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Good morning Family, who knows a link to use in migrating to finland, New Zealand, Germany or Australia.

I prefer using the link of school. Applying to go for schooling.

Must I use an agency?

OloshoMan:
Tell God/Dog to eradicate the virus and stop social distancing. Of course he won't do it cos he's always having sex with Mary

I hope you know what you are saying. You moniker says it all. Seeking publicity.

Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

It sounds like autism. Does he interact freely?
Is he aggressive when he can't express himself?

Any speech difficulties or disorder?

armyofone:
That's great - family first i guess
Good morning

@ Joyfulgal please keep it up!. You are a wonderful person - Sourcing for help for your family is commendable! Please no churching pastors for prayers. Your usual prayers is okay.

Make sure his bed has nets, drinking water to stay hydrated, good food, vegetables, fruits etc
Like sassysure said, read through Abali's thread.

Thanks dear

sassysure:
Oh lala
He is still here o but don't log in again.
Hope all is well with him.
Joyfulgal, take your time to go through his posts. He is an encyclopeadia of anything sickle cell or related to it.
It's well.

Thanks dear. He is responding just joint ache and low PVC. He stays in warri but will deliver all the messages to my sister and ensure all measures are put in place.
Thanks

Greatzeus:
How this is strong I pray God give you the wisdom you need to take good care of him. It won't be easy but you shall overcome IJN

Amen

sassysure:
U get good memory
Shit
I almost gave myself headache trying to remember this name

Thank you

may01:
Op, my best friend is also a carrier of this gene.
Water is the most important thing you can give to your nephew, he should drink clean water a lot, at least 3 liters daily.
Also, he needs to take his medications religiously. There are different medications he can take to manage his pain, but you have to be careful as most of them are addicted to pain meds, due to constant use. You should contact a medical professional, like have a doctor's number, whom you can call whenever he's having crisis, as hospital visits are financially draining.
You need to be gentle with him, because after some time, he's going to be frustrated with taking so much drugs and missing out on so much of his childhood activities.

Also, his family needs to be careful with his hygiene, as they are easily disturbed by bacterial infections. They need to be strong and gentle with him. Teach him that none of this is his fault, and that this isn't a death sentence.

God be with you.

Thank you

sassysure:
U get good memory
Shit
I almost gave myself headache trying to remember this name

Thank you

may01:
Op, my best friend is also a carrier of this gene.
Water is the most important thing you can give to your nephew, he should drink clean water a lot, at least 3 liters daily.
Also, he needs to take his medications religiously. There are different medications he can take to manage his pain, but you have to be careful as most of them are addicted to pain meds, due to constant use. You should contact a medical professional, like have a doctor's number, whom you can call whenever he's having crisis, as hospital visits are financially draining.
You need to be gentle with him, because after some time, he's going to be frustrated with taking so much drugs and missing out on so much of his childhood activities.

Also, his family needs to be careful with his hygiene, as they are easily disturbed by bacterial infections. They need to be strong and gentle with him. Teach him that none of this is his fault, and that this isn't a death sentence.

God be with you.

Thank you

armyofone:
You mean Abali ?

Thank you.

frozen70:
Try and Google it and also get more details from the hospital and join the SS club to get more knowledge

Thank you

DBestDoc:
@ Joyfulgal
The post above covers most of what you can do for him. Daily folic acid intake and malaria prophylaxis with any antimalarial prescribed by his Doctor.(we use proguanil)

You guys should try to keep him hydrated (drinking plenty of water) and protect against mosquito exposure/malaria or any infection at all.

Any kind of stress whether physical or otherwise is not for him, extreme temperature exposures should be avoided too.

For him, prevention is better than cure. Following these rules will help to reduce the frequency of crisis he will encounter but doesn't eliminate the crisis.

There are times he'll have joints and body pains mild enough to be relieved with common analgesics but some may be extremely severe enough to warrant stronger prescription analgesic.

He must be taken to hospital when he's sick for proper management and care(no home remedies), pay mind to his health complaints.

Some kids are taken in and out of the hospital quite often while it's a rare occurrence for others. it all depends on how much his family invests in his wellbeing and luck to an extent.

You guys give him the best you can, support him emotionally too and hope for the most desirable outcome.

*Hugs to him

Thanks a lot

DBestDoc:
Yeah, lots of uncertainties but keep positive.

My heart goes out to the young man. It's a battle for survival, you guys don't give up on him. He can win this.

I've seen a case of SCD diagnosed for the first time at 39 in a first time mother in labour.

Of course she didn't accept she had Sickle cell disease 'cause she'd never been told or diagnosed prior and the investigation had to be repeated after much vexing and arguments from her.

It must have been very very mild for her to live with it undiagnosed till that age. Some people are that lucky.

From Family hx, 5 siblings 3 late, 2 surviving and she's one of the two survivors. Guess her other 3 siblings weren't as lucky.

