martin007:

iphiedial, Nice post, i dey bow for you oh, are you in a Seminary or so? Cos this is cool!!

I'm not a Seminarian dear, neither I'm I in a Convent, I'm a young lady who hopes to get married someday, I know that whenever God takes me into it, He will see me thru it. Its just that I  feel so bad at the rate of divorce among married couples and the rate @ which kids go astray as a result of broken marriages or as a result of parents who do not understand what the institution called marriage entails. That's why pre-marital course and courtship is always very essential for intending couples. People go into marriage without really understanding what they are going into, only to find out later that it wasn't what they actually bargained for.

Can we see marriage from the religious point of view, from where it originated.

1. A vocation
2. A sacrament (For Catholics)

Marriage is a vocation, it is a call by God. Marriage is a church of its own, because the church begins from home. Just like the Rev. Fathers(catholic priests) and other clergies are called to serve God for the rest of their lives in the order of Melchizedek, so also are couples called to serve God in marriage and bring up the Kids that God will bless them with, in the right path.

Though I'm not married yet, but I think the problem with our marriages today is the fact that young guys and ladies now view marriage from the material angle. When a guy feels he is mature enough to get married all he does is look out for a young,tall,beautiful, slim, fair, sexy lady that he will get married to. While a lady looks for an educated, young, handsome, tall, rich guy that she will marry. I'm not saying all this qualities are bad but there are other things one should look out for,ask urself these questions;

Do I truly love this guy/lady
Is she/he my best friend, no pretence
Can she/he make a good wife/husband 4 me
Are we compatible
How responsible is she/he
Is he/she from a responsible home
Can I still love him/her even without kids
Will I have married him/her if he weren't this rich and handsome or she this beautiful
If he losses his riches/ or she losses her beauty, can I still love him/her
Can I really spend the rest of my life/grow old with him or her e.t.c

What is the foundation of ur marriage? The foundation of ones marriage equally matters. Some marriages are products of live-in lovers. A man toasts a babe, She parks into his house, gets pregnant for him, the man will then be forced 2 marry her even when he does love her or she doesn't love him.

Our ladies on the otherhand don't really see beyond the engagement/traditional marriage/wedding ceremonies, after them dear, what next? Lets do things the proper way. Let the foundation of our marriages be on God.

Another strong issue in marriage is children. We should understand that it is God who decides to whether to bless a marriage with children or not to. Marriage is between the husband and wife, if there are children, thank God and ensure u bring them up in right way as u promised God on your wedding day,but if there isn't, still thank God and believe ur marriage is fulfilled even without them, adopt if u can, and leave the rest to God.

Above all look up to God, be a prayerful husband/wife, u can't do without it. Pray about everything, even when ur spouse or children are misbehaving, believe me God will do the magic.

That's my humble contribution.

I keep wondering what our churches are turning into. Two weeks ago a woman died in an undisclosed church during a deliverance session. The woman's husband got the Pastor arrested.

What could have brought about the death of this woman? Could it be that the demons over powered the Pastor and killed the woman or is the Pastor a fake pastor, because never was it heard that someone died during Deliverance.

Ur contributions please.

Gheorghe:

depends on the "level" of anger and who is involved - either my girl,family,friends or strangers.

but most times i jus try to be calm and make the offender look like a fool and as far there is no physical

advancement ,we are all safe.my anger lasts only as long as the offender wants it to last and most times i even forget

there was one.

U have control over ur anger dear, it doesn't hv 2 last as long as the offender wants it 2.

@poster,
4 me, I decide whether 2 b angry over something or not 2 b. If I decide 2 b, then I wil voice my mind out immediately and then keep quiet nomatter what the offender might say to annoy me the more. But if I don't wanna b angry, I simply smile over it or keep quiet still and allow it 2 fade away.

Did anyone bother to check the poster's gender?

Tranquil dear, I've been through this b4, I'm talking 4rm experience. I know how u feel, he was the only man I ever loved, he tormented me for 3 years. He thought me how wrong it was to love someone truly, he ruined my love life. I can hardly believe men anymore but with prayers dear, God gave me a new life. Its not easy at all especially if u are the too emotional type like me.

Dear, let d tears flow 4 they surely will, after which u gather urself 2gether and start a new life without him, if he eventually comes bk he is 4 u but if he doesn't believe that someone who will cherish u 4 d rest of his life will come ur way, trust God 2 c u thru dear.

Luv u.

