People see us as a perfect couple but these are some of the things I go through almost every day.

I've spoken to her several times. She'll promise to change then pull off a worst stunt than before. That's the scary part.

It's like she is getting bolder and bolder. But outside, people see as a saint and a perfect woman without troubles.

She is sincerely and seriously troubling my life with her actions and words.

The annoying part of it all is that I can't even do any productive things when we have issues. I'll have to spend hours upon hours trying to talk her out of her actions while explaining that people don't behave like this in relationships.

I am seriously fed up. We're supposed get get married this year but I am scared for the future.

I don't even know what she's capable of doing.

midolian:
Let her leave your house in the middle of the night..let it happen..just once or twice..And if she leaves, you shouldnt make the mistake of apologising to her..when she comes back to her senses, she ll find a peaceful way back to you.

If she doesnt, find another woman to lavish your attention on. This will definitely do the magic if she truly loves you

You've a valid point but I can't let her risk her life again. She once did. She came to my place very late in the night and she encountered all these dubious alfas that gave her some fake visions in the night.

I don't want that to happen again. She can leave in the morning when there's no danger. But in the night? No.

Something that gets me worried is that anytime she is angry, that's when she will suddenly remember that I am owing her some money and she wants them back at that point in time.

She has done this twice now.

This is someone that I must not begin to mention the money and time I've spent on her.

Why is she like that? If she were to be in my shoes and I do some of these things to her, what will she say?

What will people call me?

midolian:
Bro, its obvious you know her value. The only problem you have with her is her inability to control her anger, which to me isnt much of a problem.

I didnt want to blame you for being too soft because it mean something else to you..but the truth is, you are.

You complain as if you are the wife and not the husband. A real man should know when to be hard and when to be soft with his woman...

Being hard here doesnt mean you should beat her. it means you dont have to apologize over silly things as you have stated up there. In fact, make her apologize over the things she didnt do on few occasions.

Bro, I seriously get your point. I've tried everything but it didn't work.

She is too sensitive and will lock up for virtually anything.

She is a type of woman that will swear to your face that she will never apologize to you if she doesn't want to.

She'd rather leaving your house late in the night if you refuse to talk to her.

And if you ask her why she's like that. She'll make it known to you that no relationship is perfect. That afterall, she once used to apologize to you. That this is the new her.

That's the type of woman she is.

WeedSeller:
While trying not to be sarcastic .

"She gets angry over you not looking at her or smiling toomuch"

Marrying such woman will be a burden when you marry.

You will never get to know what to do to make her happy which obviously means you can't find joy around Someone who is always making you sad half of the day.

she ll soon start to get angry at you for horning when driving too much,telling you the sound is disturbing her.

U must eat all when she serves u or else u nogo sleep.
Seems the bossy type.Don't let her control you !

She is already controlling you.

She will get angry on trivial things.
Talk to her on this and give her time to observe her again.


Bro
Always know that anything that makes you more sad often than being happy needs to be pushed out of your life.

She has done some of these things in the past. I had to tell her to stop them.

She just has a way of coming up with new set of issues to get angry at every time.

That's why I am concerned.

MhizAJ:
No one is perfect
You already concluded that she's a good woman apart from the anger issues
isn't that kinda anger normal...All she needs from you is your 100% attention

You don't need a third party
Stop inviting trouble into your beautiful relationship
Third party is a no no for me

Her anger issues is strange to me. I also believe that third party shouldn't be involved in relationships.

But what happens when she keeps telling me that I should go look another woman whenever she's angry?

What should I do if she starts receiving calls from men when she is angry...telling them sweet things on phone. Disrespecting in the process?

What would you expect me to do?

Mcy56:
@OP, All these plenty things for only you?
Just keep closing your eyes to all those red flags, shebi your own love is blind ba?
You better address these issues very well with her now before you tie the knot.
Also analyze your behaviour very well 'cos your story is one-sided.
I cannot come and be reading stories that touch after the wedding o.

It might look one sided but I've asked her severally what I didn't wrong but she won't talk to me.

All she keep saying is that people keep seeing her as the bad person.

How do you want to reconcile that?

midolian:
It is ok to tell her mum or dad but its very inappropriate to tell your mum..

Reason: After the whole misunderstanding , even when both of you must have forgotten about it, your mum wont forget. she ll continue to see her as in that color which you painted her when you reported her.

Reporting to her parents on the other hand is very proper because they understand her just the way you do..or even more than you do sef..they ll always help talk to her and when its settled and you let it go, they let it go as well..This doesnt mean they wont keep talking to her on how to manage her home and anger..

