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Millerules:
Has she read the msg? If yes, depending on the content - which I have no idea about - wait till later tonight and if she still did nt reply and call her to simply apologize if at all you crossed the line

not read, not online

victorian:
Bad bad bad idea.


As a boss in my company. No employee tries such with me. I don't allow it. Even if I'm friendly and easy to approach, it shows in my Countenance I don't allow intimacy between me and my employees and students as well.
In my belief, it's bad for my business. Complete bad omen dating my staff or matured students who are like bankers, doctors, Marketers, engineers learning the art of unisex sewing. I dare not. Very bad for business. That's my belief.

Then seecondly, She will feel u will undermine her authority and tell your colleagues both of u are dating or u took her out on val and possibly kissed and shagged her mercilessly that night. Such ideas, no responsible female boss would like to envision it


Just leave her jeje, with her post online.

Her kind will ping her tonight sef and ask her out.

Don't worry your mind about it. She will be fine.


But u sef get mind o

You are joking with your job. Be ready to loose it, if u know what's good for u.

thank God I don't work for you, nope she's not like you, she very simple and I have studied her to know enough... this is not Nigeria

clevybrown:
what's the exact content of the message u sent to her so we can tell u if it will go down well or not

I can't tell you exactly what I sent to her, but it was something like this... Hello J, how are you? blah blah blah... I saw your WhatsApp story, just incase they still don't know your worth I can be the back up date.. Lol.. I know this awesome Chinese restaurant where you will be served your favourite, or I could just order it if you want... Blah blah blah.... Joking something

spiceadole:
Being older than her doesn't matter.
The fact that she is your boss is what matters.

Keep your valentine to yourself...else risk losing your job.

Women and men are wired differently.
A male boss doesn't mind flirting or having a serious affair /outing with his female staff.
But female boss? Your position as her staff already makes you too small.


Mind your business oooo...
Else begin job hunting

she's not like our Nigerian bosses, she has never showed any pride or ego since I started working under her

Nnemuka:
So how is this going to play out?
At work she becomes your boss, and outside work you become lovers?
Tomorrow now you will complain about her inability to submit or you start nagging about her controlling attitude at work.

Pls leave her alone

trust me she's not like that, I have had enough chat with her to know, anyway if it works, I will look for another place

Millerules:
Hope say u get backup plan if things don't pan out well? Do you drink (shayo)?That can be your last resort oo. U go say na highness push you �

should I call her?

gingercrazy:
Thread like my boss now hate me

A305:
Don't be scared son!

Back up that initial message with any funny relationship short story you can find on google so if she get pissed, you would tell her you just joking and that she shouldn't mind you hence, the reason for the funny story after the message.

You actually playing her mind in two ways Which ever way it bounces back wouldn't hurt.

think I will do it now

kokomilala:
I'd like to swim against the tide of popular views year.I know Nigerian women are not deft at handling compliments from the cradle to the grave.They read all sorts even to the most innocuous of compliments.However ,you can try to ask her out in a polite manner: Hey,boss,I was wondering...whether you could be my val for just today...I mean ...just today...nothing more.

if she is a Nigerian you won't see me here, she's from Indonesia

Niccoloimhotep:
@iphi, what's the update?

Did she accept?

bros 1 hour, 3 minutes she has not replied, omg, I'm low key scared o

KingAzari:
Are you mad?

no sir...

3RNEST:
Which country are u bro? cuz u didnt stated it, u know our Nigeria System is different.... Outside they see it as nothinq.

UK and she's from Indonesia

Whobedatte:
Just few months ago , my project lead told me to sack a brand promoter working under me , though she didn't give any reasons .
I called the guy in question to know what exactly his offense was , he told me he chatted her after close of activation asking her if he could take her out .
Mind you , this guy is a graduate , a hardworking promoter and always diligent at work .
I removed him from the group immediately going by her orders and told him to go .
Cut long story short , boundaries should be set in work place .
Never ask your superior out as a guy unless she reverse is the case

but she doesn't think like this our Nigerian bosses them, I have studied her for sometime

SURElee:
Ask her out to a Val date, but don't say you can be her "back up" plan biko. Don't downgrade yourself and it will. Make you seem like you want to play with her emotions and using the term "back up", make you seem not serious.

