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Ofadaman:
The 31 things you wrote, many of them can be boxed up into one and some of them are even contradictory.

You say people thing you're dump, then you turn around and say people expect you to be smart.

people have either negative or positive sterotypes about beautiful people.

Klass99:
Lol I feel you.

The points listed in your original post are accurate and grounded in reality too. Nice topic, I enjoyed reading it.

How is your cousin now? I hope he is over the anxiety and depression?

he's good now

marsman:
Try creating a condition to ascertain what i just said. Even among kids the gang is usually built around the good looking kids. I can really see things from the normal persons world perspective but as regard getting favoured its a fact that i know to be true

this is another problem goodlooking people have. People can swear that you have a perfect life even if you're on a dead bed.

KingDash:
bros you no lie, fine boy without money na die..

its like having first class without a job.

winterwind:
good points, i can relate to most of this, but the thing is, with time you understand the game perfectly, so you know when people get defensive/insecure around you and the best you do is walk away or ignore such people entirely, you will come across people who like you genuinely, never try to fit in anywhere or explain yourself to anyone. The world will have something to say regardless.

I am shocked that you understand my post. You are a suspect

Huracio:
yes you're very correct... when I was in secondary school back in JSS2 we were to elect new class captain and assistant everyone were asked their choice and they were shouting my name o, I was surprised coz I wasn't even thinking of becoming a class captain and they brought me out and our class teacher their second preferred choice and they brought out Rukayat. at that point concluded I will lost the election to her because she's a girl but lo and behold out from 44 votes I got 31 and she got 13 I was so shocked coz I wasn't really serious back then and not really friendly like that but Rukayat was friendlier and more serious... lol.

goodlooking people never admit that they are, they never brag about getting favours because of looks.

Most people who brag about been goodlooking are actually average

helinues:
Person wey get time to list all this self get problem

person wey get time to comment nkor? helinues

LordReed:
Really? Was it your twin who posted this:

What i posted was an opinion. You don't have to believe me at all.

marsman:
Lol
I can bet it with you that you are wrong have you experimented it.
A pretty face besides a normal face both bidding for a position of leadership. Cause i have seen it before and although the guy was fine and eloquent that day, he didn't really even say much in his manifesto while the other claimed to have experience from the moom to earth. The fine guy won with a huge margin.
Goodlooking people will be able to relate to what i am saying

It's easy to formulate any story to support your believe. But have you favoured a goodlooking before? When most people think you're getting favours everywhere, it can backfire greatly.

marsman:
Yes i do, pretty people gets to be more favoured than other's. And pretty does not symbolise weak

offcourse few people will be nice to you, not most. You won't really understand this things unless you are goodlooking yourself

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram

am ATTRACTIVE but 2much SMOKING of WEED don make my LIPS BLACK


Even d MAMA CHINELO dat sells the WEED even save my number as HELL FIRE..



WTF MAN

take it easy man

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram real matters on top real MATTERZ



Wat about us way WEED don make our LIPS BLACK



WTF MAN

I don't get you?

marsman:
I can confirm no 6 but not no 14

you think people will elect a 'pretty weak' fine boy?

I understand that good looks definately have advantages, but this thread will only discuss the disadvantages.

I am also aware that been less attractive has drawbacks. The fact that I am discussing the problems of beautiful people doesn't mean ugly people don't have problems. Let's focus on one aspect today.
I have a relative who is very handsome. We grew up, lived and schooled together (nursery-university). We are very close. The points in this thread are from observation.

For some reasons let me add: He was diagnose with anxiety and depression. He had low self esteem and was mostly a loner.

1.People are mostly insecured and intimidated by good looks. So they tend to react defensively against, subdue and humiliate you.

Its the same thing when people know you have a first class grade. You'll hear all sorts of degrading comments. Insecure people people will do anything to put u down, if you've got something they don't have.

2. Most people think life is easy for you,you're getting away with things and you don't have difficulties. So they deliberately decide to treat you with disdain. They think they are bringing about justice.

3. People stereotype you to be arrogant, proud, vain, stuck up, opportunist,mean,dumb etc anything you do or say, people find a way to relate it to the judgement they already have about you.

