Nickydrake:
Enough of the wailing already! People failed the bar exam, so what? Surely you're not suggesting that, upon the payment of N300,000 as school fees at the Nigerian Law School, a student, by that fact alone, ought to be entitled to enrollment at the Supreme Court! Failure at the bar exam is hardly uncommon, but never has it engendered such a sustained note of petty whining.

Of course everyone is likely to point at the Law School and allege some fantastic plot to which the mass failure must be due. That is because it is far easier to cast oneself as victim than to face the hard, humiliating truth; a significant portion of purported graduates of law are simply not ready for law school. Why, they're barely ready for anything at all! Ours is an age in which university degrees can be bought, and any girl who is so inclined may well have her grades determined by her performance in the sack. If its reputation is anything to go by, the NLS accommodates none of that nonsense.When students who are long unaccustomed to intellectual labour suddenly find themselves in the middle of so rigourous a regime as that of the Nigerian Law School, failure is merely a natural consequence.

Perhaps, as some have alleged, the environment in some campuses may have been a tad inconvenient on account of overcrowding, but about 2000 students did not let themselves be hampered by that. Four of them in fact graduated with the highest honours. If blame is to be apportioned for the mass failure, the students themselves must enjoy a sizeable portion of it.

I'm sorry o. I don't want you to be offended but what you said didn't make any sense to me; not even a letter not to talk of a sentence. Without prejudice to the fact that laziness has eaten deep into our generation, are students who wrote the exam one, two, three...years ago not part of this generation? In fact, I stand to be corrected, this set of student might be better than a particular year. Is it not the same set of universities producing law students that produced them? Why is it that this occurred immediately the new DG took over? Evidence even showed that the man had threatened them earlier. Have you read other posts about the incidents in which some people lamented that some of their roommates and friends who read for about 12hours everyday also failed? We are not saying students should not take responsibility for their failure but the point is that this particular result is questionable. Also, your sentences are too fallacious to be considered as a comment on a post like this and I strongly believe you must have spoken from an utmost level of ignorance. And I have every reason to believe, if you had been part of the candidates, you would not have been better. Once again[b], YOUR COMMENT MAKES NO SENSE TO ME.[/b] NB: read Blackbeauty's comment. That's a good example of comment by an intellectual. Not that you just come here and pour down rubbish #Gbam!, like tipper.

Congratulations to my sister too. I know God is launching her into unlimited possibilities and opportunities

aboyaji:
only if you know what that laptop and car symbolizes respectively. The girl with car has been settled. The car will not generete income to her. But the intelligent girl with laptop will see this opportunity as a key to read, browse , write down ideas that will fetch her millions if she works harder

Abegi! For me to think like this is mediocre because if the intelligent is truly intelligent, if given a car, she will sell it and buy a land as well as the laptop you claimed will give her the opportunity to read more. Be that as it may, what do we make of ultimate search, BBA etc rewarding with millions while winners of quiz competitions are given a meagre amount? Don't get it twisted! The fact is that our "leaders" are not celebrating education in anyway.

majekdom2:
the safer side is securing the life of your kids , there is no safer side with the court marriage because the judgement of a court marriage is made with consideration of the customary law first.

You're subject to your own opinion. If I may ask, what is the source of your authority?

majekdom2:
if your point is avoiding polygamy .... thats fine but it still doesnt stop a man from cheating or investing in the lives of his concubines than he does for his family. what will a woman gain if she has all the documents and still gets maltrated by her husband.majority of the marriages that dont work these days have certificates and the lady only wishes she can move on but the man continues to maltreat because he knows she cant just go unless the marriage is dissoluted. The op is only looking at it from the angle of the prosperous and responsible man . which is every woman's dream however not everyone is sure of who they get married to .

I've mentioned it earlier on, statutory marriage does not guarantee a monogamous marital union. Under a survey conducted by Aguda in Lagos Area alone. Out of 120 men married under the Act, 22 agreed that they have other wives outside and the hand of the law has not caught up with them. But isn't it better to be on the safer side?

