MRbrownJAY:

since she was "willing" enough to listen to her parents and marry this old man at the first place then she should stick to it and continue being used as a sex tool just for her husband vanity.

if she has any problem with it then the FIRST person she should tell it to is her parent and CONTINUE FOLLOW WHAT THEY WISH FOR HER TO DO.

johnkaro:

Mr. BrownJAY, Telling her to meet her parent for solution is out of it because they are threatening that she should remain in the marriage because they have money to pay back the so call husband her bride price and the husband is also threatening. And she want to quit, to even crown it all the church she is attending is saying she should stay because the business of marriage is till death do us part. so what is your opinion?

ifyalways:

@Poster,Impotent as in he cant get her pregnant,he cant do it well or he cant have an erection?

johnkaro:

This is a life story, happened to someone close. her parent being very poor, I mean very poor force their daughter into marrying a lecturer who is mid 40s. Note: the girl is just 18yrs old. Now after the marriage the girl now discovered that her husband cannot perform and the so call husband asked her to meet other men outside to put her on the family, of which she has done the first one. Now the girl is tired, she want to quit the husband and the parent are threatening hell and fire. She now come to me for advice. I want your opinion so that I can properly guide her.  

Goes to show the damage poverty can cause! Imagine parents forcefully gave their young daughter away into a doomed marriage? 

Pack your bag and go home to your parents and blatantly refuse to stay in that marriage unless, over your dead-body! That way, your parents would see sense.  Imagine, this man fleeting you from one man to the other? In so doing, most definitely you are going to contract HiV-Aids or other serious disease that are rampant in Nigeria, and who would take the blame? Losing your young life for the sake of obedience to parents?

Get me right, it's good to obey your parents but obedience can ruin your life sometimes as in this case, if you don't watch it. 

I suggest, you talk it over with your parents once again, make them aware of the implications of this kind of marriage/arrangement - how your life is at risk and if they are still adamant over your needs and views, pack your bag and leave home for good. Don't bother with them and don't tell anyone where you are, except your very close relatives/friends who have your interests at heart and who could keep a secret or two and while you're away, make no contacts with anyone until you succeed.

Finally, ensure you give him back his dowry as soon as you get the money, chikina! Better to have your freedom and make your own choices/mistakes than be imposed upon!

Good luck and be careful with the tigers out there because, there are many of them!

Now, we can all see why poverty is evil!

legba1:

WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR, RUN FOR YOUR , LIFE mumu

johnkaro:

Mr. BrownJAY, Telling her to meet her parent for solution is out of it because they are threatening that she should remain in the marriage because they have money to pay back the so call husband her bride price and the husband is also threatening. And she want to quit, to even crown it all the church she is attending is saying she should stay because the business of marriage is till death do us part. so what is your opinion?

azubike1:

This is terrible
Mr BrownJay, I read the original post and there was no mention of 'pastor' Where did you invent yours from?

johnkaro:

Mr. BrownJAY, Telling her to meet her parent for solution is out of it because they are threatening that she should remain in the marriage because they have money to pay back the so call husband her bride price and the husband is also threatening. And she want to quit, to even crown it all the church she is attending is saying she should stay because the business of marriage is till death do us part. so what is your opinion?