Irreplaceable01:
Amen to your prayer. I just used the talking to aunty and sister to illustrate the fact that I had communication with these people, yet they kept me in the dark.

Question is why are you doing all of that?

Irreplaceable01:
I still be JJC for the Matter, pàrdon my ignorance. I never had reason to doubt this girl. We discussed about baby things and name, she was suggesting some Igbo names which I was not accepting. Have even gotten a baby cot. And was planning to import most of the baby things.

She was the one that chose this particular design of baby cot, so I got my furniture guy to construct it...lol

Irreplaceable01:
Are you sure you read the writeup? It was written with English language. I already visited the family since 2022 to make my intention know to them long before the pregnancy came into play. They were the one dragging their feet. Pls read again. Slowly and comprehend.

Op, next time when you put up a post on family affairs, please be wary of kobojunky, zone free and co. They are gay, they suck d!ck and give up their ass(doggiely) to be dicknalize . They always deliberately derailed any post on family issues. Of course you know LGBTQ+ community hate the concept of family.

Klass99:


Can you please learn to STFU and stop displaying your stupidity all over the forum. The guy's story is clear and easy to understand.

There is no greater simp than a man who does nothing for a living except to run his mouth waaaa on a public forum, always rushing to comment foolishly and asking if he can send or drop aza for hand outs. That simp is no other person but you.

Unlike you the OP has a job in the power sector and does something worthwhile for a living. What exactly do you do for a living besides being foolish on NL.

And when they gave birth to you some people probably gathered round to celebrate and give thanks. They didn't know what a complete waste of sperm and egg you would turn out to be.

Please be wary of kobojunky, zone free and co. They are gay, they suck d!ck and give up their ass(doggiely) to be dicknalize . They always deliberately derailed any post on family issues. Of course you know LGBTQ+ community hate the concept of family.

Chevrolet076:


Question is why are you doing all of that?

Should I have totally stayed clear of her family members? Someone I plan to marry. Was trying to build relationship with the family, or is that something bad?

The parent only gave birth to two children, she and her sister. Shes the eldest and since they lost the mum. I started reaching out to her younger sister, to know how she faring and occasionally send money through my girl to the sister. Thought that's the right thing to do.

Irreplaceable01:
I still be JJC for the Matter, pàrdon my ignorance. I never had reason to doubt this girl. We discussed about baby things and name, she was suggesting some Igbo names which I was not accepting. Have even gotten a baby cot. And was planning to import most of the baby things.

Debrief yourself and carefully go over every interaction with her that you can remember, then make sure you learn from them.

She is a devious and manipulative human being.

In any future relationship do not totally let your guards down while at the same time giving your partner her freedom.

And then do not forget to discreetly conduct a DNA test on any future offspring you will have.

Krak:


Debrief yourself and carefully go over every interaction with her that you can remember, then make sure you learn from them.

She is a devious and manipulative human being.

In any future relationship do not totally let your guards down while at the same time giving your partner her freedom.

And then do not forget to discreetly conduct a DNA test on any future offspring you will have.

I might still be able to love again, but trusting is no longer possible. Can no longer take any girl I have no access to her phone in the name of privacy serious. This babe was a church girl. High level pretender. Her pastor could not even believe that his supposed saint was capable of what I was telling him. The man had to ask for evidence and I was prepared with receipts.

Klass99:


Can you please learn to STFU and stop displaying your stupidity all over the forum. The guy's story is clear and easy to understand.

There is no greater simp than a man who does nothing for a living except to run his mouth waaaa on a public forum, always rushing to comment foolishly and asking if he can send or drop aza for hand outs. That simp is no other person but you.

Unlike you the OP has a job in the power sector and does something worthwhile for a living. What exactly do you do for a living besides being foolish on NL.

And when they gave birth to you some people probably gathered round to celebrate and give thanks. They didn't know what a complete waste of sperm and egg you would turn out to be.

Chai, oro kobakungbe leyi o. O deep

Irreplaceable01:
I still be JJC for the Matter, pàrdon my ignorance. I never had reason to doubt this girl. We discussed about baby things and name, she was suggesting some Igbo names which I was not accepting. Have even gotten a baby cot. And was planning to import most of the baby things.

OP, Your story is incredulous. A 7 month pregnancy is a big protruding tommy and cannot be hidden and can not be ABORTED. IT CAN ONLY BE DELIVERED. That part of your story is unbelievable and possibly gives you away!

holocron:


OP, Your story is incredulous. A 7 month pregnancy is a big protruding tommy and cannot be hidden and can not be ABORTED. IT CAN ONLY BE DELIVERED. That part of your story is unbelievable and possibly gives you away!

pls believe whatever you want to believe. How did the pregnancy now disappeared. I took her for ultrasound and nothing was there again.

