₦airaland Forum

RedBenson:
A neighbourhood brother was seriously angry with his younger bro this morning when he realised that the plates his fiancee ate with when she visited last night was not washed by his younger brother.

The guy may have purposely refused to wash the plates because he believes it's an insult for a lady (be it his senior or junior) to have eaten from a plate and lacked the basic womanly manners to leave it unwashed.

Since the dude who's a student and well over 25yrs realised that a lady, who should be respecting men would rather try to bring him down to that extent and had thus refused to wash the plates.

This issue actually caused an uproar between the two brothers up to the point the elder brother was telling the younger one "finish your school asap and leave my house...nonsense".

Well, the elder brother later went and washed the plates furiously angry without his sibling. The fact that he even supported the lady on such act is what surprised everyone.

The question is, what RIGHT does a lady (be it a wife or fiancee) have to keep the plates she ate with for her brother in-law to come wash for her? Who should rather do that to who? Smh @women of nowadays. No iota of manners in them again.

Op you are confusing alot of people, who has the fiance, the elder or the younger brother?

RedBenson:
How about severally coming to sleep and leave the next day? She is still a visitor? She has already started showing bad characters and the guy should know what he's about to delve his hands into, else, he will be the one going to market to buy grayfish, pumpkins and tomatoes and come cook for her and as well as washing her undies for her when they finally get married.

The op said nothing about her being a frequent guess, and what is wrong with him going to the market, buying groceries and preparing a romantic dinner for the two of them?

emperorchedda:
lol

People like you are the ones that guys use to their satisfaction before dumping your proud asss.

Which guy's mother will accept a FEMALE that regards herself in the same level as the MALE

Even the bible said the MAN is the head...goodluck though

A civilised man. The bible said nothing about a woman being a man's slave, helpmate yes, there is a difference and some of you men should learn it.

Sacluxpaint:
Hoe-kay

Wow!! Because she doesn't like doing dishes you call her a hoe, what kind of culture is this?

RedBenson:
By all ramifications, it's wrong, very very wrong for a lady to eat and leave the plate for an in-law, a male in-law for that matter to come wash the plate. Dont you have respect for men folks? If you try that, it means you can as well leave the plate you ate for your husband to come wash it while you cross your legs at the sitting room watching nollywood movie. If he agrees to do this, then the next you remind him of your undies that had been soaked for days and need to be washed and get dried.

Is washing dishes like kryptonite to Nigerian men? Man, you guys make yourselves look very lazy and entitled

babygirlfl:
A guest is a guest and should be taken care of. She is a guest and should be looked after. If she lived there, then she could do some chores.

When I have guest whether young or old or an in law, I host them appropriately. When people live with me, then they can do chores.

Some men say they left/will leave a woman who does what the fiancee did. Women, these kind of men are men you should run away from unless you are of course one of these women who believe in becoming a cleaner for their in laws. When there are men who want to treat you like a partner, why settle for backward thinking men.

10000000% on point.

RedBenson:
Does the word "a fiancee" refer to a visitor?

Yes, she is a visitor in his BROTHER'S home, it would be different if it was his home.

bosun11:
As a lady , if u dating a guy and u ate from his pot in his house and cant wash d plate , u might end up loosing such a guy . "Courtesy demands you wash the plates " being the lady....Its as simple as that

WRONG!!

Lincoln275:
from my own point of view, its that girl responsibility to wash used plate for her bro-in-law nah. then d husband don chop efo if He is encouraging his fiancee not to wash plates for his brother

WRONG!!

freecocoa:
I'm trying to understand your angle o, are you saying, as a lady, it's paramount to do the dishes after eating when visiting a boyfriend? Does he get to do the dishes after eating at my place?

They both slept on the bed, anyone can do it.

Exactly, or they can make it together.

doninno:
First of all d younger brother is stupid nd rude wat is he teaching his girl friend? Marry me nd me nd my family will b ur salve..... hisssssssss do nd leave d house get urs nd even let her leave her underwars 4 u to wash

So what you are saying is, he should be teaching her to marry him and be his slave right, some of you men should stop acting like lazy helpless babies, even the physically challenged take pride in doing for themselves.