ArtistA:
A nice thread i must say

@jayjagz, madcow et al

Thanks for clarification. I have a question though. What happens in a scenario where things goes south in a marriage where all forms of union are performed and certificates obtained (ie Traditional, Court, Church etc.)? Which authority becomes the final arbiter and which of the issued documents becomes the most valid? Do the documents nullify each other till only one is left standing? I am assuming they can't all be valid since the rules that constitutes them differs (multiple wives and side chicks allowed in customary while it is *officially* an anathema in church/court unions in Nigeria)

*Just thinking aloud* : If the earliest document obtained is the most valid , then 99.99% of Naija married men have been exercising their legal (and traditional) rights by default since 419AD

Please you guys shouldn't attack me just kidding while learning. I don't condone unfaithfulness and pray never to cheat on my wife. Awaits answer from the legalminds

This is another very good question. I salute your sagacity. There is something called double-deck marriage. This is when a monogamous marriage is superimposed on a potentially polygamous marriage. In Nigeria, it is common for couples to undergo traditional wedding, in order to be recognised in the community as husband and wife. They later go to the Registry to contract a statutory marriage under the Act. The question is this: "which one supersedes?". Actually, there are two theories on this namely the co-existence theory and the conversion theory. The co-existence theorist believe that the two marriages exist side by side why the conversion theory believes the court marriage converts the traditional marriage into a monogamous marriage. It must, however, be noted that the theory that has been upheld in Nigeria is the conversion theory. In short, the statutory marriage supersedes the customary law marriage.

majekdom2:
am not in support of it ... but the bible encorages divorce in case of adultery.... what am trying to say is the document is very useful for its formalties but we all know not everyone will be interested in the court marriage. especially , the semi illiterates who may not know why this it is important.
we all have got diff views , you may see polygamous as wrong while some other fellow might see it as totaly right. do your research .... do the islamic marriages not last than majority of our christain and court marriages even when it is a case of one man and one woman ?

We are not disputing the fact that not everyone wants the so-called court marriage. Our point is that most women don't want a polygamous marriage and men take advantage of them because they think by going to church alone and all prohibits the man from marrying another wife. If you know you want a polygamous marriage and your wife-to-be wants a monogamous marriage, then you should marry her instead of hiding under the pretence of "we will go to church" when you know it's still the same thing.
As regards the fact that some other marriages last more than statutory marriage, I won't want us to be fallacious by digressing. The point is that woman should be on the safer side by going through a statutory marriage and they should ensure that all the formalities are carried out so that they won't be decieved. Thank you.

majekdom2:
they may not be able to go to court because they are solely dependent on the hubby , hence financing such cases could be hard .... like someone said , the hubby may provide a customary law that will leave the woman with nothing.
the inheritance stuff makes a man thinks twice. I have been on a thread where some women envisaged aiding their hubby's death because he cheats on them . the inheritances are for the kids not the wife's

That is why we have the Legal Aid Council, NGOs especially those for women like the Women's law Clinic at University of Ibadan etc and some lawyers are ready to do pro bono if the wife has a good case. Although I'm not encouraging aiding their husband's death but you too see what you typed "cheats". I repeat, "we" Men are the major cause of this problem and we only put up useless defence mechanisms.

majekdom2:
My question is how many cheating men have gone to jail .... abi none of these men wey dey cheat dey do court marriage. it is only nigerian marriages that preach longsuffering and pain endurance. the western tradition we are bringing in dont preach it...... apparently the OP's aim was to identify with inheritances .... which should not be.

that is a very good question. I raised the question as well in one of my papers in that the law seems to be a decoration. But the question is this: "how many woman have claimed their right in court?" like you said, they believe in long suffering and pain endurance. The court is not a father Christmas and obviously, everyday is not christmas. Therefore, you can't be given what you've not asked for. Concerning inheritance, I believe "we" men are just being unreasonable because the issue of inheritance is also an effect of marriage; if you know you don't want a woman to inherit your property then don't marry her. It's as simple as that but it's visible even to the blind that most men just want to play on the woman's intelligence, use her and go searching for a fresh meat. I stand to be corrected, over 90% of marital problems are caused by men!!! We just use the issue of property or inheritance as a cover-up.

Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.

