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fresh_dude:
@Dayokanu.Heard what you said and that's my conclusion.Now the problem is how do I break ties with her without looking like a total irresponsible clown which I'm not(just wanted to do the right thing you know?),and looking like a complete fool to my church folk where I'm now a VERY active member.Not that I desire anybody thinking of me in a certain way,but I have naturally built my reputation as a straightforward stand up dude,all of a sudden I'm not really married after looking married for almost a year. The public doesn't matter in the long run but then, it's dicey man.

Please leave the church where it is and take care of those souls; yours, the child's and the girl's by making sound choices henceforth. You sinned, ok, the deed is done. For now, stop minding people's opinion until you have settled the situation. You've had advices. Buy your own peace and do not force yourself into something you might really regret.

andromida:
Hw did she treat u bad in the past? From your story it seems u were alwys calling her wit free calls and she felt if u truly like her u can spare some loose change (sacrifice) to call her during the day. She thought u cheap. Instead of u to explain to her that u are broke and can only afford nite cals u broke up wit her.

I think back in those dys you were both immature from the look of things still immature.y dnt u get to knw her now instead of assuming she is after your cash.women will alwys want a financially secure man who can take care of a family.Stop goin abt with the golddigger tale in your head.

Sound view!
How can you shout "bad treatment" when the lady just spoke her mind? Maybe -you might deny it-, your calls were the harassing type at undue hours. Please work on your communication lines before jumping into conclusions. How would you say you love her and not have enough guts to call her during the day to make yourself heard? Anyway, she keeps speaking her mind clearly. It is up to you to open up and give yourselves a chance (and don't waste this one).

Nekai:
[size=22pt]The nerve of that woman impregnating herself without her poor husband's consent![/size]

Exactly! How dare she?

How about he taking part in whatever contraception method they hopefully discussed to use? He could learn to read her calendar!
Anyway, to console himself, let him think: What if the wife had given birth to twins at once?

SMH

They say "Ladies and gentlemen" and not "Gentlemen and ladies"

But as said, watch that stubborness; "everybody is wrong but me",

loool I guess "chic" was there for "cheek"

Who slapped who?
MIL slapped her daughter so what's the fuss abt?

ROFL Thank you for the joke lool

Please go and read again; the MIL slapped her SIL lol

Hi,
I need help! My husband and I are married for a year and a half now. He is 27 and i am 26. My husband is too close to my mother in law, emotionally and physically. They peck and hug each other all the they they spend together. so much that they even lie down on the bed hugging each other. Their relationship is pure, but their closeness makes me uncomfortable. He is the only kid. We live separate from his family but, they talk to each other everyday. He even makes comments like "Im missing mumma" and talks to her like a baby at times. When i tried telling him that their physical closeness upsets me, he got very angry and he hasn't been talking to me since then. Please help, am i sick to feel this way? do i need counselling?
Thanks

Awww feel so sorry,  You are barely married and you should be the ones spending time cuddling and whispering, etc all the time.

Whatever happened to "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall[i] cleave[/i] unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh."? How can you two become one when there is another one involved? It is important that parents contribute in helping you people being one, you two have a home to build and the woman is not really helping.

Man and woman need to leave their parents. You should have a place that your husband gives you and vice versa. Try to smoothly talk to him, and start taking your place; share more and more sweet moments with him, take part in their cuddling so much that the MIL understands she is the "other" woman and understands she can trust you (she handed him to your care didn't she?). For the love and respect you share, please set boundaries with "outsiders" to your marriage, so that none of you feels belittled or jealous. And this man needs to take good decisions for the sake of your marriage oh.

Take heart, go easy but hold on to what is yours.

Thanks so much[b] fellis[/b] for the transcription, not everybody could browse/listen.

OMG!! lol

Please oh, the topic is love not war (smh).

