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It's not THAT difficult if u put ur mind to it. My dad is an example, and he smoked for over 50 years even. Good luck to u quitting though, if u really want to though.


Plat, u r blessed o!! Give me small nau



Why didn't God just create us equally?? lol

Kidulthood.

Poster, don't put up with a liar next time, please. . . for ur own sake.

Nah I haven't but I've had Muslim school mates preach to me out of nowhere.
I know. . . Christians seem to take it too far sometimes.
My cousin got beaten up one time cos of this lol. Taught him a lesson.

amhurting:
but is that normal? can there be spiritual undertones?

the lies he told me are synonymous to tsunami, yet i forgive him and even loved him more

i will stop crying. am already feeling better. but its tough. i really thought we had a great relationship that will weather even the worst of storms.

Nah, nothing spiritual bout it. Personally, I believe everything happens for a reason.

In this ur case, for example, God prolly used ur ex to get u to the UK so u can find the man ur destined to be with. I'm just saying!

He's a liar? Ahhh! That's not a good thing o. . . how/why did u put up with his lies?  

Sounds to me like u did have a good relationship. These things do happen my dear.

Take heart my dear. God will see u through.

This is deffo break up season. . . . some people have got the disease, big time [They're the relationship version of Judas]!!!
As in, for no good reason there's break ups here and there. The thing is begining to annoy me sef.  

Why are some of us focusing on what she may or may not have said to him??
At the end of the day, guys too say things that ladies don't like to hear.


What I'm trying to say is, people do change JUST LIKE THAT, without the gf/bf doing or saying anything.

You can be the best bf/gf in the world, and even have the best relationship ever, but one day one of u will start having silly feelings, feelings u may not be able to control. These things happen. . . and when they do, both parties will have to find a way of moving on, unless they are patient and will rather wait for the other person to wake up!! But please, don't waste ur tears. Save it for when ur praying to God.

Don't muslims do this sort of thing? @Abu

davidylan:
I'm sure he had back-up in case of power failure. All guys do, even the good ones.

I disagree.

He doesn't have to have had a back-up plan before ditching her.

Esp, if he's a good guy.

NOT ALL GUYS DO.

David David. . . .hmm!!

davidylan:
Depends on what exactly it is she said (which of course she prefers not to tell us).

"Rude" is a character flaw no one will tolerate from a woman. I wonder why the guy is suddenly regarded as "horrible" now for refusing to stomach nonsense in the name of "love". Abegi.

He's a horrible person for choosing this method of dealing with the problem.

Why's he saying he will call when he knows he doesn't/wont?
Why can't he just tell her it's over, if he can't stomach her rudeness?

And why do u feel this is a good method of dealing with the problem?

amhurting:
that is what people back home in nigeria are telling me

but it hurts to think of him as a horrible person. he has been so nice and sweet ever since i met him. do people change so fast or camouflage their real character for so long?

if he wants out, he should tell me straight up  

Although he's prolly thinking u shd get the msg by now, it still doesn't mean he shouldn't do the decent thing and be a man in such situation.

You've pleaded and pleaded, etc. . .wot more does he want u to do?!

I honestly feel very sorry for u. But guys are complicated than they like to admit. They're always quick to say women are complicated, but this is soooo not true. And yes, people do change just like that. Some people can't even explain, or give reasons for why they act in such manner. He prolly does love u but is prolly going through a "phase".

Do ur best (as uve done so far) and leave the rest to God/fate cos he prolly doesn't wanna get back with u, so no amount of tears will be of help. Sorry dear. Be strong.

David, does this mean u would react the way the poster's bf has, if u were in his situation? Is such reaction justified? REALLY?

My God!! Why would he want to add to the stress in people's lives?! They're trying to sleep for God's sake, and it's not even an hour journey. All in the name of God! Hmm. The guy should have been kicked out of the plane, nonsense!

The way the guy is going on about it isn't right.
He should have the decency to call u and end it like anyone would have.

Poster, this situation should clearly tell u he's a horrible person. Sorry bout ur situation. These things do happen. Weeks/months/years from now u will look back and laugh.  

Be strong, and don't worry urself too much bout it. Someone better will def come along, that's if ur bf doesn't come to his senses by then.

A month ago, u know . . . . lmao!! 4REAL?! Hmmm.


Do u plan to stay over? Do u wanna give him some?
Maybe u should go with ur aunty.

On the real though, the dude can drive up/down to see u nau. . . . or get on a plane or bus or whatever. Lawd knows, if I was in ur situation I would not go and see him. I wouldn't feel safe. It's too early to be trusting the dude. What happens if u refuse to give him some and he rapes u? Mehn. . . the thought alone is enough to put me off going.

But it does seem like u REALLY wanna go anyway, and that u might be up for whatever , so yeah, DO YOU. Have fun. . . . and play safe.

^^^ True say.

And the poster can always go on to do a masters or a PHD later on, and can be a professor later on. He can even go on to write and publish a book and may go on to be richer than some people who studied engineering.

Never look down on a course. All subjects are important, may be not to you but to others and society.

Besides, English may not be seen as a sought after course now but poster can re-write history.

Poster, make the most of the subject you have been given, whether it was ur dream course or not-especially as it's the first time uv been lucky after writing JAMB for a number of times. Same goes for others.

Good luck.

Work experience. . .AAARRGGHH!!

BTW, how old are these adults?
(They were prolly born back in the day, when racism was very common)

It's not bout me pretending or what not. I know quite a number of mixed race kids, and such problem does not exist in their families/lives.
What's the likelihood of such thing happening, seriously? ? ?

I don't think they're actually in an open marriage, prolly just rumours.

Wow!! I didn't know people had issues with mixed marriages/kids from mixed races, and not just black or just white people.
Wonders shall never end.
The guy is racist towards mixed race people, it is clear.
He should be sent to prison or something. KMT!!

Who told him mixed race kids are not accepted by their different race families? What a load of bull!! 
How many mixed race kids have said their white or their black extended family members do not accept them? Or that they are bullied for being black and white. I support mixed marriages, as it helps eradicate racism, and the kids are usually always good looking.

The whole bathroom ish he mentioned clearly shows he is racist! Like anyone in their right sense would mention such crap.

He should be sacked or something.

Mixed race people rock. He can go and eat shit for all I care.

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Regarding gay marriages, u can transfer the couple to someone else if it is against ur religious beliefs. But to then add stuff like "the children they will adopt in future will turn gay, and for that I wont marry them" is just ridiculous.

So yeah, this JP is so wrong in his reason for not marrying mixed couples.

spoilt:

I just can't see myself loving a child that isn't mine, as though it was mine.

I guess adoption is not for everyone.

Nope, cos I will never love the child.

If he changes

WhiteOne:
What is what and why

I hear the guy s talking and i was wondering what is what for an Nigrian bloke?

LMAO! How old are you?!

Depends on the individual, some dudes I know are way tidier than chicks.

Then again, maybe u visited when her room was in a state. Clean people have dirty days too.

LMAOOOOO!!!

Your service aint needed dude, not be me anyways. But thanks for the offer.

How bout u two just meet up and then see how u feel afterwards.

Has something similar happened before?

Dude sounds scary sha. She might wanna leave his ass before he knocks her teeth out next time.