1. Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s dead. It means
he’s not serious about falling in love at this point.
“Now the fact that we are
emotionally unavailable doesn’t
mean that we’re no longer
desirous of a woman’s attention
and affection. It also doesn’t
mean we’ve lost the ability to
perceive attractiveness and
beauty and it most definitely
doesn’t mean we’re no longer
interested in sex. We will want all of those things, and we’re still going
to work toward getting all of those things. Understanding this is
essential to understanding the emotionally unavailable man…Women
often seem to assume that because a man is single, educated,
employed, handsome, possessed with great taste, a great wardrobe
and is a generally good guy, he is automatically on the market. This
is an absolute fallacy.”

2. Ignore the positives, believe the negatives. Maybe it was our overt
actions (not claiming you as a girlfriend). Maybe it was our silences
(one week after a date). Maybe it was our actual words (I’m not
looking for anything serious right now), but you didn’t pay attention.
Says the author about women who ignore the signs:
“They figure if they can determine why we’re emotionally unavailable,
then they can just help us address that issue and all will be right with
the world. Still though, no matter how stern our warnings, no matter
how many times we tell you that our emotional unavailability is
serious and not a game, you still find away to allow yourselves to fall
to the point of no return.”

3. Just because he’s emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s evil.
“If we communicate to you, in no uncertain terms, that we’re very
interested in you, but not interested in anything serious with anyone,
and you choose to proceed, we see that as the green light to be the
naturally great guys we’ve always been. This means we’re going to
be thoughtful, we’re going to be charming and we’re going to make
your friends laugh when you introduce us to them. We’re going to
check on you when you’re sick, send you good morning emails and
good night text messages. When we go out together, we’re going to
do everything we’re supposed to do to make sure you have a good
time and if you let us, we’re going to do everything in our power to
please you sexually. Why? Because a good guy takes pride in making
sure a woman in his company has enjoyed her time with him.”
Amen. A lot of wise guys who know what ladies wants, date a lot of different lafie. You’d be hard
pressed to find any of them who would say, “That he is a miserable
asshole. He has no idea what makes women tick. What a terrible
communicator. He’s so selfish and insensitive that he’ll never make a
woman happy.” In other words, he can be a good guy and do
everything right – but if he’s not acting like a boyfriend, you’re
wasting your time.

4. You claim to be a powerful woman, but you don’t act like it. (Oh,
boy, now we’re cutting close to the bone…)
“Men use a formula to assign
value to the women in their lives
and a large part of that formula
is derived from how much we
believe that woman values
herself. If you’ve been giving us
all of you while requiring nothing
more than our bare minimum
then that negatively affects how much we believe you value yourself
and we know in our heart we can never be with you. No matter how
much we want to, we can’t build up the motivation to give you
everything if we know you’ve been content with us giving you barely
anything. We need to be challenged, we need to know that you’ll
accept nothing less than everything.”
This is why I tell you repeatedly to act like the CEO and treat men like
interns. If he’s not showing up and you’re putting up with it, it’s not
his fault. It’s yours, for not firing him! You can’t expect him to value
you like a girlfriend if you don’t insist on being treated like a proper
girlfriend.

an essay writing i guess.

Princecalm:
an essay writing i guess.

crazy dude.

kevv:

crazy dude.

my statement never meant any harm so why the insult little boy.

Princecalm:
my statement never meant any harm so why the insult little boy.

No harm intended either, just a friendly insult old man.

kevv:

No harm intended either, just a friendly insult old man.

if that is what you really mean then no problem my boy.