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My wife and her family members are driving me crazy. Their involvement in my home is becoming embarrassing. I may have to give my wife the red card asap. Her family poke noses into all my affairs. How I spent my money, who I give my money to, who I visit, and so on. All they want is to continue to expend money on them and live my life for them. I got their daughter a job, her salary isn't enough for them, how can I be taking care of able bodied men who have refused to work with their certificates, looking for jobs with good pays before they'll work, their pensioner father is not also helping matters, very difficult to please. I have made it known to my wife that our marriage contract did not include pleasing her family members but she won't listen then I worked my transfer from Lagos to Abuja, yet they're on my neck. My wife's younger brother is presently in Abuja without any clear cut mission other than to come and monitor my affairs. He called me around 7pm yesterday to tell me he's in Utako and that I should come and pick him from pack, I told him I didn't invite him to Abuja so why should I pick him up? I asked him if he didn't have a mission before coming and why he should get to Abuja before notifying me that he's coming to my place. I shunned him and switched off my phone. I switched on the phone now only to read 3 abusive text messages from my wife and one from her father threatening that if anything happens to his son, I'll be held responsible. My people, can you see my life? My pastor have been trying to broker peace between us before I left for Abuja to no avail, what I intended to do is to settle down here and get her relocated so that if she's a bit far from her family, things will work out. I'll instruct a lawyer to file divorce papers tomorrow, I can no longer take it.

skales67:
So this girl was pregnant before getting married? I thought it is Haram.

So you believed she has been pregnant before December 16, 2016 when she got married? Are you saying that her pregnancy was well over 21 months before delivery? Your stupidity is just like zeeworld, extraordinary everyday!

TonyeBarcanista:
I am not impressed

How can you be impressed when you and your party have been suppressed?

That's Nigeria's able vice-president, President of Federal Republic of Nigeria in 2023-2031, wailers, go and.......

deboysben:
NW 85% for apc, 15%for pdp
NE 70% for apc, 30%for pdp
NC 48% for apc, 52%for pdp
SW 45%for apc, 55%for pdp
SE 20% for apc, 80%for pdp
SS 25%for apc, 75%for pdp
If you believe say hy

Use the statistics below to work out your propositions and tell us the result.

theSpark:
Depends on who the contender in PDP is. Should it be RMK or Lamido then:
NW - 65% APC 35% PDP (bandits reign supreme in some parts causing loss of faith in APC)
NE - 65% APC 35% PDP (Bauchi, Borno and Yobe being the strongest APC bases)
NC 35% APC 65% PDP (Only Niger State is sure, Kwara goes where Saraki goes)
SW 50%-50%
SE 15% APC 85% PDP (this may do little to counter APC dominance in the North if there is voter apathy)
SS 15% APC 85% PDP

The election is for PDP to win if they can convince the SE and SS to come out en masse to vote. Perhaps an Igbo Vp will do. If not APC will win with a slim margin.

Mark my words, PDP cannot come second in 2019, a distant third awaits it after SDP.

MrPolitics:
In my opinion
NW - 70% APC 30% PDP
NE - 70% APC 30% PDP
NC - 50-50
SW- 60% APC 40% PDP
SE - 80% PDP 20% APC
SS - 70% PDP 30% APC

The only reasonable human here. SDP will have more votes than PDP in 2019.

Since the woman is working, she should use her income to supplement whatever her hubby can provide. Rent, Food and clothing are the basic needs, others are secondary.

In 2017, I had an encounter with two Lagos ladies on Facebook. The first one is from my hometown. She sent a friend request to me in January, I accepted her because of the surname she bears, we later started chatting. She told me she is a single mother of one and that her hubby separated from her when her son was just 6month. It wasn't long before she started asking me for money for such things as school fees for the little boy, food, rent etc. I sent 5k to her even before I set my eyes on her physically when the begging was becoming so much. I had opportunity of meeting her in Ondo State when she came to attend a funeral in our hometown. That day I took her to a restaurant to eat before she will proceed to our hometown. She is a very beautiful lady just as she appeared on Facebook. To my surprise, she ate very little pounded yam at the restaurant and drank 3 bottles of trophy beer, I quickly realized she must be one kind wayward person. After the funeral, she waited till the following Monday and asked me to give her money to return back to Lagos, I gave her 3k, she collected it and travelled back to Lagos. She is a graduate of sociology from Unilorin but unemployed as she told me. I tried to link her with my cousin who is a Lagos based journalist to help her secure a job in the marketing department of his newspaper, she refused to pick up the job because the pay of 80k/month isn't encouraging according to her. I made up my mind never to give her my money again since I detest her kind of personality. A woman drinking 3 bottles of beer at a go. She had sent all manners of messages for money since June, I have told her she won't touch my one dime again.
I met another lady on Facebook in August, we started chatting and I got to know she had a son for a man in Akure before she got married to her present husband. she is second wife to her present husband. She checked my profile and discovered that I work in a higher institution, she therefore begged that I help secure admission for her son in Akure at Adekunle Ajasin University. I spoke to some of my friends at the University and they got the boy admitted to the University . The woman came to Akure two weeks ago and I met her physically for the first time. She lodged in a hotel and I visited her there. She is also a very beautiful mother of three. She wanted me to shack her in her hotel room but I told her pointblank that I can't Bleep another man's wife. She completed her assignment and went back to Lagos, she started disturbing me for money to pay her boy's acceptance and school fees which I have told her I can't provide. I have been thinking that these Lagos ladies have a way of thinking that those of us who live outside Lagos are mugus who can be turned to a cash cow over nothing, or am I wrong?

lonelydora:
2 days meeting as if something good will come out of it. Mtchewww!!!