LUCK LUCK!
God bless the Lad.

Thanks alot for the information. It will go a long way

sassysure:
I checked it but couldn't find it. I have been trying to remember his name.
Anytime I do, I will tag your thread. That thread has the most comprehensive and up to date everything on how to take care of a sickler from a sicklers experience.

Good luck.

My cousin is one. She is an accountant now. She take folic acid and anytime she says she is weak, know she is really weak and need to rest. Sometimes she will be full of energy today and will be so busy, the next day she is on drip.
I wish u guys the best

Thank you. Will continue my search tomorrow

merieam16:
hmmm...dis is serious.


Love is nt blind o, This is indeed a costly mistake


May God grant the boy good health

Amen and thank you

jidamsel43:
You need register him at any sickle cell foundation near you.

Thank you. Although they are in delta state. Will research more

sisisioge:
Wow! My heart just slammed on my chest. Biko go to the hospital and encourage his parents to do family planning. May the love that joined them together in the first place see them through this...may God bless the boy with good health. It is well.

Amen and Amen

sassysure:
There was a topic here by one sickle cell guy which ran for yrs I think.
The guy has deactivated.
Type sickle cell and search. I think the guy is married now.
All you need about this disease is in detail on that thread.
Good luck to you guys

Thank you. I will research now

I searched yesterday and didn't get anything. Will keep on searching

Pavore9:
Keep him away from junk food, vegetables and fish are highly recommended, vitamins and folic acid intake must be on a daily basis, keep away from high energy exerting activities, mosquito nets must be around to lessen malaria attacks and make sure you have a pediatrician who will manage him.

Though the road ahead will be bumpy but good management will be very key. My elder brother is a carrier of sickle cell and the journey wasn't a joke but we pulled through as a family, today he is married with kids who are AS.

Thank you. You have eased our thoughts. Heavy burden ahead and alot of uncertainties.

thorpido:
He'll need to be on routine drugs...folic acid especially.
You also prevent him from malaria and avoid stress.

Thank you

HoliMaree:
Get him a personal nurse asap

Thank you very much

NobleAngell:
7 years? Haba people still make this mistake?
Anyways, you need to see a pediatrician who can help you out. I must warn you, It's gonna be a long bumpy ride but God will see you through.

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Hmmmmm. Enquiring for my elder sister. It falls on us the family now. Reason I am gathering all the information I can get.

We need to be there for her

SweetCunt97:
Wow, I think going to d hospital

He is currently on admission but we are making plans on her to manage him subsequently.

It was discovered today. Someone suggested an Hermatologist Paediatrician.

So that's the next move. Thank you

Bola146:
Sorry for that. All you need now is prayers. Also try medications

Thank you

makems:
Please contact Nichole dietary consultant on telegram.
She is going to guide you

Thank you very much.

drskyfly007:
Best advice I will give you as a doctor, is that he should be taken to a federal medical centre or a teaching hospital, and demand to see a pediatric hematologist..(pediatrician specialized in sickle cell management).

Thank you Sir

Titay:
Having a sickled cell child is not a death sentence, with proper management, your child will live long in Good health. Don't expose the child to any form of cold. Also protect the child from mosquito bite and prevent the child from going through stress. Eat good food
and vegetables and fruits and avoid junks food. Of course don't give any multivitamin that contains iron they can't tolerate it. With God in your side. The child will live healthy.
If you can afford it Try stc 30 for the child call/ chat and let us talk about it. People on stc30 hardly have crisis. It is well with you and your nephew

Thank you Sir. I guess the drug is expensive. A burden too heavily to carry now. Will focus on the food and vegetables.

Someone suggested a government hospital. I will pass all information to her.

Lorazepam:
Any Govt teaching hospital/FMC should be okay, they usually have special clinic days for sickle cell patients.

Thank you Sir

Lorazepam:
First and most important thing is to register him in a reputable sickle cell clinic close to you, where he will going for regular appointments, then you'll be given a list of medications, that he will be on for life which will reduce the numbers of crisis and complications that may arise from sickle cell disease later on in life. You will also be throughly educated about the disease and things to avoid and danger signs to look out for.
Plasse register him in one as soon as possible, and attend the clinic as often as the doctor asks you to.
May God grant you strength, having a child with sickle cell disease is not easy at all, but with the right care and treatment, many of them will do well and live long.

Thank you. He is my nephew and they reside in Delta State(warri).

Did not know there are special hospitals for sickle cell disease.

Will research more on such hospitals. I have little knowledge regarding this.


Thank you

We just discovered my nephew has ss gene.

Please we need help on how to manage him. Food, supplements and herbs if possible.

He is seven years old

Nothing special we just treat him for malaria and typhoid when he is sick. But he just had his first crisis. He is not recovering reason for the full blood count and checking his blood group and genotype.