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The attributes that attracted me to my partner , are many but I think the following stands out-
1. She maintains her natural looks- no false lashes, no hair extension, false nails,etc
2. She is selfless and have a big heart - she just can't stop helping people, even when she knows that they are lying.
3. She is not self conscious of her beauty, which is the most amazing of her qualities because she is a real diva, a stunner without any makeup! I am shocked when she asks me if I am flattering her or paying her sincere heart felt compliments.
4. She is emotional and that is what makes her tic, and drives me both mad with anger sometimes, but definitely crazy about her, always.
5. Her spiritual life is amazing, even in the face of trials and sailing in life's stormy seas.
I think that's a brief summary of the qualities of my fiancée !

I have read all the comments so far and I will say it's a bit comical. I will say that it is easier for single dads to get any lady that they really want, than for single mom to get guys to be involved with them! I think that it's just a case of economics on the part of the ladies, and a case of comparative scale on the part of the guys.
As for me, I am currently in a relationship with a single mom. Though, it's not all sunshine and roses, but with understanding and love, you can bet your ass that we will make it.
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Bro, where on earth did you acquire those pics from? See how the wooden pestle long!! Abeg, I take God to beg you. Do not scare the non Nigerian ladies off this thread because they might think that it is a tradition for married Nigerian women to pound yam for their husbands!
Guy, when you small for your area, u ever see woman pursue her husband with a pestle? Funny sight!

lefulefu:
guy forget those china made yam pounding machines
i be traditional african man and when i wan pound yam na mortar and pestle i still dey use oo .Even if i wan chop my eba with egusi soup or vegetable soup na my my hand i dey use oo .me no jus dey send using fork at all at all .i go wash my hand wella with soap and water settle down demolish the food .
omo dont u think it will be kinda sexy seeing that your oyibo wife or girlfriend pounding yam for u ?
Imagine seeing that her hips going up and down as she dey pound the yam gBam! gBam!! gBam!!!

My bro, like I said earlier, I can't stop picturing it in my mind, the pounding action! It will make the food sweeter ! But to pound yam, that one nor be joke o!

Someone drew my attention to a comment that I made earlier, "I just can't stop picturing her with a pestle in front of a mortar!" It simply means that I love the idea of seeing a white lady or a non Nigerian lady pounding yam , that is why I CAN NOT STOP PICTURING HER POUNDING YAM! I didn't not say anywhere that I CAN'T PICTURE a white lady pounding yam! Please, to pound yam is not easy for those that grew up in Nigeria, not to talk of someone who grew up outside!
To the OP, ( Cherlene), and other ladies currently out of Naija but interested in Naija, I mean no insult and I can assure that if you want to pound yam the local way, there is enough wooden mortar and long pestle in the local market, to go round all of you.
Stay blessed !

swallu:
When you talk of foreign women if you refering to American and european women then as a nigerian i will tell you that the main reason nigerian men are dating these women is just for papers and foreign currency.Believe me if these were not present then nigerian men wont date a western woman.Western women are known for being rude and unladylike and many of them are killing their men with divorce alimony and money for child support.
A western woman would divorce a man over the most flimsy excuse a guy did not buy a gucci bag for her that will warrant a divorce.Look at Kim Kardeshian for example.Her marriage with her ex hubby lasted for only two weeks and during her marriage with kanye west he promised her a deal of ten million dollars if they got seperated under five years.now thats a typical western woman for you.So apart from papers there is nothing appealing about a foreign woman and i know many nigerian guys here will agree with me except if some of them here are not just being honest.

