₦airaland Forum

razid:
They come online to rant and complain about the job of N30,000 per month while some of them have not earned up to that amount in their lives. Yet majority of them are checking their phones every seconds, checking their emails every minutes, already bookmarked the portal in their phones just to find out if they have been shortlisted. Still, they come online to form big man. Pathetic people.

ambs50:
Sir Harddon (allow me to addres u as dat cos u one, a very close female frend (nt dat beautifl though) of mine linked me up wit her bestie who is prettier dan her abt 2monts ago. We've nt met yet cos she still in schl Buh wil be bak soon. Howeva,we've got talkin nd she sounds my type: jovial, blunt, no forming nd jst cool.
Buh am aving som doubts.first she's south south nd am frm d west. Again frm d way she sounds, I feel she may be too rigorous for me. Althoh my random thots.
Pls wat do I do. Hw can I establish dis relasnsip wen we finally get to see. As in dnt knw weda to be fast or easy.
Thanks

HARDDON:
Thumbs up geee.

If it aint worth it, why waste ways?

donshaddow:
I'm sorry for trying to derail your thread.

I don't dislike Igbos... I'm not just a tribal bigots and I was trying to create an awareness for my ethnic group and not to be muscled up with the lager igbo ethnic.

People feel its the Ijaws, Itshekiris, Urhobos that made up the larger Delta....

I'm just trying to correct their impression that the Ukwuanis is the second largest ethnic group in Delta.

More so, the topic says igboid (having to do with language spoken by various groups)...

Check my initial response, I said Ukwuani is 90% igboid (Igbo Language)..... But we are so close to the ijaws and itshekiris.. We share same culture with them 90%.. Now you see what I mean!

maxti:
This Lawyer sounds more like a trouble maker to me.
Sounds more like he has a lot to gain by making sure the man is prosecuted.
#myopinion

#saynotoGBV

progressmi:
Hello nairalanders. Do you know ONOME MAUREEN'S whereabout her contact line is been switched off.

Roseey0:
I am 100% sure you arent ready yet.

femy2010:
Containerizing a 2000 crv is not the best as I would cost you much more than N300k to clear.My advice is to ship it RORO.

Davedgr8:
boss.. Ayam a sex god fa.. i don't understand what u re saying

Amydove:
If you read where I said masturbate only by himself you will understand what I mean, I have tried extended pre-intimacy and masturbating him myself at the end we both get tired and he tries to console me.

southniyikaye:
i doubt if photographers will still be in vogue in the next four years

mhizAnnie:
Hmm...we just need God to direct us

abdulwastecx:
Most of you forget that Saudi Arabia is a small country of approximately 27million people with oil output of over 12million barrel per day ( 6 times larger than our output and almost 10times larger now).

It is disgraceful of us of over 200 million people to over depend on crude oil.... Something is seriously wrong with us and our decision makers.

Buhari lacks all the foresight and antecedents to run a successful government, he wanted power but lacks the brain to run it.

SAMBARRY:
exactly my point.

It's so unfortunate that good mother in laws have unfeeling daughter inlaws and the patience ozokwor monster inlaws have sweet and kind hearted daughter inlaws

if ismart aunty was a wicked and heartless moth in law I would have supported most of the female posters here

for crying out loud the lady is a mother and that makes her a potential mother in law. How will she feel if her son's wife treats her the way she's treating her child's grandmother

and by the way children follow their mothers behaviour. Its the way they see their mom behave to their paternal granny that's how they will be have towards her

a friend was telling me that anytime she scolds her son she will say waka.iya baba e.and so one day the paternal granma scolded the child for pouring food on the floor while eating she then said waka iya baba e to his paternal granma.of course she knew where the boy learnt that from and she carried her bag and left

of course that was the beginning of cold war between the 2

Aude:
You must be a sick individual.

armyofone:
awww group hugs...
Just be good and ask nicely without expectations.
You never know what she is going through.

