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I met a lady who I later found out is married on Facebook, we have been chatting since October 2014 but met eye to eye in July 2015 in Ile-Ife. She came to collect her degree certificate and I used the opportunity to check on my younger brother at OAU. She lives in Ibadan while I live in Akure. She is very beautiful but looked a bit shy and worried. I tried to be nice to her and to be a real friend. I liked to date her but concealed my intention at first so as to know who she really is and what she wanted from me. We see once in a while until February 2016 when I travelled to Ibadan for a business transaction. I called to tell her I'm in town and she came to where I was to say hi as usual. She waited all through my transaction at Challenge, after the whole thing I drove her to her house bus stop while on my way back to my base. She held to my hand and gave me one sexy look, l got the message immediately and drove to a nearby guest house where we had one of the greatest Bleep l ever had. She told me she is married with 2 kids after the episode but that her hubby had little or no time for her since she is a second wife. It baffled me that such a young and beautiful girl could agree to be a second wife in this time and age. I have bleeped her three more times in February and March, intact each time I'm in Ibadan which is once in about two weeks. l love to stop it but she cried when l mentioned it to her. She's even been begging to help raise money for my feed distributorship trade. l don't really know what to do. I'm going to Ibadan this morning again, I didn't tell her really but she has been on my neck since Saturday, wanting to know when I'm coming. She even said that the first amount of N700k is ready, asking that l send my account details for transfer. This is a big dillema for me. I don't really know how to get over this, she cries anytime l don't pick her call or switch off my phone to prevent her from calling me.
MY WIFE WILL KILL HERSELF IF SHE FOUND OUT, though she has never doubted me or been suspicious of my dealings.

RockHard:
Chai. Another speaker impeached. Wetin she come do to warrant her impeachment na? Why Mimiko no intervene to save her na, as she be im paddy and all

its a big trap, well perfected to catch the Iroko. The impeached speaker is the governor's stooge, 12 out of the 18 lawmakers that impeached the speaker are PDP members while 6 are APC members. If the governor interfere to restore the woman, the 11 PDP members decamps to APC immediately and that will effectively put PDP in the minority which is dangerous for the governor. So it's not just a surface thing, its deep.

gohzieh:
Don't worry it'll soon come. I wish that was what I have to worry about but the absence of a job has left me with those wishes!

God will make a way for you Bros, BTW what's your qualification?

are you a FG worker? Because I got my pay since 2nd of February


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Find out what is happening to yours, hope there wasn't illegal recruitment in your MDA?

Prince Bola Ajibola nko?

rusher14:
Hope it comes with factory-fitted AC?

The suspension should be be suitable for Nigerian roads.

I hope it has premium leather seats and SatNav.

I don't really mind chrome wheels but for me they are optional.

How much did you say again? 1.85 Million Naira?


It's too much, let's just agree at 1.5 Million... Everyone's happy.

Bubu doesn’t want us to be spending dollars here again so I can only pay you via local bank transfer.

BMW, my brand any day any time.


Wait o! kayus! Is that a bombardier jet you are advertising on Nairaland?

I'm sorry disregard my interest.


Had it been 2013, kai I would have found a politician to buy. Small Commission for reach my hand.

Anyway good luck.

ok, 2013 when stealing wasn't corruption abi?

se e get AC? What is the capacity of it engine? Se na full option? E fit fly to ma village make Kazeem help me inspect am? What is ur last price please?

show the engine pix please

no reply yet

he settled for the option of divorce, he filed divorce early January, he has improved on his bad lifestyles, alcohol and smoking gone, but I think he should find ways of forgiving his wife, he is insisting on sending Sade packing, too bad. The girl is showing remorse though, asking for a second chance, Johny isn't listening, I wish him goodluck

wtfCode:
dude, there are relationships in which the woman controls the husband and this is one of it.
he might even be under a spell.
if its not the womans fault, why would she write the family to stop pesting them of money?

this is the fears of my mother at the moment, We will continue to pray, thank you all

mamajohn:
beautiful car

how beautiful madam, I need better pictures, can it go for 700k?