If you are an Igbo person banking with GTBank, just go and withdraw all your money now, and close the account. Let's all boycott GTBank

It is happening in Anambra already.

#boycottGTB

That's right. Hope you'll suggest ways of paying back their multi billion indebtedness to GTB sha o.

lecowas:
how will it not extend when $1b is at stake

honestly you deserve a hot slap

DrinkLimca:
They both are crying because they will miss their marathon sex together..

You deserve a hot slap

Taiwo20:
Give her 5k....send the rest to your parents. She has family too let her borrow from them. If you give her more than 5k which is like subscription money..... just don't ever Hi me again

Thanks so much, my mother and siblings have been well taken care of o. I don't joke with ma mama at all.

kunlesufyan:
Okay! from this story, it doesn't seem like she wants you to dash her the money. I suggest you give her the money on grounds that she will pay back.
You self form say you get project to run next year january, so you will need the money back then.
But if you are a big boy , you can leave it.

She is trying to be wise, I'll give her 20k and that's all. I have plan for every kobo I have, I also have plan for enjoyment na, I can part with 20k from my Xmas/new year enjoyment package. Not big boy things o.

Helen is a beautiful young lady in my area. She moved into the area last year. I got close to her through a friend who works in the same office with her, and I wanted to date her but she told me she doesn't date Yoruba men, she is from one the states in southern Nigeria (not southwest). I respected her decision and moved on. I use to see her move around with 2 guys, one that I know very well and the other I don't know. We greet and I sometimes drop her in her office which is along the way to mine. But surprisingly, Helen has become more friendly with me since early this month, I discovered that those guys have disappeared from her, she even came to my office to say hi during break twice. I just gave her lunch and that's all. She came to my flat last Sunday to say hello, I gave her drinks and snacks, she was with me for 3 hours, we chatted, discussed IPOB, Atiku and Buhari, 2019 and all those stuffs. I realised that she wont resist it if I still want to have my way with her sexually. She was just lying on the couch with her top dress almost pulling off so that I can see those big full balls that was the attraction in the first place. I controlled myself in order to avoid stories that touches the earth later in view of her recent change of attitude. I suspected that she was up to something. I got home after work yesterday tired and tried to relax, I was watching national geographic channel when I received a WhatsApp message from her telling me she has a request to make from me. I told her to let me know her request. She now wrote that her salaries has not been paid since October and she would like to travel home for Christmas. So she would need N50k as an assistance from me. It was so amusing to me. I told her I cant afford N50k but that whatever I can afford will be given to her by Friday 22nd December when I'd have been paid by my employer. I have promised myself never to have anything amorous to do with her anymore, and I wish to just give her N20k for her transport fare as a friend, so that she won't think I'm still not happy because she turned me down. I also know that her company laid off workers around August as a result of liquidity problems because the company has not been doing well since the proprietor contested for and lost membership of the house of representatives in 2015.
My question is, do ladies still believe there's any maga remaining in any part of this country? Someone who would not date a Yoruba guy in February 2017 now interested in collecting money from that same guy she once rejected.

Na those people, I can't wait for them to leave us in peace.

Na dem, the developers

Na those people, dem developers.

sarrki:
What is PDP ?

Association of Sheep, Goats and Pigs.

Na them again

Na those people

meforyou1:
South East- Acting registrar one unknown parastatal. God is watching you

So Corporate Affairs Commission is one unknown parastatal ehn! #kontunu

Met my wife while we were in secondary school. I was senior prefect in the school, she was in JSS 3. I loved her so much but her dad was very a tough man. I remember sneaking into their house and pretended to be her elder brother's friend. The elder brother was one year my senior, he had completed SSCE then and was waiting for result and JAMB. He tolerated me because he liked me as a junior in school. But one day their father got me. He called me and said I know you're coming here because of Taiwo my daughter, I feel like entering the wall, he now told me to take it easy and that he isn't going to stop me from coming since Kehinde (my wife's twin brother) told him I always teach them mathematics but that we must not mess ourselves up. That was how we started. We broke up when she completed her SSCE and join RCCG as a year one student of the then University of Ado Ekiti now EKSU where they told her its sinful to have boy friend. I made up my mind I'm gonna marry her, I visited her frequently but she will invite her sister coordinator to preach to me. It is a long story, I passed through a lot before I married her but its worth it because I'm married today to the best woman on earth.

