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Cj4charles:
A beautiful woman most of our young girls should look up to.... Happy Birthday to her

All these daft girls . Its saidaboj , Blessing CEO and feminists that are leading them to the bush they prefer

Iamdbull:
Dbull on this one!


Happy birthday to my mentor, sorry to disappoint you for not amounting to anything as an artist.

Dont give up on yourself. A friend on mine didnt make it in music but he is doing welmfor himself in videography. Pick urself up man. Dont walk with low self- esteem. Where there is life , there is hope.

Roseodd:
Should I use my 7 million to buy mini bus or I should buy Treasury bill please
I need urgent advice please

Use the money to japa

shoodboi2:
After marrying a rich man herself? I understand that her advise is true, but she isn't the appropriatey person to give such advise.

Allegedly, i read somewhere that he is not really giving her money . She is indirectly saying that she is not benefiting financially from Rude Boy. I wont blame him, a wise divorced man is very careful because at that point, he has witnessed the painful betrayal of a woman so he is preparing his mind for the any possible betrayal

lapintoz:
And the baba of them all is Petrer Obi....built only one brewery in 8 yesrs 😁

Stop talking rubbish. He bought laptop for schools and did a lot to the extent that he even left money in the State treasury naira and dollars. He didnt owe any comtractor while leaving , his successor Willie Obiano threw the state to billions in debt. If u dont know something get ur facts right ans stop displaying ur ignorance online. U think he is like other governors? Nonesense

sleek214:
Stop deceiving yourself, the North is 85% for Atiku. 12% for Tinubu and 3% for Obi/Kwankwanso

You are dreamer. 3% for Tinunbu. Wear APC shirt and go to any market in the north to campaign . Write ur will or keep enough money for medical bills, you will need either of them. When u come back , or rather if u come back alive . Come and tell us ur experience and dont forget to snap urself so we can see your new look.

oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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One thing about masculinity. As an African man, never cook for a woman. All the people my brother cooked for , they took it for granted. Your birthdsy is a litmus test of a lady that likes you, if she says she forgot, the attraction is not there. Stay away from ladies for a while and watch ur business grow. Make friends with girls. Observe friends and stop cooking for ladies

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

Guy, any lady that gives u rules wont be submissive to you. Ladies that carry church on their head, avoid them. Some of them are violent and have unforgiveness in marriage. You are the one paying bride price, any lady making rules for you like this has a low attraction for you. If you came from America now she wont give u these rules but she will want to convince the pastor that tounare the one. Girls that attend every service run away from them for ur own good

Pootle:
put the money in trust fund in the children names

What if the wife cheated and the kids are not for the man? What if she was the one that killed the husband?

Khd95:
omo you lie, big terrible fat ugly smelly lie

I am currently dating and Edo girl who was raised in Lagos, babe is exceptional and homely, not materialistic or overly demanding, she's stubborn shaa, but she's a lovely beautiful young girl, stop the stereotype, not all naija girls are urgent 2k babes, so you can't term all Edo babes all these things above, you only dated one or few

My current Edo babe has gotten me more gifts than I ever did, my last birthday she bought a wireless clippers for me, just a month before then she sent 4 yards of senator material to me to sew what ever style I like that she will like to see me in such, and she's still a student ooo, she has her flaws but overall she's a sweetheart

She’s a student from a comfortable home

I dated an Edo
Girl. She cheated, and starved me of sex for 9 months and was checking if i was cheating. She keeps seizing my items ( covetousness). She was playing games. She will use go to church for program to cover up. She will come from a guys house and lie she was coming from Uniben, knack the guy then come and starve me just because i was broke. At a point she left, when i got a car to do uber she started calling me like i was holding her left kidney. We knacked only twice in the relationship and we broke up and became friends. One day they told her in a church to stop knacking if she wants to see husband , she openebd up on chat that thats what she normally do. A lady that knacked me only twice in one half years. She likes to give me surprise visit and check my phone when am sleeping but she was cheating. She is married now and was asking me for money. I will chop the one she is owing me. Born again my foot. She knows i want to chop her but she has t blocked me. She did No sex before marriage with her husband and he too accepted. I will chop my share in the fullness of time

Nwaokunkpara:
Omo the best thing you can do for your born or unborn generations is to leave this country

God bless ur generation. People like u, if u was a billionaire in dollars. I will give one heavy money that will make u cry tears of joy. May God bless ur generation for this comment

Lovelink1991:
With today kind of men it is difficult to get a good man. A lot of them just want to take advantage of her by sleeping with her with the promise that I wants to marry you. There are no good men

Fa fa fa , foul! Its a big fat lie! There is no lady that didnt see a serious guy in their 20s. A friend of mine when we were in the bank, he toasted one ajebutter girl from covenant university. She started asking for data rvery now and then. Few years later he got married. Most of u especially in Nigeria . U will spend ur 20s broke shaming men, and jumping from bed to bed with bad boys and parties. The moment u clock 30. U will soft pedal and start looking for mircacle husband from church to church. I know one stupid yellow fine igbo girl that didnt want me . She came from east to visit Lagos and was rolling with people shorter and uglier than me. I asked her why she didnt inform me she was in Lagos . She blocked me and deleted by number . 5 years down the line ( 2026 ) she travels to Lagos to pray for husband (ZION MINISTRIES ) . Now she is calling me "baby" after having a 2 year old girl. Her trap is waiting for her . Me too i will cut my own share of the cake, in the fullness of time. Let him fall into my trap

