₦airaland Forum

Lostz:
life is survival of the fittest. even humans must survive

I hope humans don't start eating one another when the time comes.

DahOriginal:
Finally its ready

What's the name of this soup?

anthropizzy:
Whose so ever that is found guilty of human trafficking should be sentenced to death by hanging because such individual(s) are just malevolent and heartless. This is man's inhumanity to man.

I wish am a governor am going to wage a mean war on human trafficking and sentence guilty ones to death.

Even your English sentence construction will not qualify you for a class captain.

Governor ko, Farmer ni.

Some of the reasons for coming to the bank can equally be performed on the Apps I guess.

Nigerians sef.

Wetin do ya wiper?

crackkhaus:
- You don't visit him on your own without his invitation
- He wants you to visit everyday of the week, probably to do nothing else but have sex.
- The money you need is to buy stuff for his own kitchen.

See, break up with this guy and dey your dey.

You will marry him once he shows you ring, then come on Nairaland after 5years to tell people how he changed after marriage.

@bolded,

What's wrong with that...& if your brain is not overheating, why would you even think he fvcks her everyday of the week.

You women always make it look like y'all don't like fvckn the hell out of us.

Nonsense and buratai.

Genset:
Read all the story and the comments . The only thing I can utter is CHAI . But wait o o.p, so the major reason u married ur husband is RELIGION. Inu kwa? Maka uka?why smart people like Regina marry becos of money. The story and comments they shock me walai. I don't think that ur husband is redemable o. God please, don't let the stories I read here be my reality. Help me to make a good choice . God please, don't allow my emotions to becloud my sense of reasoning when it's time. I partly agree with bukatyne when she said women make choices when choosing partners. It is up to us to make a good choice of husbands and fathers to our kids. It may sound harsh the way she puts it but it is the truth. I mostly notice that poor men have the biggest EGO, why is that? God please , am begging on my knees , remove broke or poor men from me or before me . Why is it that Nigerian women hardly leave abusive marriages? I really want to know( no pun intended) . Some will say it's because of the kids while others will say financial constraint. Are they enough reasons . The o.p clearly suffers high B.p and she is still there, why? ( no insults please I just want answers.) Some of these women even earn more than their men and still decide to stay in this toxic marriage. Again, I ask why? Why do families still give birth to more than they can cater for ? What is the role of modern men if some of them can put food on their families' tables? Sincerely, African women why do you lots in bad marriages still stay ? I really want to know. Is it inherent in the black race to keep managing till u drop dead for the title of 'MRS' ?
Please no one should insult me . I dey abeg oo




Cc pocohantas
Bukatyne
Cococandy
Dominique

@bolded,

If you can figure out why y'all still love your criminal-politicians despite the rot in all facets of the economy, then maybe you will understand your question.

Funny ppl everywhere.

ekineme:
I saw this post late but I will still drop my comment; I took my time to read your post am I have really learnt alot, I think I v 80% of the attributes of your husband except the beating and unappreciative tendencies.

I think the solution is for you to take a stand, Don't apologize and tell him since he has failed to appreciate ur little effort you can't kill yourself, tell him you will cease to put effort.
Bliv me he will wish for ur old self.
Make sure you don't carry out the threat once u v noticed a change.
He will change

Your advice is tantamount to confrontation & may not necessarily be helpful. Hope you still remember that majority of men don't like to be challenged.

Rethink your approach coz one size doesn't fit all.

dominique:
What did wisdom profit her? Hypertension! Spending scarce funds on taking care of her health caused by constantly pacifying her bullish husband. If that's what wisdom is about, let me be unwise.

Bullies will continue to torment their prey till he or she stands up to them. Their preys' weakness energizes them and they won't stop unless something drastic happens. This man in question does not even care for her well-being, imagine telling his spouse she'll just die for nothing. Is that the kind of person to keep appeasing and respecting? If he calls her stupid, she should call him stupid back. If he calls her useless, she should call him useless back. If he goes violent she should treat his fuckup when he's asleep. By the time he realizes that he's no longer dealing with a meek puppy he feels he could taunt, it's either he sits up, pack out or swallow sniper. Either ways she should be prepared for a life without him.

@bolded,

Now, this is exactly what it's about - this is the end game.

IT IS WELL.

blissbliss:
Hello madam,

The Lord grant your home peace. Amen!

I’d advice you put up a safety net. You can’t be earning and finishing same, I’d advice you lower your standard of living.

Please, SAVE. You need a backup plan. May we not be put to shame.

This may be without the knowledge of your spouse, but it’s with an intention to bail you both out in the rainy days.

God bless you, don’t give up on your family, things would get better.

Cheers!

