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Medianna:
As long as she's not uncomfortable with your jokes and sarcasm.
Wait a minute she's suppose to be the one complaining that 'my man is a clown' and not you.

I didn't say I make jokes of her. No be everytime s*x, I like having conversations but I can't find a common ground to do so now

Hey Guys, so I got in a relationship for a little over 5 months now. She is industrious, hardworking and a wife material by every Nigerian standard.

But the thing is, I can't have a conversation with her. She doesn't understand sarcasm, word plays or any of those stuffs and all my life I've loved word plays and you know, intellectual conversations.

She's a medical student but this issue of not being able to hold a conversation with her is giving me lots of thoughts. When we are together, it's mostly silent because if I crack a joke, I'll have to explain it to the end and she might still not get it.

How do I handle this guys?

If you were not dumb or demented you could have simply checked out his academic and professional qualifications but here you are struggling to do the work for the 30k you were paid.

I pray your child doesn't grow up and gets disappointed at how low his father stooped for 30k naira.

Since you were to empty skilled to check, you can check the screenshot I attached that is if you can read at all because most Tinubu supporters are thoughts who can't read any other thing aside NURTW tickets

So nairalanders I'll keep this short.

A little bit of background about me to put things in perspective:
I'm a young man somewhere in my mid twenties, I have quite a number of IT skills and lots of other hustles I do.

2020 I was in a single room apartment, 2021 moved to a self con and 2022 I just moved to a 2 bedroom apartment. I have about an acre of land I got a while ago.

BUT the issue is that I'm still really scared of failure. I'm scared or going back to poverty. I've tried so hard reassuring myself that I'm on the right path but I am always worried. This stuff has cost me sleepless nights, I work really hard, everyone around affirms I'm doing well but deep down I just don't feel enough.

It's eating me up guys, please help a brother ��

Thanks guys, I appreciate the advice(s) so far.
I'll act accordingly

femi4:
Stop fornicating!
She wanted to stop but you are just a bad influence on her making her submit to her weaknesses

Did I forget to mention that I'm literally footing all her bills?
We're both adults, she doesn't let me even talk to other ladies without getting jealous. How am I supposed to handle my urges?

SavageResponse:
The only reason you let her move in with you is so you can be getting sex regularly, now that she has said no you're now having issues with the arrangement

I saw it as an opportunity for us to get back together and make it work.

beehivedata:
This girl is just using u to fix her accommodation challenge and she's just tired of paying with sex for it. The onus lies with you. You say u really care about her and want to settle down with her God-willing but she isn't ready to settle until she starts a business. Lemme guess, you're already thinking of setting up a business for her. Lol. My brother, you're on a long tin. She'll use u to live in a free house and get a business set up as a bonus so that when she's financially strong, she'll tell u bye bye. Na that time u go dey hear more about "my pastor dis, my pastor dat". Can't the pastor give her money to start business and accommodate her? . Just let her be for now and don't fall for any of her gimmicks to make u keep spending money. Meanwhile, confront her that you are no longer cool with the way things her. I'm sure one of the reasons u were cool with her staying is cos u saw it as an opportunity for you both to come back together. Now after when it seems like things are finally coming into places relationship wise between u two, she distances herself in the name of "pastor". Ask her what u and her are doing cos u need to know. And that u plan to rent the room out. That she telling u how long she intends staying will help you know when to put it up for rent. Or that a family member of yours is planning to come live with u to learn a trade or something. Just to make her see that you have plans for the apartment rather than giving it out for free to her and getting toyed with. In the end, the girl is just a user. Especially cos like u said, u have true intentions towards her but she's not entirely reciprocating.

Thanks man, I deeply appreciate

JackStephans:
So Her pastor deems her squatting with a guy ok, but bleeping unholy abi?.. Hasn't she got female friends or family?

I'm at a crossroad man, I don't even know what to think

Shelumiel:
Well give her time to do as she pleases. But still ask her after a year.

I'm not sure I can stay celibate with a woman living under the same roof with me for a year bro

Shelumiel:
Oga, her biological clock is ticking. So do the right thing and propose to her. Simple

She's in her mid twenties and she said she doesn't want to settle down until she starts her business and gets it running.

I need advice guys. Biko, Ejó

Guys I'm pretty popular on nairaland but to avoid banters, I created this account. Do pardon my typos and mistakes, I'll try to be as brief as possible.

I dated this girl for like a year and during that period we sure did have intercourse frequently. After a while we broke up because according to her, she lost feelings for me. I pleaded but she insisted that her decision was absolute so I let it slide.

Recently, I became better than I was financially, way better. I wouldn't want to attribute her coming back to it but she did come back and we got talking again.

About a month ago she said she had accomodation issues and pleaded to move in with me. I obliged. We became as close as we were when we were dating (,or so it seems to me).

I noticed that she changed churches and she is more fervent now. Although it didn't change much, we still do get intimate in the heat of it but for about a week or so now, she refused to give in to my advances. I confronted her and she said her pastor asked her not to.

Now the issue is I'm a one woman man who doesn't believe in philandering (sleeping around). Coupled with her living with me, I'm lost as to how to address this issue. I need suggestions guys, I really do like her and would love to settle down with her (God willing).

Thanks Guys