I think I need to make some things clear here. It may seem long but it's very helpful, ignorance of the law is not an excuse. There are two types of marriage recognised under the Nigerian law. Statutory Marriage(popularly called Court Marriage) and Customary Marriage( Islamic marriage is sometimes categorised as customary marriage). Customary marriage is a marriage according to the native law and custom; for it to be valid, it requires the payment of bride price and the handing over of the bride to the groom's family among other things. It is potentially polygamous and that's why the man can marry more than one wife but it is valid and recognised under the Nigerian law. Thus, anybody validly married under customary law(traditional wedding), cannot contract a valid statutory marriage(court marriage) but the man can marry another woman. On the other hand, Statutory marriage is a marriage according to the Marriage Act. It is the union for life of one man and one woman to the exclusion of all others during the subsistence of the marriage. Marrying another wife when married to a person under the statute attracts a punishment of 5years imprisonment. A statutory marriage can be conducted in a Registry, a Licensed place of worship( a church authorised by government for court wedding) or a place stated in a special licence. It is very important to note that mere church blessing does not constitute a Valid statutory marriage(court marriage) nor does it add anything to an existing civil marriage. Therefore, all the preliminaries to the statutory marriage must be done such as giving notice of marriage(publication of banns), obtaining registrar's certificate or special license etc. In other words, the fact that a couple just went to church and the pastor prayed for them does not mean the man cannot marry another wife(i.e ordinary going to church is not tantamount to statutory marriage). The woman must ensure that all the necessary formalities are carried out. However, it is a reality that statutory marriage does not guarantee a monogamous matrimonial life but don't you think it's better to be on the safer side? I would stop here for now but my advice is that it's better to consult a legal expert and conduct a statutory marriage to be on the safer side. I'm will entertain questions.

It's simply because the motivation is always low outside school.

thankyouJesus: Law

was expecting such. Always beefing

Is this inferiority complex or what? Can't see anything special

Even the comments here shows there's no way for People Degenerating Party. Daniel ko...den ni

safarigirl: If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths.

One of the lecturers in my school aptly described women as 'a waste of education'...no, it wasn't an insult, it was just stating the obvious. You find a woman who has hustled through primary, secondary and University education. One who looked set to be a force to reckon with in the world of business or law or medicine, I mean a female with straight A's and you think Nigerian women may be getting things right, only to follow her back to her hostel and hear these heart-breaking words:

"Omo, after school na to find husband marry remain."

In the real sense of the word this is translated to:

"After school, I'll fling my degee inside one iron box in my dad's storeroom, find a perfect mugu that will put a ring on my finger, buy me a car, set up a boutique/beauty saloon for me and all I have to do to get this is spread my legs for him and push out little people with his DNA"

Nigerian women view marriage the same way hustling Nigerian men view the US Green Card- an avenue to escape life's troubles. So in the same way you find 23 year old Nigerian men marrying 56 year old American women, you find young, promising women relegated to some man's priority list.

I don't think most Nigerian women realise that nobody wants to get attached to a leech. If you allow some Nigerian women, they would even want their husbands to carry the babies and birth them as well. And when you ask why they don't want to build wealth with a man, you hear:

"I've already suffered in my father's house. I don't want to continue suffering in my husband's house"

Now unless you're getting married to a no-good leech like yourself, there is no reason why building wealth with a man should be termed 'suffering'

Even on Sun Newspaper's 'Beauty Of The Week' it's the same thing.

Future Ambition: Getting Married And Having Kids

If you think God put you on this earth to make a liability of yourself, you need to think again. There is more to life than being someone's baby mama. There is a purpose for getting an education that lies beyond being able to speak good english whenever you and your man attend social functions

Nigerian women need to sit down and re-evaluate their lives. God sent you to assist a man, not to add to his problems. Men appreciate women who can think for themselves, who want to contribute to the family (and I don't mean churning out kids). There is nothing more endearing than a smart woman who views men as companions rather than money bags.


Don't waste the education your parents worked so hard to provide for you. Break the stereotype, Nigerian women should be more than gold-digging leeches. If the likes of Oby Ezekwesili, Joke Silva, NOI can be successful career women as well as wives and mothers, then we all need to dust up our certificates and CVs and have proper future ambitions.