Bro, you are wrong! Let me give you an example. Can you tell me any family as rich as the Ibru Dynasty in Nigeria. All the kids of the Ibru brothers are married to non- Nigerians! You can google it because it is on record! They are as rich as Croesus, and rumour has it that they marry for wealth and for beauty! So forget the paper or money issue.
There are scammers but there are also genuine articles too! How many sincere guys do you know that spend 15 hours per day online, surfing the Internet with multiple fake IDs, and browsing all dating sites for unhappy and lonely women ? Your answer is as good as mine! There is a higher probability of the foreign lady meeting a scammer online than her meeting a nice guy! The reason is simple- the bad guys know the button to push and the right pressure to apply for her to open her thighs and account to him, aside using voodoo!
If not, how many times have you heard that a female doctor was scammed by a Nigerian doctor ?

lefulefu:
foreign women know how to pound pounded yam?

That's what you have a pounding machine for! Way back, there was a National ( now known as Panasonic) yam pounder, only that many people were not aware. There are lots of made in China and made in Nigeria yam pounding machines of high quality.
But guy, u bad o! I just can't stop picturing her with a pestle in front of a mortar!

esosuo:
Which kind long long tins be dis na, una dey plan.to write project for dis trend or wat ? Pls limite the words so we can follow ,patience to read long tins no dey at all

Sorry bro! I just dey tell that babe my mind! She nor know say Naija babes dey vex nowadays!

@ Teasel, I can't help but laugh! So with the smelly bodies of your brothers and their animalistic and abusive behaviour, they managed to hook up two " lovely" ladies? I can't help but wonder about their taste in men, since your brothers are part of the "typical" Nigerian males that you know! Naija boys dey smell? U dey learn! Enter my area code, and see how wheel barrow pushers dey package! He go toast you and you will only realise his real occupation when he is through with trapezing like Tarzan, through your jungle! Have a nice life!

teasel:
Sharing frustration? Lol! The fact that most of you can't 'share your frustration' without insults shows how primitive many Nigerian guys are.


I don't attend university in Nigeria. I know many girls who are in various universities in Nigeria. Their parents take care of them yet many of them still work hard and save because they want to further their eductaion abroad. I don't make friends with prostitutes.


Yes, I have brothers. One of my elder brothers got married last summer to a Nigerian woman. Beautiful and intelligent. I love her. Another will be getting married this summer to a non-Nigerian woman. I love her too. My brothers don't move with ill bred people(both males and females) so they have never experienced any of these so called demands. Neither have their friends.


What I bought for my boyfriend is none of your business. What I got? The fact that he doesn't have the mentality of the 'typical' Nigerian guy is more than enough for me. A guy who can afford to take a girl to Dubai for Valentine's day (though we all know most Nigerian guys can't afford this) will not date a girl that'll give him singlet and boxers. This is a fact.


Story
Stop moving with prostitutes and ill-bred girls.
But then, you're what you attract.
We all know what the 'typical' Nigerian guy is like: dirty with intense body odour, primitive, animalistic, and abusive in every way possible.
As I said, you're what you attract.

I can't help but laugh at your piece!
It is a classic example of the reason why Nigerians are asked to write TOEFL exam, though we are native speakers of the English language. Captain Blood will always say this maxim- " reading is not comprehension! In your haste , did you notice the inverted commas sandwiching several words?
1. I was RIGHT! You don't understand the reality of the pressure on the modern day Nigerian girls, and it's simple. You don't school in Nigeria! Can you tell me just one job that an undergraduate lady will do in Nigeria that will enable her to save up to 2.1 million naira after four years on campus? That is the minimum that is expected from her if she is going to school abroad in the Schengen zone because of tuition free schools. Let's not talk about the UK , US or Canada! Talking of prostitutes, I will never discriminate or insult anyone for his or her choice of life! A lady sleeps with men, goes for regular medical checkup and is paid for her "job", and another lady sleeps with her boyfriend and have several one night stands and flings in the name of love and sexual attraction. The poser is this- can you tell me the difference between them, or the smarter of the two?
2. Let me give you a simple advice when it comes to men. You can not tell the depth of the heart of a man , except he is on his deathbed! You say you know your brothers but I tell you that you are wrong! It is easier for a man to discuss his past relationships with his ex than to tell his sister about it! You can take it to the bank! That was the reason why I said you should ask "gently". Have you ever attended a night club with any of your brothers' friends? Can you swear on your life that your brothers have never been to a strippers joint? Don't ever in your life, believe that you know the full history of a man, until he is dead! You will be shocked by the tales that e will hear about him! Boys will always be boys !
3. You are not a guy. So you don't know where the shoe hurts! It was a rhetorical question to the guys and I bet you that the answer is unanimous and the vsilence is so loud and deafening !
4. As for prostitutes,it is the oldest profession worldwide! Have you ever wondered why in countries with the world's Highest GDP, there are prostitutes? HaVe you ever been to Amsterdam ? You will be shocked! I don't pontificate or insult people about their choice because I don't know the journey that brought them to that point!
As for me, I am with a lovely lady who will make Juliet green with envy, and I am contented with her! You might think that you know it all, but I assure you that you are far from the daily realities of life here in Nigeria! As for ill breeding, I know the son of a billionaire convicted of armed robbery, and his father died from the shock! You think been able to speak Queen's English and been political correct, is a sign of a well bred lady? When you are challenged by the vissitude of life, and it seems like the weight of the world is on your shoulders , tempted on the crossroad of life changing decisions, then, you will understand the meaning of the word, prostitute and an ill bred girl! Auf wiedersehen!

