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yorke1: Ameachi is going to regret this! ganging up with the Northerner to unseat your brother. They have ruled for so many years with nothing to show for it. And you believe Buhari to perform magic now, wake up Ameachi the dreamer! Tinubu and Buhari only need your money for the forthcoming election. be wise!

lynpetra: Start ignoring her partially,gurls no dey dey comfortable when an admirer starts giving them little attention.don't
be surprised wen she gives you a call after sometime


And if she calls like,"hello long time.Hope you are ok....blah blah...".No rush o.And don't ever stretch the convo.End the call by telling her you wud call her back,bit don't call till after one week .When finally you call,tell her"....besides I got something for you when I shopped recently..."Don't allow her to come and visit you to take the gift,drive,hand her the gift and be on your way ASAP.Promise to visit her only to change your mind,believe me its painful to sleep with make up after a disappointment at night .Allow her to call you,but promise to call but don't call,just send cool messages ONLY late at night(that impression wud give her a wonderful feeling ),My brother stretch her heart and I tell you,you go chop her kpomo well well eventually to make up for lost time. Wow! What a lady! Have been following your comments throughout this trade and I must say that u come across as someone who is quite open, devoid of pretence and matured. Keep it up lady. Cheers




Oh God of Mercy!Na me be this283...likes.
*kneels down hands stretched*please mmu nnem,na Nna,I need more likes because there is some money I need to grab,part of which I wud use to redeem my pledge in my church,please press 'like',and may God bless all.Amen.



Followed ur comment throughout this thread and suffice to say that u are quite open, reasonable, matured and also possessing a good sense of humour. Well done brilliant lady...

snthesis: actually this thread has been quite useful, i just realized i applied a different model to my approach with her, which failed.

wat i need to do is simple, create an atmosphere of affluence "Effizy" without necessary spending cash- all she apparently needs is an assurance that this dude can "take care of me/maintain my standards"

actually come to think of it,- its quite primodal- our ancestors did d same, the ones with the large farms got better/more wives. a man with one wife then was considered lazy and cudnt attract a "hawt" spouse and mostly like had a small farmyard.

Jman06: No body is saying u should marry a never-do-well. There's difference between a layabout and a guy who is just working hard to make wealth either because he wasn't born with a silver spoon in his mouth or that he lost the silver spoon. Anyway we are in a free world and you are free to date/marry whoever you choose to,however,if i'm to advise,i will say that girls should go for guys with whom they can build wealth because that way she will have a say in the man's life. Why do you think the estranged first lady of enugu state was disgraced out of government house the way she was and had little sympathy from the public? It's because everybody her as an opportunist who wanted to reap from where she didn't sow. I'm sure if the same thing happened to the governor's first wife,everybody would have stood by her. You can go ahead and hunt for the Dangotes,u might even be lucky to find one who might probably be nice and loving, but woe betide u if the reverse is the case. Don't come here and start opening threads like ''He treats me like rag'' ,''All men are evil'', ''i cheat because my husband doesn't care about me''. U wont have my sympathy if u do.

addictiv: I actually dont pity some women when I see what they go through. They are the archirects of thier own misery. I am in the oil industry and I see how guys treat women like garbage after they are tired of them due to the fact that these girls have made it obvious that the are just out for the money. Imagine being with a girl who doesn't call to know how you are doing or if you are having any troubles they can offer solution to, but they ll call you to take em shopping, complain about how their make up and what not has finished and they dont have money to buy a new one. I have always wondered when relationships became a trade by batter franchise that the reason why you ll wanna date someone is because they ll elevate your status. Its so insulting and demeaning.You are asking us to put our shiny armour when we wanna ask a lady out but doing so makes the lady think we are just trying to show off. A responsible wealthy guy wont walk up to a lady and play all his cards cos he would wanna know if the lady is really into him or just after his funds. The personality of the guy ir lady should be the first and primary thing being considered and not his or her brief case. I have a family friend who just got married. She is young, has 2.1 and is from a wealthy home, most of her siblings are abroad. She married someone who isnt a gradute and is also a trader of building materials. She has a car, he doesn't. Judging from ur opinions the guy shouldn't be married to her kinda person cos he is terribly below her social class. Her family supported her even though her dad is a prof. She belives in this guy that even though he doesn't have much, 2mao would be better. Life isnt fair to anyone but that isnt a reason to treat a fellow human like trash and totally write em off because they dont meet your present status. Morning y'all.

bigx: Agreed, Like I always say, If I cant make a Girl better than than she was when she met me.........

ogugua88: My mother and I had this discussion just yesterday. I showed her a picture of a guy that was trying to get close to my sister and I. Her response? "Some guys don't date within their caliber." I was telling her, if I were a man, I'd evaluate myself inside and out and toast accordingly, for the girl I want should have no reason to reject me. I wouldn't be surprised if many of the guys who bash Naija women in this section are the lacking guys going for Kim Ks.

