skentelelady:


What ingrate Do you think her sister would not have told her husband she isnt the ownerbif the first child? Hiw are we sure it isnt even the husband that's pushing her to ask for more so they can go abroad thru their own daughter?

Let's call a spade a spade the elder sister has tried for the younger one. Fone she helped her accept the blame in the present of society but she has gone too far by using blackmail to get back at her sister. If the sister were that wicked she could eliminate her sister for ever.

The best op should do is tell her husband. The sister will be the loser here. All the foreign benefits for her daughter will be gone so she should think well. Even if the husband send the woman away she has her green card already but her younger sister will lose her and she will live in regrets forever

Thank you my sister... This is what I was thinking myself ...
Although I doubt the credibility of this story cos of some few discrepancies..
1 how comes the husband never came home all these years even after getting his papers.. how irresponsible and carefree can he be to his family?
2. Those times d lady and her younger sis left under the guise of being with the husband does it mean their father don't communicate with them and maybe ask to speak with his son in-law and vice versa at least to greet themselves..
3. How strong can her heart be to leave her first two children in her parents home and pick her sis to go to another state under the guise of going to meet her husband..how was she able to convince her father?
Anyways be that as it may, should this story be true I won't be surprised if her sister's husband is not in the know already considering how she is threatening her ..hence she should help herself by confessing to God sincerely and her husband and then prepare to take responsibility for her actions.. of course to every action there is equal and opposite reaction.. although the sister did well for her however truth is just like pregnancy or smoke you can't conceal it forever...

ShipChina2naija:
Person wey no see her husband for almost 11years,,una no want her to sort herself out sexually ,,.. Its only when you find yourself in same situation you criticized others for..then you understand why most times you need to be rational in judging people....

Dear op,,pick yourself up,,no go think die.na pickin you born just the way your husband also gave birth while being away.,,Explain everything to your husband..you are not gonna die,,any modaf*cker in your situation would do what you've done....and to your sister that wants to blackmail you,,she can go fu*ck herself.. Since she doesn't wanna think like human being.all because she covered you. ..let her do her worst ..just make sure you got something doing to take care of yourself....

What i dont understand is if the people insulting you wanted you to re-virginise for 11years without sex like your hubby wasn't fuc*king someone else where he was.... All of you raining insult on her are very stupid...

@Jceeee

This guy's comment is the best I have read on your thread so far. Stick to it.

Confess to your husband

Madam, una get mind ooo.
You have an ungodly mother. She agreed with you ladies in your evil plans. Some mothers are something else thinking they are protecting their daughters.
Your sister get mind. a very devilish one. She accepted a pregnancy and a baby that was never hers. Accepted it with every calmness. Nawaooo.
And you....U try well well. You planned and executed all these and still want to keep covering it up.

Do u con the baby at all.
Go and tell ur husband the truth before he gets to know about it from ur sis.

Jceeee:
let me add this : for those 11 years I waited for him , he has also had 2 children here , a girl born in 2006 and a boy 2010 but I didn’t know about those children until when I joined him in 2013. He has only told me about the boy born in 2010 buy he never told me about the girl born in 2006 , so I came to found out about the girl in 2018 via Facebook when the mother of the girl who is an African but not Nigerian messaged me on Facebook with the girl photo , she looks exactly like my husband in everything and she and my first daughter look alike too , I confronted my husband he did not denied he has told me if he had documents in this country , it was because of the girl because after having lots of rejection things were hard that’s why he decided to cheat on me and get the lady pregnant and after the daughter was born , he and the mother went to claiming that he now have a child born in this country so he was allow to get his documents through the child. After getting documents the mother started making his life miserable and he has to leave her and child and never looked back to her. I know him having children outside of our marriage is forgivable which I had also forgive him but I know when he found out about mine , he wouldn’t be the same , he will make it looks so bad forgetting that he has done the same which I forgive and forget about it.

This is the moment of truth, the moment everyone must come clean. The truth will certainly be out sooner or later and the fact that he did something similar should give you some soft landing. A lot of issues will come up, honestly it might lead to the dissolution of your marriage, it could be that you will be separated for a while until he comes around and accept the situation. He may raise dust, he may not talk with you for a while, he may tell his family who will tell yours and all sort of things can come up, be ready for every form of tongue lashing, infact he may tell you to find a way of sending the girl to her father, you have to be ready to weather the storm. In all of these, ensure you are calm and show remorse. However, I may say you ensure that you and the children have permanent residence before you let the cat out of the bag so you can at least not be sent out of that country in case things go south.