How does she explain this when the husband eventually finds out - wouldn't he think she has a plan B.

She will need to be very careful coz this may cause a big crack in the trust btw them.

Mind you, they live together.

candy2016:
Good evening NL how is the lockdown in our different areas. Please I need ur help if u know of any man at the age of 50 years and above who needs to settle down with a God fearing and caring woman please contact me on 09085553566 or 07030810434 someone so dear to me is available. No insults pls

Why 50 & above , why not go for a young blood?

Haaaa I see what y'all are tryna do there, hope it's not what I'm thinking.

dominique:
That's why she needs to strike back, talk back, FIGHT back. Men like these are like wolves, they won't back down unless you face them and fight back. She has been calm and respectful all these years, what did she gain with it? High BP. Mutual respect is what makes marriage work not one spouse demanding for respect by frustrating his spouse all the time.

Wisdom is profitable my dear - @bolded is brash & is mostly a recipe for disaster.

Wisdom is Profitable!

Mbliz:
Tozilly i want to add to what u just said. We dnt have a clear knowledge of his financial background or work background. At the same time, men generally are ego centric by nature. I just feel that he is been frustrated because of his current financial state. He is not able to take total responsibility for his family so he gets frustrated. A man who is responsible wants to be in charge, control, command respect and all that.It is normal to get sick once in a while but men generally dnt feel sick like we women do except on critical cases and when a man is sick, give him money and that man go well. So she should just try and develop a savings culture for herself. And encourage the man to do more. Suggest business ideas. And some times too when men are going through their rough moments, they want to be left alone. They need space. So i suggest u give ur hubby some space. Dnt get him choked up. When he needs u around, dat moment just flow with him and when its the opposite, give him space. Dnt try to force things. His attitude will get u pissed but try not to bottle up any ill feelings. Find possible means to be happy. Encourage your hubby when ever he feels less of himself even if he doesnt appreciate it. Communication is key. Keep it when necessary and when otherwise change some rutin

@bolded,

I realize that women are quick to fall into temptation of holding onto this notion thereby failing to understand that as true as this may be, men also have feelings and we are constantly faced with troubles/challenges which are peculiar to us.

We often have reasons for our actions, however silly some of these reasons may look, therefore are not just some species that enjoy kicking off at the slightest chance.

As you mentioned earlier, communication is key & by same, coupled with RESPECT shall a woman understand her MAN and his world - we're not difficult to understand.

lastchild:
Is she 19? How old is she please

16

back2sender:
Confirmento, Jagaban cannot eat FFK left over tin tomato, it should be the other way round. Jagaban get CLASS!

Make una tell FFK to come eat his left over la bianca tomato paste from yeast

They don't know the meaning of JAGABAN nor who he is.

Babaj02:
Ojukwu food being eaten by others since 1805

Chai... oja mi lara je

farouk2much:
i dnt know
Why this beautiful lady marries that ugly man wey no dey shave..... May be he point a gun on her...... That force marry

Who u referring to?

Polchiz:
FFK is not sure if other men are not sleeping with his wife.
Other men must have uselessed her before he married her.
You should be bothered about that.

@bolded explains how bitter you are on the fact that an Igbo woman spreads her luscious thighs for a rich&handsome Yoruba man to browse her paradise as he pleases.

What do you even mean by 'uselessed her'?

Funny ppl everywhere

pocohantas:
No problem at all. I just dey talk say we no kill person, we are doing our best. Na isi ewu and small stout cause all this nonsense.

Send the pics to me privately.

divineappo:
why do I feel FFK is the one behind the camera

Lol

Sense no go kee u

Polchiz:
The same way other people chop his wife very well before he married her.
For your information, FFK has never seen Bianca pant.

Even Bianca will give you a dirty slap for lying on her behalf.

Nonsense and buratai.

pocohantas:
Lol. We no kill person...

Can I see pics of your tummy please?

blackboy:
Not true. It is because of Ojukwu that APGA even exist in the east.

Off point, I can see how you're trying to be hypocritical with haywire 's submission.

Your hypocrisy is topnotch.

haywire07:
Ojukwu's manhood lives on
It would be the other way round. She would rather spend many nights, free of charge, with Jagaban so he could help her win a seat in her region.

Afterall, her people have never been good to her nor her late husband. Her people have always rejected the Ojukwus in every election

Truer words have never been said.

pocohantas:
Yes, I meant block.

Lol , jezz messing with you darling - no hard feelings..

Mariangeles:
OK. Lemme settle the matta: Ice block

Lol ...u ehn!

pocohantas:
I don’t use milk in my garri. Just sugar, ice and water. What you see is block.

Did you mean ice cubes?

Come to my house.