God Bless You...and don't take this the wrong way

Another thing I know about some is that even when they see a guy that's ambitious and futuristic, why would decline. It's that dubious and mischievous guy pretending for them they want. Well, I can't blame them; most of them don't think for themselves, friends and relatives think for them and they suffer alone.

teeboo:

God bless u

Amen

Taiye4Christ:

You are welcome, God bless you. Hope you both had fun?


Happy birthday in arrears!

Thank you sir

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Thank you. Trust you're wonderful...because that's something I know about 09/09 peeps

Happy for him

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my birthdaymate

Taiye4Christ: Today‘s (9th September) celebrants:
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We celebrate you today. You are special, you are unique and a blessing to your generation. May you soar high like the eagle and leave indelible footprints on the sands of time.
Happy birthday.

Cc: all September 9th celebrants

Hello Dearies...Sept 9 too

MykLANNY: Right to comment....

tell us how it happened nw

Share a story/experience on how you or someone close to you have been denied any of the fundamental human rights guaranteed under the constitution, indicating the specific right you were denied. The rights include:
1.Right to life (S.33)
2.Right to dignity of human person (S.34)
3.Right to personal liberty (S.35)
4.Right to fair hearing (S.36)
5.Right to private and family life (S. 37)
6.Right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion (S.38)
7.Right to freedom of Expression (S.39)
8.Right to peaceful assembly and association (S.40)
9.Right to freedom of movement (S.41)
10.Right to freedom from discrimination (S.42)
11.Right to acquire and own immovable property anywhere in Nigeria (S.43)

Share a story/experience on how you or someone close to you have been denied any of the fundamental human rights guaranteed under the constitution, indicating the specific right you were denied. The rights include:
1.Right to life (S.33)
2.Right to dignity of human person (S.34)
3.Right to personal liberty (S.35)
4.Right to fair hearing (S.36)
5.Right to private and family life (S. 37)
6.Right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion (S.38)
7.Right to freedom of Expression (S.39)
8.Right to peaceful assembly and association (S.40)
9.Right to freedom of movement (S.41)
10.Right to freedom from discrimination (S.42)
11.Right to acquire and own immovable property anywhere in Nigeria (S.43).

Happy birthday dear

#Gbam!

Liability: life is cruel when you get entangled in a crossroad. Crossroad that you cant find a way out.

This is my situation. I am in a dilemma right now. I could hardly believe that the guy i sincerely love in totality is now an hijacker of my sextape.

We were going well with our relationship until two weeks ago, i was having complications with my period [heavy flow].
He demanded to sleep with me, i rejected the idea because of my situation. He was mad with me. And promised to deal with me.

Just when i thought things were settled, he showed me my sextape which he secretly had transferred to his phone.

I begged him to delete it. Instead he uses it as a means to sleep with me everytime he wishes. He even threatened to post it online. With that am too scared to refuse him.

Please how do i escape this situation? What can i do to escape this torture?

Matured advice only

Hmmm...you said you love the guy and he's doing this! What an irony of life. Well, I advise you to see justice. You can record the conversation in your phone so that you will be able to use it as evidence. All these women NGOs are there for you. Run for your dear life!

jennylove7575: yes because the negative part is the cache of the story and its her supposed misfortune or rather testimony.... My point is, its very wrong to enter into marriage with a guy because of pressure or desperation. It is insane to spend the rest of ur life with a man u don't love. Op just talked about how she missed out on better men because of her born again looks or dressing..the clause I detest in the story is accepting the proposal of the man she didn't love out of desperation. The story is thoughtless.

Well...I believe the story is best interpreted this way "don't do all these extremes so that you won't end up with a stranger"

jennylove7575: Op This your story is some how....what are u trying to present or teach with your story.. I don't get it....so because u were a 34yrs old born again u choose to say yes to a dirty old man marriage proposal a man u don't love because u feel desperate for marriage. ....this is sickeniing...absolutely nothing to learn from ur ordeal..its pathetic.

why was it the negative side of the story you picked?

Please, I'm looking for a partner I need a confidant for God's sake. *yawns