Jennyclay:
5 kind of men you should avoid

1) Broke men
2) Time wasters and deceivers
3) Stingy ko ko men
4) Bill splitters men
5) number 1, 2, 3 & 4

Abroad Nigerian women are the least desired. UK, USA and Canada at least. In UK, Nigerian ladies are complaining that Nigerian guys are leaving them for Zimbabwean girls. In USA and Canada , Nigerian girls look down on guys that dont have papers and treat them with disdain only to rush back when they have. From all u said u may be looking for husBANK and not husband. Even if the guy is a dwarf with one eye or a cripple , as long as he has money, u r fine with it. U are just a perfect example of the average naija babe and u just confirmed why ur category of ladies are the most undesirable and d most lonely abroad. When u r 50 yrs , no husband, no child, u will become bitter and live in regrets but it will be too late, Just continue , its only a matter of time

Gotocourt:
Omorr, she go begin cheat

Men are in love , women are in business. I wont be surprised if she starts cheating heavily. That woman will be early 40s . Her chances of giving birth will be low. She will at some poing get tired of the guy. The day , OPM GO doesnt drop all these money again, that may be the end of the marriage. He is fond of supporting halfway like he did to happy boys that later got stranded in Cyprus. Transactional marriage

Flangelo12:
Zimbabwean women respect men.

They are mostly respectful of Nigerian men, because of their enterprise.

On top, they come get big bakassi.

Make una continue to dey fight your men for yonder.

Its because most naija women are no nicer than demons. Once they are abroad with u if they dont report u to police or cheat, they will accuse u of rape or wife battery and make u regret even meeting them. Let them stay single

Tendd:
Please,it's high time we suspend the DNA test for now.This is going out of hand and wrecking families apart.lt is tearing up Ghanain married couples and driving Nigerian men insane.shaba.

For this foolish suggestion u made , may ur wife have 5 children for 5 different men ans u will find out when u are 87 years of age so u will know u dont have lineage. Ans so shall it be, say Amen

meobizy:
I don't believe all these stories.

Dont worry na. Maybe when ur wife has 5 kids for 5 different men thats when u will know whats up. People like u reject red pill until it happens to u. I pray u learn the hard way so u can believe ut easily and when u hear people say they dont believe u will feel like slapping them. I pray it happens to u so u can believe . And so shall it be

always247:
There is a great sign that this coming year is the year that I will get outta trenches.
I have landed a very sweet and fruitful contract.
its good to bless other when God bless you to attract more blessings.
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Abee79:
Apart from temporary embarrassment that accompanied the initial revelation, what consequences did Mr. Baltasar Engonga face for sleeping with more than 400 women, most of whom were married?

He has rerecently been sentenced to 18 years in prison . Am sure it was a way to indirectly punish him for chopping big mens wives apart from the money he stole as their EFCC chairman

advanceDNA:
U get mind ooo ....u enter that deal wey involve huge money with woman.?? And you expect her to pay up ??

Nigga u funny

Woman wey be snake in human form. U expect them to keep promise

babajero:
so anytime women do evil na self defence.

If she born 5 boys their wives will do it to all the boys , let’s see if she will still call it self- defense

Carndidlaydid:
Self-defense if you ask me

You people are devils in human form. Don’t worry when u have a son they will do it self defense to all ur sons too

flokii:
He deserves a medal biko.. I'm surprised he had that level of patience sef.
Some women are very wicked, na why guys no dey like help them.. o fe ma doko ofe.

Exactly, if I want to help those snakes, I will collect my pound of flesh. They are very cunning. When devil attacked Job in the Bible he killed his business, his kids but didn’t touch the wife because she is a devil on her own. It’s because of a woman’s manipulative tendencies

Silentgroper:
All the u k needs to see is a legal document showing they're married.. whether they live together is none of their business

KingintheNorth:
What's your Advice and opinion about this.
This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.

A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.

Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.

When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.

When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.

The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.

When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.

The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.

She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, passed all his courses and finished school.

Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.

Remember, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.

The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness.
Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.

Do you think he did the right thing??

Gender that cannot keep to marital agreements, gender that can never keep their word even when there is something to gain. Women are snakes. How can u sign contract with a snake?. Thank God d guy didn’t die of stress. In everything relating to woman , always have a plan B, because that gender is mean and selfish and they always have a plan B. Serves her right. Her lovey dovey was fake. If women are snakes , Naija girls must be the most poisonous of them. She didn’t pay the tuition only for her to start becoming friendly when her visa was about to expire and she didn’t get a sponsor

IFuckWell:
I feel the second date ought be enough for y'all to start flirting around. Anymore, and you're just relegating your life to the friendzone. So, no more than 1 - 2 weeks.

Whats your thoughts?

I knack them on first meeting till I found d love of my life

Mine was 4 months after passing out parade. I give God the glory.

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