I will also like to say it's time to come clean with God. You didn't just sin against your husband, you sinned against God as well. Confess your sin to Him and give your life to Christ, He's the only one that can give you peace and can also help you weather this storm. Much more than the help you need is the fact that it's time to start building a better foundation so your children don't end up same way cuz, this is a crack in the wall. Start to read your bible and pray so you can guide your children the right way. Find genuine born again Christians who can help you grow in the faith and so you can erase this foundation so it doesn't affect your children in the future.

72Morale:
I pray everyday not to meet a creature like you till I leave this earth.

If you are a man reading this.

May almighty God guide and protect you from marrying an inpatient woman who will be wayward and unfaithful enough to sleep around, getting pregnant for various men and deceiving you by making you raise a child that isn't yours unknowingly.

May you never marry a woman who will be busy thinking about sex and diiick while you are busy suffering hard on how to take care of her and make her and your kids happy.

Amen
Amen and...
Amen!!!!

You foolish woman, you are not even afraid of God and the consequences of your adulterous life, you are whining over your sister's legitimate threat.
See, if you know what is good for you, confess your wickedness to your husband now, repent and return the innocent girl to her father and apologize to your father now before you die in your sins.
Look, if you fail to do this now, the worms waiting to eat you in hell fire will not die. The everlasting pain in hell fire is better imagined than witness, because it is nothing to compare to your aching heart now as a result of your sins.
In fact, YOU ARE A WICKED WOMAN

Jceeee:
Hello everybody ,
I came here to seek for advice because I’m in a big dilemma with my kid sister , I don’t want to bore you with long story I will make the long story short.
I got married in May 2000 I was pregnant with my first child , I had my first child in September that same year then another daughter in 2002 May , and in July 2002 my husband left for abroad ( I won’t mention the country ) .

I had to move out of the renting apartment and went back to my parents house with my 2 children while waiting for him to apply for our documents, it took him 2 years to settle and for 2 year he couldn’t send us money because he had no documents and job.

My parents were supportive until when my husband got his documents and started working , he started sending us money every month and was working hard for me and the kids to join him but things were not working well for us , they keep rejecting us but he didn’t get tired of us , but I started getting tired after 5 years of waiting, missing him badly , no intimacy and I was lonely and very depressed.

I start seeking attention outside and I met with a married man that I had a relationship with, I got pregnant in 2008 the man suggested abortion but I didn’t want to abort because I was scared to die because I remember a cousin that had a husband abroad , she got pregnant and went to abort , she died instantly so I didn’t want to end up like her .

I had planned with my sister and mum that I should leave our state to another state ( I won’t mention the name ) to go and have my baby then will come back after the baby is 3 months , I and my kid sister left and rented another house in a different state meanwhile we lied to my dad that I had traveled to this country to join my husband in abroad , things was well.

I had my baby another girl in 2009 and we kept the secret for 3 months from my dad and we had to lie to him , it was my kid sister that has given birth to this baby while we were away and my dad got angry at her and he has said a lot of harsh things to her, it was very painful but my sister supported me and didn’t let the secret come out , even to my husband he just knew the baby was my sister , because I was breastfeeding her , we didn’t want to go home yet so we had to stayed here for a year , when I weaned her and we started preparing to go back home, lying to my dad that things didn’t work out and I couldn’t join my husband anymore, we returned back home in 2010 and we had been keeping this secrets from my dad , husband and other people .

Finally God has been great that I had to joined my husband in 2013 after 11 years of waiting , it was a wonderful time to be with him again , my kid sister got married in 2014 she had a daughter with her husband before marriage born in 2012, so the husband accepted her with my daughter that she pretend to be hers , she went to her husband house , leaving my kids with our parents , she only took the daughter she had with her husband and I used to send them money as usual until in 2015 my 2 daughters I had with my husband joined us abroad and my other daughter stayed behind , I had to convinced my husband that my sister baby should join us too which he was okay and grateful to my sister because she had been the one taking care of our children in my absent so we started applying for documents for the girl, but they kept rejecting it but we didn’t give up, at that same time my sister has also wanted her biological daughter to be included in but I was frank with her that we couldn’t add her daughter because the daughter that I had is known to be hers so if we had another daughter it would be wrong , so this has caused a lot of problems between my sister and I that she called me an ingrate after everything she has been doing to me , but I was never ungrateful to her because I take care of her daughter school fees in a best private school but I just couldn’t take her abroad with us but she is adamant that her daughter should be here too.

Luckily my daughter which to my husband is my niece has joined us this January 2020 , she knows me as her auntie and my sister her mummy , She is doing well my family is complete , I have also had 2 more children with my husband two cute boys but my sister has been threatening and blackmailing that she would tell my husband everything about my daughter , I had begged even our mum has been begging her not to spoil my marriage but she wouldn’t listen.

