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safarigirl:
it boils down to the need to assess a proruct by the container, rather than the content.

And a lot of us, consciously or unconsciously, miss out on good people, because we focus more on a container than a content, forgetting that the container can always change, but never the content.

It's a shallow world we live in. I will admit, I'm no fan of Jade's sense of style, because it's far too weird, even for my weird self, but I respect and admire his person and his person is far more important than his choice of clothes.

This is deep. I can relate.

The revolution is here. Time to get my A.K

Interesting. Two certified thieves getting it all messy.

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dollytino4real:
i was a vagin wen i enter nairaland, I don't like using those "F" words them but nairalanders disvagined my mouth. n.a. I can not do without them like prick kpekus fork yansh. pls add ur own side of disvagin sweet or bitter?

So your mouth was a vagina before? Now it's been disvagina. Wao

Ishilove:
And wetin dey pain pass be sey na the op type dey Sabi hang leg for burglary. After buying the puff puff and doughnut 100 naira, they will expect you to open wide the 'folded gates' so they can enter.

Ohhhhhh, food in exchange for sex? I see.

lecturer50:
That is why i dont have male friends.They are shameful set of being.Most men only exist to have sex.Since i am not like them,i cannot be moving with them because how i see things is different from their's.As a man,sometimes i use to wonder why men should think that to be humiliated/insulted by women just to...

I almost lost my eye sight reading through this sea of mumble jumble. Abeg learn to punctuate and while you are that, learn to spacing and paragraphing.

Saffi:
If the discussion was based on women and their achievements I would list mine from A to Z but the discussion didn’t fall In that direction as you can read. And if that’s the case, my role in a relationship is not to provide so this shouldn’t matter as much.

Your role in a relationship is actually to provide..... to provide sex.

Make i try my luck

Evercurious:
Don't even bother. The end of all this talk is materialism which ends up in class. That I have said in the first thread. It isn't compulsory to continue with the guy after the first date if she feels he isn't her class .

IT'S ALL ABOUT CLASS HERE

Sadly, this is just the summary of the whole argument

ImaIma1:
Even of you don't believe it is for eating and she says she is hungry, what would you do?

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Ohhhhhh, so it's now my responsibility to feed her? I see.
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Get her something within my planned budget then.

Nnaabros:
Cool.

First of all, ignore all these guys and girls condemning you. Most of them are just leeches and parasites who are only after a guy's money. They're those girls who a after rich guys because they are too lazy to work for themselves.

This might seem like a tough position to take but there's lots of sense in it.

Any girl that can't learn to manage with the little you have doesn't deserve to be in your life. That's how you know a girl who's only interested in and impressed by your money, and not in you as a person. Even if you spend on her today, what happens if tomorrow for some reason you no longer have enough money to impress her, she will dump you for someone richer.

Dating shouldnt be all about spending money extravagantly. It's about two people trying to get to know each other better. You can even go on a date without having to spend money on heavy meals and drinks. You can go out with someone to an open place and just enjoy the scenery. Go to a field and watch a live football game. Or visit an interesting place in the city and enjoy the view.

The focus should be on the two individuals, not on the financial display. A responsible and modest girl will be more interested in you as a person not on what you spend on her.

You are wise sir. This your wisdom is not ordinary. It is divine.

pansophist:
You are smart. You nailed it.

I've actually been on dates and spent nothing except water and a few chocolate that doesn't even cost up to 2k. It was in a park, an open bar where you can bring your stuff, or just meet somewhere and go for walk together while discussing on-the-go. That doesn't mean if I have to spend 50k at the spot, I can't. It simply means that date doesn't have to cost something. Date is not a spending spree, but an avenue for two people to know themselves on a deeper level.

Our generations have become so materialistic, that been financially handicapped is a knock-out to enjoying basic pleasures of life. Women on here telling him to remain single, while simultaneously refusing to be single while being broke themselves is an height of hypocrisy and double standard. And if women can start footing their own bills during dates, issues like this wont be a thing.

If I were you OP, and she decided not to call back because you're still a struggling dude with potentials, I'l wont bother. She doesn't worth it anyway. That's if you're looking for something long term.

GBAM!
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The essence of a date is to meet and not to supply balanced diet to a broke girl. Did you notice how all these silly feminist failed to mention splitting the bills?

