me , i Know what i am talking .Again you don't need to ask God to bring his wrath upon me ,Almighty God knows all things so you don't need to tell him or remind him .
Point to at least one Pastor or Evangelists Produced by TB JOSHUA .After using people , the next thing he does is to set them up and dump them , no wonder a disciple called AJONIBODE who died in the church , confirm it , doubters , once said TB JOSHUA use people and Dump them WE CALL IT USE AND DUMP SYNDROME , Later AJONIBODE OF BLESSED MEMORY WAS STEPPED ASIDE JUST FOR SPEAKING THE TRUTH .LATER HE WAS CALLED BACK BCK

Hmm....

Supported. Nice development.

Try your possible best to avoid stressors.

Avoid sugars, eat low carbs and eat foods high in choline such as eggs.

Also, get massages, go for beauty sessions, go to dance sessions, reduce talking, channel most of your talking to productive ventures like your passions.

Reduce aggressive films and bad news. Even if it is churches that feed your mind with attacking and dealing with enemies.

Give more. Read books on Power and Seduction. They teach you how to win in other smart ways without aggression. Avoid erotic relationships for now till you fix yourself. But enjoy friendships, sexual encounters and what-nots.

The problem is not anger. Anger is an important emotion. The problem is understanding yourself and your emotions and using it appropriately.

Combating loneliness, achieving contentment, being happy...these are things that can only come from within. And they are things that are more important than anything. More important than marriage, children, or whatever.

Don't fall into the popular fallacies of:

1. You are now one after marriage: No. You are still an individual. And as an individual, it is your duty to make yourself happy. Reduce your loneliness. Etc.

2. Communication is the best way to solve your problems: No. If you share this issue you face with your husband, it'd only bring new issues in your marriage as he would suspect you and also view you as unloving, ungrateful, and can't understand the situation as you. So instead, find ways to solve your loneliness problems yourselves. Read books, watch related movie/documentation on your situation, to find possible solutions.

3. Marriage Counselling: No. Same reasons with the first two. Even much worse as you would have a large focus on the problem and watch it grow. Instead of taking actions. Instead, take actions from what you learnt in number two.

Even in marriage, there are some things you solve as an individual and from within. One of which is loneliness. If you can do that, it only helps the marriage more.

Two interviews that got me this month. Well, the focus for me is not even about their relationship woes but about how they were able to bounce back and keep their heads up:

1. Emeka Ike

https://youtube.com/watch?v=S0Hk6TRkhI0&pp=ygUJZW1la2EgaWtl

2. Dr. Olumide Emmanuel

https://youtube.com/watch?v=0acmbeYRoJo&pp=ygUTZHIgb2x1bWlkZSBlbW1hbnVlbA%3D%3D

Do people still eat 3-square meal?

Let's even assume the worst-case and the suspended lawmakers are made to vacate their seats, would there be a re-run that they'd be involved in? If there is a re-run, how won't they win again with the kind of rigging we saw the last time in Rivers with the presidential?

Rizzputin:


No. There are no universal anything. No universal WHYs and NO universal HOWs

But there are BEST PRACTICES. That is, ways, methods, principles and mindsets that increases your odds of success.

WHYs and HOWs are not created equal. There are the best ones, the good, the and the average. None of them gives you guarantees

But the best one drastically increases your odds for success.

Also, it's always better if you have someone giving you a good sense of direction on HOWs. Both in seduction, work and even in business

It shortens your learning curve. And makes things faster. The guy that posted his story where I helped him could have spent months trying to figure out what to do.

But after pointing him to the right direction, he was always able to turn things around.

Always understand that while nothing is guaranteed or universal, there are always BEST PRACTICES.

I agree with you. We may just be having a variation on semantics though.

My point is know the reason for the principles or best practices to success. Know the WHYs. From the reasons, you can easily carve various ways to go about your own situation - the HOWs. Which is why you can advise the guy's situation even without necessarily being in his current shoes or experiencing his exact situation at the moment. He should prioritise learning the WHYs to also be a master in the game.

But while at it, there is nothing bad if he looks for specific HOWs from who/what to point him to the right direction. Which he did. However, the WHYs would help him discern if the direction that he is being pointed to is right.

Rizzputin:


Well that's probably one of my biggest issues with red pill. Too many "whys" very few "hows"

Mindsets are good. Books are great. But actually being in the field of seduction is how you grow. It's how you adopt the best practices and stay natural

I've had girls tell me "where did you come from" Or "why didn't God make more men like you"

Of course, I wasn't "made" this way. I had to approach, and seduce women to get a place where I can have as many fast hook ups as possible.

If you notice red pill advise is always about "ignore her. Forget about her" That's because a massive chunk of them have zero clue on how to turn things around.

And it's no surprise. Because is the only way you internalize the HOW is to try stuff out. And of course, it's always easier when someone gives you some direction so you know where to start. Which I've done for him

That's because there is no universal "HOWs" but there are universal "WHYs".

My quote goes thus:

Give a person fish: He would eat the fish and come back to you for more.

Show a person how to fish: He would be amazed that he can make more fish through the process. But what happens if fishing goes extinct?

Tell a person why he should fish: He could probably find a way to achieve the same goal via hunting or invent his own fishing skills. He might not get more fish instantly, but if he ever does or even if fishing goes extinct, he would most likely still be relevant.

The sexual marketplace is too dynamic to be immersed with a lot of "HOWs" like the PUAs instead of the "WHYs". Things change by the minute. Climes are different. What happens when the person you are advising travels to a country like France? He can only cope if he is immersed in the "WHYs" and create his own well-suited habits that fits his situation, clime, personality, age and what-not that are ever-dynamic. Besides there are diverse blue-pill experiences to know what your "WHAT-NOTS" are and carve your "HOWs" from.

