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cococandy:
What’s she supposed to be doing with her earnings?

You people better don’t start off on the wrong foot. Or you start a pattern you can’t continue if something small should go wrong in the future.

You’re supposed to be looking resources. Helping each other out. Planning for your kids together.

If you want to foot her lifestyle based on her income that she makes now, is there consideration in there for the best options for the kids as they come along? What about other expenses that don’t revolve around her or the future kids?
Is she going to contribute as well? Or ‘your friend’ wants to carry NL sole provider rhetoric into his real life thinking it works that way?

Be willing to help and accept help.

Nne shey you know for here girls no dey gree say them get money na.
For kids I know women won't even wait for you before they do things for their kids,so definitely in that aspect I know it won't be a burden the moment she starts birthing for him.
He was just worried about unrealistic standards to be met especially in their early marriage times.
They can claim that they are good without your help but them moment you don't provide,some kind of attitude will start to come up.
He just wanted to know the basic standard for a woman like that so he can see if he can do it or not,assuming she is not someone that want to work together with the husband as regards to finance.
That's all.

cococandy:
Good luck and happy married life in advance

lol no be me ooo.
Just a good friend from wayback.
E don tay sha,I know you are good.

Fastestmanalive:
Bro, since you said she works in a fancy drugstore. her salary is likely to be between 100-170k.

Would that be enough for her?

Not bad if you ask me.
I think she can manage it since she seem well groomed.
She doesn't eat out and don't do all these expensive lunch all these girls do.
My guy asked me if say like 70-100k a month to give her will be okay for her womanly upkeep and taking care of the house,even though he might spoil her once in a while.I thought it might he okay in my opinion.
Do you think that can work?
Let's just assume for a regular young working class girl with good background.

Fastestmanalive:
Does she know how much your guy is earning? If not then he should make it clear to her before any marriage that he can only afford few luxuries like occasional outing and so on like you mentioned. It would then be up to her to either accept it or leave.

This is true.
I thought so too.

Fastestmanalive:
Read my edited post

I've done so,thanks a lot.

Fastestmanalive:
I understand you bro, trust me I really think your guy should ask her, because the one thing Nigerian girls don't lie about is money. If she feels that what your guy is making isn't enough I am sure she would say it out, because she herself doesn't want to be put under pressure either.

But if you really want the info on the DL then it depends on where she works as a pharmacist. Theres no one universal price for a pharmacist job. Some make a medium money and some make a lot.


Does she work in any reputable pharmaceutical company?

She works in a drugstore,you know all these fancy and polished ones.
My guy say If she can make say 400k a month,then he thinks she can foot her current lifestyle effortlessly though.
Those were just some of his thoughts he shared with me not so long ago.

Fastestmanalive:
I understand you bro, trust me I really think your guy should ask her, because the one thing Nigerian girls don't lie about is money. If she feels that what your guy is making isn't enough I am sure she would say it out, because she herself doesn't want to be put under pressure either.

Under pressure like my guy demand from her?
If so then I don't think that'll happen.
He is good,trust me.
But his fear is maintaining that rich girl lifestyle with his money,You know na.
So that's why he is getting cold feet and want to be sure she makes enough first.
No be say later person go say I want brand new motor my friend go start look for where to carry 10m to buy woman motor.
But if its basic things of life and few luxury,he can do that very well.
Occasional outings,shopping,etc..no problem.

Hathor5:
I understand it but in a good relationship you should be able to open up to your partner and address such issues. Only she knows how her family thinks, no stranger on NL will.

What I think is that your friend feels insecure around her. That's his main problem because he doesn't need NL to figure out what standard of living his girlfriend is used to.

It's possible Nairalanders will increase his insecurity.

No I don't think he is insecure because I know him for long now.
He knows if it is by going by what the girl is used to,he won't be able to cope.
First the girl uses a brand new car bought by her parents,big house and all those rich kid things.My guy will really struggle to keep up with that.
But he thinks if the girl is doing good from her job(drugstore pharmacist),maybe she might not bother him much with unrealistic demands that need to be met.
They are both young,my guy is 28 and she 25.
So if he starts rooting large bills from an unrealistic woman now it might mar his dreams a lot.
So he wants to know what she earns possible so he can judge If she is self sufficient first or not.Shey you understand?

Fastestmanalive:
But if you ask me, like the lady above me said, your guy should ask her how much is ok for her

Like how much my guy makes so she can know if it's good for her or not?
Doesn't seem right sha and people can always pretend,so he wants to get some of these info by the side.
The lady acts contented and all but my guy is scared so that they won't come and stress him in marriage and things like that.
Simple guy,not superficial and things like that,so he doesn't wanna be put under pressure.
That's what I think.

Hathor5:
Shouldn't the two of them discuss such things together?

Well it might be rude of him to ask her some of these things directly and she can read an undertone to it or worse,pretend.
So he asked me as his guy and I couldn't answer him directly then I decided to ask here.

tym92:
it's for passenger bro

mercury villager and co...
Cc tpound
Contact him,he is the man for you.
Diportivo too and nurey,help a brother.