teasel:
Sharing frustration? Lol! The fact that most of you can't 'share your frustration' without insults shows how primitive many Nigerian guys are.


I don't attend university in Nigeria. I know many girls who are in various universities in Nigeria. Their parents take care of them yet many of them still work hard and save because they want to further their eductaion abroad. I don't make friends with prostitutes.


Yes, I have brothers. One of my elder brothers got married last summer to a Nigerian woman. Beautiful and intelligent. I love her. Another will be getting married this summer to a non-Nigerian woman. I love her too. My brothers don't move with ill bred people(both males and females) so they have never experienced any of these so called demands. Neither have their friends.


What I bought for my boyfriend is none of your business. What I got? The fact that he doesn't have the mentality of the 'typical' Nigerian guy is more than enough for me. A guy who can afford to take a girl to Dubai for Valentine's day (though we all know most Nigerian guys can't afford this) will not date a girl that'll give him singlet and boxers. This is a fact.


Story
Stop moving with prostitutes and ill-bred girls.
But then, you're what you attract.
We all know what the 'typical' Nigerian guy is like: dirty with intense body odour, primitive, animalistic, and abusive in every way possible.
As I said, you're what you attract.

I can't help but laugh at your piece!
It is a classic example of the reason why Nigerians are asked to write TOEFL exam, though we are native speakers of the English language. Captain Blood will always say this maxim- " reading is not comprehension! In your haste , did you notice the inverted commas sandwiching several words?
1. I was RIGHT! You don't understand the reality of the pressure on the modern day Nigerian girls, and it's simple. You don't school in Nigeria! Can you tell me just one job that an undergraduate lady will do in Nigeria that will enable her to save up to 2.1 million naira after four years on campus? That is the minimum that is expected from her if she is going to school abroad in the Schengen zone because of tuition free schools. Let's not talk about the UK , US or Canada! Talking of prostitutes, I will never discriminate or insult anyone for his or her choice of life! A lady sleeps with men, goes for regular medical checkup and is paid for her "job", and another lady sleeps with her boyfriend and have several one night stands and flings in the name of love and sexual attraction. The poser is this- can you tell me the difference between them, or the smarter of the two?
2. Let me give you a simple advice when it comes to men. You can not tell the depth of the heart of a man , except he is on his deathbed! You say you know your brothers but I tell you that you are wrong! It is easier for a man to discuss his past relationships with his ex than to tell his sister about it! You can take it to the bank! That was the reason why I said you should ask "gently". Have you ever attended a night club with any of your brothers' friends? Can you swear on your life that your brothers have never been to a strippers joint? Don't ever in your life, believe that you know the full history of a man, until he is dead! You will be shocked by the tales that e will hear about him! Boys will always be boys !
3. You are not a guy. So you don't know where the shoe hurts! It was a rhetorical question to the guys and I bet you that the answer is unanimous and the vsilence is so loud and deafening !
4. As for prostitutes,it is the oldest profession worldwide! Have you ever wondered why in countries with the world's Highest GDP, there are prostitutes? HaVe you ever been to Amsterdam ? You will be shocked! I don't pontificate or insult people about their choice because I don't know the journey that brought them to that point!
As for me, I am with a lovely lady who will make Juliet green with envy, and I am contented with her! You might think that you know it all, but I assure you that you are far from the daily realities of life here in Nigeria! As for ill breeding, I know the son of a billionaire convicted of armed robbery, and his father died from the shock! You think been able to speak Queen's English and been political correct, is a sign of a well bred lady? When you are challenged by the vissitude of life, and it seems like the weight of the world is on your shoulders , tempted on the crossroad of life changing decisions, then, you will understand the meaning of the word, prostitute and an ill bred girl!

