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Kalulu44:
Didn't you read where the brother of the bride said she already has two kids for him

Mrkc:
Just clocked 46, no wife , no job , no connection .
All my efforts to live a succesful life is ending in futility

brain54:
South Africa also had nukes...

The only country in Africa that had some under the apartied regime... but were destroyed a few years before Mandela's ANC party government was handed power.


Also Ukraine inherited a significant portion of the old Soviet nukes. But handed them over to Russia and signed the nuclear non proliferation treaty.


So there... that completes your list op!

seunmsg:
Like Algeria like obidients. Bunch of sore losers who can’t just accept defeat. Tueh.

shox:
What is a Benz without ac?

Kalulu44:
There’s this girl I met on the 10th of September 2024. Which was on my birthday.
We got talking and a friendship developed.
From that September till December, we hanged out a lot and she came to my place exactly 5 times.
Let’s I forget, two weeks after the friendship started. I put her on 2k daily allowance and every two days #500 for recharge card. Not forgetting other things I bought for her sometimes.
Before most of una and especially the ones wey call themselves redpiller, begin yab me. 2k to me no be anything cus as a bus driver I make over 10k and above daily.
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So, in the 5 times she has come to my place. She hasn’t allowed me make love to her apart from touching here and there. I tried all the convincing I can but to no avail.
Me no fit force or rape woman, so I always let her be.
Then she promised on the 31st night of December 2024, that we’ll get down, but she wants us to book a nice hotel for it.
I said no problem, on the D day, after putting every plans in motion. I called her by 6pm and asked how far. She told me she’s getting ready. I said no problem.
By 7pm, I called her again and she said she’s on top bike. I noticed it too cus there was vehicular noises here and there.
30 min later I called again and she said she’s about 10 min away from me. That was the last time I heard from her. I called and called, her line was not reachable until it finally went dead. I stayed in that hotel till daybreak heart broken. Bcus I have bought and prepared so many things that will make the night fun.
The next day, I packed the few things I can and left for my house. Tried her number severally again but switched off.
Then in the evening of 1st January last year which was the next day. A known number called me, and asked if I have seen her cus she hasn’t been home since last night and that she told her she was coming to me.
I told the person I last spoke to her 7:30pm last night, that ever since then her phone is switched off.
She said they too haven’t seen her or heard from her too. It became something of anger to panic mode to me.
I became worried about her.
There’s nothing that didn’t run thru out mind that day.
Has she been kidnapped, did she had an accident and so many other thoughts.
That same babe her friend that called me earlier kept calling me to know how far. Same answer from me.
The next two days I couldn’t go to work, panic has set in for me. What if that her friend bring police to my place, cus she said she told her it was me she was coming to meet. Luckily she called me after 3 days.
My people, as I am typing this. She hasn’t tell me what transpired that day, even after she left my place this morning after not seeing each other thru out last year.
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So after the incident, I didn’t talk to her for a while. Three months later, we started chatting. But she hates me bringing the topic of what went wrong that night of 31st. So I totally stopped bothering her about it. Thru out last year I have been trying to invite her to my place, but it has been one excuses to another till last year ended and we didn’t see eye to eye.
So on the 31st night again which was 2 days ago, I teased her again, that shey she know it’s a year we haven’t seen each other. She promised to come see me on the 2nd which is today. And what do I have for her cus she didn’t eat my 1 naira thru out last year. I told her they’re many goodies and that I even have 10k to give her, but on one condition that she should not come to my place and start playing holier than thou attitude for me. I told her we must get down or she should forget about coming.
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Like play like play she came truly. After entertaining her, we got down to the main business why I invited her. Luckily for me, she didn’t prove stubborn like before. Not until she said if not for the money I promised her she wouldn’t have come. She said this in the middle of our marathon race. I said within me, me sef know say na im make you come but I go suffer you with that money.
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So after every every. She was about to go and asked for the money. I brought out 10k, counted it in her presence and after, did as if I wanted to give her, as she stretched her hand to collect it, I withdrew it back and asked her.
Are you a prostitute? She said no nah, and why did I ask?
I said cus it’s only prostitute that collect money for sex.
She felt embarrassed and asked what is my meaning.
I told her since she says she’s not a prostitute, I won’t give her the money but later when she gets home. That if I give her now, then she should take herself to be a prostitute in my sight. I opened my account balance to show her money more than the cash I had with me.
I told her to drop her account number, that either this evening or tmrw morning I will transfer the money to her, and at that time it won’t be as if I am paying for sex.
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She looked at me for upto 2 min without saying anything and then finally said, if I am sure I will send it to her. I told her I cross my heart that I will do it. She grumbling gave me her account number and say what of transport fare. I said that’s not a problem, I squeeze 1k into her hand and escorted to take bike of #500.
It’s been over 3hrs she left, but she has reminded twice not to forget the 10k o.
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So guys, I am having double thoughts. Not that I can’t give her the 10k. But another part of me is saying I shouldn’t and use it as pay back for what she did to me a year ago. Still the soft and good heart of me is saying forget pay back, give her the money and let her know you’re bigger than that.
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P.S: lets I forget, that her friend that called me the last time about her missing. It seems they have quarrel, so she told me plainly that it was another guy she went to be with for that three days.
So all these are part of why I feel revenge in my mind.
So guys, what do you think I should do?
Give her the money or bullshit her? I have till 12pm tmrw to give her reply.

helinues:
I have no issue with people fooling me, but me fooling myself?

Oyinbogyal:
I’m mixed and living abroad. My mother is European and my father is Nigerian. My parents separated over 10 years ago, but they never officially divorced — they were legally separated.

The separation happened because my father did something very serious to my mother. In Europe, you cannot be removed from the family home simply because of marital problems. A married person is only forced out by the courts if something very severe happens. That is all I can say for privacy reasons, but it’s important context.

