victorian:







Bros! It's unethical and wrong having love and sexual feelings between colleagues in the office, how much more between employee and employer.

You can't tell me this love thing u feel won't transcends into sex immediately or afterwards.

If I'm your boss, I don't care if you are in love. Biko keep your love and lemme manage my company and staffs properly without jeopardizing my respect, public image and Peace of my mind where I make my daily living.

Or better still, why not resign first then after one month of being laid off. You can then start wooing her for a relationship and profess this amazing love of yours.

Simple, mR lover

urm!!! She did not employ me, she's just my direct boss, its in my heart I like her I have not said anything to her... We are still just casual, if I see some positivity I will quit cause I would love to marry her

crazydude1:

lol. itz obvious you are excited and prolly really like her. Be yourself during the one hour lunch date you will have with her. Just be yourself. Don't let your over excitement over this babe take over abeg. Be calm and Be yourself. Wish u the best bro.

thanks bro... The gbim gbim my heart is doing has increased ooo

MrFly:
ask ha out and prepare ur sack letter. Joking though

story have finished.... I got a 1 hour date though

kiddkash:

tell your boss something like this. there are some friends from office hanging out
and she is invited if she's interested

the story have finished boss.... Premium 1 hour date

Tonyspecial:
third option

baby steps bro, we will get there

Gordson:

The end



Watch out for part 2

hahahaha pictures tomorrow definitely...

crownedrookie:

First to like and comment on your success.
Congrats but remember what I said. You are no more in Nigeria bros. Leave mago mago behavior for mago mago people. Your best bet is absolute honesty, transparency and emotional vulnerability

thanks bro

alexmakaay:


brother kindly or ruggedly take a shot!!!.. but, you must not be carried away. good luck.

wasn't easy but I won

crownedrookie:

I'm not being harsh. Abeg please with the lol reply either you let it be and the both of you never speak of it again (the coward move), thereby running the risk of some awkwardness since there might always be an elephant in the room. Or you come out and don't hide behind any silly joke defence and say something like "I'm serious. I dont see valentines day as a day anyone should be alone (add more blah blahs). We could go visit the orphanage first (if there's any close by) or the home for the elderly, then after that grab whatever meal that appeals to you. Do you see that as a bad idea?" Thereby making yourself vulnerable and honest in her eyes.
Abeg. Not HAHAHAHAHAHA! PSYCHE! I WAS JOKING. She's too intelligent for that

I got a 1 hour lunch date, it wasn't what I want but I will take it

jahlove4jah:
Don't wake a sleeping dog.
First.
The status update may not be the true reflection of her lack of someone taking her out for val.

Second
Lol means laugh out loud. You have courageously shoot your shot and she replied with her high sense of humor as always. Why are you desperate about calling her.

Please let it slide

If really you are catching feeling, resign and hustle hard. Then come back and shoot again.


[2quote author=iphi post=86626724] sh*t she just sent 'lol'... Bleep what does it mean? She has gone offline again, should I call her?

the calling worked... She partially agreed, when I said I have studied her I know what i mean...

clevybrown:
don't call her... I repeat, don't. Joke over it tomorrow wit some bit of seriousness and see how it goes. U understand ur boss better.

too late, already did... I got a date, 1 hour lunch break with her... Because she got an evening date already... Its win for me bro

crownedrookie:

Sooooo nothing. My point still stands. If you do something or say something, try and stand behind your actions. Especially since you are no more in a country where mago mago lifestyle is the order of the day. Which one be say you set joke as your backup plan to ask a woman out. Who does that.
The other fellow actually asked you to google short funny relationship stories as a concrete lie to tell the woman as proof you are joking. Jesus donkey-riding Christ!

she said yes actually, 1 hour but I will take it

I summoned courage to call her just to ask her what was going on in the hospital turned out she was in the O.R, that was why she replied late... Ladies and gentlemen of this humble nairaland Romance section I'm glad to announce to you that she gave me 1 hour tomorrow, turned out she has a date already but she said during break we could go out and grab lunch before her date in the evening... My brothers and sisters this is a win for me...