ImaIma1:
Why not Google it and see what you come up with.

Maybe you shouldn't call it a date if it is not that. You can call it a meeting ,stroll or you describe what it is you are going for.

Keep beating about the bush aunty.
My question still stands. What's a date? A meet or an eat?

ImaIma1:
Are you saying that you get there and say "it is doughnuts and water we are taking o" or you call the attendant and say "please give her doughnut and water" without asking what she would take?

Where does materialism start and stop? If i go out on a date and i eat chicken and chips with a bottle of soft drink, am i materialistic? How much is that? You are looking at it in relation to your pocket?

The funny thing is that i hardly eat out because i love to cook and i can be too critical of the food outside. But i would feel offended if a guy took me out and just ordered for me without asking.

Madam, what's the essence of a date? To meet or to eat?

neyobills:
Why must you eat sharwama and juice on the date, why not buy it on your way home after the date if u are craving for it,cant u afford it, oh I guess it's one of the seven wonders of the world to you so anything just to have a bite goes right and any fool that buys u a, sharwama has already won your heart I guess,it's like going for a meeting and expecting to be welcomed by the smell of jollof rice and chicken,you could be served with just bottled water or nachos with cheese enchiladas but u are entitled to nothing at all,get it?

My point exactly. Refer to my post above.

ImaIma1:
What if she says she wants juice and shwarma and she is the classy type that can buy it herself? Or are you saying you only take out babes that are worth doughnuts and water?

The point is not if you would spend 2k or less. Would you leave your house with only 2k and not plan for eventualities?

What is all these subtle talk about worth and class? This obviously carries an undertone of materialism. The concept of class is birthed from materialism which is exactly what you are pushing subtly with all your comments.
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Are you saying some girls are bigger than water and doughnut on a date which is going to last an hour at max?
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For christ's sake I am going on a date with you and not dinner with you. The whole essence of a date is stomach pleasure from the angle of the average Nigerian girl. You have gone a long way to prove that point.
Date simply means to meet. To someone. From the definition, did you see "to meet someone and eat shawarma or pizza"?



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In reference to your last mention, I can bet my left balls that I am older than you.

Jayneek:
Okay after this your estimate baba, let assume before you guys leave rains starts falling so you guys had to chill for rain to subside, then the place is a little flooded now she can use her leather slippers in the flooded water. Is it a crime to at least buy her a bathroom slippers if they sell one around? Now all the money in your pocket has finished so you won't be bothered abi because you have reached your budget for the date.

The main point I have been trying to make from the start is not about going to spend heaven on earth or your life savings on a date. It has always been that its wrong to carry just 2k because anything can happen.

You can have 5k or 10k and still not spend more than 2k yes. But not to just carry only 2k for pocket on a date haba. If actually he had like 5k in his pocket he would not have had such embarrassment and still not spend more than the 2k.

It's always good to have a back up plan. Now, the extra cash is your back up plan and not your actual budget plan. The plan is to work within your budget and when things go south, you call for back up.
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Even if I am going to the market to get food stuffs, I go with extra cash so it's not new here. But I try as much as I can not to deep into that extra cash. So it's nothing new.

ImaIma1:
Your assumption at the bolded sounds shallow especially as you don't even know the faceless people on this blog.

Hamburger of 400 naira is bound to give someone a runny stomach but if that is your standard, it's fine.

If 5k is not luxury or extravagant, why would you prefer to take 2k and pinch it? Because girls don't spend that much? If you have that mindset, then why ask out in the first place?

I am going to create a new thread with a new moniker and pretend all I have to go on a date is 5k. You will be surprised at the bashing I will get. A lot of people would come and say I am stingy and broke and shouldn't even talk to ladies.

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This has nothing to do with mentality. It's about not letting others set a standard for you knowing well how materialistic these same people are.
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Your claim of food poisoning here is rather subjective, not objective.
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Ironically, I won't be going on dates ever again. Thanks to my ogas, it has to be on my bed now or no where.

ImaIma1:
You still haven't answered the question. Will you leave your house with 2k while going on a first date you initiated? Please answer.

How are you sure that she likes burger? Are you the one that will pick what she will eat? What if she prefers chicken and chips? Is that luxury especially if she can afford to pay for it herself.

Is 5k on a date luxury or materialistic?