KanwuliaJara:
*yawns*

Yet, you nor fit hire care-giver for your auntie?"

talk2yommex2000:
Thanks to you too for taking your time to read and understand my comment. Actually, where things went wrong was when you are playing a double role. Next time, in a situation like this, whenever you are the OP, leave the judgement (comments) of the matter to the people, while you only respond to questions seeking for clarity on your original post. By this, you will be able to make some good decisions, you will hold on to some good matured advise, and discard the good-for-nothing and meaningless ones. Trying to play the two roles isn't the best option in most cases.

Have a lovely and wonderful day. Enjoy yourself.

talk2yommex2000:
Guy relax. There are some things you need to understand as a man. First, the way, tone and manner by which you present the case in the first place (i.e. ur original post) is sentimental. You have painted yourself and the family bad right from the beginning of your post. For you to have been mentioning things your cousin did for his wife-to-be (like the phone he bought for her, taking her to SA, getting her a car etc) sounds childish on your part. I must confess, the part of your post which says you've sent many ladies out of your life doesn't sound so good as well, especially taking cognizance of the fact that you are planning to send this lady out of your cousin's life too, despite having a child for him already.

Mind you, I am not supporting the said lady in any way, as (in my own opinion) nothing can justify why she can't be nice to her husband's family. She needs to be corrected on that. However, as a man you are, especially as an outsider when considering the union of your cousin and his wife (because it's now their family issue), you don't have to meddle so much in the affair. Truth be told, you know too much already which is not suppose to be. That the lady is bad, not a house material and the decision to leave is neither your responsibility nor your aunt's. Let the husband decides that.

I understand what you are pointing out here, but you need to know your boundary. Also, remember that the lady is from another family bring up. Mind you, what makes sense and acceptable in your family might not really be issue of relevance in other families even if both are same tribe. Just imagine if situations and conditions warrants that the lady in question travel out of the country, or if she works with the government in another state, will the family ask her to relocate or resign from her job to take care of your aunt? At least other means will be employed to ensure that your aunt gets what you wanted for her. I am not saying your sister in law shouldn't be corrected but you shouldn't have a hand in destroying the home of your cousin. There is no human being that is perfect, not even you or myself. What if you succeed in chasing this present one out and your cousin marry another lady taking care of the family but ruining your cousin in some other way. Remember that the marriage is theirs and not yours.

Conclusively, please leave the family (husband and wife) alone, and let them decide what's good for them. Wait till her husband starts complaining about her attitudes before you say she's not a house material. Your cousin might be so pleased with her for some reasons best known to him. Thank you so much as you heed my word. Remain blessed.

Elslim:
dat trent media house will soon here am

EggovinMma:
well, I don't support these at all.Owing to the fact that her husband to be is abroad, she should do her best for her mother in law.The question I want to ask here is this, What if it is her own mother? What's there to cook once in a while? Or buy a washing machine? or at best employ a village maid that can help for some time?


Abeg the lady na lazy woman jare! Mtchewwww!

goodgate:
You LAZY SADIST! Go and work, amebo no be work, i am a Man like FOOOL, I know the Truth Hurts.

goodgate:
OP, I you 're so interested in you Aunts Welfare,then go get her a Maid. As for you go get a paid Job/enter street and Hustle, so you can get yourself a CAR and travel to DUBAI and SOUTH AFRICA too.

freecocoa:
OP I totally get your angle, lmao@ "jehovah" but then you are going about it the wrong way.

The lady is not really a nice person but I don't think it's fair to demand that from her, kindness or niceness is something one decide on their own to give, if your cousin knows she's not kind and still decided he wants her, then that's his business, you have no place saying she is supposed to be kicked out.

Let your cousin make that decision on his own.

Shemmyglo:
This lady came from a different background so you can't expect her to do what you expect her to do without you telling her. Please talk to her and get a maid for your aunt because this lady can't do all what you listed here alone and don't expect too much from her, please.