Just ask her out, enjoy the time together, talk about things and see how things pan out from there.

the thing is I have already sent the message, she has not read it oooo... My mind is doing me gbim! gbim!! gbim!!!

Wumi261:
Please, you can send me your company's address so I can submit my CV. Depression of unemployment can reset someone's faculty of reasoning.

Orisirisi

if you are in the UK no p

pocohantas:
Depends on the kind of surbodinate.

I have subordinates who are older than me, educated, well-spoken and only report to me because of the terms of our employment. I can go on a date with such.

However, I would never date a colleague. Two of my colleagues dated and brokeup. They are currently making the unit uncomfortable for us. Office romance? Count me out.

If you are ready to deal with whatever comes out of it, you can give it a shot.

once I see its working out well I will go to another hospital

HARDDON:
Why be a second option? When u can gallantly take the first sit?

How can you be too good for her, yet you are trying to be an assistant bf?

There is a logo you should have: Always Go For What you want.

However, while at it, I'd always advise, don't dip you pen in the company's ink.... It always back fires and you'd be caging yourslef.

bros this particular pepper soup you have to be careful, I don't want to rush and spoil everything

safarigirl:
how far?

She don answer you?

no ooo.. Waiting foe that tick to go blue

khalids:
In translated pigin english: Hope your village people never open your case

no sir

Rollins777:
Then how are you going to handle your wife or your girlfriend?

I'm single... Distance broke my relationship so I'm searching

Indispensable85:
A man is a man irrespective of class and status.Women like men who are bold and confident.
I am currently dating a lady well above me in class and status.It started with one step of boldness.
Our love has grown in leaps and bounds since then.

thanks man... Boost for me

Nathphil:
Please this is not nollywood ooo, use your head ooo. Nah naija you dey ooo

no bro, I'm not in Nigeria and she's not Nigerian

officialfestus:
My stake on this is,she will agree and over 2.5

frozen70:
In as much as I appreciate your courage, I will suggest you gift her a flower and an icream tomorrow morning and tell her happy valentines day and you did like to take her out after work

It's up to her to accept it or reject it

If she does, take her out treat her nicely and take her back home without misbehaving

That will give her the impression that you are not after her position or her money

Leave her to pound over the care and love you showed to her

From there, you can take up

But if she turns it down, never mind and don't get discouraged, keep trying

But you have to define the kind of relationship you want from her

The key is
don't show any form of desperation, gently and easy flow makes her dance to you

But if you just want to have a fling or hit and run

Just respect yourself and stay away from her

wow!!! Beautiful see why I brought this here... Hmmm... Although its winter here, I have other ideas in my head for the ice cream... Thanks

Lonelypacifist6:
Dude she's only trying to nice by Chatting with you, A lot Women don't respect those who are subordinate to them. Just make sure you don't exit the workforce.

long time before now, I thought about that, then started a discussion about this scenario to see how she would react, it was a positive response, gave me more hope

TomMary:
Please drop the name of your company or boss .. I want to send in my CV in advance in case you enter trouble...

Its like you don't value your job

if you a nurse and in UK I can help with that

Saint99:
It pays to separate love life from work. It may turn out to be a sil.ly move.

so be it

staga:
People get into trouble when they cannot define relationships. Only a child will confuse a boss for a romantic date!

jokingly ask, relax bro

Villain7:
Hmmm.... This people are always on duty... Village People.....

Farki:
If you want to be her back up Val make sure you get a back up job. You can't be too careful around Nigerian women.

she's from Indonesia and she won't do anything regardless, either Yes or No

platido:
You're chewing what you can't take...no mind your work do, find love

I mind the job sir, I still want to settle down

friday2011:
What? U want to tell your boss "if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date" guy, no use tha line ooo, e better make you just call am this evening and say: "you want to know if she will be available for a date tomorrow, and you wouldn't mind taking her"

I guess this sounds more matured than that your own line.

I hope it does not end in premium tears