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So many women would cross ther legs and have their mother serve them food, finish eating and give the mother in law the plate to wash.

These same sets will scream to high heavens if their daughter in law do same to them.

I wish una husband well o.
Kai!

Chillisauce:
No adios me jor. enter market and help these women recovering from sickness.
Have you even bought diapers for the baby sef.
Even if na baby powder sef. Chai N'a wah for you o. You no only wicked. You Come stingy on top. Your case N'a deliverance for mountain of fire and brimstone

Okay.

queenfav:
May God deliver single ladies from families that will want you to die pleasing them.Its bad that the DIL didn't reciprocate the love.she erred there o,esp as the aunt took care of her after delivery.But again,maybe she is not a very strong person.And op thank God she is not a pretender.I like the fact she is not overdoing things just to make you guys like her.That way,everybody knows their boundaries.Please don't scatter your cousin's marriage.He likes her like that.One man's meat is another man's poison.You shouldn't be the one to sow any seed of discord into their relationship,simply because she didn't care for your aunt.When I visited my fiance's family..The mum was like can I pound yam..I said NO!If na that one wan make her tell her stepson not to marry me,no wahala.Despite that,she took very good care of me.I cannot do good face and then fall sick when I get home.My man even told me not to over work myself there.Abeg,leave the girl.Your cousin likes other things abt her.If she is lazy,they wil get a maid.

quite matured. Thanks. Even though you didn't state it clearly, I am sure you did help in other ways aside pounding. It's very obvious from your writeup. That shows you care and have good background .

Yes, it's no longer my business. I will just leave it at that. If it works out for them good. If it doesn't good.

Besides, I never talked about this till yesterday. I just kept my observations to myself.

We all have our rewards for deeds of our ventures.

MarvellousGod:
I really find what you have said hard to believe because you said they had a good relationship during omugwo. . So why the sudden change? Why has she become such a bad person now?

If what you said is true as regards not checking on her MIL when there's no dispute btw them, then she isn't nice at al.... But I think you should take it easy.
Have you communicated to her? Maybe she needs you people to point out to what she should do...

All d best...

It's okay. I believe I have done my best for my aunt and she knows that.

For the sake of the child involved like so many people pointed out, one should call her talk to her.

But based on what I have seen in life, I doubt this girl will change. I could have said something more but like it's already, people will still feel I am hating on the girl. Which isn't the case.

Anyway, I am done already. I will leave them to sort theirselve. I know what I want from my future wife and I stand by it. I say so because I know I go extral miles for people around me. I know I can't treat my own MIL like she is an alien. There are things I can do to show I care.

Relationship shouldn't be one sided.

Chillisauce:
Go and help your aunt dear and also the nursing mother with CS .
You can remain single , better sef . Make you no kill another person daughter with this your attitude .

well madam, nobody is killing anyone.

Anyway, I believe you women on here have made your point which is good.

Adios!

Chillisauce:
I catch your lie, you then telling another one.
You all centered on driving shows how the car dey pepper your body.
Pls stop calculating and go get help for your aunt and your inlaw to be.

Able bodied man just siddon dey plot scheme with a s8ck woman who while be getting her rest.

Btw, where is your aunt husband in all these

The husband is very much around...and he does his part.

It's so pathetic that you see no reason in helping with whatever way. You are a woman, you will be a mother, you will grow old one day!

Chillisauce:
Diary of an angry black man

The hustle is real. OP is probably a 45yr old man who is still eating from hand to mouth and is angry that the small girl is driving car even before marrying their money bank.

Girl had a surgery
MIL had a surgery

Girl still nursing a baby
MIL nursing no one but weak and old.

OP had no surgery
OP not nursing anyone .
OP is still young
OP couldn't arrange for a maid for his BLOOD relation who is sick

And he is here ranting like a $#/@ when he should be in the market cooking for his beloved aunty and helping their in law to be with her baby.

Wickedness in high places.