Please don’t mind my long story.
Our parent have four of us. The first is a female, while the second is a male, he is my immediate elder brother, I am the third, I have a younger sister who is our last born. Our father died in 1990 when our eldest sister was in year one at the College of Education, my elder brother was in SS II, I was in SS I and my younger sister was in JSS I. With the death of our dad, An uncle who was also trained by my dad took responsibility for the training of our elder sister at the College of Education while the responsibilities for the education and upkeep of the remaining three of us fell upon our mom who at that time was employed as an office attendant in the civil service of the old Ondo State before Ekiti was carved out. She retired from the service of Ekiti State Government on Grade Level Six in 2009.
All of us could be described as above average academically while in school. Secondary School was not really free in those days even though the fees weren’t much, It wasn’t easy for my mum to cater for the three of us with her meager income, I remember that we had to really work hard in the farm to cultivate staple foods like cassava, maize etc to augment whatever our mom collect as salary. It wasn’t easy at all.
My elder brother completed his SSCE in 1991 with good results and had to be employed as sales assistant in a bookshop in Akure then, I completed mine in 1992, I was lucky enough to be employed as a clerical officer in the former office of my late dad, it’s a federal government agency, therefore I earned more than my elder brother and even close to what my mum was earning then. At this point, we made a family arrangement to allow my brother go for further studies first while my income and that of my mum would be channeled towards his education and our upkeep while I will get enrolled after he had completed his and that he will also help in assisting the remaining two of us in our education after he secures a job God willing. Things worked out, he was admitted to study Mechanical Engineering at FUTA. It wasn’t a nice time at all, I couldn’t just say I’m buying dresses or shoes at will, I worked for the whole of the over six years my brother spent at FUTA with my income being used to take care of his studies.
He completed his degree in 1998 and went for service, I got admitted to the University of Agriculture, Abeokuta to study Environmental Management and Toxicology (EMT) in year 2000, my brother had completed youth service then. He came back from service in Rivers State with a lady whom he wanted to marry, we all accepted Aunty Moji very well, thinking that they would still court for few years before marriage and that during that time, he would be able to render whatever assistance he could to us. My brother secured a job with the Federal Government with the assistance of a friend of our late father who was a Director General in a Federal Government agency then. My brother’s first pre-occupation after securing this job was to get engrossed with marital plans which I don’t see as bad anyway but I expected that he pity and come to the aid of our mum who had suffered so much for us and our younger sister who had left secondary school but couldn’t move any further and myself who had tried my best to keep my own side of our agreement. My brother closed his eyes against all of us. We attended his wedding somehow and continued with our lives. I told my mum to face my younger sister who was admitted to Owo Poly while I began my struggle to have university education. I was given study leave without pay in my office since my boss said study leave with pay could only be approved in Abuja, I suffered a lot in school. I became an emergency home teacher for two families in Abeokuta, the pay was peanut, I spent close to 50% of the earnings on transportation because I lived in the hostel since I couldn’t afford an off-campus accommodation. It wasn’t easy for me to combine the teaching jobs with the tasking academic schedule of UNAAB. I made frantic efforts to seek help from my brother to no avail until his wife, Aunty Moji wrote a nasty letter to my mum, asking her to warn me to stop troubling her family by my monetary demands. My brother did not contribute a dime to my education or assist my sister and mom, his wife will not even offer me water not to talk of food each time I visited them, meanwhile the mother and younger sister of Aunty Moji lived with them, this wasn’t my problem anyway but that I seriously needed financial assistance in those days.
My elder sister who had secured a job as a teacher tried her best for me, her hubby, a lawyer wasn’t doing well at that time, but things improved for them later in 2003 when PDP won the governorship election in Ogun State, he got a political appointment from the then Chief Gbenga Daniel’s administration in the state, they were of immense help to us. I completed my first degree in 2006, went for service and came back to my former office as a school certificate worker. My brother in-law also assisted in getting me a job later with his PDP connections. My younger sister finished her HND and got married to a university lecturer, she secured a job with a federal government health institution. I thank God for everything.
My issue now is that my brother has refused to relate freely with any of us, his wife don’t even relate with my mum or any of us at all, my brother usually sound apologetic or someone in deep regrets anytime I talk with him but he keep his distance and our relationship with him isn’t cordial at all despite all efforts we have been making to reconcile and get things right with him and his family. This is a big source of worry for my mum who should now relax and enjoy her retirement having labored so much for us, my elder sister is damn too emotional and spiritual about it all, she will cry and cry each time I discuss it with her, that’s her own nature anyway, her husband is too busy with politics and his business, my younger sister is the “I don’t care type”, she sees no reason why we should bother ourselves with him and his family since they have consistently kept their distance, my mum isn’t happy about the fact that his first son is estranged from our family, she even begged the parent of Aunty Moji, our in-law to intervene and help her beg them if she had offended them in any way, nothing seems to be yielding positive result. Our uncle who tried to wade into the issue at a time quickly withdrew because of the insulting nature of my brother’s wife.
The situation looks helpless but I have read a lot of issues like this on this forum and I saw a lot of good contributions from well meaning and experienced members, kindly advise me, I beg you, please don’t trivialize my story, God bless you all.

Whao! this one na woman? They shouldn't break up but she need a two month attachment with my wife, before we got married, my wife bought too much of these things that I started asking if she want to become a caterer, she even bought refrigerator and deep freezer that we have not opened till date since 2011. The amount of these thing in my house now cannot be fully put to use in our life time because I and my beautiful and dutiful wife got more than we be bargained for as gifts during our wedding, Everybody cannot be the same but let that lady learn to be responsible. OP, please its not flimsy but let them talk things over between themselves, merry Xmas.

