kellorah:

Why are some of us focusing on what she may or may not have said to him??
At the end of the day, guys too say things that ladies don't like to hear.


What I'm trying to say is, people do change JUST LIKE THAT, without the gf/bf doing or saying anything.

You can be the best bf/gf in the world, and even have the best relationship ever, but one day one of u will start having silly feelings, feelings u may not be able to control. These things happen. . . and when they do, both parties will have to find a way of moving on, unless they are patient and will rather wait for the other person to wake up!! But please, don't waste your tears. Save it for when your praying to God.

but is that normal? can there be spiritual undertones?

the lies he told me are synonymous to tsunami, yet i forgive him and even loved him more

i will stop crying. am already feeling better. but its tough. i really thought we had a great relationship that will weather even the worst of storms.

This is deffo break up season. . . . some people have got the disease, big time [They're the relationship version of Judas]!!!
As in, for no good reason there's break ups here and there. The thing is begining to annoy me sef.  

amhurting:

but is that normal? can there be spiritual undertones?

the lies he told me are synonymous to tsunami, yet i forgive him and even loved him more

i will stop crying. am already feeling better. but its tough. i really thought we had a great relationship that will weather even the worst of storms.

That is what we all think till push comes to shove

chika98:

Agba: Kpachapu anya! Your response is filled with assumptions and finger pointing. What do you know about her? Are you one of her toasters on here? By the way, are they any men here worth trying to date anyways? The girl is looking for candid advice not how she is looking for backup and the rest. You can really tell who is who by the sort of things they put down.

You screwed! I did not in the least mean she is looking for a guy on nl. I meant she may be looking for all the support of these sub-twenty year olds who are still filled with exuberance that will quickly tell her to abandon and leave plus few over-twenties looking for attachments  that will gladly welcome her to their league. Next time look before you leap.

amhurting:

but is that normal? can there be spiritual undertones?

the lies he told me are synonymous to tsunami, yet i forgive him and even loved him more

i will stop crying. am already feeling better. but its tough. i really thought we had a great relationship that will weather even the worst of storms.

Nah, nothing spiritual bout it. Personally, I believe everything happens for a reason.

In this ur case, for example, God prolly used ur ex to get u to the UK so u can find the man ur destined to be with. I'm just saying!

He's a liar? Ahhh! That's not a good thing o. . . how/why did u put up with his lies?  

Sounds to me like u did have a good relationship. These things do happen my dear.

Take heart my dear. God will see u through.

amhurting:

but is that normal? can there be spiritual undertones?

the lies he told me are synonymous to tsunami, . . . . .

Of course women love liars most.

justwise:

After this u will be stronger, he is making a mistake, very soon he will be the one begging u. Just be strong, u will be fine

alright. thank you. am feeling much better already. i just had to pour my heart out. people in nigeria are also worried, cos i am just crying and they are not here to physically comfort me.

i am just wondering why he should he put spikes in something that has been going on so well?

agabaI23:

You screwed! I did not in the least mean she is looking for a guy on nl. I meant she may be looking for all the support of these sub-twenty year olds who are still filled with exuberance that will quickly tell her to abandon and leave plus few over-twenties looking for attachments  that will gladly welcome her to their league.  Next time look before you leap.

Explain that statement better to me. Welcome her to their league? what is this " the league of extra single women"? Do you really think that people here are happy to see others in pain? or you think every 20 something year old is filled with naiveté?

Poster, don't put up with a liar next time, please. . . for ur own sake.

kellorah:

Nah, nothing spiritual bout it. Personally, I believe everything happens for a reason.

He's a liar? Ahhh! That's not a good thing o. . . how/why did u put up with his lies?  

Sounds to me like u did have a good relationship. These things do happen my dear.

Take heart my dear. God will see u through.

he explained why he lied and i understood and forgave him although this made me a bit wary of him. but that is only natural, right?

kellorah:

Nah, nothing spiritual bout it. Personally, I believe everything happens for a reason.

In this your case, for example, God prolly used your ex to get u to the UK so u can find the man your destined to be with. I'm just saying!

Sounds to me like u did have a good relationship. These things do happen my dear.

Take heart my dear. God will see u through.

my friends think the same but i dont agree. i do not have the energy to do the whole dating thing again. i really love this guy. if i am asked by God to choose, i will choose him over any other man.

Let him be for now i think he is trying to make a decision about what has just happened.

Stop texting and calling him. Wetin? You've tried jare.

Pharoh:

Let him be for now i think he is trying to make a decision about what has just happened.

make a decision?

but this his method is cruel. you have no idea how much i have cried and begged. if i marry him and i upset him, is this what he will do to me?        it means am not safe and he is capable of anything and the thought of that alone is already scaring me about him  

spoilt:

Stop texting and calling him. Wetin? You've tried jare. 

i have stopped.

but it took all the self-control i could muster. i have my cell phone locked up in my wardrobe. because i could not keep my eyes and hands off it.

i can just help thinking what he aims to achieve by doing this 

Its like a game. Ignore him. Then you'll see him coming back wondering where all the attention went.