By the way, hamburger of 400 is the one in show glass on the road. Hamburger goes for between 1k to 2500

I already answered your question. It's my date so I fix the terms. It includes divulging my budget and me doing the ordering although it's gonna look a bit awkward.
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5k is not luxury per say but they are a few girls who would spend that on date. They are so rare you wouldn't find them on this thread.
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Choice of restaurant or bar the key here. The higher the class, the more expensive stuffs would be there. A regular restaurant would sell burger for 400 huns.

olawaleseun:
Baba, U too make sense. the funny part is that some gals sef will tell u that the idea of going on a date is shit, like some of my female friends do tell me

No mind all these girls here o. Na baby come visit me for house parole them de into o. Take them serious at your own risk.

funmisticqueen:
if someone plans to take me on a date with 2k, he should tell me in advance so that I will give him a 2k first impression. I will come in a hairnet, no makeup, my old t-shirt and bathroom slippers. I cannot make a loss abeg.

Let gaspardd and his supporters kukuma marry a village girl. It is not by force to date Lagos babe. Shoe get size,okirika get quality

And what's the difference? Between you and the village girls?
Have you taken a guy on a date before and footed the bills?




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ImaIma1:
A date, especially a first one is a time to know a person and if you will see the person again depending on how it plays out.

Secondly, 2k cannot even buy something basic to eat for two people. And the 2k included 500naira for her transport and 100naira for his.

Forget spending recklessly or being prudent, would YOU invite a girl you like on a date and go with just 1,400 to spend? Please answer sincerely

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I will do a little calculation and estimation here. My answer would be based on it.
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At the bar or restaurant.
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Maltina: 300 x 2= 600
Hamburger: 400 (don't know the price, est. price) x 2= 800
That is 1200 abi?
Transport for bae: 500
Transport for G: 100
Altogether 1800
Balance 200
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Buy a can of malt 200 for her as take way.
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Now the average Nigerian girl is going to see you as stingy or broke. Why? Because we live in a materialistic society where people are showing off like there's no tomorrow.
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This won't go down well with so many girls but as for me, this ain't bad. I give it a 5/10

This one nko?

ImaIma1:
What about he sits in his house and saves his money? He could have stayed home and avoided spending. Going on a date is really not by force.

See, personally, I don't live my life to impress any one or any girl. I will even tell the girl my budget before stepping out on the said date. No single shame.
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It's not by force, neither is it an avenue for money to be spent recklessly (guy's money).
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Seriously, if not for guys, some girls will never taste things like pizza in their entire lifetime. This goes a long way to show how gluttony and materialism is wrecking the ladies of this generation.
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He is smart and that's why he set a cap to what would be spent on a date.

Gurus in the house, I want you guys to say something about this whole going out on a date thing that started with Gaspardd's thread

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As a real G, how do you handle such a situation? Do you go in and start spending recklessly? Or as a G who can never lose his balls to a girl, you stand your ground and not impress her by spending like a maga?
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Cc Harddon
Kollinzgee
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Make una say something abeg.

Gaspardd:
You seem to use that in a derogatory manner. But this is Nigeria, where 18k is the minimum wage. Being broke is the norm and nothing to be ashamed of.

I do not know why you are trying hard to justify the path you have chosen to these folks here. Most of them have never gone on a date before.
Baby come my house na, baby come my house na is all they do.
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So they prefer you take a girl out and spend 30k on her in the name of "date"? Some of these girls have nothing meaningful to contribute to your life, these same girls would go home and start telling their friends about a maga they met once you start spending recklessly on them.
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You don't owe anybody anything, not even an explanation. What a world, filled with materialistic people and bunch of people with unhealthy sense of entitlement.
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You are smart and you should be proud.

Silly things

blissgregory:
hahaha..laughing in Hong Kong.So u tink i can pm u??..pls be reasonable for once.Quoting u dose nt mean dat i wat to knw u...is jst for fun wen am bored jare.Drop dis ur local mentality

Yen yen yen. Do I look like I give a flying f.uck?

SBL28:
Lol, even your comebacks are juvenile. omode ise.

Pathetic thing. You sound miserable. Olila, ena ba wor

blissgregory:
wat is d meaning of IRON PANTS??

I can see you dying to know me. The right thing to do is to go private. You know the drill