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I also hate the Harpic advert, and d Fayrouz blondie stunt is simply disgusting.

For once I totally agree with Seun.

@Poster: I can't believe this is coming from a woman. I mean what the heck? You should be able to identify with the pain of the unfortunate victims of the practice more. Ok, so u don't want cultural practices to die abi? Before the intervention of Mary Slessor, twins in calabar used to be killed. In some tribes in Nigeria, men entertain guests with their wives, I could go on and on. i suppose you would want such practices to continue as well? All in the name of 'not wanting to be dominated by western values.' Psshiou, errant nonsense!

Congratulations man!!! May it be the beginning of showers of blessings in your life. Wish you and the bride a very happy married life.

correction: I definitely was NOT saying she should've seen it in the man b4 marrying him

@Bolarge: thank you for clearing the air for me with NaJa HaJe. I was also beginning to wonder o!

@NaJa Haje:
sister, don't misunderstand me. I seconded Bolarge's views on the fact that the woman shouldn't condone an abusive relationship by keeping quiet. And that giving the husband space temporarily should be used as a last measure. I definitely was saying she should've seen it in the man before marrying him. I already asked and she told me he wasn't like that before they got married (and I certainly have no reason not to believe her!) That's why I referred you to my earlier posts.

Do you know where she got her money from and if you're just going to be a willing sacrificial lamb? Ole!

NaJa HaJe:
@Bolarge & junegirl

You guys have got the wrong end of the stick ,  what am picking on is that your saying 'there were signs of his behaviour before they got married' it sounds like your saying 'u should have known',  'i told you so'. that kind of talk is pointless.

thats like crying over split milk. they are married. the deed is done now. the next step is trying to solve this issue.

You must have missed my earlier posts. Perhaps you should read them first before passing judgement on me.

ariblaze:
never ever ever call your husband's bluff
you might never know , someone he knows might have suffered from an episode

that wants to avoid

do you realise even him(because you sound reasonable thus i expect he is too)

will feel less of a man doing this, but probably figures out that you are more important than his ego

but its a start, drop your phone around so he senses you have nuthing to hide.

Sounds like you will do exactly the same thing to your wife!

@ Bolarge:
I second your views completely!

@funmeme:
Pls don't do it! Don't for once think he'll change when you both get married, he only get worse. Just read Igbonla's post about his sister and ask yourself if that's the kind of marriage you want. It's not love o, my sister don't be decieved. It's pyschotic obsession.

@sugarplum:
Really? He became this possesive after marriage? Does he have a complex? I mean, are you from a more comfortable background than him, do you have a better job etc? Anyway, what's done is done done, the issue now is how do you handle the situation? First of all, don't let him cut you off from your friends and family. They are the greatest support system in the world. You need them. Number two, are you willing to become a recluse for his sake? Will you be happy if you live your life the way he's trying to make you? If not, don't heed his jealous demands. Only a happy woman makes a good wife and mother to her kids. In as much as marriage is give and take, individual happiness is paramount. Make it clear to him that a reasonable amount of freedom is part of what makes you happy. You love him, you want to be with him but you want your friends in your life as well. If he can't reconcile with that, it means he can't stand you being happy. And that's a major problem.
For all the girls in the house: please note that true love is not possession. That you love a guy doesn't mean you possess him (or vice versa).If you love someone then you should want that person's happiness even if it means his/her being with someone other than you. You only love someone, you can't own him/her. Even a mother does not own her child.

@poster:
he's seroiusly insecure, there's no doubt about it and it has nothing to do with you. It'seither he doesn't have enough confidence in himself and cannot believe his luck in marrying someone like you, or he he loves you in a negative way: possesively, obsessively. If he continues like that, in time the novelty will wear out and you guys will fall out real bad. Sorry but my question is this, is it after marriage that you realised that he's like this or you knew during courtship and you thought he was going to change? If you were still courting, I'd have said don't marry him but now, you just have to patiently weather it out. All the best!

Yes, it's very possible. That's the whole essence of jazz, it's supposed to be subtle

Yes, it's very possible. That's the whole essence of jazz, it's supposed to be subtle

How come I've not seen anyone born on my day yet? I'm June 20th

correction: , reconcile with, she jazzed him

Well it's either they're crazily in love or just plain crazy. They had better just go ahead and marry themselves since they're both willing. If it works out, good for them, if it doesn't, some other people will learn from their mistakes. Personally, I can still reconcile a girl marrying a much older man but the other way round? Hell no. If he was my brother, I'd also be convinced he jazzed her!