Originalsly:


.....and you strongly believe she would find your joke funny? Some things you read... but pretend you never did. But since your mind is made up.... go kill her dead with your rib cracking response.

she replied lol

crownedrookie:


Mago mago thinking. Continue insulting her intelligence like this then you'll lose her because one day you'll find she is actually smarter than you. I don't know if its being clueless about what is obviously staring her in the face that made her qualified to be your boss in the first place

hahahaha... Bro you harsh ooo. Shuuu....

Jainine:


Personally I think work relationship is a bad idea.

But you have being on this joking Level with her so shoot your shot. Tell her jokingly you will be her plan B or C or Z Infact. Since you know she won't be mad.

Mostly likely she will laugh it off because she won't want to mix work and personal life.

But she may just say ok and you will be surprised. So try your luck

she just said lol

Ladycewhy:
ok o, I hope it pans out well for you. Do well to update us.

she just replied lol

crownedrookie:

And I meant to add to my previous comment. First of all I'm sorry but this might seem kind of harsh and negative.
Dude what's up with you? You managed to leave Nigeria, abeg leave Nigerian mago mago lifestyle behind na! I observed the most strident defense you keep harping on is "jokingly"! " jokingly! ". If you want to be a comedian then you join dem Dave Chappel na. Which one be jokingly! jokingly! For that lady to be in the position of a boss I assume she is an intelligent person. Trying to pass of what's quite obviously an attempt at asking her out as " jokingly!" might cast serious aspersions on her opinion of your integrity. If you do something, then you stand by your actions as a man! Haba na

the message has been sent and she replied lol... Sooooo

CSTR2:

She is thinking.
Which means she is a lot smarter than this fellow.

I expect her to reprimand him, or take your text message to the HR if devil wants to really catch him.

she just replied ooo... 'Lol' nothing else

crazydude1:

Has she given u a reply?

sh*t she just sent 'lol'... Bleep what does it mean? She has gone offline again, should I call her?

crownedrookie:

While I'm the last one to ever take a conventional stand in discussions, I have noticed that not once did you ever point out that she has given you the green light. Not once did you point out she has made any sort of references to being open about a relationship. No sort of flirting between you both. Those things usually come in between a woman who is interested and a man. Then again, being that she is Indonesian, I might not be too sure about their cultural upbringing. Some Asian countries can be as morally uptight as African when it comes to women showing feelings first. I had an experience with two ample chested girls a long time ago 7 years or more. I'll call them E and D. E was dark, pretty by my standard then and a few years older. D was fair, plump and about my age. D was totally in love with me but I had eyes for only E. Funny thing is, if you see me and E intertwining ourselves when playing like two earthworms eh... You go feel say we don born like two kids. Only between us both do we know that the limit no form of sensual touch allowed. If I try it, face go change instantly. She was engaged bros. The whole shenanigans and friendliness with me wasn't because there was any sort of openings in her heart or between her legs, but that's just who she was and she expected her boundaries to be respected. My point is that you just MIGHT be reading too much off inconclusive data and jumping to conclusions about what she'd allow. Good luck with everything though. I'm following and am absolutely eager to know how it turns out. Mention me if you can. At least I'll be happy one more brother has been rescued from the valentineless crew

I understand you well but this is different

franchasng:
If she's a white lady or an African lady from French country, you can try but if she is from English speaking West African countries like Nigeria, Ghana, etc.....just park one side to avoid perpetual embarrassment and loss of your job

she's from Indonesia

A305:
You seem not to understand Vic.

He isn't necessarily playing with his bosses mind. He is also cover up his track if ever back fires.

The human mind is never neutral. It wells ups with leads and pattern before you make your decision as human. For example; Nobody ever wakes up to fall out of love with their partner, their partner must have been doing wrong for the other person to be having another notion about them.

Now how does this concern the op?

His boss has been friendly enough to often chit chat with him hence, the reason for the intent to push forward ask his boss out. (There is a pattern here already which is the short chit chat and friendly talk with his boss.)