Rizzputin:

I like the way you recommend the "WHY" and the "HOW".

But I think you should leave him with the "WHY" and let him figure out the "HOW" by himself. That's how he would develop his red pill lenses.

Copper supplements + Copper leg chain + exercise + lose weight + less carbs/Sugar + more organ meat(Liver especially).

You need this right now.

When he decided to bury him fast, we complained.

Now he is stalling, we are complaining again.

I guess it's not an easy feeling. This song by Lucky Dube could give a little exposure on the feeling:

Lord of mercy!
I remember the day I called mama on the telephone
I told her mama I'm getting married, I could hear her voice
On the other side of the telephone, she was smiling
And she asked me a question that I proudly answered
She said, "Son did you take time to know her?"
I said mama she's the best but today it hurts me so
To go back to mama and say mama I'm getting divorced
Oh I'm getting divorced
This choice I made didn't work out
The way I thought it would
This choice I made. It hurts me so mama,
This choice i made, didnt work out the way i thought it would, this choice of mine oh!
Mama said me.
It's not easy to understand it son
But I hope you'll make it, you'll be happy again. 2x
I remember in church, when the preacher man read the scriptures
You looked so beautiful, so beautiful and so innocent
I did not know that behind that beauty
Lies the true colors that will destroy me in the near future
This choice I made didn't work out to be what i thought it be
Oh!, mama
This choice i made didnt work out the way i thought it would now am hurting.
I remember when I held you
By the hand preacher man read the scriptures
Putting words in your mouth.
Maybe what the preacher man said
Was not something that was within you.
Now I know what they mean when they say
"Beautiful woman is another man's play thing"
Oh! Lord! I'm hurting now
This choice I made didn't work out
The way I thought it would, this choice of mine oh!
Mama said to me
It's not easy to understand it son
But I hope you'll make it, you'll be happy again.

There is a psychological term for it. I can't remember right now.

But I think scientifically, it is not advised to date such. And the reasons go in the line of "humans having to diversify more".

I also concur with this.

IMO, the evolutionary tactics a mother would use to survive childbirth and nurturing if applied to mating naturally would be disastrous.

Your brain would fall for her tricks more which is already happening and you'd have an unrealistic soft spot for her which won't help as you need to be at your logical best to play the role of a mate better which you probably don't need if it was a parent-child relationship.

These are the kind of girls IMO that are okay to be just friends with. Since smashing may feel like incest anyway. Trust me, you'd like the friendzone chemistry. An erotic relationship with her may be quite messy.

Or the only way I see it working as a relationship would be if you understand the psychology of the dynamics in these things. If you do, you'd. probably not have created this thread because you won't be seeing similarities with just your Mom at that level, but with every other female. I think those who understand this call it AWALT. And you of course won't even have anything to do with her anymore since it is clear she doesn't choose you.

So either way, it won't work most likely. Happy discovery . Maybe you'd discover a girl who thinks you behave/talk exactly like her Dad soon.

Notplayn:
Dear happily married people that came from a broken home, please speak up.

Someone said it's not hereditary and I agree. But just saying that is no much help.

Marriage is very scary to me right now. Actually, for many years.

And it's something my partner is very interested in. I want it too, but the fear is all I can feel.

On the other hand, if your parents are still together, even if it was "toxic" in your opinion, it means it wasn't a failure. And there are a lot of things to learn from it. In Nigeria, some of the toxicity is intentional from the Parents trying to buy into the sentiments or be the favorite of their children. You'd be surprised how lovey-dovey and beautiful some of the Parent's relationships are when the children are not around.

Seeing it as a failure would probably make you unlearn the tenants that made the so-called "toxic" relationships last long. One of them is men not wanting to be like their "toxic" Dad and they end up hopeless Simps in prevention, or women not wanting to be like their "suffering" Mum and end up becoming narcissistic, unrespectful, and damning. And funny enough, the children's marriage would now end up not lasting a quarter of the years their parents did.

So OP, don't be scared of failure. Failure is important. But fail fast. Fail early. Fail differently.

If you are willing to enter the marriage institution, have logical conversations with your Parents on it. Be truthful to the last about who your Partner is. And please listen to their advice. They are not in love, so they'd give you more rational advice. Btw, the marriages of our Parents and Ancestors still remain some of the best examples of marriages. If you think you are wiser, see the nonsense happening in developed countries, the rate of divorces, soon propagating faster than ever in Nigeria too.

If I would japa, it's for more exposure. And to have more options.

There is nothing as fulfilling as a life with options.

I wish I could even be a Nomad. Live in a different country each year.

APOPTOSIS:

Honestly.
Men really need to wake up.
They have to be made to understand they don't need marriage as a prerequisite for Good and Peaceful Life. I wish many men will relocate abroad and see the number of successful single fathers we have abroad. Most even take care of their kids far better than their ex wives would have. Travelling isn't only for fun but for enlightenment and educational purposes.
B4 getting married, make sure you won't be trading your peace of mind. This goes to include the ladies too

Yeah. Travelling is an eye-opener.

If you even watch old American films in the 60s such as The Graduate etc., you'd realise that what many of these Nigerian males in this current generation of marriages are facing is exactly what the Americans were facing then in their then conservative culture such as ours.

Though theirs have now degenerated with several legal backings to the extent that Men hardly toast talkless of nearing marriage.

Nigeria would surely degenerate to that level.The only thing making it slower is the kind of leaders we have here. Though "sociopatic" but still very masculine. So, the laws and influences are only coming gradually. Many of which are even still practicing polygamy. If the likes of the Peter Obi with more structure and western influence come in, of course the degeneration would have been faster. And the OP would suffer more.