Nefryn, I only just saw your post now, brilliant!!!

@Jagunlabi: thank you very much for your intelligent submission.
@Poster: do whatever rocks your boat so long as it doesn't affect the next person to you negatively. So many so called religious adherents are nothing but hypocrites anyway.

Everyone has spoken well and intelligently, well done guys!

Here's my problem with this matter: I'm a divorced man seeing a girl at least 25 years younger and definitely not as worldly as I am in such matters. With the 25 yrs age gap, I'm actually old enough to father her. And I go and sleep with her (young and inexperienced) when it's not certain I'm will marry her. What does that say of the man?

@Poster: Forgive me if I sound caustic, but where exactly is all these leading to? If I analyse my worth and post it here, what do I achieve? Will someone say; "hey girl at that age you're worth just that, c'mon let me help you make some more money" or will someone say;" what that girl is just my my age and she's already worth that much, I had better go rob a bank to meet up" I really don't see what purpose this is going to serve.

Now that's so downrigth annoying it's actually hilarious. I'd like to know the joker that did that site. He/She does have a sense of humour.

Hi Blackz,
I've also been invited for the Abuja screening on Wednesday. But you know what? I can't remember what exactly I applied for. Please can tell me what posts were advertized then?

A sore point for me is my money that went down with All States Bank. I had used the account while I was serving in Enugu to save my precious allowie. Because the bank claimed to be online, I didn't bother closing it after service. Went it went under and Ecobank acquired its assets and liabilities, I went to the HQ in VI to verify my account. To my dismay, I was asked to go to the branch where I opened the account to do the verification. I was working in Lagos and it wasn't possible for me to go to Enugu. So, my money went down the drain.

To think the AIT premises' located on a hill in Asokoro, quite a distance away from civilization; I wonder how they could possibly be constituting any form of public disturbance. Or has Dokpesi stepped on some powerful toes? Afterall, AIT is not the only t.v. station in this country.

I'm not a Niger Deltan, so I'm not holding fort for them but I think Asari's release was long overdue. Did u guys notice the difference between the robust man he was when he was detained to what he looks like? Were they trying to kill him in that prison or what? In any case since Gani Adams was released, continual detention of Asari and Uwazuruike smacked of personal vendetta. Why can't African governments dialogue with dissenting voices in the nation instead of imprisoning indiscriminately. There's got to be a better way of doing these things.

Na wa o!!!! All these just for food

@Seun:
I'm curious, is that really the way you think or you just want to be contentious? If that's the way you think, then your wife will be a very lucky woman.

@topic:
What the heck?! For every person there's a corresponding human being. If you're a man who believes a wife's major function is to cook, there's a woman out there (plenty sef) who believes so too, so go find her. And if you the type who thinks there's more to life than eating and excreting it the very next minute, there's someone who shares the same mindset with you, just find him or her. Shikena!

@Romeo
Thanx jare, guess Rodent was just trying to live up to his name.

@Waxxy
U sure u won't be better off in the financial sector? Believe me, media work is the most tedious work on earth. U'll be overworked and underpaid and most of all, it's going to take up all your time, and life. But if u can endure, u'll be famous, u'll know powerful people and u'll go places. Your work will open doors for you and eventually you may make the money after all. But men, u go don suffer o. I'm not trying to discourage you, I just want you to know whassup.
Another option is for you to go the Pat Utomi way: make money in the finance sector, then float an independent programme.

@Arare:
T.V stations are always in need of presenters. If u r good, and u've got confidence, just walk in to see their HR.
You could also try LINK65, it's the newest on the block and it's recruiting. All the best

@Oludunamis:

Pls can u tell me more about the FG scholarships u mentioned in a similar thread? Where and how can I apply for them? And r u saying that's the only hope of getting finance for study in UK?

Congratulations!!!!!! What's the pay like?

Have you seen it?

Ok, I'm sending you an email right away. Thanks.

@Zion:
Thanks bro, I'll keep ma head up. Did you go ahead with processing your visa without settling your finances. Did they ask about it in the embassy? Can you tell me more about the funding opportunities, isn't there enough for two?