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What To Do With An Emotionally Unavailable Guy. by kevv(m): 1:09pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
1. Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s dead. It means he’s not serious about falling in love at this point. “Now the fact that we are emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean that we’re no longer desirous of a woman’s attention and affection. It also doesn’t mean we’ve lost the ability to perceive attractiveness and beauty and it most definitely doesn’t mean we’re no longer interested in sex. We will want all of those things, and we’re still going to work toward getting all of those things. Understanding this is essential to understanding the emotionally unavailable man…Women often seem to assume that because a man is single, educated, employed, handsome, possessed with great taste, a great wardrobe and is a generally good guy, he is automatically on the market. This is an absolute fallacy.” 2. Ignore the positives, believe the negatives. Maybe it was our overt actions (not claiming you as a girlfriend). Maybe it was our silences (one week after a date). Maybe it was our actual words (I’m not looking for anything serious right now), but you didn’t pay attention. Says the author about women who ignore the signs: “They figure if they can determine why we’re emotionally unavailable, then they can just help us address that issue and all will be right with the world. Still though, no matter how stern our warnings, no matter how many times we tell you that our emotional unavailability is serious and not a game, you still find away to allow yourselves to fall to the point of no return.” 3. Just because he’s emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s evil. “If we communicate to you, in no uncertain terms, that we’re very interested in you, but not interested in anything serious with anyone, and you choose to proceed, we see that as the green light to be the naturally great guys we’ve always been. This means we’re going to be thoughtful, we’re going to be charming and we’re going to make your friends laugh when you introduce us to them. We’re going to check on you when you’re sick, send you good morning emails and good night text messages. When we go out together, we’re going to do everything we’re supposed to do to make sure you have a good time and if you let us, we’re going to do everything in our power to please you sexually. Why? Because a good guy takes pride in making sure a woman in his company has enjoyed her time with him.” Amen. A lot of wise guys who know what ladies wants, date a lot of different lafie. You’d be hard pressed to find any of them who would say, “That he is a miserable asshole. He has no idea what makes women tick. What a terrible communicator. He’s so selfish and insensitive that he’ll never make a woman happy.” In other words, he can be a good guy and do everything right – but if he’s not acting like a boyfriend, you’re wasting your time. 4. You claim to be a powerful woman, but you don’t act like it. (Oh, boy, now we’re cutting close to the bone…) “Men use a formula to assign value to the women in their lives and a large part of that formula is derived from how much we believe that woman values herself. If you’ve been giving us all of you while requiring nothing more than our bare minimum then that negatively affects how much we believe you value yourself and we know in our heart we can never be with you. No matter how much we want to, we can’t build up the motivation to give you everything if we know you’ve been content with us giving you barely anything. We need to be challenged, we need to know that you’ll accept nothing less than everything.” This is why I tell you repeatedly to act like the CEO and treat men like interns. If he’s not showing up and you’re putting up with it, it’s not his fault. It’s yours, for not firing him! You can’t expect him to value you like a girlfriend if you don’t insist on being treated like a proper girlfriend. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do With An Emotionally Unavailable Guy. by Princecalm(m): 1:11pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
an essay writing i guess. |
Re: What To Do With An Emotionally Unavailable Guy. by kevv(m): 2:15pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
Princecalm:crazy dude. |
Re: What To Do With An Emotionally Unavailable Guy. by Princecalm(m): 3:47pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
kevv:my statement never meant any harm so why the insult little boy. |
Re: What To Do With An Emotionally Unavailable Guy. by kevv(m): 3:53pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
Princecalm:No harm intended either, just a friendly insult old man. |
Re: What To Do With An Emotionally Unavailable Guy. by Princecalm(m): 7:20pm On Jan 16, 2015 |
kevv:if that is what you really mean then no problem my boy. |
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