Thats why people say things like ' Does he have a good character' when discussing about gudlooking ppl.

4. Good looks +shyness is a curse. People don't expect you to be shy. You quietness &social inhibition could be interpretate to mean pride and arrogance.

5.Having a conversation with most people is like acting a poorly scripted movie. It seems people don't know how to act normal around you.

6. People are not free around you. They don't play or joke with you like everyone else. So youre mostly isolated

7. Since people donot expect you to have difficulties. They may be unsympathetic towards your problems,mock you behind your back and even use your trouble against you.

8. You are expected to be confidence, charismatic, have leadership skills, Rich and have a good life. Inability to meet up can cause metal breakdown.

9. You become the center of attention. Topic of discussion and gossip. Your business becomes everyone's business.

10. Even if you are in the right side of an argument. People will side against you.
It seems odd siding you.

11. Fine girls play over hard to get. Most average looking girls are intimidated and see themselves below your league

12. You can't joke or play around with people. They hinge on every word you say and may interpretate it to mean mockery or catty put downs.

13. Uneccesary aggression from fellow gender. Jealousy?

14. People think u are shallow, dumb, incapable etc. If a good looking person were to contest for election, most people won't vote for him. You're never taken seriously.

15. Everyone seems to easily believe anything bad about you and are willing to unite against a common enemy- you.

16. Most people donnot offer you help because they think you have it all.

17.You cannot talk about the problems of attractive people, no matter how badly it affects you.

18. Is it true people pay you complements often?
Why should they? So that your head will grow bigger that it's already is?

19. If your boss is intimidated by your looks, you might not get that job , no matter the qualification.

20.There are people who judge you negatively but not to point of butting head with you.

So they decide in their mind: ' I won't pay any attention to anything he says', I won't give him any validation or pay him any complements etc.
This gives them since of victory over you.
You might notice they make a big deal of ignoring everything you do or say

21. People make a big deal about your looks even more you do.

22. If you recently grew into your looks, you find most of your friends ghosting you.

23. Because of this problems, you can be forced into isolation

24. You are mostly ignored in a social group. Nobody speaks to you. You'll feel like a goat among lions.

25. People feel they need to compete and win against you. You might notice them unneccesarily showing off what they have that you don't have.

26. Most people act like they have gotten a life time achievement when they embarass, insult and put you down. They seem so happy and fulfilled. Pathetic

27. Most girls who like you but are intimidated by your looks act very aggresive to get your attention. This is usually counterproductive.

28. Since pple think everyone is kind to you, they decide to be the special ones that will make your life miserable.

29. Saying no to a request, cancelling an apointment can take a toll on people's emotions. They feel you are rejecting them or you are proud.

30. I don't know for fine girls, but fine boys tend to reject favors from people becos it makes you feel indebted to them. It also make u seems weak or like a woman. Even lalasticlala and seun can attest to it.

31. You are afraid of loosing your looks since its the only thing people value about you.

LordReed:
Yet you want us to believe there is something more. If you think it is unhelpful and unwise then why did you make that statement? Are we simply to believe because you say so?

my post was for christians not atheist

LordReed:
That may be your experience but you should refrain from generalising. I am an atheist and have been one for going to 4 years and I honestly have more peace than when I believed. Has it been all good? No. Has it been all bad? No. The same challenges I had as a believer are still the same ones I have now: how to take care of my family, how to balance my wants and needs, how to relate with people and the environment, etc. Your challenges don't go away because you became a Christian neither will they disappear if you became an atheist.

if the problems i had were 'challenges of life', i will still be an athiest today. It was beyond the natural, physical and medical. It's unhelpful and unwise to relate it to an atheist

FreelanceRebel:
Your logic is faulty Bro. on object became and object when its has been created. If it doesn't exit how do you know that God can or cannot create it. What would be the characteristics of the object that will show it was an object.

Its a waste of time debating with an atheist. You are only making things worse

Steep:
Perhaps God is speaking to your heart.
A man that has committed the unpardonable sin does not desire God or repentance anymore.
Spend your time read the book of John,
After reading Jesus words ask yourself, If you believe Jesus every bit, that he is the Son of God and can give eternal life to anyone who believe him.
Ask yourself if you have anything to lose if you believe Jesus words, what if you don't believe what would you lose?