Irreplaceable01:
Her dad is Asaba, her mum is Enugu

Mmm..she has that igbo connection, i should've known.
Most of them are like that, too picky and they do it without conscience...my brother's friend had this same experience, unlike urs, he was only lucky cos they lasted just few months. After spending this guys money and almost ran him penniless, she woke up one day and said she couldn't marry a guy from Imo state. How wicked and insensitive can women be?

Relax mate.
She did u a favour.
What's not urs isn't urs.
The sun will shine on u again.

Stay blessed.

Irreplaceable01:
I don't just understand those guys, what will I gain by coming to say things that didn't happen on Nairaland. Will Seun pay me. We are both on Nairaland but silent readers.

You both are nairaland members

It's not funny though...

But how woman go dey under your nose for over half a decade and she con arrange marriage with another man and you are not aware of it?

I guess you guys were just fornicating with no intention of getting married until the baby entered.

Irreplaceable01:
Everyone is tough online. Your supposed inlaw will offer you drink and you will reject it. C'on man. I'm not hungry o.

be calm try get to know the guy who's supposed to marry ur girlfriend tell him to check that girl that she's pregnant with ur baby then watch wen he break up with her accept her back but don't pay her Bride price wen she gives birth to tell her your not interested in any Relation with her again. The next week pay for another girl bridal price and watch her fill with regrets

Irreplaceable01:
Thank God there are still intelligent minds here. I kept going back to the post to see if there was a mistake with the writeup.

Please don't let them frustrate you here o.
Sorry about your situation.

Kloenboi:


You both are nairaland members

It's not funny though...

But how woman go dey under your nose for over half a decade and she con arrange marriage with another man and you are not aware of it?

I guess you guys were just fornicating with no intention of getting married until the baby entered.

Read and understand before you reply. I already proposed marriage to her which she accepted and started meeting with her family long before the pregnancy came up.

heniford2:
be calm try get to know the guy who's supposed to marry ur girlfriend tell him to check that girl that she's pregnant with ur baby then watch wen he break up with her accept her back but don't pay her Bride price wen she gives birth to tell her your not interested in any Relation with her again. The next week pay for another girl bridal price and watch her fill with regrets

Nairalanders...na so una dey do for here.

Irreplaceable01:
Nairalanders...na so una dey do for here.

so wat where u expecting to be told to move on after 6yrs with ur baby and also with whole money spent on her common be wise

Kobojunkie:
I did but the gal and her parents probably got tired of waiting while you dragged your feet on making a final decision and decided it best to move on. You got her pregnant before marrying her. Did you think that meant she could not move on or what?

If I had a daughter or son, I would not advise her or him to wait around on anyone when it comes to realizing a personal dream or desire.

Lol...you did you even read what he posted? smh

heniford2:
so wat where u expecting to be told to move on after 6yrs with ur baby and also with whole money spent on her common be wise

Did you even read the post at all

Irreplaceable01:
Did you even read the post at all

I read it so what's ur point stop mentioning me u asked for advice which was giving ur asking if i did read it haba!🤌🏿

Rickmann:


Mmm..she has that igbo connection, i should've known.
Most of them are like that, too picky and they do it without conscience...my brother's friend had this same experience, unlike urs, he was only lucky cos they lasted just few months. After spending this guys money and almost ran him penniless, she woke up one day and said she couldn't marry a guy from Imo state. How wicked and insensitive can women be?

Relax mate.
She did u a favour.
What's not urs isn't urs.
The sun will shine on u again.

Stay blessed.

My mum told me something like this about Igbo girls but the heart has a mind of his own when in love.

Irreplaceable01:
My mum told me something like this about Igbo girls but the heart has a mind of his own when in love.

True.. Ur mum was right and it's a good thing u've learnt firsthand.
Don't get me wrong, there are very good and reasonable igbo girls but they are just a handful.

Because you no get money. Just move on jare!

Simps never learn

Wait u were served rice and chicken on your pregnant girlfriend introduction?

Irreplaceable01:
Let me continue the story; many persons seems to be getting the narrative wrong. Although I'm not a story teller, so try to read slowly, comprehend before replying.