I couldn't imagine having guest over for dinner and expecting them to clean up afterwards, be them male or female, if they offer that's a different story.
It is so uncultured and improper to insist/expect a guest to clean dishes as an invited dinner guest, male or female.
Now as far as this story goes, the younger brother should have cleaned up after his guess, but if it were me I would have washed the dishes in appreciation because he cooked for me not because it's my duty as a woman, that's bullcrap.
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SORRY!! I misunderstood the op, I thought the younger brother had the guest over, but since it was the elder brother it was only his responsibility to clean up after his guest but, considering the older brother left without cleaning his mess the younger brother should have did it,
IN NOWAY WAS IT THE FIANCE/GUEST RESPONSIBILITY.

freecocoa:
I may or may not, depends on many things.

I have eaten at boyfriends houses before and they cleared the table, I am a guest, it is simple etiquette.

100 percent correct.

Goodkidd:
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What's up?

LMAO @ The tittle.

Orikinla:
Mrs. Beyoncé Giselle Knowles-Carter cat walking in hot pink shorts and orange top on the street in New York City on Thursday May 14, 2015. And she only remembered to makeup her face, but forgot her legs as we can see that the face looked different from her legs.
The common fashion mistake of majority of black girls who makeup or tone only their faces, but forget their hands, legs and buttocks.

This post is so ridiculous, Beyonce doesn't bleach/tone, for the correct reply to your post, read Kashybaby's post because it is 100% correct.
LMAO @ Beyonce bleaching.

Why would she bleach, she's already light skined.

skylane:
hmmmm if u say so anyway,but am leaving already,booked a date with her 2morow gona spill the beans there

Just explain to her your lack of respect for Nigerian women and maybe she will make it easy for you and dump you instead.

skylane:
I neva said she's neglecting or ignoring me,but she pesters me 4 money too much

She doesn't want you touching her, I would call that neglecting and ignoring you.

skylane:
why do u say dat?

If she is neglecting, and ignoring you it's only obvious.

skylane:
fake what? Now u can see y I complain abt our girls, if u like say its fake I can't force u to believe

She just doesn't like you, and I can't blame her.

skylane:
. Lolz u av followed me here again, my white fiancee is still faraway, hmmmmmmmm now u see y I complain about them

No one is following you, why do you keep posting these ridiculous fake theads?

Maybe she treats you like crap because she knows that you are #team white girl.

skylane:
Okay this might be a bit lengthy but I want to make it more understanding to everyone 4 beta commentary advice thanks.
I have this girlfriend,we go to the same church(but I frst met her at our estate gate),live in the same estate,
We started dating not up to 2months now, the second time she came to my house,I was trying to romance her a little but she was mad abt that,she was telling me no sex in the relationship,I shud control my self blah blah,ok I agreed on that I don't hav a problem with sex,okay even just to touch her hand she would freakout as if I have ebola if I try to hug or hold her hand while walking on the road weda day or night she wud get angry and dish out warnings to me that she not use to such life no romance,my problem with her is this,(inner character)she's the agressive type anything I do or say she will blast me 4 the rest of our meeting,she talks too much.she's the demanding type,demands everything from me even the tym I wasnt havin a job,she's always demanding money and she is working she has neva bought me anything talkless of givin me money wen I was in need,she doesn't joke or laugh,if I try to play or joke with her she will blast me,always tryn to form wise,she once told me that she hates men and sex infact she will be selfish and stingy with sex if she marries her husband because she was raped at

her frst sex, physically she is not fine no body assets poor dress sense, I just got attracted to her boldness,but she's getting me worked up the more character I find in her,its just as if I am dating a man no feelings anymore no romance notin,I don't just know wat to do with her,and I hav a couple of girls giving me greenlight but am just reserved cos of this one.pls advice me I want to do away with her

LMAO hahahahahahaha!! Is she white, if not dump her so you don't waste her time.

PS..... What's your fiance going to say?

Raiders:
Happy birthday to the American Lady who talk sh1t about Nigerian men Miss Khia.

Thanks to the Nigerian man who degrades African American women.