lola.luv:
*WHO THE HECK DUG OUT THIS THREAD? Kanou, are you the one responsible for this great injustice? I am seriously blushing out of embarassment here! Lol.

Ait then, an update:
The guy in question still didn't speak up completely. He would start with saying:
Lola, I want to have an important talk with you, and then he'd chicken off. I don't know why, but that was the way it happened.

On an occasion, he introduced me to one of his guys as his best friend. And in the course of the conversation blurted out he wanted to wife his best friend. But for this guy to talk to the chick directly, his mouth just wouldn't open.
So I decided to ex the issue, or atleast move past it.

Eventually I and another fine, young brotha got closer Coincidentally, I've known this other guy for a couple of years too (since we were teenagers) and he has been tripping.
Back then, he was one of the few who dared to knock on our door to ask of me (my brothers being very protective).

Well, what can I say? Only love can heal the wounds of love, sometimes!

Ah ah! Lola, we needed closure, naw?

I'm glad that you're happy, whichever way you chose.
Too much subtlety killed it. It's not your loss.

I hope the most timid of guys can learn from this: "Find a way to speak, or even write". And lady, if you too can't voice it out, move on. (Though, deep inside, i believe in the virtue of talking -even the most delicate- things out, with the people we care for.)

Are the quadruplets all girls? If yes, they might still have to try for a boy

Speechless...

The obstacles look endless, yet you held... GOD is able!!

GOD IS GOOD!!!

Awwww I so danced at the good news! We are grateful for this miracle. She shall live and tell of the goodness of God.

Congrats Lenny for your tenacity all along.
(Sorry for not reacting often as I was out of network, couldn't read any of the PMs).
I rejoice with the family, much love to the girls. If they ever come to France again, I will be glad to welcome them.

Singing "My eyes have seen, my ears have heard..."

Who's the best? NS!!!!!

naijasexy: This story would be continued on the 20th because I've got exams now.
Later.

Ok, here we are, the 20th.

Let's continue!

Praise the Lord!!!

It wasn't easy, but you handled the whole situation well. Bravo for keeping your dignity and for protecting his all through.

Now you are truly his wife, congrats!!

I am surprised to read my user name, if this is really about me...
I don't know how to send private messages, but if you wish, you can give me your e-mail address. :-)

Hello!

I haven't read all comments but this situation reminded me of a TV program about children an association would bring to France for heart surgery.

This association struggles to offer an operation to children born with a cardiac malformation.

Located in France, it regularly welcomes the children for the time they need to be surgically taken care of.

You can visit: http://www.mecenat-cardiaque.org/realite.html The link is in french, I'm not sure it is found in english.

Just my contribution.

moremi2008:

This Nairaland is full of oloriburukus oh! The poor girl wants to wait until she finishes serving in a few MONTHS and they are already accusing her of infidelity! What does Ajegunle have to do with Paris? How did A turn into Z? WTF are these people smoking?

@ the OP, tell your friend to go take a cold shower and calm the fck down! What's the rush? What is a few months of waiting in the grand scheme of things? Are they going to be married for years and years?! Given all you've said, your friend's girlfriend is prudent. The first year of marriage shouldn't be spent apart in different states. What your friend needs to be focusing on is saving money for the wedding and the babies!

My brother help me ask wetin they smoke,

@OP, please take the advice here. The first year of marriage is delicate enough to be spent apart like that, especially the first months.
Let him save some more money, and stop fretting over nothing.

sexkillz:

Do that and you'd have fallen for the oldest trick known to man! You'll expect that ring till thy kingdom come! Make decisions without a beclouded sense of reasoning! The only thing that should make you even consider accepting him back is a wedding date! Someone else had said so earlier!

OP, you have your advice here oh! It's up to you.

And please remember that marriage does not have the same value in the nigerian context as it has for germans. It is very normal for two Germans to live unmarried and with kids, never pressurized by anyone, and to never think of marriage. He does not mean evil, but you have to reaffirm clearly what you want and not move an inch forth until both of you have agreed to get married. You have known yourselves long enough, so either a ring or you keep apart (or you keep "expecting". 

Eyaaah, I feel so sorry for the guy.

This is a well brought up guy, who is simply asking for some courtesy, especially when he was thinking that all went well. Why would she not have the simple decency of a feedback with him, a simple text message?
It is okay guy, you will definately find a better behaved and sensitive girl who also loves classical music. Not everybody is mean, even when you have treated them right. I feel for him. 

According to the Bible, what God longs for is a relationship with Him.

The word "religion" itself appears 4-6 times in the Bible (talk about relevance!)

So start talking to God, longing for that relationship in all sincerity and watch.

Yes!!!!!!!

It's so funny and romantic at the same time!

Any update?

Yes you are.

Stop going round and make up your mind!

Good article.

Thanks!

He went as far as his anger 

Good for him if that helps him recover, though I doubt.    At least he won't owe anybody any explanation.

If their relationship was valuable enough to lead to marriage, he could have handled things differently, like this man:

"Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly."

Still so hilarious LOL

In ten years, if he never thought of buying and moving out, he really is to be blamed.
He can thank God for his wife.

That means he was only paying a mortgage (or contributing to the acquisition) and now has a place he can call his (depending if they signed a prenup or something).

Good for him (in the real sense)  .

It would be a good thing if she could get involved one way or the other, in helping the widow (on account of you both).

Get her busy with showing some love around, even show her how to do so, so that she can thank God for what she has and stop acting like a spoilt child.

Tell her what you told us here, she might start to realize she is overdoing things.

Think well about how peaceful you want your home and how respected you want to be and let her know. See if she understands and complies, or else do not expect her to change after marriage, just as she did not change after your engagement.

Give yourself some time to make your points clear, and decide. Do not be afraid to take tough action, it is about your whole future!

Do the right thing!

Dear Poster,

Have you found your gem?
Please come advice your sisters on whether or not they should hang on to their well-meaning dreams of a rich man, or if finally money is -really- not all that.

Could you pease give us an update?
Thanks in advance

Any update?

LOL

Well spoken, Dyt.

Poster, this is just the occasion to discover a trait in your man, he doesn't seem generous, that is a fact.
But that does not mean he cannot improve. As a woman who would not think twice before giving a helping hand, and weighing his attitude with his "love" words, this might shock you but we are really all different.

If he is your man, and he listens to you, just like a mother who teaches her kids generosity or solidarity, bring his attention to this, and gently let him know what you would have expected of a friend in your situation. Take it easy, and you might be surprised that he just did not know, or know how to do things.

It's alright, this is part of discovering your partner. Do not miss having a clear calm conversation with him when possible.

Cheers!

More! More!

WOW, what a story!

I'm in awe at how the power of love and forgiveness can take one out of the pit.

Very happy for you, poster.

TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!

Thank you very much all contributors for this wonderful educative thread.

About using space to its maximum, I have a question. I have seen in Europe and in America, private houses with a basement (level ground -1), that is either used for laundry or study or play space with medium windows to let light in. Have you ever thought of this, and how difficult could it be to implement in your home-based projects?
By the way, the convertible house plan is a nice idea.