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Airpeace are getting away with too many nonsense.

Really

This guy should check himself well o...

She's for the highest bidder. It's just your turn.

This is interesting. Please what's her colour?

How time heals wound is amazing. Although the micro level is deceptive but eventually you look back and can't find the wound anymore except painless scars.

Now, to give am update to this; I got to find out who the guy was that did the introduction. Lol and behold, it was one of her ex that reside in Canada.

We've had issue in the past because of this same ex. There was a time I cloned her WhatsApp and saw her chat with the ex, i confronted her and she totally denied it till I showed her evidence. She cried and begged when I threatened to breakup with her (I even gave her option of choosing either me or the guy). In my presence she cut all ties with the ex and blocked his lines. I forgave her thinking it was just only chat (biggest mistake I made).

So when I discovered it was this same "Canada-ex" that did the introduction. I was really furious, reached out to him out of anger and warned him to stay clear ( I really shouldn't have done that). The guy narrated our conversation to her. Omoh, she went mad, her cover has been busted. The guy was fed with so much lies. She told him she was not in a relationship,that we had broken up. He wasn't aware of any pregnancy. The guy still has the illusion of marrying a decent church girl_Virgin perhaps...lol. Fear some of these churchy girls.

She pleaded we meet up which I agreed to. She has become a shadow of her former self, looking skinny and dark,lacking sleep(said she use to have nightmares of babies chasing her, sometimes crying). She's obviously reaping the fruit of her evil. At the meeting ,She started pleading with me to forgive her, not to reveal anything to the guy that she will loss him, threatened to kill herself if that happened. What will people say blah,blah,blah.

Some of my guys had advised me to use that against her and blackmail her , turn her to my intimacy gadget. But to what end, what will I gain from that arrangement. Which sex style do I want that I haven't had with her for the six yrs we dated. She was a fresh 22 yrs old girl when we started dating now 28. What really is there again.

I have so much evidence to make her loss from both ends, but It's obvious that the guy is been played. Better still, we were both played. It's now the guys turn. She was still reciting her cork and bull story of family rejection of me cause of tribal differences. But its clear that she belongs to the highest bidder and there will always be a higher bidder someday.

There are several stories of how Nigeria guys residing abroad, come back to marry in Nigeria and the girl turn against them when they get abroad. I no longer pity such guys. You clearly know these hungry Nigeria girls are desperate to Japa. You turn yourself to their free "Visa". You won't even investigate and find out anything about the girl. You entice them with Japa plans and hurriedly do marriage. Mr husband I say congratulations.

The loss of the child will always be a huge loss to me tho. Still very fresh in my heart. I might even consider adopting someday. But in all these I thank God.

prophetfire:
You aren't a meticulous person like me.
If you tell me that you are pregnant for me, before I spend a dime on the pregnancy, I would take you to the hospital and do a confirmation test first.
I don't accept words on face value when serious issues are connected.
Young man you were too careless and you don't observe things well.
When a girl starts playing games on me, I always discover easily because I take note of things.

Thank God you called yourself prophet. Just pray and hope you don't fall in love with the wrong woman. No be today I start to date o. It's well.

prophetfire:
Guy why did you allow this people to play you like this? Especially the girl. The signs were all there
You are a good guy but you behaved like a simp of an over nice guy.
You allowed the girl to use you.

I actually became overly nice to her and her family after the news of the pregnancy. Totally stop keeping female friends, went from a comfortable self contain apartment to a 2_Bedroom flat - we were both moving from one location to another in search of the new apartment...lol (spent so much in rent and furnishing the new place). I agree say I loss guard!Trust skyrocketed! Infact, if I had not witnessed the introduction and was told by someone else, not sure I would have believed.

