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dani1luv:
ok

daniluv,so u dey among people wen dey people so, thank God say Una don release my right for me. Next time with kind gesture of Mama-gee of giving me Seun mail address, I will talk to him direct if my posting is ban unnecessarily.

see yahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

mama-gee:
Here it is, --

Thanks Mama-gee, you are darling God bless you

Abu Zola:
Italian christian teen stabs father in PlayStation row http://mobile.reuters.com/mobile/m/FullArticle/p.rdt/CODD/noddlyEnoughNews_uUSTRE60O32C20100125?p=1

Abu Zola,let us be a little reasonable, we are talking about religion targeting both their own and others not minding for destruction you talking of a boy and his father quarrellings and something happen.

toba:
Indeed.Religion of bin laden,sadam hussein,boko haram&mutallab

I hope you know the religion that they belong to

omoshie:
PLS I NEED A WIFE THAT WILL NOT KILL ME. PLS NAIRA LANDER HELP OOOOOOOO. WE ARE BROTHERS AND SISTERS OOOOOOO

Omshie, You don't need to go far, here in Nairaland especially on this board people are getting hook up at lest somebody posted the other time she get her husband in Nairaland why not a guy. my brother you can like Obama, so just shine your eye but be carefulooooooooooooooo.
wish the best

Ujujoan, and every girl out there do not be deceived a lot people like her have toll that line but at the end it was not as they think. so think well before you leap. I am really surprise that people are still thinking in this direction, that means there is a lot of work to be done in the Church.

Hello everybody, I really appreciate every body contribution to this pitiable situation that my sister found herself. However, your contributions and your candid advice have actually help in near to solving the problem. but if there is anyone who still want to say some thing for the public to learn from, Pls feel free to do that, we are all learning on daily basis.

Thanks once again and God bless.

Though I am new on this forum and especially on this board, I was surprise on this board of Money there is no post on froex trading. Is it possible that Nigerians are tired of forex or they have failed again in forex traing? or what is the problem? I want to know. I hold my peace here first. after your response then I will proceed from there but before then let me tell something somebody told me not too long ago about Africans and Nigerians in particular, "That if you give an African two options of planting a tomato farm and a cocoa farm he or she will prefers the tomato own to cocoa" I don't how true it is, pls comment.

wish you the Best.

Good post and a very important issue, well said by some of the honorable members of this board but some of the contributors do not seem to get it right. Yon see it is very good for you to take care of your parent the Bible instructed us to do that. However, the same Bible also made us to understand that, " for this reason a man and a woman will leave their parent at a certain time and cleave together to become one flesh, i.e to become husband and wife to raise their own family to fulfill the injunction of God on the earth. So it is left for as a wife and a husband to use the mind and wisdom that God has given to you to balance everything you do in that institution of marriage. That is why spirituality is very important in your life.

For your advice my dear you must let your husband or your wife to know or even both of you should plan whatever you want to give your parents together and as you do that in harmony the blessing that is associated with giving to your parents will be pour into your family. Pls it should not be with fight and strifes God bless you all.

ladi02:
where do u want her to run to an 18yr old girl! hw will she survive on her own?

this is one of the effects of poverty, @poster, what i feel is she should find another church and tell the pastor they might be able to find a home for her, i'm sure she will never forgive her parents once she gets out of this

may God Help her!

Ladi02, Since she confide on me of her situation by the grace of God I am trying to see what to do for her. However, you said she should find another church or pastor to find a home for her. How are you sure that the same answer from the first pastor will not surface. In fact, when she told about the first pastor position I was surprise, in the first place this is a marriage that was based on lies and greed and you are bringing God into it. It doesn't make any sense at all. so i think the issue of seeing another pastor should not arise at all. Anyway thanks for your candid advice and also all forumites that give their advice too.

wish you all the best

Note: Because of this experience i am looking at coming out with a book that will address the dilemma of the girl-child even to their adulthood. it would be a hand book for young ladies and even parents that want to bring up their daughter in a proper way.

ifyalways:
@Poster,Impotent as in he cant get her pregnant,he cant do it well or he cant have an erection?

fyalways What the girl is saying is that the husband cannot even gain erection, he can't do anything

MRbrownJAY:
since she was "willing" enough to listen to her parents and marry this old man at the first place then she should stick to it and continue being used as a sex tool just for her husband vanity.

if she has any problem with it then the FIRST person she should tell it to is her parent and CONTINUE FOLLOW WHAT THEY WISH FOR HER TO DO.