To continue...I was now speaking with the uncle she stays with (He was the first person I went to visit with drink and declared my intention to marry her last two yrs) I asked what was going on, I need clarification as I don't understand. He replied that he was shocked to have seen me that he thought me and her were no longer together. Saying that he told her to tell me that family did not accept me because of my ethnicity (I'm Edo). This girl didn't tell me anything, totally kept me in the dark and none of her family members told me anything like that. I became furious and the Uncle reacted aggressively, telling me to leave his house.

The next day 12th February, I matched back to the house with my soldier friend to ask her about the welfare of the unborn child,this girl replied that she thought she was pregnant but she's not. Omoh, how can someone be thinking she's pregnant for 7months? I spent money to Register her for antenatal, do send money for provisions,buy fruits and all that. It was obvious she had aborted the pregnancy.

I wanted to take it up with her but family advise I let go of everything and move on. People can be wicked sha. Her reason for all these was that family did not want their daughter to marry from Edo

Why do you want her to marry you, an edo guy before? Even if she was dating you, being childish and uninformed, the moment she introduced you to her parents, they must have told her to wake up from her slumber and let you go. Una no good fa!

I was once dating an edo guy from esan. When he took me to meet his parents, his mom called me aside and told me hoo-ha that 'esan no dey marry outside, na esan dey marry esan!' I comported myself instantly. At least she didn't waste my time. Go and look for your tribe to marry.

Irreplaceable01:
Let me continue the story; many persons seems to be getting the narrative wrong. Although I'm not a story teller, so try to read slowly, comprehend before replying.


To continue...I was now speaking with the uncle she stays with (He was the first person I went to visit with drink and declared my intention to marry her last two yrs) I asked what was going on, I need clarification as I don't understand. He replied that he was shocked to have seen me that he thought me and her were no longer together. Saying that he told her to tell me that family did not accept me because of my ethnicity (I'm Edo). This girl didn't tell me anything, totally kept me in the dark and none of her family members told me anything like that. I became furious and the Uncle reacted aggressively, telling me to leave his house.

The next day 12th February, I matched back to the house with my soldier friend to ask her about the welfare of the unborn child,this girl replied that she thought she was pregnant but she's not. Omoh, how can someone be thinking she's pregnant for 7months? I spent money to Register her for antenatal, do send money for provisions,buy fruits and all that. It was obvious she had aborted the pregnancy.

I wanted to take it up with her but family advise I let go of everything and move on. People can be wicked sha. Her reason for all these was that family did not want their daughter to marry from Edo

You were scammed bro. I guess you didn't confirm the pregnancy. You dodged a bullet

Godoverevery:
∆ Which foolish consent before impregnating her are you talking about?? Two adult now need female parent consent before having sex. Does all the guy that Bleep you ask for your parent consent??
This stupid talk of **he impregnate her** is very disgusting. They both had sex which resulted in pregnancy.....two people actions.

You should see it then from my angle. I don't understand why people even bother to seek consent to marry when they don't do that to date each other, have sex, get pregnant and even have babies. If you are able to pretty much do all of that without consent, then what is the use of consent again? It does not compute.

Kobojunkie:
I did but the gal and her parents probably got tired of waiting while you dragged your feet on making a final decision and decided it best to move on. You got her pregnant before marrying her. Did you think that meant she could not move on or what?

If I had a daughter or son, I would not advise her or him to wait around on anyone when it comes to realizing a personal dream or desire.

Your level of comprehension is appalling.

Read to understand rather than read to respond it will help you a lot.

If you had read to understand you wouldn't have come up with most of the that you wrote.

Klass99:


Can you please learn to STFU and stop displaying your stupidity all over the forum. The guy's story is clear and easy to understand.

There is no greater simp than a man who does nothing for a living except to run his mouth waaaa on a public forum, always rushing to comment foolishly and asking if he can send or drop aza for hand outs. That simp is no other person but you.

Unlike you the OP has a job in the power sector and does something worthwhile for a living. What exactly do you do for a living besides being foolish on NL.

And when they gave birth to you some people probably gathered round to celebrate and give thanks. They didn't know what a complete waste of sperm and egg you would turn out to be.

have small mercy ooo...

Irreplaceable01:
Are you sure you read the writeup? It was written with English language. I already visited the family since 2022 to make my intention know to them long before the pregnancy came into play. They were the one dragging their feet. Pls read again. Slowly and comprehend.

I'm shocked as you are, that junkie needs a comprehension class, she totally has zero comprehension of the passage.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Your level of comprehension is appalling.
Read to understand rather than read to respond it will help you a lot.
If you had read to understand you wouldn't have come up with most of the that you wrote.

Nonsense!

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense!

If you don't take corrections now is it when you hit 50s that you would? A stitch in time saves nine.