Taal17:
And again you don't get what I'm saying
He said he S$X with her few days to the to the introduction and she was 7montha pregnant. Now she tells him she made mistake that she wasn't pregnant
The example you gave is someone in her 2nd trimester..that is different from him who thought is she was at 7months which is 3rd trimester. Most pregnancies are viable in 3rd trimester
Your sisters friend as you mentioned if she wears flowing how you won't know abi? That's because she's slim..if she doesn't wear such gowns you will know even at 1st and 2nd trimester.
There's is no abdominal fat covering the area for slim people so once the womb has a growing fetus then it will push out from the lower abdomen. Pregnancy stretches your lower abdominal muscles
The exceptions might be if the slim person has consistently exercises the abdominal muscles throughout sports, exercise or dance then the abdominal muscles will be taut and no fat. Those people can look like they just ate a meal and be 8months pregnant

There are exceptions to almost everything in life.

Taal17:
You are not a SIMP abeg.
I just think it's unlikely she was up to 7months that's all.

IId she really miscarried at 7months she won't be able to recover quickly to do an introduction ceremony

To abort a 7month pregnancy is to go under anesthesia and it's highly unlikely any hospital will want to run the risk of losing mother for that. In most countries 6months is a viable baby.

I do empathize with your loss of both the relationship and your baby. You are still grieving so I'd advise you seek professional counselors and stay off any relationship casual or otherwise for awhile.

The baby was a huge loss to me. I've had my share of grieving and mourning.

Sapasenator:
Stop responding to the dude. He/she is a troll.

Now, how sure are you that the pregnancy belongs to you?

Only a woman knows that. I can only say sex was involved in our five yrs relationship (as at last yr) and she missed her period in the process. Told me about it and I advised her to go do a test. The test came back positive.

trollx:
This story is obviously a fictional story. How can you say you had sex with a 7months old pregnant woman and didn't know if she was still pregnant or not. And few days later she did her introduction, shey the belle varnish?

Do you even know what is 7months old pregnancy? Like the baby has already been formed Ooo.
Just tell us you made a mistake while typing your fictional story, and mistakenly wrote 7months instead of 7weeks. Please, always proof-read next time.

Thanks!

Believe whatever you want.

Those that are sending private messages....I'm not sure I have more info to give that is not on this thread already.

Taal17:
Bros it's even slim girls that pregnancy shows more. 7montha na haba. Majority of females I know are slim .

She probably lied to you about pregnancy and the time.
Anyways she's deceptive, e go meet her for front

The pregnancy was real. I have evidences, but chose not to post. All pregnancy symptoms were visible. There was changes in her body system, shape and colour. Even up to appetite,smell, craving (I was buying cat fish pepper soup like mad). There was a time she was having sleepless time, will be on call with her late into the night.

Registered her for antenatal at a general hospital and also for native treatment for massaging of the stomach. The woman she registered with confirmed and is available to confirm that she was pregnant.

We visited my mum when the pregnancy was around 4/5 months in. My mum confirmed the pregnancy (my mum can spot a pregnant woman from far and she will be right).

I have enough legal ground and evidences to take up the pregnancy issue with her and her family. Even up to when she told me she was pregnant for me.

People that are calling me a SIMP might not be able to repeat that if we meet offline.

Ajione:
This is serious o. The way i dey fear that gender now. Sorry bro move on.

I don join the "fear woman" WhatsApp group.

ogashman:
Sorry to ask,but are u from the other side of delta state?

I'm Edo

Kobojunkie:
You should see it then from my angle. I don't understand why people even bother to seek consent to marry when they don't do that to date each other, have sex, get pregnant and even have babies. If you are able to pretty much do all of that without consent, then what is the use of consent again? It does not compute.

What about staying together. We were not cohabiting cause she's the religious type.

papyjaypaul:
My guy, they have shown you that you are not irreplaceable. Be happy that they are doing this to you now. Do you know what this could mean to you when you force your love to marry her? They will take over your properties and your kids. Be happy that they have shown you their true colors now. You dodged a bullet. Family that can arrange your death for their own daughter to enjoy life and you are here talking about love. If you marry a woman who does not have a mind of your own, you will have a problem in your house. She will follow the script of my brother said, my uncle said in your own house. Love has taught you a lesson.