Your babe is very wise. I give it to her

What if her parents weren't around at that very moment you needed to talk to them and it's only yours that were around.

Have you ever been in a situation where you just need someone close to talk to immediately?

That's the situation I found myself

By their parents, I am referring to either his or her parents.

I happen to be in a relationship for almost two years that both parents are aware of. Both her parents and my parents. We should make it official this year but I am worried.

My partner is a very good woman but she has anger issues.

One minute, we'll be playing. In another minute, she'll be angry or moody. And nothing you'll say will enter her ears.

Call her, she won't answer you. Touch her, it's a crime. Apologize, she won't listen until she is satisfied with herself.

I've apologized for strange things.

Apologized for looking at her. Apologized for not looking at her. Apologized for smiling too much. Apologized for not smiling well. Apologized for talking and not talking. Apologized for teaching her. Apologized for not teaching her.

I've apologized for all the things I did and didn't do.

She'll just over analyze things and come up with her own version of whatever I do just to justify her anger. And I'll begin to ask her when I said or did those things.

Four months ago, I had to explain these things to her mum and my mum after another incidence if not knowing what I did wrong.

She was okay that I told her mum. Her mum seems to understand her more. Then, I had to tell my mum when her mum wasn't picking up in time. So, I told her what I did.

She got angry that I was painting her bad to her mum and my mum. That they'll think she is a bad person. That I shouldn't poison their hearts.

She even went on to say that a real man shouldn't share what he is going through in a relationship with outsiders. I had to explain to her that who shoud I have spoken to if not her parents and my parents?

I only mentioned what is happening in our relationship to them after 14 months of not telling anyone.

I've endured a lot of emotional and psychological abuse in the relationship and I was on the verge of breaking down before opening up to our parents.

Now, she's blaming me for speaking out. I don't want to reveal too much about my life and relationship here. I just want to know if a man is suppose to talk to the parents or any other person about what he is going through in his relationship.

If yes, when is the right time to open up to a third party?

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reflexionz:


OK my bad, Im sorry for the tone of the response bros.
Now here a couple of things that can help you based on experience...
1. Did your Landlady pay for the meters through the genuine process, does she have documents (Bank teller) showing amount and nos of meters payed for? If so head to the nearest Office with copies of documents and request to see New service officer and tender your documents....8/10 chances are the meters are ready and probably phone nos supplied as at time of application is not reachable.
2. Now also confirm if it's not that she gave one "NEPAMAN" Soso and soso amount of money because he is a Nepaman! So if this is the case contact "NEPAMAN" and ask what is happening since u have not seen meter
Also as for the 7 months outage...Sorry bros e dey pain Wella!
3. But for the payment it's not extortion, it's actually the standard since the service unit stamp will be on it with the Cashier's signature. It's admissible anywhere.
So bro try and confirm situation of things first from the office, so you know what next to do. 80 if not 100% of meters payed for over a year ago have been delivered and installed. There's a NERC regulation on metering that ensures DISCOs meter within 45 days customer makes payment.
So hope I have been helpful abit.....My bad about earlier bro, hope this solves your issue

Thank you for this meaningful contribution. I'll work on the points to resolve the issue.

Thank you once again.

bookorlah:
Which area do you stay in ib?

Ajobo, Arulogun Road, Ojoo.

sweetTai:
Nigeria is a funny country and Nigerians are even funnier. How do you pay N2,000 ($5.63) per month for electricity and expect a functioning electric system?? My last month’s electricity bill was $185.00, January was $176 etc. my water bill for last month was $82, in January it was $77. At this rates, I expect a fully functioning services and that’s what I get. Paying $5/month for these expensive services is not realistic, you are more or less subsidizing NEPA officials pepper soup’s payment.

Now imagine getting these bills when you're providing your own electricity. That's what I am going through. And this is what most Nigerians are going through. Even as I type this, the last time we had power supply is over two days. I use solar and inverter. My neighbours run generator 247.

The system is not function for those paying the system.

reflexionz:
Bros you are being irrational...because your landlady applied for Prepaid meter you think that's ground for you to use energy free? Why didn't your Landlady wait till the meters arrived before connecting? They have told you it's loss of revenue with receipt and stamp.
Yes it not showing any account nos because they do not want to open a bill for you, in which case you will receive estimated bills which are normally on the high side.
Now if you go to NERC you will so loose the case and forced to make payment to the Disco and they can at the moment even arrest or take legal action against you.
You applied for a meter is different from meter has been delivered and INSTALLED, please emphasis on caps.
Nigerians we think everyone in these DISCOs don't know what they do are doing?
My friend that #3000 is the barest minimum for loss of Revenue, if you like don't pay. As long as a document carrying the DiSco name and logo plus stamp and authorized signature you are good to go. Please dont Wait till they disconnect your street because of you guys.
#payyourbills #dotherightthing

I'm tempted to respond to you the same way you responded to me. I know your type.