Nigerian men Change o.
Wickedness won't do you any good.

you didn't see where I said I did the washing of her clothes, I lift her up when she needs to change position to sit on a chair. I make her bed and more. I would do more because she is a mother to me.

So in your wasp reasoning, you will meet your mother in law in such condition and you won't do ANYTHING to help. Only come and go with your bag, right?

Anyway, it further gives me reasons to be very careful of current set of Nigerian women!

Chillisauce:
Nna Mehn.

This Op can lie sha.
From four months ago. Now it's seven months.

Wicked people N'a dia way be dat

Always telling more lies to cover their Wickedness.

Me saying some should tell you that it's not specific. I said between february and March should explain that it was early this year.

I had to do proper revision to when I went to Lagos and came back. It was around that time she put to bed and I was in Lagos in January and came back around February.

Now if it was 4 months, could she have been able to be driving in 4 months? That should tell you I didn't get the date right initially.

bukatyne:
I need to understand the timeline....
When did she put to bed?

between February and March

MarvellousGod:
Ofcourse she should be involved in her MIL's welfare. . She seems involved but they want her all involved at the expense of her baby...

she is not involved... SHE ISN'T. Her visit is more like a force so as not seem like no human.

How is she involved? You tell me.

I knew people, especially the ladies, wouldn't believe it because the story is just too heavy on the said girl.

Before child birth has she ever done anything worthwhile for her MIL? Is it her clothes she washed, did she ever cooked? Etc NO!

Sometimes you guys need to put your own mother in the picture.

In life I believe we all need to SHOW we have a heart. I don't need to have millions before I can help you. There are ways I can show you I care, countless ways.

Can same be said about this girl? NO!

Okay let's take just yesterday as a case study.

MIL calls DIL and informed her she has arrived home. A sensible girl could have said okay mummy... Who will cook for you. Okay i will be there by so and so time to check on you. Absolutely nothing! And I can bet you that she wont show up in more than a week! Yes, she is that predictable already.

Would she do same to her own mother?

She should help in little ways that's all I am saying. She is not helping at all and that's the problem.

delishpot:
Truth is I do not kniw what the girls life is like. Does she have family? As in a mom? At keast she could spare 1day of the week to leave baby with her mom and go take care of her future MIL who is sick for some hours na. Lets be real here biko. Even if mama had a maid, that girl should try and be a bit more involved in her welfare.

may God bless you my brother. May your wife be a blessing your home. May you live to enjoy your children.

Isn't it sickening what all the women all here are talking? Giving flimsy excuses.

My grouse is that the girl in question didn't DO ANYTHING. this is mother in law that took care of her, bathed her etc.

But same girl have energy to drive car around abi?

What will take out of her do cooking or washing clothes... What?

I know some mother in law that make their daughter in law see hell. Here she is blessed with good one but totally messed it up.

You can't even count one benefit she adds to the family. One dey count pikin like say pikin na the only contribution a woman should add to a family.


Just look at the kind of women of this current generation.

No non of them can at least say ah this girl sef no try.

God forbid I meet any of this kind of women. A woman that has no value is not worth my time. I say it again! Hate it if you wish.

I don't blame the girl much. Na my cousin I blame.

WTF... I am pissed man!

goldenruby:
This girl is still weak to start a business as your aunt said earlier, why is she worried or 'bittered' that she can't help her cook, wash and bla bla. @Op I totally understand your point but you're totally Wrong. All these are not in any way a medium to portray ones good or bad act. We all came from different homes.
Make I tell you one weird thing (to people that might see it as) when my Mum comes to my house, She washes my beddings,clothes,fetch water for me from the well if the water tap stops running,run my bath, Make my meals. I no sick o, na just small laziness o(wetin you go Call that one). And she'd jokingly ask me if I can try this at my inlaws when I eventually get married. . Truth is can Y'all stop seeing this babe as 'a plant in the ecosystem' and see her like a daughter?
And you have finalized even before your cousin that she is going! Odikwa risky! As early as 1am, you want to jeopardize a fresh marriage. Oloun wa.
If she has not given anything in return my brother she has given a child! Yes A Child! I know a lot of marriages with a not-so-good woman and the men are only overlooking cos of the CHILD(ren) involved. Why is this then different?
And then you listing out all the guy has done for her. You think say to kpansh easy huh? Abeg my brother help me overlook all her shortcomings and pardon her manners. If she LEAVES, aunty must Waka by force o cos that's double stress for her. Let's allow her enjoy this birthing period it'd soon be over and she no get excuse again. Na God I carry beg you

