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macsika:
You're wrong on all levels. Stop misleading people.

I.e. and e.g. are both abbreviations for Latin terms.

I.e. stands for id est and means roughly "that is."

E.g. stands for exempli gratia, which means “for example.”

Your teachers were right all along, you just weren't paying attention.

BenShammer:
Haba of course I've experienced it many times. Female former high school mates/course mates, NYSC mates etc. In fact its odd to have a female friend/acquaintance/colleague that doesn't demand for recharge card and gifts. Its downright bizarre

purem:
All dis long epistle thread sef

Buh OP wht are u doing by dis tym sef

BenShammer:
Nah, during the course of negotiating discussing, a sharp guy would insist on talking on phone/meeting in person, at which point the she males back off

BenShammer:
In a few cases, yes. Majority are just girls that feel entitled to demand for money from guys because of their sexuality

Blackfyre:
it sure more than helps, it showed my errors. you are very right about only God can make anyone see for themselves and that, i learned through the hard way.

As to that last question, because love will not be enough to make it work, God's approval matters most. Lets say your advice came after the lesson had been learned tho..

However thanks a lot and may God continue to bless you. Tremendously grateful.

BenShammer:
But its not an unfair generalization. Many girls who are into such are slay queens, I.e they wear the latest styles (and you know nudity is in vogue) and are very active on social media. Because a great percentage of such slay queens haggle over the price of sex and demand for recharge cards once you make the mistake of chatting with them, people formed that image of them. Sure there are many girls with their own money who love to look good and upload it, but they're in the minority

Blackfyre:
Picture that sort of female we were talking about earlier.

Now she is the type that is liberal. You know in terms of spirituality she is just, is as it comes. How do you make such person see spirituality as we discussed on that thread that talked about the sacredness of sex and its spiritual implications when she basically sees it as an activity that both parties enjoy and nothing more.

I don't know if you get what i am driving at because i can't seem to find the right words to explain. But basically, her spiritualty is non existent so to speak? Most attempts at trying to make her see is termed being sanctimonious or trying to force things upon her.

Do you think there is any success? How best do you think one could approach female on that front? Should one just desist entirely from such undertaking.
Especially since there seems to be a constant friction on such things...

Blackfyre:
incrizz

come oh..i got a question to ask your opinion.

Josephamstrong1:

BenShammer:
Inspite of your sarcasm I agree wholeheartedly with your points, especially the whole men loving financially independent women to 'depend'on them and women been enjoined to appreciate whatever crumbs he can afford. That's just how we're wired, just like every woman desires to be cherished which usually manifests in the form of gift giving etc. No matter how rich a girl is, getting a gift from a guy she truly loves makes her feel all mushy on the inside.
Concerning men wanting financially stable women, its not so much that we want to eat her money, people (male and female) are drawn to successful people (not wealthy). I'd be more fascinated with an orphan who swept the streets until she saved enough money to start a business than a billionaires daughter who can't do anything (not that all children of rich people are lazy). So you see its not about how much or how little she has, its about how she was able to combine hard work, discipline and industriousness to make something of her life, as opposed to making a living as a slay queen who uses her sexuality to get money from all sorts of men.

invinzible1:
can we date already. nice piece babe

360command:
I know of a Lebanese friend back in gh, he is a low life. Thank God he married a good woman who labours to cater for the family. It is funny though, the children don't see the father as the father but they see the mother as the father. The Lebanese man loves to gamble, he is a disgraced to the Lebanese community back in gh. Everyday he plays the sport betting and he does not have a real job... But the man is so into his wife, not that he loves her which he claims he does but the fact that he is a loser and has no friends around him.

Blackfyre:
Well you may have a point on how he comports himself around such women. But i still think its rare.

Say wetin happen? same naija guys that bash women on here? i dont believe that. some and i think very few may exists in such respect but most naija guys wey i know oh, their ego is too much for that. Maybe the ones who are poor or have no way of making it on their own. But then, there is internet scams, yahoo plus, betnaija and a host of others they would readily consider than being subservient to a woman because of money.

are you speaking from personal experiences?

Blackfyre:
What do you mean "other areas", have you been reading my posts?
Be honest

Indeed, i have come to know that for a fact. All this tale of we will build it together, everyone starts from somewhere small and the idea a woman will genuinely respect a man who she earns than is a complete lie. All the women saying this are telling a fat lie! Except for those very rare exceptions.

I have no fears on my financial capabilities at all when the time comes. God has more than assured me on his word it was why i was confident enough to find out what it feels like before the time comes.

No one told me oh, i just feel you are in your 30s. I could be wrong tho, some of us mature faster than our ages.

zainmaxwell:
most times it just understanding that matters but some ladies are difficult to understand some don't know what dey want

Blackfyre:
Also I am quite temperamental at times especially if circumstances are tense at the time. It's really an undertaking that requires a very mature hand,a great deal of patience and a very relaxed approach.

zainmaxwell:
I meant If you treat me right I will do u well

Blackfyre:
Honestly you understand how men think and what they want, at least for me,your disection of the matter was soothing. I swear i was literally jumping on my feet reading your comment...

I have a question, is it possible to make a woman see things this way if she is bent on standing toe to toe with a man and interpretes everything as a man trying to have dominance over her?

She believes in a relationship or marriage, it should be partnership rather than recognising the man as the head even though as you have said, its more of submission. He really doesn't have an interest to exercise dominance over her or authority in a condescending way but observe his status as the man or the reverence(i hope this word isnt too strong) due to him?

zainmaxwell:
seem like you live a do me I do u life

Blackfyre:
Damn woman!!! You dey burst my head!!!!

I was just about to emboldened the part before i saw you edited, "are you submissive as his woman".

You nailed everything perfectly! By the power of the almighty God, you will end up with the right man from God to you. You will never miss it IJN, Amen!