Did you read the part where I said that we didn't have power for 7 months because of a faulty transformer?

Why didn't they fix the prepaid meter then?

djbussy:
Forward your complains to
Nigerian Electricity Regulatory commission Corporate Headquarters

Adamawa Plaza,
 Plot 1099, First Avenue, 
Off Shehu Shagari Way Central Business District
 Abuja F.C.T, Nigeria Tel: +234 09 4621400, 09 4621410 info@nerc.gov.ng

Thank you

amani63:
common #5000 you cannot pay When will Nigerians stop behaving childish.
I paid more than #15000 where I based monthly

Change this your poverty mindset

Who cares about how much you pay monthly?
Did you read the part where I said that use solar and inverter in my flat?
And what do you mean by "behaving childish" and poverty mindset?
I ran my gen every day for six months without Nepa. Please read the post again.
I might not be Dangote but am comfortable.
I am sure Dangote wouldn't pay for what he's not getting value for.

chukzyfcbb:
all these Ibadan people sef, dem tell you make you pay 2k monthly you still dey complain

shops in Lagos mainland are getting 6000-15000 per month, e come be flat.

for duplexes in Festac, our NEPA bill for the year can rent a 1bedroom apartment (room and parlour)

common go and sleep, u no get yarns.

Mr Lagosian, I'd gladly pay any bill they bring if it is justified.

Those shops in Lagos are happy to pay because it's justifiable.

I ran generator everyday for six months. What stopped them from fixing the prepaid meters then?

Why now?

J0hnTrevolt:
Cheap I must say. Even if I hav a bill of 5k monthly I'd be happy

Even when you've paid for a prepaid meter that wasn't given to you for over a year and you know that you're not using this light?

I use solar and inverter in my house for goodness sake.

gurunlocker:
Well, based on experience, You will have to be paying loss of revenue to their office while they process your prepaid meter. They will bring the meter few months after, but you won't pay any bill aside the loss of revenue.

Thank you for your response. They are unnecessarily delaying the prepaid meter just to collect loss of revenue. We had no light for 7 months. Why didn't they fix the prepaid meter during that time.

This is one of the reasons this country is crawling.

kushercain:
Oga go siddown the bill no even reach 50k you dey do like you no sabi where you dey

Why are you like this?

Please read the post to understand my plight.

This has got nothing to do with the money.

Unik3030:
just hustle n get prepaid meter n they will be dead n gone forever

The landlady already paid for prepaid neters even before the transformer got spoilt. Almost a year now, it is yet to be delivered.

hannysur8:
What this man wrote is absolutely true because we are experiencing the same thing in my area in Ibadan, this IBEDC are just doing as they like.....They even brought 8000 naira for a small mosque where people only converge on Friday alone for prayer

What is even their functions?

They didn't fix the transformer when it was faulty for 7 months. They didn't process the prepaid meters that was paid for and now they want to collect service charge. For what exactly?

sotall:
Ok


2000 naira bill outrageous?


Wait till you start begging to pay 20k when they bring 35k bill

This post is not about the #2000 bill. I stated clearly that we didn't have light for over six months because of a faulty transformer. And the landlady paid for the prepaid meters before this.

What is delaying the prepaid meters after a year?

Why can't they install the prepaid meters when the transformer was bad?

Why did they wait until nine months before coming up with their plan to be collecting service charge?

What is the assurance that we'll get the prepaid meters soon.

Power supply in my area is poor. Very poor. What is their justification for the #2000 monthly service charge ?

These are my concerns.

frubben:
nepa wahala don tire us. wat is the landlord saying about the issue

The landlord is not based in Nigeria. His wife is in charge here and she is not ready for the stress because she is pregnant.

Lalasticlala, help push this to to the right section.
Thank you

I got inspired to write and pursue this after reading this post here:

www.nairaland.com/4424406/how-customer-stood-ground-against/

Now to my story.

I moved to a new house in Ibadan in May, 2017. The building has 7 flats and I occupied one of the flats.

On moving in, the landlady told me that she already paid for 7 prepaid meters for each of the flats and they will be installing them as soon as possible.