Atheism just tells you this short life on earth is all there is,
With Jesus you have eternal life, a life that extends beyond this life for eternity.

Jesus present a God who love you enough to lay down his life for you.

Yes the world is evil full of pain, wickedness and hardship the bible teaches that God has a plan right from the garden of eden, that plan is in Jesus and that plan would finally be fulfilled in Revelation.
In summary, Christianity teaches that your life has purpose and meaning, and there is God who plans your good but atheism teaches a meaningless life, reject the idea of a Creator which we know that something cannot come from nothing, till today there are unsettling discovering in the scientific world that seem to show there is a creator.

With al these in mind which do you choose?

I think God has not abandon you but is still torching your heart please do not ignore it

ignore it? Lols. All i want now is to have my Jesus back. There is no peace in atheism

Professorcplus:
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6. Create peace of mind within your mind.

can I create it with my laptop?

Mosesbutez:
The fact that your heart yearns to return to fellowship with God means that you are on the right track. It's the holy spirit that was drawing you to Christ again.

The reason you don't feel the same way as before was that you are comdenming yourself subconiously. Just remember that you're the rightousness of God via Christ. God loves you immensely.

thanks.

Kobojunkie:
What powers are those?

if you're an athiest, you won't understand. Trust me

Dliquidmetal:
Not alot of people can handle the realities of life thats why religion was created,so you would have something to believe in when you are experiencing the lows of life.
P.s you were never an atheist, more like an agnostic fella,It takes balls to remain fully unplugged.

when the powers in high places come for you like it happened in my case, your balls will disappear

petra1:
Yes ..it gave qualification. The man who committed unpardonable sin will not be asking questions about God. He will be full of Hatred for God. There is no more conscience for God in his heart

I hope this is the case. What i fear more in that scripture is the word 'impossible'.

petra1:
You haven't committed the umpardonable sin. Its either you weren't born again before. Or you were born again but not spiritually mature. But you have not committed the apostasy. If you have you don't have conscience after God as you do. So for the fact that you desire God shows All is fine
You just need to be under a minister of God to tutor you. The umpardonable sin can only be committed by a minister of God who backside

have u read Hebrews6:4-8?

LikeAking:
U re a chiken.

Reason.

U think xtains dont have problems?

or u think as a human being u wont face problems?

Learn hw to become a problem solver any u will be fine.

The spritual is over rated.

i use to think like this when i was an athiest. You will never really understand certain things, unless u experience them urself

matrix199:
The fact you had doubts about religious teachings because of what you read didn't make you an atheist. You chose to stay away from church and that affected your church-going attitude. Here's my advice.

I am suprised at your reply. Why do you think you know more about my experience than myself?

matrix199:
You're just a confused fellow.

how do you mean?


I Created this thread to get help from christians, but its funny to see athiest coming to the rescue.
You guys can't help bashing God, can you?

Achor1111:
It is POSSIBLE.
what GOD can not do, does not exist

brother, its been 2years + of struggle.Going to Church is torture. I can't find any peace....
How do you interpret Hebrew6:4-8?

Good morning.
I will be very brief with my story.

I was a staunch Christian before; born again, holyspirit filled and an evangelist. I wasn't a weak or a baby christian, God bares witness.

In 2014, my frequent visit to this site and following the founder caused me to loose faith. Of course I did not denounce religion in a day. It took time.

It came to a point that I began to question things, doubt all the experience i had as a Christian. To me they were all hallucinations , product of imagination and mental chemistry . In summary, I became a militant atheist.

Until 2019,strange, weird and sinister things started happening to me which i would not describe here, I don't want to start a debate. So i had enough sence to know that this things weren't scientific. It was then I started going to churches and meeting pastors, when they prayed for me, this things will end overtime another kind of problem begins. So I have to constantly seek for prayers.

If you are an atheist reading this, I want you to know that the world is not just physical, there is more.

OK, my problem is, I have been trying to get back to God, attending church frequently, praying, reading the bible but everything seems dead to me. I have said the prayer of salvation a thousand time but i just cannot have faith or believe again.

Have I committed the unpardonable sin, is it impossible to get back to God again according to Hebrews 6:4-8?