esosuo:
Lol ,meaning we need to open one bukka sharply oh ,u cook and do the tasting in case while I wash plate ,division of labour

This why I said u dey vex! But I get two tiny question
1. Who go dey collect the tithe and offering of our buka?
2. Wetin Cherlene go do for us if we employ am?
The name of the buka will be " UR WIFE DEY LEARN".

teasel:
Lmao! Reasons to think otherwise. Who the hell cares what you think?

If you were asking me to give you reasons why most Nigerian males can't answer a question as simple as the op's without showing their usual crude behaviour, then, just maybe, I wouldn't mind given that to you.

Please, do not take it personal ! Instead of blaming Nigerian guys for sharing their frustration on this thread, offer constructive arguments!
1. Did you attend a real university in Nigeria? When I say real, I mean government owned universities , not the upgraded "boarding schools" run by private and religious bodies! When you see the girls on campus, how many of them that you know, can actually boast of their parents been responsible for their extravagant lifestyle?
2. Do you have a brother? If the answer is yes, ask him gently to tell you his "financial experience" with girls! Tell him to tell you what he knows about the current demand of girls from his friends! For your information , men are the greatest gossips on earth!
3. Can you tell us truthfully what you bought for your bf during the last Valentine day, in comparison to what you got! From personal experience and swapped stories from most guys, even if you take a typical Nigerian girl for shopping in Dubai as a valentine day gift , wallahi, she will still buy you a boxer shorts and singlets! Guys, na lie I dey talk?
4. So taking many factors into consideration , don't blame most guys for sharing their experiences. It's not women bashing but a simple explanation of their view about the highly monetised senses of most girls nowadays. They want to dress like Tonto Dike, live like Diezanne Madueke, have powerful friends like Okonjo Iweala, throw fabulous parties like Mrs Shagaya, and be on the cover page of magazines like Mrs Alakija, but they are not ready to bend their back to pay the price, exercise patience and enjoy the fruit of their sweat! So sad, but infinitely true!

esosuo:
Offers coming in by the minute now oh ,bros no.tell mi say u na pro cook too oh ,every guy forming pro cook now wen we taste the tin maggi fit pass pepper ,abi u get anoda offer?So the offer don't pass mi by if u still accepting offers cherlene I can wash dishes oh I no get body to competite with pros

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Bro, jokes apart, I can cook o! I learnt from the best in the game, the head of the cooks in my extended family , my grandma! Take that to the bank coz if she rearrange sour soup, he sweet pass fresh soup when my mama just cook!

Cherlene:
Very well, sounds pleasant.

Cherlene

Pleasant reply. God bless you as you proceed on your culinary journey! I will be there to guide you along the way,if you accept my offer!

esosuo:
Lol men are vexing oh

U dey vex too na! If Cherlene drop one big bowl of chicken pepper soup for Middle of Nairaland boys, boys go lose teeth because of the hustle! This election update dey cause hunger across Nigeria!