Unfortunately, the transformer of my area was faulty from May till December 25th, 2017. It was eventually fixed by the community, not PHCN (NEPA).

Then, in February of 2018, the man who collected the money for the prepaid meter brought some Nepa bills for each of the flats saying that we need to pay #3000 each for "loss of revenue". This fee is to cover for the power we're consuming pending the time that our prepaid meter will be ready.

Also, we'll be paying #2000 monthly per flat while our prepaid meter is processing.

I said no. The others tenants also stood their ground.

This man then went to bring more officials to justify his actions. This time around, they added that they can remit the money for us.

This is a new house and it's obvious that they are not being truthful.

The receipt they gave us is not attached to any meter number. No A/C no. Nothing. Just a stamp that contains a name and phone number.

I see this as daylight robbery and corruption because it's obvious that they are deliberately delaying the prepaid meters for their selfish interest.

What steps can I take to correct this?

These guys are threatening to disconnect my power supply. I'm not bothered because I use a solar inverter to power my flat.

I just want to let these guys know that they are wrong. I want to take this up.

I've the phone numbers, email address, and address of IBEDC. What are the steps to take before I write a petition and start this long process.

madgoat:

Hey bro, exactly same thing that started happening to my Tecno DroidPad 7C pro. All the apps are not responding and the tablet is impossible to use. It started late last year almost 2 years after purchase. Took it to an engineer at Slot, he flashed it and it worked for a few days before the problem resurfaced. Took it back to the engineer and he fiddled with it again and was perfect for a few days but the whole problem resurfaced. The fone is practically useless because nothing can be done since all the apps are crashing and it also doesn't even see sim network.
I am planning to take it to carlcare in lagos to see if it can be fixed

I will strongly advice you to backup your files and apps. Carlcare, based on my experience, will only offer a temporary fix which will eventually damage your phone's panel. They will then offer to change it for 17k or so. Just be prepared.

Mynd44:
The phone is 2 years old bro.

I am sorry to say but most of these phones have a life span of 12 to 18 months. Beyond that and you are streching it.

You've a valid point. I cherish my phones a lot the same way I cherish cars. I am one of the few people who don't believe in buying new gadgets every time something new comes out. I stick to my gadgets and expect them to serve me until I need new features that can only be found in upgrades.

This is the reason for my disappointment in Tecno as a brand.

Jaculze:
I know the stress you're facing but TECNO is a nice brand though.

Tecno is a nice brand but they need to do more when it comes to the lifespan of their phones.

busuyi44:

Bro, d pad has really served u. This ranting is unnecessary

You think so.

I can't imagine changing phones every two years because "it has served me". I'd rather use my money for other things instead.

After my experience with my Tecno Droid Pad 7c, I've vowed not to use any new Tecno products again.

March 31st, 2018 will make it exactly 2 years I bought the phone and I don't expect a phone of less than two years to have issues.

Some set of apps and processes were repeatedly crashing and stopped working. Google services, processes etc. When this happens, I restart my phone and the same thing happens again after some minutes.

I learnt that it's a software bug and it can be fixed.

On a particular day last month, I restarted the phone and it kept on writing "starting apps 23 of 99" without actually starting up for several hours.

I then took the phone to Carlcare office in Ibadan and was told that it's an OS issue and it's fixable. I paid #500 and they got it fixed.

Exactly 11 days after, my phone is dead. Literally dead. It died yesterday, March 16, 2018. I just went off and has refused to power on. Just like that.

Coincidentally, the last call I received on the phone before its death was from a representative of Carlcare customer care. She wanted to know about my experience at their office and how my phone is faring.

I still remember telling her that my phone is NOT okay. And I was angry when she asked me to return the phone to their office for another repair. I never knew that would be my last call on the phone.

I'm currently rocking my ever faithful Tecno N3 which I also bought new in 2013. The phone is not perfect but it's curently serving me.

After the Carlcare visit, the touchpad of my phone started malfunctioning, and I noticed a tiny but barely visible crack on my screen. I know this crack is from Calcare. And I also believe that they are responsible for the death of my phone.

I refuse to believe to believe that my phone's panel is bad unless the lifespan of Tecno Droid Pad 7c is less than two years.

NB: I know two other persons having the exact same issues with their DroidPad but are scared to take their phones to Carlcare after sharing my experience with them.

Tecno, please fix the bugs with your OS. Carlcare, please get experienced professionals at your offices nationwide.

NB: I'm looking for recommendations for a mid range smart phone that is not more than 30k.

Please don't recommend Tecno phones. I am done with that brand.