About a year after they separated, my father started begging my mother to take him back. This wasn’t occasional — it went on for years. At the same time, he was involved with a Nigerian woman from his own tribe. Behind that Nigerian woman’s back, he was still pressuring my mother to reconcile. My mum refused, but he never stopped trying.

Fast-forward to December 2025. Even this year, my father again went to my mother and asked her to get back together with him.

Then on Christmas Day, he finally admitted — not to me, not to my mother, not to all of us directly — but to my youngest sister, that he has a 9-year-old son he has been hiding from everyone. He then made my sister pass the message on to the rest of us. He could not say it to our faces himself.

What shocked me most is that this child was born about a two years after my parents separated — meaning that all the years my father was begging my mother to reconcile, he already knew he had a child elsewhere. He deliberately never told her… bear in mind this child lives in the same country as us in Europe but he is just been hidden.

When I called him to confront him, he confirmed everything. He also said something that disturbed me deeply: that he feels no real affection for the child and that the boy will never replace his “real family,” meaning us. Hearing a man speak that way about his own biological child was horrifying.

This is a fully Nigerian boy, same tribe as my father. Knowing my father’s own childhood — where he suffered badly under a cruel stepmother — I would have thought he might see himself in that child. But instead, he has completely compartmentalised him.

Meanwhile, the child’s mother still wants to marry my father. From what I can see, he continues to keep her hopeful without fully committing, while still fantasising about getting back with his legal “European wife” who doesn’t want him. He seems to keep multiple realities open at once.

What made everything click for my mother — and for me — is this:
If my mother had agreed to reconcile, my father could have moved back into the house legally as her husband. Because he would not repeat physical violence, she would have had no immediate way to remove him again via legal system/court. Only after securing his place back in the home could he then reveal that he had a child all along — effectively trapping her in a marriage built on deception.

That realisation is terrifying.

I also feel deep cultural dissonance. I told my father plainly: my mother is European. This kind of secrecy is not culturally acceptable where we live. It’s not “family affairs” or something to be normalised. Trust matters differently. Consent matters differently. So he cannot assume my mother will want him after hearing the news, she is not like the Nigerian ex you had a child with - in Nigeria it is normal for a woman to beg or wait for a man to marry you, in Europe it is shameful so he needs to stop thinking my mom will accept this.

This entire situation has destroyed my respect for him. I don’t feel anger as much as disgust and shame. I’m embarrassed to even explain this to my European friends. I feel like I’ve lost faith not just in him, but in my ability to trust what I thought were shared values.

I’m now engaged to marry a loving European man, and if I’m honest, this experience has made me afraid. Afraid of repeating cycles if I marry a Nigerian man. Afraid of normalising things I don’t believe in. I don’t reject my Nigerian heritage — I love the food, the music, the culture — but when it comes to marriage, honesty, and responsibility, I feel completely disconnected from what I’ve seen modeled.

Right now, I don’t even want to be around my father. I feel like something fundamental has collapsed, and I don’t know how to rebuild respect where trust no longer exists.

I’m sharing this here because I genuinely don’t know how to process it alone, and I want perspectives — especially from people who understand Nigerian family dynamics — without judgement.

Flipmac:
Yesterday I had sex with my partner. After a few hours, I started feeling a burning/cooling sensation around my penis and scrotum. No itching or discharge. The only thing I feel is the burning sensation.

What I can best describe the sensation is like rubbing Dustin powder or pepper around one's private part.

I am feeling like this could be an STD from my partner. But I don't wanna make any accusations without being sure.

It's been over 24 hours now and I'm still feeling the burning sensation.

Has anyone experienced something like this? What could it possibly be?

dominique:
https://dailypost.ng/2025/12/23/naira-records-second-straight-appreciation-against-us-dollar/

silibaba:
Sportybet.ng

Just pick 1 straight win
1 under 2.5
Either team to score
HT/FT

10odd × 7000000= M70M

He can now retire in peace.

Aile:
Lagos a country that should be on its own

PDPdestroyer:
Except when it’s bad news. Sometimes, they report the bad news before it even happens

AndroBlaze:
I wonder how extreme poverty will ever end in the North, when their ruling class always insists on marrying themselves. Funny people.

davidtuzy:
Urgent Fastest Finger Deal ❗

Umimi7:
Hi House,
Please I need both Christians and Muslims to judge D's matter...
In my area 200unit, Lokoja, Kogi State. Dere is a guy dt is a Christian dt is bothering me for marriage, the problem is 1. Am a Muslim 2). Am a married woman 3). I hate D's fool
The boy was convinced by his pastor, n since den six years now, d guy has refused to stay away from me, I tot he has mental problem DTS why I didn't bother too much bt please D's is getting disgusting. He is still not married at 40years and dere are many single Christian ladies in Deir 30's looking for husband he refused to marry dem, he is a fanatic and is hoping one day aw follow him to church lol, please is D's appropriate and he is so desparate and refuses to sit down n think of his life. Religion can really be manipulative, an end time pastor has put D's guy on a path of self destruction......

pansophist:
Just in case you need another perspective why the west are so obsessed with conquering Russia, take a look at this map.

The circled tiny green country below is Bangladesh, while the red one above is Russia, and Bangladesh have more population than Russia.

Russia is at least twice larger than contiguous USA, and the most resource rich country in the world and arguably the only country than can go completely autarkic and will be just fine.

If any country is a natural superpower by the very virtue of its existence, it’s Russia.

Phraences:
This is funny. Is it that they are hard to differentiate??

stormborn28:
That one is Luck Dube

Rapmoney:
That is Lucky Dube, not Jimmy Cliff.