₦airaland Forum

Dollyak:
Preach.

BobUg28:
I don't have much to say about this but one thing our ladies should bear in mind is that 'this is Africa', and we must leave within the pace which our forefathers has established;trying to expunge the ethics of paying a bride price 'll definitely lure us into leaving like the western English world.

It's once said that "when you try following another person's footstep;you will never leave your own footprint." John Mason.

Africans let's learn to live by our culture.

Ciao...

CHM11:
Then he should go for his PGD because a BSC at 30 without experience won't change much.

dhammyg:
WAIT FOR INEC TO ANNOUNCE THE OFFICIAL RESULTS

dnacrystal:
The question is does the lady you love also love
you? You can't force her to marry you if she doesn't, neither can the Lady you don't love force you to marry her. You may have to look elsewhere entirely.

flexshop:
[size=14pt]Yes, marriage is a serious business, that is why you should use your head and make a good decision. Your partner can determine your lifespan to an extent. If you are sure of the womans undoubtable love, marry her. In future, you will say its my decision, I'll live with it. But if you marry someone you love and the person doesn't love you back, my friend that is a one way ticket to hell.who would you even blame. In a normal world, you expect to marry someone who you love and who loves you back equally, but in a time like this, you have to take a leap of faith and do the right thing.marry the person who loves you[/size]

Meggy007:
Op, I'm almost insimilat sh!! Right now. Dude likes me like a lat...I guess.... since he's willing to do almost to make me smile. Truth is I don't even feel 20% of what he feels towards me. And I'm not inlike/love with anyone anywhere else. I feel for him though so I'm doing my best to make him SEE he's catching all the feeling alone.

Marriage is not dating. Its serious business. Friendship/love/understanding whichever you chose to call it, is almost if not more important that money. When crisis comes its what'll keep you both running. So if anyone feel its 'secure' to marry someone who loves you, whom yu don't love in return, that person needs to grow the hell up. I hope you follow.

flexshop:
[size=18pt]mr man, be wise. You are a. Man, forget about love, its better the woman loves you than you loving her. Forget these 21st century wannabbes, if you loose that lady, you are on your own.I don talk my own[/size]

gommex:
From 8 in d evenin, light is steady til abt 7am d next morning for everyday

xtervaganza:
I'll say marry the lady that loves you





You won't regret it

liliangmail:
Costant! runin down our Credit makin me recharge every two wks

Godditex:
Op just let her go! I was in a similar situation with a lady and we dated for 4 years. She was loving, loyal, faithful and above all..... I DISVIRGINED HER.....I tried to reciprocate her love, but it didn't flow naturally from me. I wasn't happy with myself since I see her as my future wife. I endured the relationship to avoid losing her to preys (bad guys).

You know what? It was this same lady that put me through the greatest mess I have ever been into just this year. It was obvious that she can't be pitied anymore. After our break up, I found a lady that am so happy with. My feelings flow naturally, no pretence, no pity or one-sided love.

NB: Don't date or marry a lady because of pity otherwise, you will live to regret. Let her go and believe me, that would be the best decision you've ever make.

enibal:
@lawal pls like hw much is FCMB payin DSA

dnacrystal:
The question is does the lady you love also love
you? You can't force her to marry you if she doesn't, neither can the Lady you don't love force you to marry her. You may have to look elsewhere entirely.

temigracie:
.....Why should he weigh them??....Weighing and comparing them wont make him fall inlove with her....Neither will it reduce his love for the other woman.......

....I dont know........Guys prefer ladies they love even if she cant hold a candle to the woman who loves them deeply and truely.....

....Let me use my case as reference, my ex-bf always told me he knows he'll never find someone who'll love him the way I did....Yet he still let me go....Through-out when we were dragging the break-up issue, his parents and siblings stood by me (twas so unusual),....Perhaps they saw something special in me.....They had no choice than to let go since their son is hell-bent on dating some-one he loves

...Fortunately for him, his current gf is simply not dancing to his tune atall....I guess she gives him extra wahala and pain in the ass....Of which I made sure he was always happy.....To him, he is satisfied he is with the woman he loves, to him he loves her despite all the flaws she has and I never had......

..let this nigga follow the woman he loves......Let him not waste the wonderful and priceless womanLs time and energy...Better guys are out there for her.....who'll appreciate her worth...

..There's a particular yoruba adage, that says 'Oogun taaba fowo ra, eeyin aaro longbe'....

....Finding love nowadays is really hard, girls and guys are no longer smiling.....How many babes doesnt want ready-made men??....How many babes will love you despite the fact that you are broke??....How many babes are willing to suffer with their fiance before making it??....Tell me, who will stand by you and gives you a shoulder to cry on when you are in pain??....Its only a woman who loves you tirelessly....

babystathopoulos:
Knowing your personality would help in making your decision
Are you hot temperd? Get easily irritated?
If No, then you may learn to love her
But if yes, its better you are the one who is much in love, cos it doesn't get better..

LOVE is the bedrock of a fun and lasting union, both party must feel it naturally

You said you don't LOVE HER eh! After 2+years, how did you start a relationship with someone who didn't ve feelings for?? OR the feelings has diminished
You said she is a GOOD person so what's wrong with her too FAT or UGLY ?? There are obvously some things you desire in a woman that she doesn't have, try and list them out truthfully.. This will help determine whether you should hold on or free her for someone who would fall in love with her

Last bullet: have you ever love any other woman before?

adepink:
I will advice u to free the lady in Q since u r not in love with her. I wanted to say that u shd give it time so that d relationship will grow but strolling down, I discovered u both have being dating since 2012. its obvious u don't love her.
besides if u don't let go, u might not be able to start something new with some1 else. n d longer u continue d relationship, it becomes more complicated to end it. remember u r wasting her precious time.
above all, pray to God for direction