Students of the Department of Animal Health and Production, Federal College of Agriculture, Akure are full of joy when they wrote their final paper this morning. This is after a 2 year rigorous academic work in the agricultural institution which is noted worldwide for rigorous practical and theoretical agriculture. The institution has also been named "Center of excellence" in agricultural value chain development for sub-sahara Africa by the Swiss government, Chinese government and the World Bank's West African Agricultural Productivity Programme WAAP. Kindly join in congratulating these young and potenrial agropreneurs.

Emeka Anthony Uche, the same people.

ednut1:
am 90% certian Dorcas papa is late. Dem go don use wahala kill d man

Are you a prophet? Her father died in 2011, dunno what killed him anyway.

The name of this harlot is Chinenye right? Which part of Nigeria bears that name? What is Gbenga looking for in that area? I'm here to check names I am a tribalist.

prestigiouslady:
The lady should be the one to choose, if her husband is trying enough or she wants to be a baby and cry every time he can't take up her family responsibility....that's synonymous to emotional blackmail to the husband.

She should look for a job that pays the bill for her family....let's see if she won't get tired in a year....let her get a job or the husband should set her up in a business under strict warning that the business isn't for charity.
No one should be under compulsion to cater for every of his in-laws financial needs....he can only assist.
If he meets all his own family requests too, meet that of the in-laws family and still settles his own nuclear home, it won't be easy on him.

The wife is already losing her husband the moment the husband had to get a transfer and she wasn't moved by it.
The husband is the one wearing the shoes, and he knows it hurts...his primary responsibility is his wife and child which he is settling well.

Thanks so much for this comment. Samuel actually fell for this emotional blackmail till 2016 when he started reacting, may be as a result of the present harsh economic realities.
Samuel is an engineer with one of the departments under the federal ministry of petroleum resources. He's a bit well paid and think this is the reason why his wife is not too eager to be engaged in what she termed "unreasonable" job offer according to Sam. He told me that Dorcas once turned down a 70k per month Ikeja job, they live at Akowonjo which I consider as not too far.
My fear about their marriage heightened also when I heard that he moved to Abuja early this year, I suspect that he may be looking for a subtle way to dump Dorcas. To me, their issue isn't that bad.

nosiebaba:
2) it doesn't sound well not to accomodate your wife's brother if truly you have nothing to hide and your living alone.

I held this opinion too but Sam told me the guy was not posted to Abuja originally, he said the redeployment was done so as to help monitor him and he wanted to cut himself off from her mother in law as much as possible.
To me, Sam seems to be doing everything to protest the actions of his mother in law, including an attempt to even divorce his wife which I see as not tidy.

Samuel is my childhood friend, he got married to Dorcas in 2014. The marriage just like every other has series of issues but theirs assumed a dangerous dimension since 2016. The issue has been on the overbearing attitude of Dorcas's mum who likes to be part of everything that happens in the home. Samuel has also been complaining about the amount of money he spends on his in-laws. Dorcas will always cry each time her family's financial demand is not met. Samuel saw this as being placed under too much burden by his wife and her mother. He claimed to have made several attempts to discuss things with his wife to no avail. So in February 2017, he worked his transfer to Abuja from Lagos and comes to Lagos only at month ends, Dorcas now gets only a fixed monthly allowance which Samuel said she could give to her mum and stay hungry for the month if she like. This didn't go down well with Dorcas and her mum, they stylishly redeployed Dorcas's younger brother who was to serve in Nasarawa State to Abuja to be accommodated by Samuel, he rebuffed this and refused to accommodate the guy. This has been generating tension in the home with Samuel already making attempt to call off the marriage. This I believe will not be good especially for their 2 year old baby boy. Dorcas's mum hasn't seen anything wrong in her attitude till now. How can this marriage be saved please?

Tayo's family have been witnessing a lot of hiccups since early 2017. This bothered on lack of trust and "suspicious movement" by the wife as Tayo alleged. To worsen the situation, Tayo got to know that his wife was in Shagamu on 1st of September, Ileya day. This made him become curious because his wife didn't tell him she would be travelling to anywhere. Tayo woke up early that morning, left their house at Abule-Egba for his farm at Ilaro in Ogun State, he wanted utilise the holiday maximally in the farm. He came back in the evening. He did same on Saturday 2nd and Monday 4th September. After the holidays, he went back to work in his office only for his clerical officer to inform him that he saw madam at Shagamu on Ileya day and that she drove off before he could stop the okada that carried him in order to greet her. Tayo listened carefully but pretended as if he knew about the trip, he picked up his phone and called some friends in Shagamu, but they didn't know about his wife's trip. He therefore got home and carefully put his wife's phone on auto record without her knowledge. Within 24 hours he got the information he needed. His wife spoke to a prophet on phone about something that didn't work as they discussed. The prophet even asked her to come back the following Saturday with fasting and not having sex. With this he confronted his wife, she denied but gave up when the recorded call was played out. She claimed to be praying about her personal matters. The already uncordial relationship between them has become worse since then as the husband have practically moved out of the house to "save his head" as he said. How can a married woman visit prayer centers without telling her husband?