you are just saying all this cos you are a woman as well. I know it's not easy cos to give birth.

The things is this girl doesn't show any sign that she cares at all. She lacks completely home maintenance.

armyofone:
so wicked of you to say the girl is going. You are working and plotting the downfall so badly. She has a child already and every child must have the love and support of dad and mom. I hope you will be willing to play the mother's role if your plot is successful.
But I doubt it because common to help your aunt you couldn't but trying to contract that responsibility to another woman who may have her own daily nig hassles.
Kai, dongo surutu.

not really to be sincere. A good woman is a good woman and a bad woman is a bad woman. It won't change!

You can't give what you don't have.

I am not plotting anything. It's the mother in law that will do what she ought to do as a mother-- protect her child.

If she changes, which I hope she does, all good.

That girl won't even cook for her husband from the look of things. It's very obvious.

When you tell girls to learn good manners, they prefer to use what they see on modern TV. They forget that this is Nigeria and tradition still stand!

armyofone:
Such a bad start....everybody already if i were the gal, I would have vamoose unless I'm waiting for the ship to sail me to the land of milk and honey . Too many hands in the broth and that's why she is sending ya all on some psychological trip. Now ease up, be friendly to her and ask nicely to give some help.
Una don hate the gal finish so this union no go last at all at, all.

nobody is hating on her unjustly. She brought it on herself.

In life certain things happen for a reason. If my aunt never went for surgery, she wouldn't have known this is her kind of person.

Everybody has taken note of her character.

My aunt didn't even know I had taken note likewise same for me as I didn't know she was taking. Meaning everybody were making observations until she spoke to me yesterday.

Would you want such a girl for your brother? What if this is your mother?

I will be travelling next week and wont be back for a long time. Who will be with my aunt? Who?

It's just terrible.

Why are you women like this? Why make it seem like the girl is unjustly being attacked? I am getting the vibes from y'all on here and it's really pathetic.

You guys are women and remember you will eventually grow old. Would you be happy to see your son in the hands of a woman with bad manners? Is this the kind of woman you want for you son? A woman that can't love/respect your family? A woman that is only there because of money she is getting?

Nobody is asking her to come and become a slave but there are responsibilities expected of daughter in law.

At least when she delivered, responsibilities of mother in law was well taken by my aunt.

So many men are reading your comments here and I am sure they are taking notes.

Tufia!

cococandy:
Did the man complain to you?

lol

KanwuliaJara:
Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. . . .wey your own babe? Abi you be "Eunuch"?

bring your toto to confirm if I be Eunuch

KanwuliaJara:
Na who ask you all dis wan sef?

Only you wan dey tok for:

1. The BABE.
2. Your Cousin.
3. Your Aunty.
4. YOURSELF.

Haba!!!! Na only you waka kam?
You be REAAAAAL AMEBO

yes, I be AMEBO cos i no b mumu wey ur likes go use clean ground.

KanwuliaJara:
Na who ask you all dis wan sef?

na u know. it's very obvious you not willing to contribute anything to a man... you want to boss him around and put him under your armpit. I pity the mumu wey go marry you. A smart guy will never give you the chance...

Miami11:
Poster you seem to know everything that goes on your cousins house,
Do you even have a job,
Do you have your own house, hobbies, maybe? How do you know people's deep affairs like this.

no.. I am beggar off the street.... I don't even have food to eat.

I see where you are going with this... because it is woman that is wrong and you feel she is being blackmailed right?