I’m scared she would tell my husband and my marriage will be over. I don’t sleep well and anytime when my husband get back from work , my heart beat faster thinking that he has found out about the secrets and I’m no longer in peace. he loves my niece ( daughter ) so much that he doesn’t treat her any different from our 4 children but I’m getting so scared , have been taking blood pressure medication because of my sister threatening me.

Please I know a lot of you would insult me because I deserve it but all I need is advice from you .

please if you could offer me some , I just don’t know what else to do

Stop justifying your sins you harlot. Do the needful now before you die in your sins

Jceeee:
let me add this : for those 11 years I waited for him , he has also had 2 children here , a girl born in 2006 and a boy 2010 but I didn’t know about those children until when I joined him in 2013. He has only told me about the boy born in 2010 buy he never told me about the girl born in 2006 , so I came to found out about the girl in 2018 via Facebook when the mother of the girl who is an African but not Nigerian messaged me on Facebook with the girl photo , she looks exactly like my husband in everything and she and my first daughter look alike too , I confronted my husband he did not denied he has told me if he had documents in this country , it was because of the girl because after having lots of rejection things were hard that’s why he decided to cheat on me and get the lady pregnant and after the daughter was born , he and the mother went to claiming that he now have a child born in this country so he was allow to get his documents through the child. After getting documents the mother started making his life miserable and he has to leave her and child and never looked back to her. I know him having children outside of our marriage is forgivable which I had also forgive him but I know when he found out about mine , he wouldn’t be the same , he will make it looks so bad forgetting that he has done the same which I forgive and forget about it.

mariahAngel:

Chi wa ochi...

Munzy14:

Chi wa ochi...

I si'm achila?

Ngwanu ka'm meshie onu

mariahAngel:


I si'm achila?

Ngwanu ka'm meshie onu

Lol, ike gwuru o...

Ihe no na ije nwoke na nwaanyi kariri

Munzy14:

Lol, ike gwuru o...

Ihe no na ije nwoke na nwaanyi kariri

Hahahahahahahahahaha

Especially nowadays...uwa emebichaala!

mariahAngel:


Hahahahahahahahahaha

Especially nowadays...uwa emebichaala!

Honestly, onye nwetara onye di mma ugbua bu luck o.

All this marry,leave her here and travel, is doing more harm than good.

Munzy14:

Honestly, onye nwetara onye di mma ugbua bu luck o.

All this marry,leave her here and travel, is doing more harm than good.

What about the man though? Alone all those years abroad without his wife...or is it a different case with men?

mariahAngel:


What about the man though? Alone all those years abroad without his wife...or is it a different case with men?

The man go deh do runs girls na..

Most single african ladies over there na runs be dia business or side hustle.

Especially in dubai and some arabian countries where their women don relate with foreingners that much.

Case na the lady weh go carry belle

Munzy14:

The man go deh do runs girls na..

Most single african ladies over there na runs be dia business or side hustle.

Especially in dubai and some arabian countries where their women don relate with foreingners that much.

Case na the lady weh go carry belle

Hahahahahahahahahaha

O si ya nyere di ya aka na...but na wa sha!

mariahAngel:


Hahahahahahahahahaha

O si ya nyere di ya aka na...but na wa sha!

Hahaha....o kwa nu ya, she mumu sha, at least using protection would av solved the problem waiting to explode.

I know a lady in my area passing through same lonliness...some people deh try sha.

Imagine being away for years and hoping one day, things will get better.

Munzy14:

Hahaha....o kwa nu ya, she mumu sha, at least using protection would av solved the problem waiting to explode.

I know a lady in my area passing through same lonliness...some people deh try sha.

Imagine being away for years and hoping one day, things will get better.

A lady I know couldn't wait o...

After her husband got her pregnant and left, she started having problems with her husband's family (money issue) laslas, she had to leave and married another man (after having a daughter for the first husband o)
The whole issue was a mess! Now, na the child dey suffer am.

mariahAngel:


A lady I know couldn't wait o...

After her husband got her pregnant and left, she started having problems with her husband's family (money issue) laslas, she had to leave and married another man (after having a daughter for the first husband o)
The whole issue was a mess! Now, na the child dey suffer am.

Thats the harm we see this days, hoping on something that is not feasible.


Tradition, demands a man pays the dowry and carry his bride and go to leave anywhere he wishes.

But nowadays, aluta nwaanyi , after one or two, a hapu ya gbafuo gawa oversea....leaving the young bride to frustration and temptation.

Nature must balance its self. By hook or crook...

Munzy14:

Thats the harm we see this days, hoping on something that is not feasible.


Tradition, demands a man pays the dowry and carry his bride and go to leave anywhere he wishes.

