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there's a girl on NL who was talking about things she likes about her hubby and she included that he likes to smoke "skunk"

most people didnt say a word

Hmm

obviously watching Eddie Murphy garbage

n je "okro" wtin be that?

and how is her abuse less genuine?

oyb:
assuming the story is true - i say divorce her

lol why na?

can't he just "report her to her parents"?

or maybe he should "check within himself to see what would make her cheat on him"

or "pray for the spirit of patience and forgiveness, after all tyhe next woman he meets might even be worse"

"the devil you know is better than the angel you don't"

blah blah yada yada


Oh my mistake, that's only when it's a guy that cheats

davidylan:
What her past says is that she's not someone to take seriously since she doesnt particularly have a history of good marriages anyway.

Like JJYOU said . . . only a disaster of a man will marry a woman with a prior divorce + child baggage and 8 years his senior.

and what does this have to do with the situation? she married him so its ok that he beat her up cos she/he didnt ignore the signs?

are you saying all single mothers dont deserve another chance BTW, might wanna think that over before treading that line, David else you'll hurt someone dear to you.

what stance? she's mentioned a particular situation and you people are bringing up garbage that has nothing to do with the thread at hand.

Let's see what the dudes will have to say in regards to this.

Before that, OP get a STD test done before you make any decision. when you get the results, then weigh your options

I guess being a divorcee shows that she deserves to beaten up

Good job, you guys.

T is taken, you obsessive manwhore

oyb:
see unmarried boys thinking that life is pure black and white . . .


you will never know all the truths about a person until you marry him/her and live with them under the same roof.

Oyb, you've sincerely been missed on NL

JustGood:
Oyinbos don't do extended families. They do immediate families so they don't want others in their relationships. Nigerians can't have that. Our society is completely different from theirs and we should not try being like them. We always need the support of our friends and families.

Yea so why would you mention that in regards to Bridget who obviously wasnt raised with these beliefs?  

what happened to having regards to women? cos you disagree with her, you have to insult her?  

Most guys from good homes will never go against their parents wishes so the woman can be assured that if the man misbehaves, she only needs to report to his mum.

and how many oyinbos do you see bringing in-laws into their business?

B.t.w stop insulting michelin just to make a point jare

davidylan:
That is not true AT ALL . . . i know many  white chics who don't think that way. Infact many i know will ask you first if you have a steady job, steady income, stable extended family before committing to you . . .

Many ko plenty ni. Those ones are few

JustGood:
David has valid points. Its not about her going back to a low-life guy.

Its a lesson for other girls to look well before leaping. Many western orientated girls will just fall for a bling wearing failure of a dude who has no regards for life or who has never been serious about any good thing in life and they think that everything will be rosy for ever afterwards.

Some of them fall for fraudsters who spoil them at the outset of their relationships because they don't care as long as the guys can buy them champagne

this thread isnt about "and the moral of this story is. . ."

It's about her own particular situation and what she should do now that the deed is done. The whole "well you should have done this and that" is irrelevant.

JustGood, while I see what you mean, you seem to forget that she is NOT of our culture. She's a white Brit. They believe in "I see love therefore it's love".

How we deal with things is completely different. Cant happen to me cos Im not stupid and even if I were for a brief minute, I know my people will wake me up. I take traditional things seriously in that aspect.

people do stupid things, make bad decisions. Doesnt mean you should all be implying she deserves being a punching bag to a silent lunatic. The fact that he did this while carrying his kind makes it even worse

. if you read my very first post here before trolls invaded it and turned it into another "bash nigerian men part 986" - you shouldnt let him back into your life if you value it.

You took it back, did you not?

and if you indeed you stand by it, why mention her now being a single mother unless you are implying that she's better off staying with the brute?

if there's any consolation, he's most likely added her to his will

To those yarning dust that people willing get themselves into situations like this

while some people purposely ignore warning signs, there's a reason that in Naija, MOST TRIBES have "Iwadi" which is the parents do a deep search on the person you are about to marry

You think if you could only go by little things/face value, such a tradition would exist? Some people are such sociopaths that you'd never know the kind of danger you're in til they snap. Women are also very guilty of this.

Dont know why some of you are acting like such a thing is impossible. Also she stated that his behavior was nothing like this before they married and this was the first time he ever even hit her so what is the problem?

Cant accept the fact that it's a Naija dude that you just rather dump it entirely on her head?

davidylan:
. . . and another fatherless son is welcomed into the world . . . and they'd be surprised that he too hits his own wife.

The world has gone mad.

why are you so freaky angry? Gosh you become so unbelievably CREEPY when it comes to things like this. Seriously, it's terrifying.

Should she stay with him til he kills her? Seriously, that better in your eyes? all in the name of not being a single mother? better for the kids to be orphans? what gets into you when it comes to topics like this?

Yea she said that his behavior turned her off Naija men? So? why do you care? There are quite a number of dudes who have said that "Naija chicks and their money grubbing" nature have turned them off  which is why they now only date asians/carribeans, etc yet you are NEVER there when such bullshit is said.

How many times have you agreed with guys saying they rather be with jamos and stuff cos supposedly ALL naija women lay like fish in bed? Would you like for me to quote you cos I can

The girl is obviously shaken up and angry and saying whatever, how can you be so malicious in looking down on her cos you are bothered by the way some of us replied her situation. If you have a problem with our replies, direct it towards us and not her. You keep saying "what about white people". What does white people have to do with this? Who doesnt know that most of them are sociopathic murderers? However this thread is NOT about them

She's a horrible person cos she doesnt wanna die? She doesnt wanna stay with someone who could have caused a miscarriage for her? So she's disgusting in your eyes? Better calm down and quit freaking people out with your creepy outbursts.

MacBook Air is best as a coaster.

apparently parents not being malicious brutes is abnormal in Pennywise's village.

bridget007:
He never punched before marriage, this was first and last time, what scared me more was as I lay on floor in shock gasping for air he told me very calmly next time he would kill me. He will never get the chance for another time, I am withdrawing my spousal support and he can go back to Nigeria when his visa is revoked. His family is welcome to come and visit and see our son, he can have contact via a webcam over the internet with his son

Good idea. He'll think twice next time before laying his hands on anyone.

I wish you luck and focus on your kids.

didnt know dudes were into lame celebrity gossip

NL can be so embarrassing at times. Genevieve has never mentioned anything about her kid except that she has one and it was early in her life

people claiming to be father or no father is crap to sell lies to jobless people.

Apparently they found the right audience

Fantasy isnt suppose dto be convincing

abi you really think that there's a Middle Earth?

Figured wizard was Osho

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Holy smokes! I just noticed true blood on the list
Go go go HBO [/color]

It's between Dexter & mad Men

vescucci:
Ooh yeah. The prestige is my second third most favorite Nolan movie next to TDK and Memento. I don't know why you chics are being sentimental about Hugh's character though. Sure, he got a bad deal but it wasn't Bale's fault. Granted Hugh was a better magician but he also had great funding, a wise mentor/assistant and more fame. He was self-centered and too proud. But in the end, sha, they both got what was coming to them. Lovely films.

P. S. I forget characters names shortly after every movie, sorry.

Maybe because there never would have been rivalry between the two if Bale didnt kill Jakman's wife with his ridiculous knots.

That's what caused the whole thing

How is Eagle Eye better than Wanted?

I can see you are proud of what you've got.

Any reason why anyone shouldnt be?

revoke it. He obviously doesnt care for the kid hence the punching

Let him go back to where he belongs because seriously instead of feeling remorseful, someone like that will most likely come back and try to kill you.

Revoke his visa and move on with your life with your kids.