Miami11:
I need to hear the woman's side of the story to make a judgement
Some mother in laws are manipulative, ( they act nice to relatives then treat daughter in laws like crap) I'm not saying she does not deserve care, but they could be more than meet your eye poster.

I swear, I did not add nor subtract from what I explained. I wish I had known, I would have made a voice not of my convo with my aunt.

The girl does nothing! absolutely nothing. she just sit and receive money from my cousin. My cousin is trying t be a good guy and take good care of her but you sef reason am na... I know you find it hard to believe.; i didn't decide to make vow of not giving a woman complete right even if she had 100 kids for me for nothing... what I mean is that I can not be manipulated.

My aunt is an extremely good woman and a mother.


Part of the reason why I had to stay with her for that 2 months was because despite the injury she had, she followed me to go see where her sister(my monther) was buried. I even told her to rest awhile. she said no that we should continue. I was touched that day I swear.

KanwuliaJara:
Na who sen una message?

Na you carry am go SA?
Na you buy am motto?
If una dey play SUGAR-DADDY role, don't complain!

Na wetin consine una sef?

wetin consine you too. whether you talk from now till tomorrow, I am sure, very sure that girl is going.

No woman wants to see her son get married to bad lady who has no single value!

cococandy:
Just listen to yourself.

How will your future wife give her all to the marriage when the house is all yours and she's a tenant.
Such high handedness.

madam, a child is not a guarantee. I repeat it is not a guarantee. Tomorrow your likes would accuse men. Life is give and take... tell me why you are alive. Why is your body breathing? how does it breathe? In case you don't know, it breathes in Oxygen and breathe out carbondioxide... and in other to balance the ecosystem, plants breathe in your carbon dioxide and give you oxygen to breathe, Why this laws are defiled, there is a break down in the system.

You don't just get it... this girl does NOTHING.

she ONLY receive... she gives nothing.

There has to be something you give... show you care!

KanwuliaJara:
This is the age of BABY MAMMAS and PAPPAS, and you dey for NL dey make noise?
Why all the insults?
What is your pain in all this?
If your aunty needs help, gerrrrrof the damn "net" and move in with her!
Next time, tell your "over-sabi-sabi" aunty to stop looking for a "replacement daughter"!
Una nefa marry the babe, una don dey gossip and PLOT!

The BABE don decode una tey tey ke!
Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo proud of her!
Shiooooooooooor!!!!!

u b mumu... dem never marry babe but them buy her car, dem never marry babe but them carry her go South Africa and Dubai for the first time in her whole life.

Abeg go sidon jor. I think say na better person i dey chat with sef.

KanwuliaJara:
Thank you!
Na who sen your BUST BODY AUNTY message?
Love is not by force o!

okay. we go see how far the said girl will go... where her power reach she go show us. Everybody has already taken note of her character, including a neighbour that was with us the day the thieves broke into the house. We shall...

make you and the fool wey dey like your post continue. una sef go born and una pikin go marry...

KanwuliaJara:
Hmmmm!
The women are nothing to write home about, yet una go dey phock dem, gee dem belle!

We don hia!!!!!

before I go give any girl belle, she has to worth it... My sperm no dey enter any yeye girl ovaries.

Ever since this issue started cropping up, I have never failed to aportion enough blame to my cousin. In fact, I often said I don't blame the girl but my cousin.

KanwuliaJara:
Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

i see. But she wasn't smart when my aunt was taking care of her right? Or my aunt was stupid at that time right?

Who is enslaving who in this case or don't you realise you will grow old too for calling my aunt grump. You see, this is the stupidity. Tick tock tick tock... You will soon reach my aunt,s age. Ozwo!

vfactor:
That's it ooo, my brother! Most ladies these days have nothing to write home about! They are always mean, rude and insultive, as if God offended them by allowing them to wake up in the morning.


My mother has been cautioning and training my sister. We only have to wait and see if she accepts the training or not!

when my mother was alive, it was same warning she dished out to us.