Now, if he is gonna pull this off (shooting his shot) he should just build on that pattern which he already has with his boss. Send the val message and then get funny about it with a funny message afterwards. It's now left for his boss brain to filter the message to reply to the one which she feels she wants -- Is it the val(relationship) or funny message indicating let's just keep it at that chit chat level.

God bless you so much... You have just said it all, I'm not directly asking her out and it will never backfire because this is how we are... Na wa ooo

Ladycewhy:
exactly why I don't joke with guys una too dey quick see person finish. See now because she is jovial you dey try yourself come dey do pass your boundary, anyway update us when she finally decides to reply your message .

You are reading from this end and understand where its all leading to perhaps that's the reason you thinking its see finish... she will still see the message as that same man who jokes alot remember she has no idea what my intentions her you only know because I told you, react like a lady who has no idea what my intentions are...

khalids:

By nature, women will only date their superior or people at par with them...

Women have a lot of pride.....and your mare asking her will be regarded as an insult that may lead to your sacking......

she doesn't see it this way.... I know how to keep things professional I just want to know her reaction for this, then I will know what to do next

victorian:




That's where u got it all wrong about some women.
I don't show pride or ego either but I never take rubbish in my office.
Haba! Just listen to yourself. I wonder why men feel if a female boss is nice to them, means she wants to get laid.

Sighs! Your mumu na follow come!

Jeez!

haba, it has not gotten to this, like I sent before 'jokingly', this is not the first time I'm joking with her just that inside me I want to date her

West2019:
cos she is chatting and laughing wit you .you want to ask her out abi try it

jokingly please

CSTR2:
This guy is just selfish.
You are trying to put your boss in an uncomfortable position especially if she respects you.

You only do things like this when you no longer work in the organisation.

You have made the workplace awkward.

na wa ooo...

franchasng:


Op read the comment below:



FINAL NOTE FROM ME TO YOU OP AND OTHER GUYS READING: Black women (especially Nigerian women) don't date or marry down, they date and marry up! Black women only date and marry down if and when they have failed severally in getting their desired man at the top.....and maybe after several heartbreaks by their dream guys at the top....then and only then can a financially buoyant Nigerian lady will start dating and marrying down and of course out of frustration and management....and she must have approached the age of 35yrs and above for her to come to her senses that she cannot get guys at the top to marry or love her like she daydreams.



So op, is your boss above 35yrs and been heartbroken by several buoyant men in the past If yes, then give it a try....if your answer is NO, you better let the sleeping dog lay...she is posting that message for some guys at the top that she wishes to have not for guys below

she's not a Nigerian and she's 26

spiceadole:


Okay Na.

Oyinbo puzy dey shack you.

By the time she calls you a pervert,you will understand

. She's kinda dark though, plus na marry I wan marry, I no kee person

Millerules:
Has she read the msg? If yes, depending on the content - which I have no idea about - wait till later tonight and if she still did nt reply and call her to simply apologize if at all you crossed the line

not read, not online

victorian:







Bad bad bad idea.


As a boss in my company. No employee tries such with me. I don't allow it. Even if I'm friendly and easy to approach, it shows in my Countenance I don't allow intimacy between me and my employees and students as well.
In my belief, it's bad for my business. Complete bad omen dating my staff or matured students who are like bankers, doctors, Marketers, engineers learning the art of unisex sewing. I dare not. Very bad for business. That's my belief.

Then seecondly, She will feel u will undermine her authority and tell your colleagues both of u are dating or u took her out on val and possibly kissed and shagged her mercilessly that night. Such ideas, no responsible female boss would like to envision it


Just leave her jeje, with her post online.

Her kind will ping her tonight sef and ask her out.

Don't worry your mind about it. She will be fine.


But u sef get mind o

You are joking with your job. Be ready to loose it, if u know what's good for u.

thank God I don't work for you, nope she's not like you, she very simple and I have studied her to know enough... this is not Nigeria