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Hello,

I am abt to buy a blackberry fone and i have my eyes set on a bb 9300 Curve.

Pls do help with review on the phone if u have used it or knows anyone that has

Hello,

I am abt to buy a blackberry fone and i have my eyes set on a bb 9300 Curve.

Pls do help with review on the phone if u have used it or knows anyone that has.

Thanks

Please are the fones new?

Abeg o!

From now, its hard to get

many guys when u fall the idea of i like u, u like me, so lets roll, they really misbehave.

Guys are really confused, they dont know what they want

U play hard to get - She is playing games , i don tire
U dont play hard to get - this girl must be cheap

U act independent, like u dnt need their money - she is too independent, she wont be submissive
u act like u are not independent n ask - she is demanding, i want an independent woman

Abegi, free me! When i meet the guy i like, i choose the model i want
When a guy likes u, he likes u!!!!!!!

beebop:
nigerian guys toasting skills were honed in the stone age.

imagine a guy hissing at a girl like he would his driver and telling her to 'come here'. WTF? any guy who did that to me was solidly ignored. or someone coming up to you and lamely saying 'can i get to know you?' seriously? seriously? can you be more original. If i 'got to know' every guy I met, I'd have a harem by now. Try to come up to a girl in a classy manner like making conversation and finding common ground before asking for her number. I can't count how many guys who in the next sentence ask for a number without bothering to converse or even seeing if the girl is attracted to him

I never insult but I just politely turn them down and some people really have issues hearing the word NO or thinking the chick is fronting when she's completely disinterested.

at poster, you need to step up your game dude. FIRST make sure the girl is attracted to you, it could be body language, the way she looks at you, MAKE conversation (if you don't know how to, pele for you) and THEN when there is a rapport, ask for a number

Thumps up!!

I dont insult any guy at all unless he wants to show him himself

After you have followed me around and become a nuisance, then insults go roll in

adagz 01:
SEX AND RELATIONSHIP ~ very important.the poor guy have sacrificed alot for you, y cant you just give your own part.note:not all men are that verbally(me),the guy dont just want 2 break your heart by telling you directly

Sacrificed?!!!! I have sacrificed of course or else he mite have not been around for that long!!!!

jennykadry:
@Poster
First off you have sacrificed your self respect by going after him like that trying to find out what exactly is happening. You sacrificed alot by even calling him even when he did not show up or call you. You are the one trying to work the relationship out and make it work, all he's done is ignore and play the childish fellow that he truly is.

Sacrifice my azz

My dear, i know o! but most times i take the stance of do your part and leave the rest for God o! i felt since he was the one upset, i try to find out whats wrong and then sort it out for the sake of peace.
I hope i didnt sacrifice too much o! after the two times i contacted him, i have kept my peace.

I take it all in good faith!. Sometimes we are roughly pulled away from roads that would not be good for us when we dont to walk off it by ourselves,

jennykadry:
He doesn't  LOVE YOU ,MOVE ON. How else do you want[b] NAIRALANDERS TO TELL YOU?SCREAM?[/b]

YYYYYYeeeeeesssssssssssssssssssss o!!!!

Running and moving on very fast!!!! God help me.

Once again, thank you all, Muah!!!

BoboYekini:
And i'd just met her the previous day.

But that was a girl u just met!!!!!!!

BoboYekini:
dont let the fact that he came calling the next day fool you.
a girl cockblocked me once and still slept in my bed. the next day, i was polite, asked her how she felt, what would she eat  but inside i was seething. Got her a taxi, gave her some change, the taxi zoomed off, i deleted her number pronto.
And i'd just met her the previous day.

these days, guys just dont dig that secondary virginity at all

Explains his behaviour from your own view !!!!
Well some guy that is meant for me would dig it cos there is no guarantee that the guy i let down my guards for would be worth it or wont still leave me.
I prefer to stay on the safe side, abeg!!!
Someday,some guy would dig it, that i Know.