@poster, I think u have tried your best. I think you shouldnt listen to the bandwagon of people telling u that your relationship is over. Give him some chill time he would come back to his senses. Meanwhile I think it is time for you to stop calling/begging, he will come around sooner than u'll realize.if u guys can weather this storm,u ll be better for it

chika98:

Explain that statement better to me. Welcome her to their league? what is this " the league of extra single women"? Do you really think that people here are happy to see others in pain? or you think every 20 something year old is filled with naiveté?

Why not look for a cane in case I refuse!

spizzlenik:

@poster, I think u have tried your best. I think you shouldnt listen to the bandwagon of people telling u that your relationship is over. Give him some chill time he would come back to his senses. Meanwhile I think it is time for you to stop calling/begging, he will come around sooner than u'll realize.if u guys can weather this storm,u ll be better for it

okay. thank you.

Igwe.:

Hey sweetheart, just give him some time miss you a little, Absence they say makes the heart grow fonder.
Please learn from this , i'm sure he'd comeback to you sooner than you think. 

alright. thank you.

i really appreciate all the replies. am feeling better already. i just had my first meal today (cornflakes) and the usual me would have eaten eba 10 times before midnight. 

The things we do and take for love 

I understand you girl. For all I know, you'll continue to call and beg until he speaks up That is love and yea we do 'stupid' things when we're in love. Cry if you have to. Crying is therapeutic.
If he comes back fine otherwise you'll probably jump into the 'no-nonsense, I'm better than that' train  We've all been there and that's why it's easy for some to tell you to "forget" him and so on. For them they've passed that stage of loving and begging 

Just take it easy and if you love him just give him time to calm down. You shouldn't determine how long he should stay 'mad'. People are different. 

its 3am. i cant sleep 

i have terrible headache but i am being strong. no tears for some hours now

i wonder how long it will take for him to comeback?
what if he decides not to come back?

i am so depressed and dejected   

LOL. . .what a classic! One minute you feel okay the next minute u're slipping back into depression.

Just allow urself to go through this pain 'cause trust me it will last for a while. It's not something u can deal with easily. Emotions are very strong. Why not try and hang out with friends? Oh yea they're the last people u want to see now You just want ur man back. . awww . . .sorry dear. He'll definitely talk to u soon but until then don't give up on him, okay?

Try to sleep na

amhurting:

its 3am. i cant sleep

i have terrible headache but i am being strong. no tears for some hours now

i wonder how long it will take for him to comeback?
what if he decides not to come back?

i am so depressed and dejected

Dont give up yet, give it time, he might come around.

If he dosent, well . . . life goes on!

I know it's hard right now, but you need to let him be. Let him miss you, let he look for you. Keep letting him know how sorry you are for whatever you did, but stop begging, stop crying for him, stop telling people. Just keep to yourself for a while and let him look for you. If he dosent, I have a song I'll give you to listen to . . . trust me, it's a classic!

Ujujoan:

If he dosent, I have a song I'll give you to listen to . . .  trust me, it's a classic! 

Sounds like you were once a classic 

chaircover, radiant and ujujoan

thank you so much ladies.

chaircover, i will keep myself very busy.

ujujoan, please what is the song ?

i have been listening to mary j blige and k'jon's on the ocean

some of us(men) dont ve a good forgiven heart
u must ve said something that hurted him badly
but i wonde what it is to ve dealt with sm1 u love to this extent
u neva can tell he migth come back and if he doesnt (bone am)
its not the end of the world (sometime we feel it is)
BE STRONG

The guy is a coward he should have come out to tell you your fault, and you think back, you might have wronged him .

Relax
If he loves you he will come back like a thunder bolt,otherwise you are not meant to be together.

Radiant:

Sounds like you were once a classic

amhurting:

ujujoan, please what is the song ?

i have been listening to mary j blige and[b] k'jon's on the ocean [/b]

Ah. . . . now THAT is a classic!

Well, me I was talking about . . . . . .

"Un-break My Heart"

Don't leave me in all this pain
Don't leave me out in the rain
Come back and bring back my smile
Come and take these tears away
I need your arms to hold me now
The nights are so unkind
Bring back those nights when I held you beside me

Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me again
Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked out of my life
Un-cry these tears
I cried so many nights
Un-break my heart
My heart

Take back that sad word good-bye
Bring back the joy to my life
Don't leave me here with these tears
Come and kiss this pain away
I can't forget the day you left
Time is so unkind
And life is so cruel without you here beside me

Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me again
Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked out of my life
Un-cry these tears
I cried so many nights
Un-break my heart
My heart

Don't leave me in all this pain
Don't leave me out in the rain
Bring back the nights when I held you beside me

Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me again
Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked out of my life
Un-cry this tears
I cried so many, many nights
Un-break my

Un-break my heart oh baby
Come back and say you love me
Un-break my heart
Sweet darlin'
Without you I just can't go on
Can't go on,


Kind of common right? But it does touch your heart!

Toni's Rainbow musta been black when she made that song

Radiant:

Toni's Rainbow musta been black when she made that song

Ahhh! Methinks she was under a divine inspiration! I just looooove her!