Mr. BrownJAY, Telling her to meet her parent for solution is out of it because they are threatening that she should remain in the marriage because they have money to pay back the so call husband her bride price and the husband is also threatening. And she want to quit, to even crown it all the church she is attending is saying she should stay because the business of marriage is till death do us part. so what is your opinion?

This is a life story, happened to someone close. her parent being very poor, I mean very poor force their daughter into marrying a lecturer who is mid 40s. Note: the girl is just 18yrs old. Now after the marriage the girl now discovered that her husband cannot perform and the so call husband asked her to meet other men outside to put her on the family, of which she has done the first one. Now the girl is tired, she want to quit the husband and the parent are threatening hell and fire. She now come to me for advice. I want your opinion so that I can properly guide her.

I know that there are ways family can be strong and happy and some of the ways are: by the way you interact with each other, how you treat each other, what you do as a family and as individuals to support each other. Now by the reason of the post I made, “CAN ANY MARRIAGE REALLY BE SUCCESSFUL WITHOUT GOD IN IT?” the responses that I got from the house are what actually prompted me to come up with this list. I want every body to be sincere with him/her self to arrange these qualities of building a strong family in order of importance.
Caring & Appreciation, Commitment, Communication, Spiritual Life, Community & Family Ties, Teamwork and
Flexibility & Openness to Change. However, you are not limited to above you can add any other ingredient that make a family strong

Wish you a better arrangement.

tallgal:
There are some women who genuinely love the older ones they are married to. This one, however, is cheating on her husband so there must be something missing. I'm guessing it is sexual, I don't know for sure because I don't know her. Besides, isn't that what 'they' invented Viagra for?

So if look at it from that angle are you now saying that older men that get married to younger women don't love them?

chaircover:
. . . . , And the old baba a cradle snatcher. How men can get an erec.tion with women the same age as their daughters always amazes me or maybe I'm just being naive

Chaircover I also think that you are just being naive, because you should have also be amaze you how a younger woman like that will also unclothed for baba and not just BABA but father to her friend. It is a shame to both of them to be frank.

Quote from: tpia. on January 04, 2010, 04:50 AM
not everything has to be spiritualized.

there are countless successful marriages among non-Christians.

marriage is first and foremost hard work, and a lot depends on the couple's personal individual ethic (or lack of one, regardless of religion)

tpia you correct by saying that, "everything should not be spiritualised". but one thing you must know about human is this, 'man is made up of the body, soul and the spirit' and out of this three, the spirit is the most important because that is what link you with your creator. so if that is correct then how can you be successful without it in your marriage without that aspect?

Think about it ! wish you the best

You see! it was just yesterday in my church Bible study somebody asked this question painting exactly this same story. you know some people may not believe what I am about to say but I have to say it. Here in this part of the World people go about things without proper knowledge of what they are doing or how do you want to explain this, a woman out of your ignorance and selfishness you have push out to commit ungodly act when u were not born-again; now that u claim that u are born-again. the same you again exhibiting your gross selfishness asking her to return the products of that same selfishness with the intention of also selfishness of going to Heaven alone to their biological fathers of which according to the story is only God knows their whereabout, "if only the wife is also sincere of that" It is really sad that people are trying to drag God Almighty into their messy life in the name of senseless restitution.

you said you are a Christian, you didn't us whether your wife is also a Christian or not. well that should have being established before you people go ahead for the marriage and now the marriage has lasted for 4 years and you said you want to quit. I want to sincerely let you and everybody in this section to know this, you as a man if any thing go wrong in your marriage you are the cause, because you are the head and if anything happen to the body is the head that is responsible for it. so in this case pls look at situation at hand critically and apply what God said in his word pertaining to this issue and also remember that all women are the same they only respond to what they see.

wish you all the luck

Well, first and foremost I have to grateful to the creator of Nairaland, becos it gives people a wonderful platform to share vital information. That apart to the issue at hand. I believe those who know what they are doing on this planet earth get married because God give us the instruction to do so according to the Holy Bible in Gen. 2 vs 23-25 (therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh.) in order for us to fulfill his commandment in the previous chapter which is Gen. 1 vs 28, which instruct man to go and multiply and increase on the surface of the earth'. so what i say is this, "seek ye first the kingdom God first in married companion, children, peace, love, security, and every other thing shall be added to your marriage". Lastly is only the truth that can set people free in life generally. Love u all


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Marriage as it is define in the Bible is the coming together of a man and a woman in order to become one. That is the mathematic of God almighty, that is, one plus one equal to one instead of two in the world context. And of course God Himself institute the marriage institution. Then how can a mortal man like you and i survive in this kind of mysterious institution without the originator? I want to put it before now, Can any marriage be successful without God?