Exactly what her pastor said. She is very timid person that doesn't have a mind of her own. It was even her friend that convinced her to accept me when I first approached her. Note that I don't know the said friend, neither did I speak with the friend. She told me she discussed with her friend that someone wooed her and the friend asked for my pics. The friend saw me and told her to consider me. That the type of person she's is. Easily influenced and manipulated.

Secondly, she told me that she can't be happy in a marriage without family approval, if she had gone ahead to marry me. This is a girl of 27yrs

kkins25:
Given all he's said, the OP's story makes sense to me.
1) He had already approached the family for marriage. And they appeared to welcome him.
2) by his actions, he had made it known to her that they were to settle down. All that was left was for the girl to play her part, which she didn't. They dragged out the date to make the whole ordeal formal.
3) The girl is the one who denied the OP access to her parents, knowing that they disapproved of the inter-tribal marriage.
4) If the girl hadn't succumbed to pressure, she'd have kept the baby, which would have forced the parents' hands, just like my mom did in my situation.
5) She hid the fact that her parents weren't okay with the marriage, yet continued to be intimate with him while rekindling old flames with another lover.
6) I understand the lady and her action, but being pretentious to that extent trumps whatever dragging she had to endure from the OP.
7) Unfortunately for the old lover, he was the second choice....ehyaaa....

Without a doubt, the real dubious person here is no other than the girl. What we have here is a girl without the stomach-to-face stigma and a dubious individual who continued to lead the Op on knowing she wasn't going to marry him. She even made him build a baby-bed..

I think OP dodged a bullet because if things go south, she'll blame her woes on all of him. And the marriage would be a living hell.

Thank for this. This is such a a relief. I think you are among the few that truly understood the writeup.

Mom007:
Why do you want her to marry you, an edo guy before? Even if she was dating you, being childish and uninformed, the moment she introduced you to her parents, they must have told her to wake up from her slumber and let you go. Una no good fa!

I was once dating an edo guy from esan. When he took me to meet his parents, his mom called me aside and told me hoo-ha that 'esan no dey marry outside, na esan dey marry esan!' I comported myself instantly. At least she didn't waste my time. Go and look for your tribe to marry.

That the mum informed you herself without you wasting your time is a sign that they were good to you. You know how much I spent on that girl. On hospital bill for her mum. And on her mum burial arrangements. Not to talk of antenatal, provisions and all the essentials for a pregnant woman. Should we talk about the time wasted.

I was faithful to her to the point of staying off female friends. One of the girls that had a crush on me came to inform me last year that are boyfriend is planning to propose if there was any hope for us. I told her I was already in something serious and today she's married.

Rickmann:
Mmm..she has that igbo connection, i should've known.
Most of them are like that, too picky and they do it without conscience...my brother's friend had this same experience, unlike urs, he was only lucky cos they lasted just few months. After spending this guys money and almost ran him penniless, she woke up one day and said she couldn't marry a guy from Imo state. How wicked and insensitive can women be?

Relax mate.
She did u a favour.
What's not urs isn't urs.
The sun will shine on u again.

Stay blessed.

My mum told me something like this about Igbo girls but the heart has a mind of his own when in love.

heniford2:
so wat where u expecting to be told to move on after 6yrs with ur baby and also with whole money spent on her common be wise

Did you even read the post at all

heniford2:
be calm try get to know the guy who's supposed to marry ur girlfriend tell him to check that girl that she's pregnant with ur baby then watch wen he break up with her accept her back but don't pay her Bride price wen she gives birth to tell her your not interested in any Relation with her again. The next week pay for another girl bridal price and watch her fill with regrets

Nairalanders...na so una dey do for here.

Kloenboi:
You both are nairaland members

It's not funny though...