SAMBARRY:
Sad story


That marriage is dead on arrival

Solution; before they wreck themselves she should get a divorce because he's obviously furious with her and one day the devil can posers him to stab his wife when coming home drunk

Btw shebi men also do Bach even where they'll sleep with one night stand girls and engage in lots of debauchery few days to their wedding of which the wife finds out much later after the wedding and heaven will not fall so why does he want to kill himself


He's consuming bottles of alchol and smoking na the wife go get lung cancer and liver problem?

Someone offended you and you're destroying yourself hoping she will die

Frolicking with disease carriers called prostitutes and thinking you're doing your wife.shioorrr.when did alchol smoking and sex become the solution to marital isshh.shioorrr

great

good

tearoses:
He is the one who will self destruct and after he is dead, Shade will cry for 2 days and claim all his property and go back to the man she was sleeping with before she got married end of story.

I dunno what kind of person he married anyway
I would have thought that anyone getting married tomorrow would be on lock down in her parents house
He married a tramp and he should not let her ruin his life
If he drinks and drives and crashes into a parked trailer then thats the end.

This is the truth though bitter

bellong:
"Your friend " is destroying himself.

honestly I told him that when he dies, the girl will inherit his properties and still go and sleep with her man friend just after two weeks of his death

Johnny is a close friend of mine, he got married in February 2015 and ever since then he has become so notorious with girls and alcohol, things he didn't really do before his marriage.
I know 2 girls he's dating presently.
Last week Thursday I challenged him on his new found love for girls and alcohol. He told me the whole thing started after discovering that Sade his wife slept with another man on the Friday night before their wedding, he said a hotel attendant who knows his younger sister told her about the rendezvous of Sade in the hotel. He said he wouldn't bother if not for the one of the night before their wedding, he said he got the information 9 days after his wedding, confronted his wife but she denied it, he said Sade later confessed doing it after two weeks of serious scuffle with her. He thereafter vowed to his wife that she would never find in him a good husband as long as they remain together. Today, Johnny who was a cool headed young chap smokes, drinks and messes around with girls. He even drive around with his girls and his wife seems to know. I have told him this isn't the solution but he doesn't care anymore, it is really becoming disturbing to I and my wife who knows him closely, can he be helped? how?

daben1:
is the man from Kogi state?

Yeah, Kogi State, the wife is from Imo but grew up in Lagos

Its so funny but really true, I never really expect any real man to say this to any body but its like he always believed that I have solution to all his issues, he talks to me often about his life and several issues, the guy is looking so sad and Moody here in the office now, I don't know what to really say, their marriage must be rescued, that's my major concern

Very funny but true, my office assistant told me yesterday that her wife's vagina was usually firm and that often times, he had to rub Goya oil on his penis before penetrating her even after having two children
He said that two weeks while trying to had fun with his wife, he discovered that the thing was wet and that his penis looked like dipping a finger in a milk tin, very free, I did all I could to suppressed laughter in me because he looked so serious, he did not raise the issue with his wife then because he didn't want to accuse her falsely but wanted to take time to study things
He said he didn't experience that wetness again and the enlargement was gradually reducing until Tuesday when it looked like his wife has been bleeped several times that day
I tried to let him know there could be wetness if his wife is ovulating but he said "Oga I know everything about my wife's system, this one is strange", a big quarrel have started in his home now, the wife denied committing adultery, the guy believe the wife is a cheat, dear Nairalanders, I haven't experience such before, please help me out, I'm doing all I could to convince him that it may not be what he thought but he isn't going to listen, he said infidelity by his wife will result in ill luck or even sickness for him if not tackled on time according to his family traditional beliefs, I will continue to advise him though but I want to ask the house, can sudden vulva/vagina enlargement and wetness be ascribed to "too much fucking from outside" as this guy claimed! No abuse me o, Na because I never experienced Am before o, thanks

blessnija:
i like him for being a thorn to obasanjo

and for ruining Abia State economically

Our dear brother with his PhD and an array of world class Economists and scholars left our economy comatose, many "highly educated" governors ran their states aground economically, it took an "illiterate retired soldier" without ministers or advisers to teach them that there is room for bailout during the times of economic distress, if you don't see this as CHANGE, please visit an ophthalmologist, you may have glaucoma!

Ahmed Musa is from Edo State bros

FowlYansh:
this is a question for the gods

JAMB question

4Kemzy:
Just as expected, the King of the North AKA Dulardino is on a spree against the south...

Happy you said just as expected, for Marilyn Orgar, demotion is mild, I expected her to be dismissed from the service for her unprofessional conduct during the Osun State guber election of 2014 and the last general election

Oshibajo is representing PMB in Kaduna, Neither Tinubu nor Akande are members of the NEC of APC so how can they attend

GEJ must have created invisible jobs

These forecast came to pass

ShowYourCertificate:
So our dullard president couldn't generate money to pay civil workers? He had to borrow just like how he borrowed to pick the presidential form. This man's dullardness has no limit.

You have a long way to go in pain and regret, keep moaning