I've always wanted to open a thread for women to share their toasting experiences (but I haven't because I already know the result of such a thread). The kind of offers some of us get are ridiculous, and we're still made out to be witches. If I tell you I was asked out on a date by a homeless man at a train station, who would believe me? Yet it's true lol.

That's always been my motto anyway. If you want the best, then be the best and attract the best. A guy who is seriously trying to get a woman should give her no reason to say no. You don't have to be wealthy or even handsome. Just carry yourself well. If you're lacking in some areas, then make up for it elsewhere. You're not handsome? Then be compassionate. You don't have a job? Then put your skills to work and tell her your plans. No man or woman is without a flaw. Any man who puts his best foot forward can get the woman he desires. After all his attempts, if she says no, then the man isn't the problem.

Your post is a breath of fresh air, DN. Well done.

bionicdude: one thing you failed to spot out is dat ideye is not a footballer.

abdulslutsky: Rythm or no rythm

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caseless: haba , Bavarian or bmw, these bois jst played wc qualifier on Saturday, less than 48 hrs to this game, and they put up such a wonderful show and u are stil not ok? sms!

dabossman: I think some of these financially successful ladies need to maybe change or broaden their circle of friends.

I noticed a trend recently which sort of formed this opinion. I realized that a number of financially independent ladies who finally got married after waiting almost endlessly, got married to guys they knew from many years before; probably in secondary school or university, or in the neighbourhood they grew up in. These are guys who knew them before they started earning the fat salaries. Guys who know their true person and not some perceived diva status. In some cases, even when the guy is obviously earning less than they are, it didn't pose a problem because the guy knows where they are coming from and appreciates and respects the fact that they've made something positive of their lives over time. The really key in these cases being accessibility because there was an existing relationship.

So maybe these ladies need to get outside of their usual circle of friends who hangout at only the poshest of locations and mingle more with people who are not necessarily in your "social status". Let these people get to know the real you. It won't de-rep you or cheapen you.

This also applies to guys who say there are no good girls out there. There are, you are just not searching in the right crowd.

kulyie: 1.Ego will never let me
2.i cannot stand any man telling me what to do,where to go,what to wear,when not to go out,when not to party, who to talk to,who not to talk to,infact,i cant take it.
3.two egoistic people cannot live under the same roof.
4. i cannot give up my independence for nada
5. After studying the regemented lifestyle of many african married women,e.g wake up as early as 4am,tidy the house,cook for mr husband,get the kids ready for school,prepare for work,come back home, take the kids back from school,prepare supper for mr husband,wash etc,i cannot live such a life.i refuse to let circumstances dictate the kind of life i live especially when such sacrificial life might be appreciated or might not even be appreciated
6.mrs wife always comes last in the list of priority in many marriages
7.i dont have to be distracted by any man did this and that nonsense,inlaw craps etc
8.no need hoping,wishing or praying no one cheats etc
9.share my salary with nobody except the people i choose to
10. Live my life for nobody since no one is looking up to me or waiting for me to do this and that for him.

wasak: 1. they are not confident, they are arrogant, I may have to say this. there was a time my pops went broke and mom was d 1 feeding d family, she maintained the fact that she was in control and till date she cares to tell whoever is ready to listen (She's a good person but She's still a woman)
there are several other situations I've personally witnessed.
2. No one restricts a lady from buying things for herself, the only problem is when she starts buying for the. man, when she starts feeding the home, I tell u, any man in such a situation will turn houseboy unless he knows how to play his card with women. a man may feed. his wife. for. 10 years without having to mention it to a third party, but if. a woman does Same for a day, all her friends would know!!!
3. it's a general thing for women to Look down on people below. them in social status, the beautiful ones Look down on the less beautiful, the wealthy ones Look down on the average ones, the intelligent ones look down on the less intelligent! y do u think most women want to appear flashy? it's not necessarily to attract men, in most cases they do so to diss their fellow women....
as a man... I know my Bleep.ing onions, once beaten, shy till eternity!!!
if u c a humble woman praise her parents...

tobezekiel: still nt all women. and the ones that do.. ermm, I wont totally blame them. whn a woman is financially independent and too soft she might or will be taken for granted by male opportunist.

Temitoper1: thanks bros