But how woman go dey under your nose for over half a decade and she con arrange marriage with another man and you are not aware of it?

I guess you guys were just fornicating with no intention of getting married until the baby entered.

Read and understand before you reply. I already proposed marriage to her which she accepted and started meeting with her family long before the pregnancy came up.

holocron:
OP, Your story is incredulous. A 7 month pregnancy is a big protruding tommy and cannot be hidden and can not be ABORTED. IT CAN ONLY BE DELIVERED. That part of your story is unbelievable and possibly gives you away!

pls believe whatever you want to believe. How did the pregnancy now disappeared. I took her for ultrasound and nothing was there again.

Krak:
Debrief yourself and carefully go over every interaction with her that you can remember, then make sure you learn from them.

She is a devious and manipulative human being.

In any future relationship do not totally let your guards down while at the same time giving your partner her freedom.

And then do not forget to discreetly conduct a DNA test on any future offspring you will have.

I might still be able to love again, but trusting is no longer possible. Can no longer take any girl I have no access to her phone in the name of privacy serious. This babe was a church girl. High level pretender. Her pastor could not even believe that his supposed saint was capable of what I was telling him. The man had to ask for evidence and I was prepared with receipts.

Chevrolet076:
Question is why are you doing all of that?

Should I have totally stayed clear of her family members? Someone I plan to marry. Was trying to build relationship with the family, or is that something bad?

The parent only gave birth to two children, she and her sister. Shes the eldest and since they lost the mum. I started reaching out to her younger sister, to know how she faring and occasionally send money through my girl to the sister. Thought that's the right thing to do.

Irreplaceable01:
I still be JJC for the Matter, pàrdon my ignorance. I never had reason to doubt this girl. We discussed about baby things and name, she was suggesting some Igbo names which I was not accepting. Have even gotten a baby cot. And was planning to import most of the baby things.

She was the one that chose this particular design of baby cot, so I got my furniture guy to construct it...lol

Krak:
When you had sex with her, how did you not notice that a 7 month pregnancy was not there?

I am a married man with 2 kids and I am trying to comprehend how you did not notice either it's absence or presence.

Because a man whose girl is 7 months pregnant should be obsessed with touching her tummy and playing with it all the time.

I still be JJC for the Matter, pàrdon my ignorance. I never had reason to doubt this girl. We discussed about baby things and name, she was suggesting some Igbo names which I was not accepting. Have even gotten a baby cot. And was planning to import most of the baby things.

Chevrolet076:
I've read through your story and I totally understand you. But It's a good thing things went the way it did because you just dodged a bullet.
When the family already has too much say in the relationship and the girl seems not to have a mind of her own, it's obvious that whatever union you have with her, the family will be the one controlling it.

Going forward, try to limit the familiarity with the families of your in-laws. The see finish will not make them respect you. Imagine talking to sister, uncle, etc... to do what exactly?

Again, make sure you date or be with someone who can think for themselves. This life ehn.. May God help and see us guys through

Amen to your prayer. I just used the talking to aunty and sister to illustrate the fact that I had communication with these people, yet they kept me in the dark.

Rickmann:
Pls where is she from?

Her dad is Asaba, her mum is Enugu

Kingray10:
I don't understand how seven months pregnancy is not visible enough for the other guy not to see, n besides, sorry to say I guess you were not wise enough for paying for antenatal, when the person doesn't posses symptoms of pregnancy. Or do you mean she aborted 7months pregnancy
You were fooled in various ways expect this story is not true.

The pregnancy was real, the symptoms were there. She's a very slim girl so the pregnancy was not very obvious.

Secondly, the guy that did the introduction doesn't stay in the same state as her, so it was a long distance arrangement, possible why I didn't suspect it. But the symptoms were there. Why will someone not pregnant be attending antenatal, won't the nurses and doctors detect it? Aside from antenatal I registered her for a lady that does native medicine for pregnant women...that lady specializes in massaging the stomach making sure the baby was well positioned.