Single

Comrades, can we all look into the issue of unidentified corpses always seen in Lagos roads. I once read in 'The Guardian' Newspaper that a minimum of 10 corpses are retrieve from the streets of Lagos in a day.

Has Government, the Police especially made any effort to fish out the killers of this people?. I came to Lagos in 2005 and I have seen not less than 30 unidentified corpses especially @ Oshodi, Anthony,Ketu and other parts of Lagos. I keep wondering what must have killed those people. Some have some parts of their body missing indicating that they are victims of Ritualists while others have no trace of what must have led to their death.

What is Lagos State Govt. doing about this. How can we remedy this situation because its getting out of hand.

Ur contributions please.

Abortion is a deadly sin. Come 2 think of it if our mothers had aborted us we would not have been here so who tells me its not a sin. It is a mortal sin that includes all the people involved in it both the doctor, the guy, the lady and all who supported d abortion in one way or the other. I tell u the blood of those little children will cry to God 4 vegeance. We just have 2 b very careful in anything that involves blood shedding.

@ docokwy
That was 2 harsh of u. Don't take things personal. Just air ur view and allow others right to their opinion.

@ Afam
Biko ewena iwe.

Let all Nigerians allow Yar'adua to make his choice afterall he was chosen as well, and all we did was fold our hands and watch. Even if we talk till eternity, it won't make any difference, we only have to contribute our quota and leave the rest 2 God.

Virginity is alwaz a pride but it all depends on what one wants in life. A man @35 still a virgin is not that bad but for a lady who has no intention of becoming a Rev. sister or a celibate I wounld advise she gets married fast if she wants to bear children b4 its 2 late.

@poster
I quite agree wt u  to an extent. It all depends on the the level of maturity of the people involved or the action maybe misconcepted.

I see nothing wrong in a lady trying to get the attention of someone she admires. The poster only gave clues on how 2 get the guy's attention. What makes the lady cheap is how she handles d guy when he is attracted to her by either going to bed wt him 2 soon or losing her dignity and pleading her way in2 his life.

Love is natural quite alright but there are laws and rules of nature too.  Afterall a guy/lady can't just marry anyone he/she sees. Either sex must have acted in a way that attrated the other person to him/her.

Ladies should'nt shy away from attracting the one they want. Its always a 2way thing, its either u win or u lose.

@poster

Congrats. U've not answered the question on what their their pay is like.

Dear, I know how painful this could be especially when u really love ur husband  , but there are things u still need to know about marriage. Though I'm not married but I've learnt a lot from friends who are married. Men will always be men though yours went a bit too far by defiling ur matrimonial bed. One thing I want u to understand is the fact that we are in a men's world. Our laws favour men more than women unlike Europe and other white countries whose laws favour their women than men. Lets be realistic here.

I would advice u to go back to ur husband especially if u have kids, even when u don't have kids it depends on how bouyant u are financially, if u are not bouyant enough u will be a burden to your family or whoever will take care of u if u decide 2 leave ur husband. People will disrepect u 2. Igbos believe that a husband is a source of respect to the woman. They answer names like 'Dibugwu'. If u decide to leave him,  a time will come in ur life when u will regret ur decision,u will wish u didn't, because ur children (if u have any) will suffer in the hands of another woman and if u decide 2 go with them they will be victims of a broken marriage and I don't think they will be happy with ur decision when they become adults. On ur own side, believe me ur brother's wife will not respect u if u continue staying with them, people will c u as a divorcee or a harlot who sleeps around with men, irresponsible men will make advances @ u.

My dear show him ur worth. Let him crawl and beg u more, but on no circumstances should u not go back to him. Try ur possible best to save ur marriage. Ask him how best he enjoys sex, make urself very attractive to him and when u come back to him, please don't keep threathening or reminding him of the past, assume u just got married to him and make the best of ur marriage while it lasts. Pray hard 2. Have time 4 family prayer for a family that pray 2gda stay 2gda.

That's my humble advice dear, but u have a right to ur decision anyway.  

Congrats 2 all that made it. I tried the number but it didn't go thru, I pray I will make it 2.

To those who didn't make it, what will b will definitely b. Trust God to lead u 2 greener pastures. Everything work out unto good for those who luv Him. :DNothing dey happen. 1luv.

I work as an Admin Supervisor in a pharmaceutical company. Not that stressful but the pay is not much. Looking for a better one. Wouldn't mind NLNG u know. Contact me on iphiedial@yahoo.com if u've got anything 4 me.

Thanks for the information. We hope to succeed.

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