Thx a lot for your contributions

TewMuch:
I dont think she is a virgin, i think she is a secondary virgin. Guys dont buy that at all. They think you want them to marry you at all costs before you give it up. This kind of attitude may even make her attract the wrong guys who will do anything to get in her pants. Promise all sorts. When he gets what he wants he will leave. Plus most guys dont want a woman who they dont know if she can satisfy them. Sex is a big issue in marriage. If you were a real virgin he may understand, but someone don enter the place before. Why cant he? Am sure he has found someone else that is not holding a carrot and a stick, so just move on. Sex is important to the guy, but not to you. Doesnt mean he didnt like you or wasnt serious. Most guys these days wouldnt marry you without entering the place. So keep hoping and praying your prince will come soon.

Yes sir, its a secondary one. Having gone thru some lil heartbreaks and stuff over that stuff, i got to realise that its not worth it before marriage and have since stayed away for a long long long time now. tht one made a mistake once does not mean i have to continue.

Sex is important to the guy, but not to you. Doesnt mean he didnt like you or wasnt serious. Most guys these days wouldnt marry you without entering the place. So keep hoping and praying your prince will come soon.
Guess you are right there, maybe its important to him and definitely not important to me. I think that i took it for granted that he knew who i was now and would not compromise, maybe we should have had it stated at the beginning. Surprisingly, it was never an issue with us, dont know why it is now.

And wots the big deal in saying that he is no longer going on cos we have conflicting views or we are not compatible.

Well your right, i would keep hoping my prince would come and maybe he would not mind the both of us waiting till marriage.Until then,

Please girl , just dissappear from his life!!!! Some Guys use marriage proposal to make girls shut their eyes to so many wrong things they do.

Dont see the big deal if my bf wants to lend some money from me, but when he does not pay back?? and also shouts on you when you ask for it back?? Haba!!! No respect dear and a big sign of cunning which you dont need.

Do u need to buy over his relatives? alright o!, if u need to, then when u get married to him, you wud be their doormat and greatest servant. we hv seen cases where the opposite and its bliss.

Swtheart, dont rush into marriage!!! Even if u leave the marriage, there would always be a scar.

Thx a whole lot for your time and advice!!!!

topup:
[color=#008855]Any person who let's anything interfere with their marriage is not serious. I'm not sure whether it's love, lust or foolishness, and I have my strong opinion on the issue, but I think the reason why some men treat their girlfriends better than their wives, is because of the fact that the wife is definite, she will be waiting at home, whilst their is definitely an element of spontaneity involved with the girlfriend, therefore he tries harder as he could lose her. Sometimes, they just enjoy the mere idea of chasing girls around and so they put the wife in the 'boring box' - even if the poor woman has lots to offer to the marriage, but the girlfriend becomes the interesting element to their lives.
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Word!!! Totally correct!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

deniyor:
He has told you it is over many times but you aren't listening. When you asked if you are still in a relationship, and you did not get a straight answer, that itself was your answer. If he comes back to you, it's cos he doesnt hv better options available at the moment and not cos of any yeye love. Gd luck.

Hmmmm,

[quote author=--190-- link=topic=518175.msg6804401#msg6804401 date=1285197722]hehehehe, see my children Inked_Nerd,Vic2k3, s.ohiemi and been over-seen by my wife omolola playing peacefully, ***aww such a happy home**https://yoursmiles.org/ssmile/action/s0142.gif[/quote]Please guys, ladies, ur supposed to be helping me out.

MRbrownJAY:
AND THE GAL REFUSE TO SLEEP WITH HIM?!?! i'm sorry to say: thats your reason right there!

not all men would wait forever. you have to understand how men function.
when keeping him on hold for so long, any gal can come and snatch that good concentrated sper-matozia he was keeping for you. any booty will feel like the "mother of all booty" after 8 months of no sex, and therefore, make this guy lose his mind for that new gal. . . . . . . . thus quickly forgetting about you.
thats the downside of holding people for ransom for too long with totos!