Hi all...
So I've got this friend of mine who might be loving this pretty lady that works as a pharmacist in the southern part of Nigeria.
Apparently the girl is from a good family that has a good background.
Brand new car*probably bought by her parents) and works as a pharmacist here in the south and still live with her parents.
Maybe young,say 25 or so,schooled abroad,eloquent,she seems kind from the few times we all hung together and doesn't seem materialistic.
However my friend is a realist and he knows money always matter along 5he line.
He owns his own business,educated and seem to be doing Good too and financially stable(nice house,relatively new car,good business,some properties both inherited and personal effort etc...)
So what bothers him is;
He would like to know how much pharmacists make in Nigeria(the drugstore ones) and what are its growth potentials?
What a woman like that will want in a man,especially when it comes to finance.
He is also worried if a educated family like theirs will want a businessman(trader) for an inlaw or maybe might prefer corporate world people as it seem almost everyone in their family is one professional or the other.
My guy seem to want to settle down soon and wants to make a decision amongst some of the options at hand as he doesn't want to waste much time again.
First hand experiences will be appreciated,thanks...

odimbannamdi:
Whatever dollars FDIs repatriates to their home country is very paltry compared to the fact that Nigeria imports virtually everything. So, through the FDIs or not, there will always be a pressure on our scarce dollars.

Let us not also forget the economic activities and diplomatic friendliness the presence of these FDIs bring to the table. They pay rent, tax, salaries etc to indigenous people and organization as well.

I do not think FDIs are our problem, sir.

If you had 10 problems and I reduce or solve 4 problems for you,has your problem not been reduced to 6?
Take away those repatriation and see how naira will gain.
You think if telecoms,retail and other groups sell their stake to Nigerians the naira won't gain?
Also,I never said FDIs shouldn't come to Nigeria,however I had a problem with FDIs coming to do petty things that Nigerians can do like retailing tooth paste and toilet roll and to sell beer.
I for no talk if total dey build refinery or GE dey build power assets,these are the things we need not coming here to help us sell agbalumo and tangerine.We can do that.
These are some problems a weak naira will help us achieve coupled with good economic policy and a free market system.
FDIs will direct their assets and funds more into things Nigerians can't do like power and the likes rather than just come here and be doing nonsense to make easy money.
You think if shoprite goes that will be the end?Not at all.
Others will buy it and continue paying rents and employing people so no issues.
It's just foreign ownership of the retail giant that is harmful
I don't know why everyone keeps misunderstanding what I said.

What kind of transport?
Cargo or passenger?
Because you can always get a clean mercedes benz vito naija used for like 600k,Citroen J5 or Peugeot boxer abi jumper toks 1.5m....
Passenger I have no idea as it doesn't interest me.

2011 E350 toks 4.9m
Naija used 2006 Cls going for 4.5m
Later you go say na money weh no dey the country weh make you no sell your motor...
Continue

Olaide1295:
No, this is not true.
Not everyone can physically join the protest. Some people will contribute financially, others morally.
Protesters peacefully demand for a better government and it's shameful that you mention terrorists in the same sentence.
I was in Somolu last week and i literally saw people living in poor conditions. For how long can Nigeria continue like this.
We hear 100M people are living in poverty, imagine a stadium is filled with 5000 people. Then picture 100M people and try to remember that each one of those are human beings (not just number)

Our Nation is in trouble, We need people (You and I) to Stand up and encourage others. We need a revolution.

Can you please tell me that thing that you think the government will do that will lift a 100m people out if poverty?
I would appreciate it if you could come up with a list of things that the government needs to do to change the narrative.

[quote author=Phraences post=92501260][/quote]Chesterfield actually...

ahiboilandgas:
God will not help us untill we get sense by force ...the refine locally expect pms to hit 200 naira crude jumping to 45 dollars

Good!
Anyone that can't afford it should buy a diesel car like Europeans,Ghanaians,Canadians,etc...
Nigeria have been funding a false lifestyle of it's people for too long.
Not that Any riff-raff will go and buy large petrol V8 because say e see cheap fuel to buy subsidised by the government,yet they want the government to perform magic and turn Nigeris to first world with limited income and very large overhead cost
Enough of this socialism BS.
I only feel pity for the masses that use public transport cos prices will so go up for transportation.
It will encouraging local refining in all forms,shapes and sizes.
It will also curb smuggling and diversion of petroleum produce too, unless naira remains weak like vegetable
It will come with another problem;
Increased oil theft in the niger delta and the rise of cheaper black market products in major cities selling for almost half the price.
Dangote might feel the heat when he starts operating and adjust his local petroleum product pricing accordingly,otherwise black market pricing will so fùck him up
Oil theft and black market fuel will help keep him in check,lest the money hungry monopolist will kill us with high price
No more subsidy and the problems it comes with.

Afromentalist:
I thought you wanted to bring about change !?

My brother I tire ooo

missjekyll:
Since the dawn of time, History has tipped the balance time and time again in favour of those who stand up against oppression and continually seek to make life better for the poorest of the society.

History has also defaced and totally erased the memories of such oppressors.

If I have 1 day left to live,I choose to spend it advocating against tyranny and oppression.

