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pocohantas:
Forget about how a woman treats YOU.

As far as I am concerned, Naija men are the easiest to get a ring from;

Quick steps to hook a Naija man.

1. Speak against feminism.
2. Any thread on MIL/DIL wahala, be on FP, curse the DIL. Karma must catch up with her.
3. Be very pro men.
4. Be pro submissive.
5. Don't ever open that your useless mouth to say cooking, washing and all are not your hobbies. You were born with Persil and spatula for a reason.
6. When he asks for your acct number, develop instant ear problem.
7. Anytime he calls, tell him you are cooking so you can have time to go for mid-week service.
8. When he talks, listen, listen attentively.
9. Online, anyone that insults you, reply with "lol"..."okay Sir"...etc.
10. He will approach you or send a PM. Do your best not to change formation.

Now, I am not the only one aware of these quick steps. So, do not focus on how she treats you, she wants something from you, if she is out for you, she will get it. 1yr later, you are here saying she changed. She didn't change, face off.

Focus on how she treats people around her. People who she thinks she owes nothing. Very soon, those people would be your family, friends, gateman, employees, house help...etc.

Thanks a lot for the great advice.
I just hope I am not been unfair to her.

At times, I feel she is just bering herself being open, saying all her thoughts out and I should actually respect her for it.

Because many ladies definitely rank guys, assess them but might not verbalize their thoughts.

I met a lady in January this year, started out hi hi friends in the church

After hanging out a few times with her, I have the impression she is sort of looking for the highest bidder guy. She is pretty so understandably guys flock around. Might be unrelated, but she also has a sharp mouth.

The thing is she had a major heartbreak because it seemed prior to that, that she was sweet, loyal babe.

I don't know if with time and attention she will drop the sense of entitlement. she is caring to me, but to other people sometimes (I dunno) feels like she looks down on them.

At the same time, she is hard working, hardly drinks, doesn't keep late nights, yet I get a nagging feeling. I just want to know who she is. No one is perfect, even I have so many flaws.
So, should I  ignore this feeling, maybe my own is too much. Please advise how I can observe her true character? I want to see if I can help her grow.

Mobsync:
We all know the people who will get scholarship. This will definitely go the CCECC scholarship way.

I would love to get one mehn

Ciscogod:
Increase in salary will only add to our problem,

Reduce cost of living and everyone will be happy afterwards

People don't like to hear this. But it's the truth

Ok

I see

LivingFree:
This is all shades of weird... I guess that's how 'stories that touch' start. You can't tell anyone what to do but you can state what you won't tolerate, the question is are you brave enough to state it and then accept the consequences?

Sure I can, either face the music now or later.

MrBrownJay1:
bro, i am sorry if the above words offends you but thats not the aim (and they are not insults), talking about a "foul mindset", "insecurity" and "shaking in your boots" is all what you described above.... and no, i did not say you should do nothing, but you certainly should communicate with your babe, and let her understand how you feel about the issue. thats the only way to succeed here. forcing someone to be who they are not, is not the way.

Thanks. I get your point. What about this. Everyone is certainly different. But on such an issue like this, can there be an enforced compromise. E.g. Setting common understandable boundaries on what's accepted or not?

MrBrownJay1:
she was HONEST to you, why are you tripping?!



if you really did then there would be NO issue here, is it?



she has no problem with it, why dont you accept it, Mr "i trust her"?



are you guys in a r/ship or dictatorship?! how dare you think you should decide what others can/should do in their own life?!



if you had any faith in this woman then you wouldnt even care how men are.



she is absolutely RIGHT.



you CANT/WONT go all the way with such foul mindset of trying to control her. this is who she is, you can either accept her (as she is) OR let her be, but trying to force her into being who she is NOT (just to satisfy your insecurities) is definitely not the way here.



if you trust your woman, then why not? what so wrong with the act?! pls tell us what will happen in that strip club that got you shaking in your boots.

All what you said I know, why do you think I am asking.
- To get other's thoughts.
"Foul", "insecurity", "shaking boots" , why u been so provocative? Another man than me might have gotten angry.

I guess to summarize you are on the side I should do nothing but relax.

Olalan:
I really don't know how some people trust blindly, not saying your girl aren't faithful but some relations aren't healthy for someone who claims to be in a relationship.
BTW if they both got tipsy in such environment and got intimate would she come back and tell you. You had better start checking your status in that relationship.

I don't want to say what she should or should not do. I just believe some situations can be avoided.

[quote author= post=68219478]It is a Personal Decision i think![/quote]Yes I get its a personal decision but in everything there is balance

Ladies, what do you think, hope I am being reasonable.

My Gf went with her male friend. She told me herself. I trust her completely but I don't feel it's right and such acts should not repeat itself. I want to give her freedom but I know how guys are. She thinks I should just be chill about it. It's a mutually faithful rship. We have discussed going all the way.

Guys, would you allow such? Or can you hangout with your good lady friend - nothing sexual - in a strip club? And be like it's just chilling?