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www.nairaland.com/2096648/what to do with an emotionally unavailable guy.

1. Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s dead. It means
he’s not serious about falling in love at this point.
“Now the fact that we are
emotionally unavailable doesn’t
mean that we’re no longer
desirous of a woman’s attention
and affection. It also doesn’t
mean we’ve lost the ability to
perceive attractiveness and
beauty and it most definitely
doesn’t mean we’re no longer
interested in sex. We will want all of those things, and we’re still going
to work toward getting all of those things. Understanding this is
essential to understanding the emotionally unavailable man…Women
often seem to assume that because a man is single, educated,
employed, handsome, possessed with great taste, a great wardrobe
and is a generally good guy, he is automatically on the market. This
is an absolute fallacy.”

2. Ignore the positives, believe the negatives. Maybe it was our overt
actions (not claiming you as a girlfriend). Maybe it was our silences
(one week after a date). Maybe it was our actual words (I’m not
looking for anything serious right now), but you didn’t pay attention.
Says the author about women who ignore the signs:
“They figure if they can determine why we’re emotionally unavailable,
then they can just help us address that issue and all will be right with
the world. Still though, no matter how stern our warnings, no matter
how many times we tell you that our emotional unavailability is
serious and not a game, you still find away to allow yourselves to fall
to the point of no return.”

3. Just because he’s emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s evil.
“If we communicate to you, in no uncertain terms, that we’re very
interested in you, but not interested in anything serious with anyone,
and you choose to proceed, we see that as the green light to be the
naturally great guys we’ve always been. This means we’re going to
be thoughtful, we’re going to be charming and we’re going to make
your friends laugh when you introduce us to them. We’re going to
check on you when you’re sick, send you good morning emails and
good night text messages. When we go out together, we’re going to
do everything we’re supposed to do to make sure you have a good
time and if you let us, we’re going to do everything in our power to
please you sexually. Why? Because a good guy takes pride in making
sure a woman in his company has enjoyed her time with him.”
Amen. A lot of wise guys who know what ladies wants, date a lot of different lafie. You’d be hard
pressed to find any of them who would say, “That he is a miserable
asshole. He has no idea what makes women tick. What a terrible
communicator. He’s so selfish and insensitive that he’ll never make a
woman happy.” In other words, he can be a good guy and do
everything right – but if he’s not acting like a boyfriend, you’re
wasting your time.

4. You claim to be a powerful woman, but you don’t act like it. (Oh,
boy, now we’re cutting close to the bone…)
“Men use a formula to assign
value to the women in their lives
and a large part of that formula
is derived from how much we
believe that woman values
herself. If you’ve been giving us
all of you while requiring nothing
more than our bare minimum
then that negatively affects how much we believe you value yourself
and we know in our heart we can never be with you. No matter how
much we want to, we can’t build up the motivation to give you
everything if we know you’ve been content with us giving you barely
anything. We need to be challenged, we need to know that you’ll
accept nothing less than everything.”
This is why I tell you repeatedly to act like the CEO and treat men like
interns. If he’s not showing up and you’re putting up with it, it’s not
his fault. It’s yours, for not firing him! You can’t expect him to value
you like a girlfriend if you don’t insist on being treated like a proper
girlfriend.

HNosegbe:
All politicians move from one party to another to further their own interests. Stop making it about a particular party.

What constitutes a party is its members, if we say a party is corrupt we are authomatically saying that the members of that party are corrupt.

himkers:
Stale

I never said it was fresh.

HNosegbe:
I really don't understand statements like this. What about Ibrahim Shekarau that has been in the opposition since 1999 but joined PDP last year? What about Buba Marwa? Dele Belgore? Have politicians not been moving from the APC to the PDP as well?

exactly my point, politicians move, but does that excuse the fact that they were part of the government and party they now claim destroyed nigeria for 16years?

This man should go and rest joh, 'how art you old that hastily', go ask your mum na, no be she born 196....something.

You'll get tired of that kinda life, then you'll start looking for a relationship.

APC has been consistent in saying that PDPhas ruled Nigeria for 16
disastrousyears in which corruption, impunity,insurgency, armed robbery and
several illsof society held sway.But at a very close look at the APC, I am seeing:1.
Rotimi Amaechi – 8 years speaker; 7 years, Governor under PDP.2. Atiku
Abubakar – 8 years Vice president under PDP.3. George Akume – 8 years
Governor under PDP.4. Bukola Saraki – 8 years Governor; 2 years, Senator under
PDP.5. Timipre Sylver – 4 years Governor under PDP.6. Audu Ogbe – 2 years
Chairmanship of the PDP.7. Aminu Masari – 4 years as the Speaker, House of
Representativesunder PDP.8. Chris Ngige – 3 years Governor under PDP.9. Rabiu
Kwankwaso – 7 years Governor; 3 years Defense minister under PDP.10. El Rufai
– 4 years FCT Minister; 2 years BPE chairman under PDP.11. And to cap it all,
Obasanjo is the navigator of theAPC, a man who spent 8 of the disastrous 16
years as the maximum ruler of Nigeria. It is now clearer that APC is a waste basket
ofthe PDP, where the peoplewho created and perpetuated the 16disastrous years
are now dumped. So whereis the change coming from? Are they nowsaints
because they joined APC?Pls be WISE & VOTE not for those seekingpower by
FORCEASSOCIATION OF PAST CRIMINALS (APC )pls rebc till it gets to all d thieves
craving for power...God bless Nigeria.

The certificate has disappeared from the army's store into the list of documents seized by ibb within the space of a month. Apc.... what you people are doing is not good oo, say the truth and shame the devil, una candidate no finish school.

hmmm......

I think.......never mind.

Everyone's saying what would get the masses on their side. Fashola's playing a risky game by bringing up the age issue, it might come back to bite them.

I'll tell you what you wanna hear.

Who wants to be the president, jona on the hot seat.

Hmmm........

Ladies are also guilty, na all of us they do am. @op, why does everyone think that most guys are scared of getting married, some are not just ready yet. Since women have equal rights with men, i think its time women start proposing too... .

It all comes down to one thing, the type of sexual married life you want to have. If youre sure you can live with the dissatisfaction or satisfaction you discover in the sexual encounter with your partner after marriage, then keep yourself till after youre married. on the other hand if youre not sure you can live with any fault in your sex life with your partner after marriage then do otherwise. You have to live your life for you and no one else.

When you think of 2015, just smile

Why them no put all their age na plus buhari will share osinbanjos's certificate.

February's gonna be something else, nobody should do ojoro sha.

Go to a thick village a select a lady for yourself

Hmmm......

No be small thing oo.

:DThe man old from secondary school sef

Hmmm....

Their ish.

People can think what they like, check my profile pics, that igbo face does not give a Bleep.

Eat, sleep and go about your normal day activities. Thats how you survive the harmattan.

Them done give am small thing.

yeye

some guys still sag at home na....sometimes its unintentional