I do not really mind being called a vandal. I will stand for something. What do you stand for?

I stand for peace and building our various lives,careers and businesses one step at a time.
This is the same way the anglophone crises in Cameroon started in Buea,2016.
4 years after,no peace,no progress,people running from their homes and over 70k refugee situation in Cross river state.
I know guys who work for the UN who i can cc here on nairaland so they can come educate you on the realities on ground in cross river and the dangers of revolution.
Are you rich enough to send a private plane to come and evacuate your family when the revolution starts?
Do you have property in Nigeria?I'm sure if you do you should know by now that it will become hideouts for so called freedom fighters and your property will be seized from your ownership by the so called freedom people you are supporting now or will be shelled by the military with tanks trying to take out criminals from it.
I stand for capitalism and a fully capitalist state and a total eradication of socialism.This is what the north has been using to drag Nigeria backwards for years with their joblessness and lack or creativity.
If we go full capitalist,there would be progress in this shithole.
Don't follow jobless people and never do wells to incite hate and mislead the masses into a war scenario.

As the days go by,these guys just keep proving to us how jobless and unexploded they are.
Joker is talking about union when it comes to national security matters,lol...
Go and ask what happened to sesekou and maurice kante that thought they can overthrow a sitting government.
It's like you want the government to disintegrate that your rubbish Nupeng or whatever organisation you hold a very insignificant position in under 1hour.
Besides,I'm sure the narto is smart enough to abandon you in jail and let you rot there like sowore than risk their existence in the nigeria industry,that's if you even belong there in the first place.

missjekyll:
Thank God you are okay.So you have got a bail fund? Where is the link? I want to donate.

You know it will be better if you join the protesters and bear the risk with them head on..
Anyone can hide behind a group and fund "terrorism",but coming out in the open is what matters most if you want your voice to be heard properly and will make you the hero you so much desire to be.
So why not join them so we can take your cause seriously?
If you want to better Nigeria,come back home and open a business especially in your field of expertise.
Barbarism and stupidity has never made any nation progress.
Vanderbilt,Rockefeller,Dangote,Rothschild,etc... all contributed to the progress of their various nations by creating empires and not destroying them by acts of civil unrest.
Vandals/economie terrorists will be met by acts of fury from the Nigeria armed forces.
Be wise!

viettastitches:
nothing much o. I'm sure you don't remember
our deal.

Funny enough I do.
Do you have a number I can call?

viettastitches:
welcome back boss.

Hi vietta,what's going on?

Ibrahim505:
The government hate any move that will revolt against her. I wonder how could a businessman joint such a high risk protest. Oga Ahib (possibly the one in black and white) need our collective prayers. He is the second most influential contributor in this thread.

https://www.nairaland.com/6035414/40-revolution-now-protesters-arrested#92477627

3fcc:
SA

I'm surprised why this sweet lexus hasn't been sold yet.
Could it be price or people just don't have money?
I'm curious...

mariahAngel:
Wouldn't you say you yourself are successful now?

Me ke?
I still dey struggle ooo.
Na why I want marry you that time so that you go come make we build together but you no gree say you want dangote na.
Reason with me tinz ....
If I no get today,I go get tomorrow...
You know the story na.

DexterousOne:
WTH are you talking about


What you typed up there
Does it make any iota of sense to you?

No I don't,enlighten me please.

mariahAngel:
OK.
Let me assume that you, Logo, are successful: would you agree that a woman is behind your success? That is the bone of contention here

Well I won't speak for myself but will speak for my friend's own case because I know a woman is behind his sudden success today.
If I were in the same shoes then yes,I would agree a woman was or is behind my success as the case may be.

mariahAngel:
Behind every successful individuals are people who help them get there in one way or another.
No single person should take or be given sole credit for an individual's success.

It is possible.
Na one person decide begin pump one of my friend with credit till e blow.
Be wise!

ibkayee:
I always found the term 'banker' quite broad and I only really hear it being used that way Nigeria. Is a 'banker' essentially a customer service/sales assistant that happens to work in a bank? Because I believe there are a variety of role types in the banking industry

lol same way nurses say they are in HEALTH or very modest doctors.

keeper303:
Have you also seen why Ghanaians and other African çountries are opposed and giving Nigerian businesses serious trouble for wanting to take over their countries retail businesses. Do onto others what you want done to you.

Well,Ghanaians are using a very daft and primitive approach which is what I have a problem with.
You don't come and start organising protest and trying to start a program,No no!
Was this how Nigerians did it?No!
You build capacity and fight foreign retail businesses neck and neck with equal capacity too and competitive pricing with availability of variety too.
Now Nigerians capitalised on the fact that they don't need to repatriate profits to a foreign country and used that leverage to rival the pricing of their retail giant foreign competition.
Thesame thing is happening in all neighbouring countries.
Douala,lome,kumasi,cotonou,ndjamena,Accra,etc...
Igbo are giving them a run for their money in the retail segments of various businesses and you can't do nothing even in your home country cos they are simply put richer than you.
Make any wrong move and they will buy out your government and use your governemnt against you or buy the street cred and use it to fight you in your own country
Fight capitalism with capitalism,not protests.