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Judybash93:
He's gonna be shocked to know that he's the father of 0 out of 4!
It happened to a former Ghanian footballer. Nigga thought he had four kids until DNA results proved that he had nil after more than 20 years

The other 3 are 1000% mine I have no doubts about them my first daughter and second son are my carbon copy and I don't need a dna test to proof it

NezzyMike:
But this said child is more than a yr and three months. June should make the child 2 years ago I'm not understanding your story?

Conceived in September 2020 born in June 2021 from June 2021 to September 2022 1 year 3 months

sweetveek:
sorry boss but like how much does this DNA test cost?

I paid 130k for the peace and mind test

TANID:
please like how much is DNA I just had baby today but I'm not sure if I'm the father of the baby

I paid 130k

Justbehave:
Oga op. For the sake of your life. Discard her and the baby at once. If she finds out that you have known the truth,she will poison you to cover her track. Discard her immediately.

She is aware of the result she swear that the child is mine that she wasn't pregnant when she breaks up with the other guy in July 2020. It can't be possible because she conceived in September2020 and put to bed in June2021 if she breaks up with him in July and I am not the bio father there is no way for the child to be born in June.
Unless she was slept with another guy before we got back together which she denied. She can't poison me I don't eat her foods neither do I share the same room with her, I eat out and I come home and spend time with my kids then I sleep. I don't know what to do about her and the baby yet but I was thinking about calling both families next week Sunday for a family meeting. I will update you guys on whatever decision I will take.

Sweetplum:
Bad decision. Who ll take care of your other kids?
Broken home is one of the major causes of BD kids behaviour out there.
Return the child. Ask if she ll still be with you. Count your loss and appreciate the remaining.

I will take care of my children

Mindlog:
Whatever decisions you are going to make, just make sure that at least the 3 children you believe are biologically yours are continually provided for.

That's not a problem for me I will continue to be taking care or them

obiekunie01:
DNA on your other kids and you will be surprised.

I have no doubts about my other 3 children because they are mine 2 are my carbon copy and the other one is his mother carbon copy

Mindlog:
Now that you have confirmed that the 4th child is not biologically yours, how can you get to confirm the child is biologically your wife's. Once it is proven your wife is the birth mother that eliminates baby-switching......you then make your decisions.

Here is the link to my previous post
https://www.nairaland.com/7252543/unsure-father-fourth-child#115180469

Sweetplum:
So bad. While we v bad women, we also v the good ones.
May God heal you sir.
I suggest you tell her to return the child to the owner.
I can't take such thing if I m a man.
Try and see if the relationship can work after she returned the child. If it can't work, separate. A broken heart can heal. A damaged home can't heal.
Link to the previous thread of the op
https://www.nairaland.com/7252543/unsure-father-fourth-child

She can't return her to her father because she is only 1 year 3 months and she is still nursing her.
I can't never separate the innocent child from her mother to save my marriage. I would prefer that she leaves with the child and continue to take care of her outside of my house.

Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good morning all. My wife and I separated in 2020 for seven months we have reconciled in september 2020 and she took in the same month but I still have doubts because while she we were separated she had cheated on me with her colleague at work. Which I had Proofs.

The reason why I have accepted her back was because the fault was mine I didn't cheat on her. I lost my job and my boss gifted me 300k I didn't know tell her anything and I confided to my sister in Benin Republic I sent her 200k to buy goods for me and she duped me. When she found out she started abusing me to the extend I had to leave the house and moved away to stay with my mother.

I still doubts about the paternity of our fourth child because she doesn't look anything like me nor her mother. I strongly believed she was already pregnant that is why she came back begging me to return back home. The more the baby is growing up the more she is looking like her colleague. Ever since we had reconciled everything is perfectly fine our relationship is stronger than before but I can't stop thinking about the baby not being my own.

I want to take her for a secret dna test but if the result came out I am not the father my family will be ripped off and I don't want divorce but i can't also live not knowing if I am truly her father or not. What would you advise me to do should I go ahead with the secret dna or not I just want to know the truth bur I am scared of the outcome

Good morning all. My wife and I separated in 2020 for seven months we have reconciled in september 2020 and she took in the same month but I still have doubts because while she we were separated she had cheated on me with her colleague at work. Which I had Proofs. The reason why I have accepted her back was because the fault was mine I didn't cheat on her. I lost my job and my boss gifted me 300k I didn't know tell her anything and I confided to my sister in Benin Republic I sent her 200k to buy goods for me and she duped me. When she found out she started abusing me to the extend I had to leave the house and moved away to stay with my mother. I still doubts about the paternity of our fourth child because she doesn't look anything like me nor her mother. I strongly believed she was already pregnant that is why she came back begging me to return back home. The more the baby is growing up the more she is looking like her colleague. Ever since we had reconciled everything is perfectly fine our relationship is stronger than before but I can't stop thinking about the baby not being my own. I want to take her for a secret dna test but if the result came out I am not the father my family will be ripped off and I don't want divorce but i can't also live not knowing if I am truly her father or not. What would you advise me to do should I go ahead with the secret dna or not I just want to know the truth bur I am scared of the outcome