Hmmm!! He never ever made it  a big deal!! And if it was sex he wanted, dis was d 1st time he ever asked me, so once and he disappeared!!! It was never a recurring issue.

likeme:
@Poster, Please don't be under any pressure to give in to s3x at this time. The pain would have been much more if he has had his way and he just neglect you like that.
He might be going thru some difficult moment now and might not have the confidenece of sharing it with you.
Did you shout on him when he wanted it? 'Cause he might feel rejected as well and might nt want to hurt you with his words. Has he been agry b4 while you are with him for the past 8 months. How does he manage his anger? Will he just keep quiet or talk about it.

Just relax. If it is meant to be. It will be.

Thank u o! it wud be much worse if it was sex he wanted, i gave it to him and he dissappeared
I didnt shout o! we talked quietly to each other. I told him i was sorry, not ready scared and did not want to lose him. He said the same, tht he didnt want to lose me. We slept and d next day,he behaved very normally, he even came to see me at my hotel after work. And days after, he was still calling and doing all the normal things then ,

He manages his anger well, we always talk abt issues and normally resolve it, if not that day, the next. So if he was angry, he would have told me outright.Even when i went to see him at his office, he said he was not upset or angry, just lot of stuff.

TewMuch:
Obviously you are trying to make the guy marry you as soon as possible so you are holding back. All your games don tire the guy. Look for another maga abeg.

Of course not dear, i m young and not desperate for marriage and he knows this. so it aint an issue.
Everyone has a time in their life when they want to stop some things for good. well if he aint buying the secondary virgin stuff, i think there is nothing i can do.

wow!! life is tough !!!

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=518175.msg6802581#msg6802581 date=1285178856]@OP: I think you need to leave him. I know you care for him but he ovbiously doesn't have the decency to tell if the relationship is over. Just tell him that the lack of communication is destroying whatever you have that's left of the relationship.

What makes you think she did anything? Suppose the man is just a coward and doesn't know how to tell her the truth?
[/quote]Wow! this seems to be the general consensus o! Its very heartbreaking, cant believe he would do this but like they say, shit happens!!

Sorry guys! you have helped me much o! But one last question?

If he comes back, apologising sincerely, and i take him back?  

Am i stupid? or its just of those things in relationships? or,

[quote author=s.ohiemi link=topic=518175.msg6802508#msg6802508 date=1285178207]Then u really have done sumfin to annoy him,search urself honestly[/quote]Thats my wahala na and i am asking for clarification!!!
He called me that morning before he started ignoring me and was gisting with me normally? wot did i do between tht morning and till now o?

omega25red:
when you say long distance relationship did you mean you met online and communicated by phone for months until the initial meeting? because if that is the case, i sorry to say but he saw you and got turned off (sorry to say because no one wants to hear it but the truth is harsh)

I hope you didn't sleep with him either because home boy certainly is not interested anymore. He seems to be one of those no game immature boys who will say anything like talking about marriage to get in a girls pants and afterwards loose interest. I'm sorry but i would advice you to cut your loses and keep it moving and stop holding on to an idea of a relationship that doesn't exist anymore

Not the initial meeting? initial meeting in my own location and then we took it up from there?

Didnt do so, he tried to make an attempt but i told him that i wasnt ready and he was like y? we talked about it n he was like k,

Dnt understand guys? a guy wud stay with a lady for 8 months, call her, text her everyday, , provide for her, meet her siblings, show her to his relatives just to sleep with her and if she refuses, he just dissappears from the face of the earth -- (cant say if this is for him), and dont want to think that way. if that is true, then WHAT IS THE WORLD TURNING INTO?

Rocktation:
Thinking about it now, the thread starter never mentioned meeting him before she visited. Hope it's not really an on-line thing we're giving advice for here? Cos i'd have saved my typing skills with just a single word; SORRY!

No o! it wasnt an online thing!! we had seen lots of time before that. he has even come to my location more than twice and spent days with me, though i never stayed over cos i live with my parents, but this was the first time i was going to his location in the relationship.