It is called "Denial of pregnancy".  For one reason or the other (a woman who believed she could never get pregnant (again), a woman in an unstable relationship etc), the body unconsciously obeys to the "unbelief" and will not display the usual signs of pregnancy. Recently in France, it came in full light and some women confirmed it happens.

For more: http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denial_of_pregnancy?wasRedirected=true

Here is a tough case: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8104195.stm

Yes

Sure they are different, if the aim of the blood test is not to find out specifically the presence of the HIV virus.

A blood test can be runned to check for example the blood cell counts (red blood cells, white blood cells, plasma, insulin, neutrophils, etc, ) to help in the diagnosis of diseases such as diabetes, hepatitis, or find out the "sickle cell" genotype, etc,

HIV screening will focus on finding or not the virus.

Floss regularly (once a week), you'd be surprised to see all the stuff your toothbrush couldn't take out that eventually got rotten and smelly,

Bravo girl!
I commend you for using your brain early enough in this matter. Just keep strong and maintain your standards.

Up!

Kay-pawpaw knows the full reply his wife gave him. Please don't try to confuse him. He is ready to work on his marriage and that is good! Let's not be interpreting the wife's message. As a lady, i will just stress that women want to be and to feel loved. And giving a hand from time to time is a clear way of showing some care.
Bro, keep working on this with your lady, as you people get to understand each other's language.
Oh, did i read "for men?" I'm out!   

[Quote]You mentioned that most women r nt virtuous women based on what? your ex goin back to her ex? what u hv to understand is that the dating game is complex it is possible in the first few months (even yrs) for someone to contemplate between partners it is nt a crime! maybe she liked the two of u at the same time and was trying to decide who was the best and because of your initial reservation n suspicion which manifestd in your treatment towards her YOU pushed her further into the arms of her ex.
You say u knew her ways which were what? it is possible that u jumped to the wrong conclusion also u guys dated for 5 yrs people change mayb she was tryn to change n u wldnt let her many girls hv past and discussing things with her would hv been a much more matured route. Instead u chose to "waste" her time because what, u r God? theres the yoruba sayn that loosely translates to "what u won't eat dnt bother smelling it" basically if she wasnt the type of girl u were lookn for u shld hv set her free a longtime ago n let God bless u.[/Quote]

Very well said sugar pp!
May guys read this and try to understand things from a girl's point of view.

Interesting!

Good food for thought.

Thank you poster!

i will be getting married in the next couple of months and my fiance is insistin that once she slips the wedding ring into my finger, I must have it on at all times, she is always saying of[b] what use is getting a diamond ring from Dubai if I wont put it on[/b]??
Now here is my problem,I dont like wearing a ring on my fingers coz it makes me feel like am trapped and I feel when I put on a ring it will be very tight and as such I wont be able to remove it and as such my finger will have to be cut off, you can call it phobia
My question is,is it mandatory that you must wear your ring at all times when you are married?

If you don't like wearing a ring, start sparing the money and get one that is not so costly. And talk to your fiancee, try to make her understand how you really feel about having a ring 24/7. You'll surely find a compromise.

Good luck 

It's not so hard to understand this woman.
She was married but never got what she could call a matrimonial home, married but living like a single. If the husband would not sacrifice one of their jobs to offer her the home and care she deserved, why would she not act like an abandoned lady no matter how much they talk over the phone? She was second, their jobs were first, that's how she might have read the situation.

Wouldn't the husband offer her some kind of pride? Some home she can call theirs? She never even had a honeymoon! He seems a careful husband but i can't get how he just missed this first delicate period of their marital life.

Well, poster, you look a wise man, up to you to correct your mistakes. Apologize to each other, and i know you both will definately make it.

Well, since I have already found true love, i will simply go for the money!

Hi there,
It depends,  How (where) did they meet / agree to date? Virtually or physically?
My view is that unless the guy can't guarantee responsible (financially) for the girl, he better not be tieing her down with weak promises.
And what's the girl's attitude too?