Good evening all
I posted my first story here back in January about how my job was ended and my wife maltreated me because I was duped by my sister anyway you can go to my profile to read more. I came back to share the good news with you all and for advice too.
So far my sister that duped me has repaid me back money money with an extra 200k so far I had received 400k from her on the 26th of July which I am very grateful to the almighty God I am planning to start up business very soon.
Where I need advice is
I left my wife back in February and went back to my mother house I have been here for six months now. My wife has never bothered calling me unless I called her sometimes she picked it up and sometimes she never which I understood her she was angry for what I did . But after I left the house she started dating her colleague from work which I got proofs with me but I never confronted her because I had no money so confronting her would have make matters worse. She stopped me from visiting my own children for six months I haven’t seen them apart from speaking to them on the phone. I had never bothered her and let her be to do as she pleases. But I was surprised yesterday being Sunday she visited me with the children and knelt down to beg for my forgiveness that she is sorry for everything the way she treated me that she wanted me back home with her and the kids . I was a bit confused and couldn’t believe my eyes . I was wondering if someone had told her about me receiving the money back from my sister maybe that was why she has deceived to have me back but I doubts because apart from my mother nobody else knows that I had received the money and my mother had no contact with her for a very long time now . Well I haven’t told her anything about the money I told her I haven’t gotten a job yet so it wouldn’t be possible for me to go back home with her to avoid adding more burden to her but she was adamant that I should come home that she will take care of everything. But I ask her to give me sometimes to think about that . She bombarded me with loves messages on WhatsApp she is really trying to win me back . But I don’t know if I should go back to her honestly because she cheated on me in my absence only God knows how long the relationship had been going on maybe it started even before I lost my job because the guy in question is slyer colleague from work she spend most time with him at work and outside work and she was bringing him home to my children when I left the house. I don’t really know what had happened between them that she is now wanting me back . I have lots of things going on in my mind right I don’t think I want her back in my life . My only mistakes was not telling her about the money but apart from that I had never cheated on my wife never ever. Even after leaving the house I have never slept with any other woman but she cheated on me which is worse than what I did to her . I love my children I want to be a part in their life I will provide all their needs . I want to confront and tell her that I don’t want her back because she cheated on me but I will be there for my children anytime .Kindly need your advice.

sayisayi:
With the remaining 100k, I go reach benin and shake her neck tire...peace dey reign for cranium after that.

OP...you and sis grew up together?

Yes we grew up together

Thanks for your words of encouragement

Mariangeles:
It is unfortunate how things turned out, but let it be a lesson to you. Learning from our mistakes is part of life and growth.

What you need to do now is to let go of EVERYTHING!

FORGET THE MONEY YOU LOST! It hurts to let go, yes, but if you keep holding on, hoping to get your money back, it might keep you stagnant and prevent from moving forward.

PICK YOURSELF UP AND START OVER! Yes, you can do it. It doesn't matter when you fall, what matters is that you PICK YOURSELF BACK UP!

IT IS NOT THE END! Rather, it could be the beginning of a new chapter in your life.

BE STRONG! Be emotionally strong. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

I was hurt and cried badly , to be duped by my own sister, the pain was unbearable , I did not know what else to do, depression was worse , I distance myself from my wife and kids , My wife was worrying about me and I kept telling her nothing is wrong with me , even after being duped , I just did not how to tell her , what will she think of me , I knew she will be very hurt that I decided to do all these without informing her, I just didn’t know how to tell her and the last resort was to tell my mother the truth , so she can talk with my sister to send my money back , because I knew only my mother was able to solve the problem, my mother was very heartbroken she couldn’t believe what my sister did , she promised she will be talking to her and after two weeks to no avail, I involved my uncles and we had a family meeting , my mother , two uncles , me and younger bro at my mother place , she called my sister , she picked and my uncles asked her what really happened, she narrated the story still insisted that she gave the goods to the guy , so my uncles told her because she is the one who knows and trusted the him , she should resolve the problem with him and get back to us , she promised to call back in an hour , so we were all waiting for her call and after like 4hours , I knew and told my uncles she will not call again , and her number was off. My mother was very hurt , I could tell from her face and myself I cried like a woman and I didn’t know how to get home on that day . My uncles has told me to go home and tell my wife that I lost my job and got duped but I shouldn’t mentioning my sister that I should just say by some guy I met online , my mother has suggested for us to move back with her to reduce the stress of paying rent so I went home , I did not want to lie to my wife the way my uncle has said so I was very honest with her , the minutes she heard about the money and the way I was duped by my sister , that was when everything has turned upside down and that was the beginning of my sorrow. She reject the idea of moving to my mother at least if she did that would have save us money from paying rent

