Sapasenator: Never give birth the next two years after marriage to organize your finances and ensure both of you have your careers in place.
Ignore pressures from parents and friends about pregnancies and kids, no big deal, you will have kids eventually.
When you are ready, only have one child.
If you are doing well financially, you can add the second child with at least 5 years gap in between otherwise, I would stick to one child only if possible.
If you follow my advice, you will thank me 10years from now. I see the future very clearly.
I like your advice about waiting to create a nest egg before having kids. But I wouldn't support having only one child.
Kids need siblings for healthy, all-round development. As an adult, you won't always have time for your kids; they can't play with you or talk "child" things with you.
Children need to fight among each other to learn conflict resolution, individuality, and standing up for themselves
That's what siblings are meant for.
Also, as a child gets older, a lot of your hope and expectations (from both parents) would be transfered to that child. Might prove too much for one child to bear.
You see parents with undue attachment to their kids? Lots of the time, it's cos it's just the one.
Not that anyone is praying to lose their child but parents with just one child would have higher anxiety compared to other parents whenever their child is traveling (especially as the child gets to their late teens), because anything that would lead to the death of that child, that's the end of the bloodline. It's too late to raise another one.
Besides, when you finally leave this world, who would your child be close to? Cousins?
There's a bond between siblings — I see it in my mother's family — it transcends generations.
That's the power of having brothers and sisters
I'll suggest to have at least two kids. For the sake of balance.
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If my wife has tendency to add weight, we'll develop a gym culture together. Go jogging together to trim down. Let the thickness be very shapely, in the right proportions, and in the right places.
I'll pay any price to maintain it (to my taste) and help my lady do the same.
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