₦airaland Forum

Rodmann, there ARE women out there who are looking for One Good Man to call her own cuz they r tired of the "scene" too.  I think that they will be looking for a man who shows he is looking for that also.  We wouldn't look for a man who appears like a playa.  So if u r out and about and always with another woman and one has been checkin u out, that will show her, playa.  Also, some of the best things come in "plain wrappers".  Look for the good woman, the one who doesn't bare it all.  Look for her heart, personality.  The one who wants to be your friend first.  The best advice I ever got was "run to the one who loves you".  You won't find this woman out at the clubs or in the middle of things.  You will find her busy at church, or her place of work or from a friend cuz she will be the one taking care of her family and cooking for them, just as she would for a husband.  Best of luck in your search!

y'know mrmayor you bring up a very very good point! As a taller woman, I sometimes wonder the same thing (among other things I wonder about when i see a 6'4" man with a woman who is maybe 5 foot tall if she wears heels! At church there is this one young man who is 7'1" tall and his new wife is 4'8"! Now there is a site, LOL! But I am rambling now, and there are only so many tall men. Actually the majority are not, in fact, short, but average height is around 5'8"-9". While that is shorter than me, I would never consider it short. Regarding competition, naw, never met a man who didn't like long legs
[quote][/quote]But i really wonder what happens to the 5ft guys,will they marry ladies of about 4ft 7inches and give births to midgets.lmao
I would also like to remark to hotchic regarding her quote here, that actually even if one if medically deemed a dwarf,, there is still only 60% chance of birthing a dwarf as a child. It's about genetics, and dwarfs still carry genes that can provide a normal size human, altho maybe if it were a male child, of 6' would still be "short" for some? Likewise, "normal" sized people can also carry the gene that will birth a dwarf.

Woa! I shoulda stayed up later last night, thread got busy! hmm, where to start,

I wouldn't fall in love let alone propose to the kind of woman you are referencing here

[/quote]I think what GNature means here (and please correct me if I am wrong GN) is that he would not be attracted to a woman who is so shallow as to utilize the criteria for love/mating that a man be taller than her. GN would be into a woman who would value the many other wonderful attributes he has to offer. So given that, a proposal would not even be an issue with such a shallow chica.

If he has nothing else going,if he were 5 ft,women would look at him and see a 3 footer and in their minds eye,would imagine putting him in a crib and tucking him in at night.
That is not attractive!

OMG g/f, sorry to say, I prefer my men my height or shorter, but i have never ever "imagined" putting any of the fine, sensual, shorter men I have been with into a crib! My bed, sha,

Men are visual beings and they love well endowed women that's why breast augmentation is big business,the same way we prefer men taller than us.
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While I am very amply endowed in my attack, I have actually been informed that they are "too big". There are men out there whose preference is "less is more". Just like there are women who do not want to have to get a crick in our necks cuz of straining just to kiss our man.

while it is true that "you can't live on love" there are a great many short men in this world who work hard, provide for their families, which they have made by making mad, passionate, love to taller women with long long legs who are very satisfied, all the way round!

I am a bit taller for a woman (5'10" but I would marry a man shorter than me. I cannot really say how much shorter, because I really prefer men my height or shorter. I have been with men who are taller, but I don't care for that. It is very very awkward for me, especially more than an inch or two taller. I guess that height is not a significant factor to me. I am looking for a man that is honest, caring, faithful, intelligent and God fearing. If he has these qualities, they are much more important in the duration of the marriage than height. I'm just a simple woman - looking for a good man. I cannot see how height can assure that. So yes, if a man loves me and I, him, but he is shorter, I would marry him. We're all the same size in bed anyway

[color=#000099][/color][i][/i]Woa! I think the lady was just asking about the general climate in Lagos in interracial relationships. By the time I got to the end of the post, it felt like y'all were bashing her because everyone wanted to apply their own semantics to her innocent and excited question. Why is this? I have always found Nigerians to be very warm and accomodating people, but someones the courtesy and respect that Nigerians are so well known for is rather set aside here. Give the lady a break and welcome her to Nigeria for pete sakes!
~Iskwew

There are other countries, besides Nigeria, where PDAs (public displays of affection) are not accepted or practiced (for the majority). I agree with pmdaboh, however, that it would be nice if there were more restraint on the streets of the United States. Personally, I'm not a prude about it, but I would really rather just go about my business in public, wearing long dresses/skirts, oversize shirts, and not flaunt everything I have, and then save the wild, passionate side of myself for my one and only behind closed doors. Everyone does not have to see what I've got for my man.
~Desiree'

hmmmm, actually I have read this before seeing it here. And what I find fascinating is that I have seen other articles that reflect the opposite: That Nigerian men have to marry women from abroad because they can use and abuse them more than the strong Nigerian woman who will not put up with any trifling bs from them! To me, it still comes down to people are people, some good/some bad, some who will put up with trash/some who have more self respect than that. We are all just people. And I will just add a personal aside: my Nigerian man is a very warm, strong, caring man, who knows for sure that I won't put up with any trifling bs from anyone, much less him!
~Desiree'

Makes no difference.  For those who are thinking "I couldn't marry a man who is in a chair cuz he couldn't give me children or pleasure as a woman", you could be mistaken.  Many men who happen to be in wheelchairs still have working male apparatus, besides, the brain is the most important sexual organ anyways.  Nevermind that the lower apperatus is not the only thing used in physical intimacy.  As for a previous post that tells the story of the pastor and his woman who is in a chair attests, that works for women also, and they can have children as well.  It is also true that medical science, in all it's wisdom and knowledge, may make the determination that a person can never get out of the wheelchair again ~ and they can be wrong!  I can personally attest to that!  In the fullest context of a quality relationship that includes love, standing upright is of little consequence.  Our bodies will decline in beauty and ability as we age anyway, but the heart, remains growing strong in love, that is where the beauty lay.
~Desiree'

WOW! Interesting topic. I guess my man can screw someone on the side - if he wants to be ASSURED that I will be doing him the same as he is doing me. Cuz if he ain't takin care of his business at home ~ someone else will. It is good to see a good number of men here who understand faithfulness and know what real love is. Personally ~ I have no time for game playing. If u love me, I'll keep u so busy u won't see the light of day anyway!