Thanks for all your advice. I really appreciated it, , I did not want to bore you with a long story but let me just add this important information. This how my sister duped me , after waiting for about a month and 5 days , I still did not heard from her about the goods , so I called her asking how is everything there , she told me she bought everything and gave it to her friend who was coming to Nigeria with it , she gave me his contacts , i messaged him on WhatsApp introducing myself and asking him when I will be expecting the goods from him, he has seen my messages but did not responded yet , so I called back my sister telling her that the man wasn’t responding to me, she told me , he is a busy man and reassured me that he will respond back soon which he did after five days saying he will be in Nigeria in a week and he will contact me with the address where will be meeting , so I waited patiently for him but he didn’t contact me after almost three weeks , I started messaging him day and night asking about my goods , he wasn’t responding even my sister stopped picking my calls, I was frustrated and worrying sick , stressed out that I could no longer pretend to be working and depression hit my hard , my wife noticed that something was wrong with me , she asked me why I wasn’t going to work anymore , I lied to her that my boss and family traveled so I was on the break till they are back, in the meanwhile I messaged the guy again cursing him badly and that was when he confessed to me , that my sister did not give her anything to give to me , she just use him to lies to me , I asked him if we could meet up in person so we can call my sister together for him to say everything that he has told me to my sister , he has agreed to meet up , but blocked me, I then called my sister telling her what the guy has told me , she said he was lying And cried that she can never do something to harm me , She said I should give her two days for her to gather all the proofs that will confirm that she did give the guy my goods so I agreed then that evening she blocked me too

donstan18:
If an average Nigerian non-virgin lady can comfortably choose a rich Chimpanzee over her father because of money, who are you not to get insulted because of your broke state?

You fvcked up by not letting your wife know that you've stopped working. It made no sense, but still, that shouldn't warrant such behavior from someone who you call a "WIFE".

-Your sister duped you.
-Your kids don't respect you[Possibly, their minds have been poisoned by their mother]
-Your wife insults you and doesn't respect you.

Nwanne, if you don't take time, you'll wake one day and see yourself chilling with your ancestors, as a result of being dead.

I'll advise you to travel. Travel from that hell of a house straight to your mum, explain everything and stay with her a bit to sketch out your plans. He's the only woman on earth right now who can accept you the way you are.

You aren't traveling because you are a coward or because you don't love your family, but because you need PEACE. All you need now is peace, not unnecessarily pressure, before thinking straight on how and what to do to salvage this your horrible state of financial quagmire.

Thanks bro for your words of encouragement, you are very right ,I need peace not pressure and I believe that staying away from her will help me getting back on my feet again. Right now the pressure and insults is too much on me and she keeps reminding me about the money calling me stupid in the presence of my children , it hurt so bad

I’m 34 years old married with 3 kids, I’m an SSCE holder. I used to work as a chauffeur for this wealthy family for 8 years have been with this family and we become like a family , unfortunately my job ended last year July when my boss relocated his family to Canada because he is a kind hearted man and he compensated me with 300k to start up biz. I did not want my wife to know that my job has ended so I spoke with my elder sister , who is a business woman, she lives in Benin republic to help me with ideas of a profitable biz that will help me to still be able to foot in the bills , she suggested clothing biz and requested 200k for the goods , I sent her the money the next day and she promised me that I will be receiving the goods in a month. I was relieved that soon I will start up something to still be of taking care of my family. My wife knew nothing about it because I did not want her to start worrying about taking all the responsibilities by her own because she developed blood pressure when she had our last child , telling her about my job would have affected her health . I taught when I receive the goods by then she will not feel bad. I kept leaving the house as usual in the morning, just like I was going to work for my wife not to suspect anything. To cut the long story short my sister duped and blocked me , haven’t heard from her since and my wife came to know about everything , she sent my niece (my sister daughter )out of our house and she has been making life miserable for me. She doesn’t respect me ,even my children have no single respect for me. I know that I have wronged her by not informing her about the money but it was a mistake which I’m regretting till now , I can’t forgive myself but the pain and the insults I receive from her every single day , it’s unbearable. I cry every day with no hope , I go out every day searching for jobs and coming back late in the evening when she is already in bed to avoid being insulted by her and I leave early morning before she wakes up, I sleep in the parlour , she gives me food whenever she want , sometimes she only prepare for just her and the kids. Our rent expired on December I suggested that she shouldn’t renewed it , so she can use the money for the kids school fees meanwhile we can move back to my mother house till I can get back on my feet , she insults me including my poor mother, just because I’m poor and she foot all the bills , she doesn’t want to respect me anymore. I was thinking about moving back to my mother house until I get a job then I can move back with her again because living in the same house with her is leading me to suicide . I kindly seek for your advice