Omolola1:
hmmn! common line

wots ur take on this?

[quote author=s.ohiemi link=topic=518175.msg6801721#msg6801721 date=1285171799]Maybe u did sumfin that REALLY hurt him during your stay at his location lyk continuous flirtin,gettin incessant calls nd txt msgs 4rm oda guys,if d guy is d jealous type,u shud call him nd ask him what went sour.or maybe he has found a gal dat has opend heaven 4 him nd he is no longa interestin in your platonic rel.[/quote]Nothing like that from other guys when i was with him!!!!

Hmmm, when i call him to ask whats wrong? or go to see him at his office? he says i would call you. seems like he is avoiding discussions!!

or maybe he has found a gal dat has opend heaven 4 him nd he is no longa interestin in your platonic rel.!!! Very heart breaking

abeg, let her go!!!

No medical reasons whatever!!! waiting till marriage is the best!!

[quote author=s.ohiemi link=topic=518175.msg6801429#msg6801429 date=1285169406]@Op d guy has heard some bad news about u,check your self nd your friends,if u are not guilty of any wrongdoing a badbelle has come to spoil your relationship.Tell your guy to tell u what he heard and clear his mind (if innocent)[/quote]My friends? because of d distance in our relationship, we have not met each other's friends face to face bt my friends knows he exists and vice versa. so i dnt know or think it kud be a reason cos they wnt be able to contact him.

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
this man doesnt want you any longer but hasnt got the guts to let you know, he has no respect for you or the relationship you guys have. move on with your life because you can bet your nairas that he has already moved on.

when that new relationship he is in will crash, thats when he will come running back to you as a spare tyre.

hmmm, very possible, bt all of a sudden? like yesterday, u say u love me and today, u just dissappeared?

[quote author=--190-- link=topic=518175.msg6801513#msg6801513 date=1285170082]https://yoursmiles.org/ssmile/action/s0123.gif Hehehehehehe, I love it when Guyz are tired of a Gurl attitude and body, https://yoursmiles.org/ssmile/action/s0123.gif they simply complain they are busy and tired and stuffs,

Ms poster.please carry your BAG and try the next Bus-stop,the guy is obviously tired~[/quote]Funny enough, we have never been intimate, he tried when i was there but i told him i was not ready he was like k,

Rocktation:
You just chill, girl. Don't be too fast to think that the 'it' he wants to talk about is basically your relationship. He may just want to explain other things in relation with what's distancing him from you. And yeah, there comes a time in every relationship when a lady/guy would give each other some space by not calling and all that, and for no plausible reason whatsoever. This may not be the case however, since 6months is a lil too early for that, but i advice that you wait it out and hope for the best.

hmmmm

Hello all,
Have dis little problem?Been dating a guy for over 6 months, he has started talking of marriage but we are in a long-distance relationship. I went over to his location on an official assignment from my work, all was well the first week, then d 2nd wk, he stopped picking or returning my calls. i went to his office, he said that he is not upset or angry with me but there are a lot of things clouding his head and he is trying to clear his head and that he would come to see me later that evening. I asked him if he had changed his mind about us, but he just said he would come and see me and we would talk.

He did not come that evening. I left his location later that weekend without us communicating and returned to my base. Two weeks later, i sent him a message and called to ask if he was still in d relationship? he said that he would call me to talk about it. Till this date, he has not called.

This is confusing? There were no quarrels or misunderstanding. He was loving and checking on me through out the first week, even the morning before he stopped picking or returning calls, he called me himself to check on me?

This is about 3 weeks now that he has not called me or stayed in contact. i have not contacted him, except when i went to his office and to ask where we were in the relationship?

Ladies? Have u been in this situation? What did you do? did he ever come back?
Guys? Could u help me out? is this a break up that he cant tell me to my face? why did not he tell me to my face the times i asked if it was a break-up if it is what he wanted?