Remeking:
My alert just landed ooo.
My due date is tomorrow 12th but my alert came a day before

skentelelady:


What ingrate Do you think her sister would not have told her husband she isnt the ownerbif the first child? Hiw are we sure it isnt even the husband that's pushing her to ask for more so they can go abroad thru their own daughter?

Let's call a spade a spade the elder sister has tried for the younger one. Fone she helped her accept the blame in the present of society but she has gone too far by using blackmail to get back at her sister. If the sister were that wicked she could eliminate her sister for ever.

The best op should do is tell her husband. The sister will be the loser here. All the foreign benefits for her daughter will be gone so she should think well. Even if the husband send the woman away she has her green card already but her younger sister will lose her and she will live in regrets forever

Saccharine:
NL is the most toxic place to seek for advise if you're a woman so take everything written here with a pinch of salt

Prepare to be blamed, await the righteous crew, the ashawo crew, the women are evil crew, the 'I'm afraid to marry crew,all women are liars crew, the prayer crew and the fight for your home crew

mrLj:
I'm sorry dear, but this is one of the benefits of marrying an African man��.
just make sure to cook extra and allow the young naive man. with time, he will grow up and have sense and you will be grateful you didn't put up a fight with him.

boys will surely grow up to be a man.

Felix6:
Dear madam, I want to BEG you before it is too late. please anyhow possible kill every traces of this seed that is about to germinate in your life, erase every atom of it from your thoughts, because if you don't do that now; i bet you the price will be too much not only on you, but your husband, the children, your husband's brother and the entire family in the nearest future. every one that has contributed to this issue, whether for, or against has valid points, but i tell you the whole ball is in your court. from your write up u said the boy has been staying with his brother before you got married to him, so i can say he knows the shortest route to the kitchen than you, but i am not going to say that! also before his brother moved to get his own place, both have stayed in their parent's house may be a single room sef, hmm strong bond, first love. longer than your "2 years courtship nd 2 years in marriage" but this doesn't count either, I can go on nd on, but MADAM! MADAM!! MADAM!!!, i want to implore you to take the positives out of this whole situation be happy now, and happy HAPPIER in the nearest future. it is far better to have a brother inlaw that eats your food freely than those that will simply say thank you i am not hungry even when they are starving. when this situation arises your husband too will loose his appetite for your food, and just like that it will extend to other areas and other family members will be drag in as every member start to align themselves based on perception. hence the APC VS PDP scenarios will start to play out in your home nd extended family. may God forbid this. madam please act as the mother which you are, a very strong pillar to family building, sooner than later, natural instincts will sets in on that guy and he will start to realize he needs his own space to function well in life, before u say jack he is out of your house and you will even miss him for the little troubles . madam i pray the lord almighty gives you the strenght to go through all this, but i can assure you, happier future awaits you, don't let yourself to be caught in this messy web, no, don't go reporting to your husband, or telling the guy u don't like him going to your pot, or can't you greet, leave all that, it is only when you think about these stuff much, they become big deal and gragually erode your happyness. thank you.

crackkhaus:

Lol, there's no way she can know what he does in his family house.

I would think you'd be able to detect when someone is trying to sensationalise the story to remove any doubt she's the victim.

How can someone not be allowed to dish his own food at his own family house? What are the chances of that even happening?

SweetCunt97:
Life is simple. It's obvious you pretended to b accommodating while dating him just to get the ring. Now you've gotten it, it's my kitchen and my spoon, as if u contributed one naira in buying d spoon or furnishing d kitchen... If u like low nonsense eat at u.

Lush100:
dear madam,
u need wisdom.
if ur hobby junior brother is not less than 20 or if he is older or same age range as u,
u need to apply some caution.
why?
if your husband doesn't see anything wrong that he stays with you. if ur mother in law doesn't see anything wrong that he stays with you, you will have to find a way to make friends with him. it's from there u can then make it work for u.
for your information, your husband may as well be tolerating his stay but maybe knows there's nothing he can do.
brothers fight each other but they don't hate each other.
you have to navigate this phase. this ur brother in law may be without a job, but u can't just ask him to leave, you may need his help latter,
instead of focusing on ur brother in law, why not focus on your husband and make him increase the amount he gives u on food,( "like my dear, we go need more food money, I want to feed ur our brother so he will have cheeks, u know he gets hungry easily (in a jovial manner).
make friends with him, u can then say" let's make deal, I serve u big meat, u wash ur plate in laughter, he will do it.
is it not wen he is willing to wash the plates. he can sit in d living room cross his leg n watch movies till he gets tired.if he manage to wash plates its because my husband asks him to.d living room where he sleeps i am d one that sweep it ..u can imagine

Nnemuka:
You people do not always have problems with inlaws when you are dating immediately then do small thing for una head church agbasia.
You nolonger can endure what you were enduring before, even greeting that you do without being forced is now a big issue for you. Who says he must greet you especially if he's older than you

Foodqueen:
What this
U tolerated it during courtship and it becomes a norm when u married his brother.

U are one of those people that don't like husband relative. Madam, be more tolerance. At one time or the other I av my bro and sister in-law live with me though separate times.
I respect them alot and at the same time send them errand I will send my younger ones... All u have to do is just apply wisdom. They are no longer with me but the respect we av for each other is topnotch.

He won't be with you forever. So chillax.

Shallypop:
It's not about being tolerant but showing a sense of responsibility. How can a man dip his hand into his brother's wife cooking pot. When I'm pregnant, my hubby cooks at times but tell me to dish it cos he can put his hand in d pot.If it was a SIL, I could tolerate but a man, tufiaka. Let's call a spade a spade, It is all shades of wrong. Some soup get sour if different hands gets into it. Eg Egusi soup. @ OP, just be patient cos I know u are very upset in order no to overreact. Inlaw wahala can actually break a marriage. If u love your marriage, just tolerate him for the time being.

1StopRudeness:
Mehn these are shallow, infinitesimal issues I personally feel if u ain’t the the classic “me and my husband alone kinda woman” this isn’t worth loosing ur peace over let alone creating a thread to rant

He went to the kitchen he ddnt tell me, ordinary food, did he eat everything and not leave any for u and ur husband??

he put the spoon somehow, the spoon is bend, it’s broken..... Spoon... as in ordinary 100naira spoon!!!

He wants me to greet him first..did he say so??...oh please! This is the lamest one...
what’s the big deal about saying hello and chatting when u see a person.

see, don’t get me wrong, I know we have different tolerance and organizing style as humans...and sometimes it sort of bothers some people more than normal when outsiders invade their space.....but these issues are so unimportant people will just say u are not accommodating at the end of the day.....

Madam let it go....a little accommodating spirit will make the issues u raised unimportant to you

Unless it’s really not about the spoons and pot of soup...if it’s probably because the guy isn’t allowing u moan as loud as u want or feel free in ur house with short skimpy clothes...just tell ur husband... I trust my guy.......