But nowadays, aluta nwaanyi , after one or two, a hapu ya gbafuo gawa oversea....leaving the young bride to frustration and temptation.

Nature must balance its self. By hook or crook...

I si gbafuo?

Mana owu ihe kwerela ha!
Ha hu ndi abroad, ha hugbuo onwe ha.

Most home based guys will ask for their hand, they'll keep rejecting...later to find out not all that glitters is gold

come clean ma'am. It's time to tell your husband everything. Say it to him before he hears it from another ear, which believe me, will not end well. nobody is perfect

Simply start taking step to take one of her child too, then you can settle with her, however nothing is hidden under heave it's just a matter of time, your husband still have to know the truth, but you Bleep up oo, who dey abroad no leave you, no give up on you, but you in the shit hole did, why can't you even use codon or other form of protection, you really need to be scolded.

mariahAngel:


I si gbafuo?

Mana owu ihe kwerela ha!
Ha hu ndi abroad, ha hugbuo onwe ha.

Most home based guys will ask for their hand, they'll keep rejecting...later to find out not all that glitters is gold

Ehee na...

Onye luru nwaanyi ohuru , gbara gawa abroad, for years. Owu purnishment na..


If body scratch her as human, how will she tackle it kwanu.

Di abroad enweghi uru di na ya, it only guarantees finance.
Then leave one to frustration..

U wont blame anyone sha, hard times...everyone is looking for easy way.

My relative ignored her lecturer that was after her hand, and followed abroad medical doc...Now issues don deh enter...Only benefit is financial gains to her immediate family.

Nothing pass good partner well secured here...ihe abroad edochaghi m anya.

Munzy14:

Ehee na...

Onye luru nwaanyi ohuru , gbara gawa abroad, for years. Owu purnishment na..

Big one o

If body scratch her as human, how will she tackle it kwanu.

Di abroad enweghi uru di na ya, it only guarantees finance.
Then leave one to frustration..

N'ikpeazu ka ha ga choputa na uru anuchaghi na ya.
Onweghi ihe kariri di na nwaanyi ohuru getting to know each other more.

U wont blame anyone sha, hard times...everyone is looking for easy way.

My relative ignored her lecturer that was after her hand, and followed abroad medical doc...Now issues don deh enter...Only benefit is financial gains to her immediate family.

As long as they're together, no wham!
With time, they'll get to understand each other better.

Nothing pass good partner well secured here...ihe abroad edochaghi m anya.

I wu nwaafor nu!
Have you lived anywhere apart from the southeast?


NB: You know that time that you told me that loyalty can be bought? I later got to understand it.
I'm adding it to my list of life's principles.

mariahAngel:

Big one o




N'ikpeazu ka ha ga choputa na uru anuchaghi na ya.
Onweghi ihe kariri di na nwaanyi ohuru getting to know each other more.

You can earn it as well...thats the one between a husband and wife.


As long as they're together, no wham!
With time, they'll get to understand each other better.



I wu nwaafor nu!
Have you lived anywhere apart from the southeast?


NB: You know that time that you told me that loyalty can be bought? I later got to understand it.
I'm adding it to my list of life's principles.

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Yes na, av lived in the north...Na just business stuffs...few weeks...onwere ebe kariri south east anyi...

Yes, loyalty is bought...Any day u remove the legal tender, u lose it.

You can earn with trust and love as well.

Munzy14:
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Yes na, av lived in the north...Na just business stuffs...few weeks...onwere ebe kariri south east anyi...

Anwu na ishi egypt ha magburu gi ebe ahu I jiri kwere maka ya gbara lawa ala Imo steti nwe gi ni?

Yes, loyalty is bought...Any day u remove the legal tender, u lose it.

I'll remember that as well.

You can earn with trust and love as well.

Sure.

mariahAngel:


Anwu na ishi egypt ha magburu gi ebe ahu I jiri kwere maka ya gbara lawa ala Imo steti nwe gi ni?


I'll remember that as well.


Sure.

Anwu ha eeh!! I ga eche na oku mmuo no nsò...

Munzy14:


Anwu ha eeh!! I ga eche na oku mmuo no nsò...

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Ya magbuchaa onye owu eh, ya ejiwazie ka unyi ka ndi awusa.

mariahAngel:


Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Ya magbuchaa onye owu eh, ya ejiwazie ka unyi ka ndi awusa.

Lol, as a dark guy, i no send that time...but i left because of dehydration...The weather no match with my body.

Very warm weather....if u've been there, u will appreciate south weather...west, east or south south.

U were married and you had a relationship .the thing sweet you so tae u nor use condom. You con get Belle. The man u dated y not return the child to her to real father.I smell lies in all these stories

ymstar:

Happy Valentine's Day.