I know how many girls I have asked to get out of my life once I noticed any silly behavior.

KanwuliaJara:
After all this noise, is the husband-to-be complaining?
If not, abeg carry ya mouth go bury for evil forest!

Lessons learned: NEVER EXPECT FRIENDSHIP OR LOVE TO BE RECIPROCAL!!!!

dey dia. I know you wella. You are a lady and I won't be surprise if you act any different from this said girl.

I remember saying having a child for me isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house.

People attacked me without understanding why I made such statement.

Some 4 months ago, my cousin had his first child. My aunt, being the mother in law to be made sure she (daughter in law to be) got the best care. She took care of the daughter in law to be, bathed her grandchild every morning, afternoon and night.

After a month plus, my aunt followed her son to his house and continued with the care for another 1 month plus.

However due to an accident she had in 2012, she had to undergo proper surgery to straighten her leg because after the accident, no surgery was done but just traditional treament which didn't do much as the leg, a few CM above the ankle was bent and you can see the protruding bone.

Being hardworking woman, she did a lot of works with the leg.

I travelled to Lagos and when I returned, I was informed that she was in the hospital. I had to move to her sisters house same day so I can check on her.

On gettting there I saw her on the hospital bed. Few weeks later she was discharged from hospital.

This daughter in law to be was rarely around. When she comes, she would barely spend up to an hour before leaving. She has NEVER washed my aunt's clothes. Through out the 2 months that my aunt was discharged from hospital, the girl NEVER bought anything for my aunt as a mother in law to her. She NEVER stayed to take care of her. Absolutely NOTHING can be accounted for as a gain she contributes to the family system.

My aunt's only daughter died early 2000s and this girl could have easily played that role.

Last time she visited I was told she was around I didn't bother to come out to see her cos I was just to displeased.

While we were away, robber buggled into my aunt's house. This girl came, she couldn't arrange her mother in law's clothes nor sweep the room she occupied when she delivered. The best she could do was brought out her iphone, one my cousin bought, and started taking pictures of the damages and calling my cousin on phone to even magnify and exaggerate what happened.

In that two months I have been the one who would lift my aunt, get her crunches, wash her clothes, follow her to the hospital etc.

Today my aunt finally returned to her home after doctor told her that she can start putting the leg on ground while she walks. She had to call her sister's daughter to come and cook for her. Though I had wanted to do the cooking.


While I was with her in her room. She told me that the daughter in law was feeling pompous. I said to her that I have noticed but wondered why she kept quiet all along. She said she was just taking her time. So I told her what I expected of her daughter in law to be and that this problem had better be nipped in the bud before it's too late. I asked her what if she was quite older than her current age such that she can't move around. We talked more at length and she told me her mind. She also told me that she called the girl and informed her that she has arrived home. The girl didn't even bother to ask about cooking or gave any hint if she would come.

The son is currently out of the country. He bought this girl a car, took her South Africa and Dubai on vacation.

My aunt told me that while I was away at one time, they were making plans for introduction. This girl, though not yet strong cos of child delivery, made a decision to start business. My aunt suggested that wait for you to heal and you know you had this child via CS. She flaired up and I learned earlier she said what right does my aunt have to dictate for her. There was a serious quarel between her and my cousin.

My aunt has resolved that once her son comes back, they will discuss and possibly put a stop to her madness.

I have seen this game played over and over again. A girl brings out her real colours after a child or after marriage. That's why I said to myself, a child isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house but her manners.

This girl in question is completely nothing to write home about...

c33b33:
Hehehhe.. I only ask you to nominate your father and mother for president and first lady and your blood pressure shot up.

Oya go to bed and leave Biafra alone.


IPOB Youth

I am a full blooded biafran you bastard!

c33b33:
And you clearly grew up with your grandmother because the venom in you is indisputably passed down from an older generation. Lol

I'm a lucky bastard! Hahahha

Baboon!

IPOB Youth

a retarded imbecilic fool