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ronald4lif:
In Nigeria, a guy in the university is hoping and longing to graduate and start making money for himself. In contrast, all a girl hopes for is to find a hubby and get married as soon as she graduates. What kind of ridiculous mentality is that?

A lot of them don't care about self-development and striving hard to make ends meet and a career for themselves. Marriage is their end goal.

What then do we expect from a lady who might have never given a thought on how to be self-reliant and independent and who have financial needs to take care of? They have to fall back on the only available remedy which is men. Since men are ready to do anything to shag a pusśy they have ceased our cravings for sex as a means to an end.

Their foreign counterparts aren't taught about marriage at all. They don't consider marriage the way we do and don't make it a priority. A girl-child is taught on how to be self-reliant and never depend on anyone for livelihood, not even their parents.

At 15/16 she's already started her first part-time job while in college. She doesn't expect a man to give her even a pound when she can offset her personal bills. And marriage is never a necessity and if it eventually happens fine.

So so true.

QueenValerie:
I was gonna say something similar but quoting this dude will do.This is the way I feel about it too. But if you want to take care of me and give me nice things I ain't gonna complain Gimme,gimme

Lmao at gimme gimme.

ayindepremier:
Your Comment be like Gun Shot!!!

Lol but it is the truth.

marvelck:
Most times you hear a girl talking about getting a guy who can take care of her needs, and also pay her bills. They voice such out even to the hearing of others, as if its mandatory for a guy to do that for them all the time. Are they babies? What stops a girl frm getting up and working her ass off to take care of her needs as well, Without depending on any guy. That's why I admire oyinbo girls (ladies who are based abroad), they take care of themselves. They hardly wait or depend on guys. You see a girl abroad doing two jobs to pay her bills, despite having a boyfriend. But here in Nigeria, most of our girls just love to wait or depend on guys to pay their bills...

The solution to your dilemma is to not date these parasites.

4C2215131:
Hmmm...someone give that lady the keys to a brand new...what car do you want? Just say it and it's yours in fact get a chauffeur while at it (said with the facial mien of Clem Ohameze).

Lol I'll be greatful for any decent running car that is given freely.

Maybe they were jealous because you went after the white girls first and they were only an afterthought after being rejected.

pickabeau1:
Based on a few one sided words ?

Dr khiaa

Based on experience and symptoms.

Gross!!! I hate to see a hairy man, let me shave your hair for you.
Your face is nice but your hairy chest
I give a minus 20.

Truckpusher:
Open the damn legs already.
Go read your book , you say na toto dey scratch you up and down - I no wan hear bicycle story o.

Lmao. You are so damn bad.
How have you been baby,baby,baby?

pickabeau1:
another religion bashing thread




Op

-have u been sincere to your husband
-Has anyone of your friends or.family chucked out their hubby on 'flimsy' divorces to live fat on settlement
- the issue here is trust

The issue here is mental illness.

MurderX:
OP, to be frank, I dont trust you. I suspect your husband knows what he is saying. Please leave him alone if you are tired of the marriage.

See op, as a woman you will always be the blame for your husband/man's bad behavior on this site, some people are very repressive

bjcole:
Madam, cutting the head is not solution to the headache.

Is killing his wife and kids a better solution to you? It is better that she get her kids and herself to safety and help him from a distance.

jusRadical:
Home breaker. Who told you that the man is a proid person.

I figure you do not know what marriage is all about. Dump, dump , dump.

If he doesn't get help, she had better get those kids and herself the hell out of there.

byvan03:
Don't ever sleep with your eyes closed before he wakes one night with his voices telling him to kill all supposed conspirators.

100% on point.

Ybaby:
Schizophrenia !

Get him help quick

Thank you thank you thank you.
Paranoid Schizophrenia to be exact.
Op pay attention because this one nailed it, my love one suffurs from the same sickness and behavior as your husband, no matter how much you love your husband you can't do it alone, he needs medical help. He's hearing voices and that's who's telling him all these things.

Mintayo:
He is your husband, you should know when he will be stable for a simple discussion. Know his mood. Then commit him to your creator.

If you read her post entirely you should understand that her husband has an UNSTABLE MIND.

bjcole:
Take it easy with him first, your husband is acting under influence, he has been told something like you conniving with people to tarnish him. There may some secrets he told you and at this point he is feeling unsafe. Now my advice is first for you to relax your discussion or whatever it is handle in church for now, you need to settle your home first. He needs every assurances now in deeds not just talking so as to put whatever prophecy he has been told to nought.

See op, they will blame you.

lofty900:
Take him not to a psychologist but to a psychiatrist. He's suffering from paranoia. If he refuses to accept help, dump his arrogant sorry asssss

Op listen to this one, this is the real deal.

tortmistress:
I am really very respectful toward him, and do not do things to aggravate him on purpose but now anything I say he takes it the wrong way. It is difficult to have a simple discussion.

Op, please do not listen to most of these posters on here they will blame everything on you and tell you to pray and do nothing, I'm sorry but you didn't choose a very good place to come for advice.
I have given you my two cents on a prior post.
Whatever you do, DON'T blame yourself and for the sake of your children, yourself and your husband get that man some mental help NOW.

tortmistress:
Ladies and gentleman I am at my wits' end and need some help. My hubby of 8 years, who used to be a lovely, generous man, has turned around to become someone I cannot recognize. I myself am not from Nigeria. I have started to wonder if maybe others may have a better sense of what is happening here - that maybe there are some cultural issues that I am missing.

To the meat of the story - my hubby and I have been living quite peacefully with no major problem with our two children. 2015 I started to notice that my hubby seemed concerned if I chat with any brother at church, even briefly. Because of my profession, some people at church will accost me after service to ask 1 or 2 questions and I will often give advice but of course there is nothing bad or immoral being discussed. My hubby has always been aware this happens, and had not problem but recently started being annoyed if the person asking a question is a brother. I tried to discuss with him but also reduced my habit to keep the peace.

Okay, I thought maybe that is all but then things started to get worse - my hubby started to ask me what did I tell this person or that person about him. And I said ah of course I cannot discuss you with this person, if you are mentioned it's just them asking how you are doing and asking to send their regards to you. He started claiming I am discussing him with people and that I am letting people know his business. I try to ask him to clarify what exactly I have said, and to who, and to tell me where he is getting this information but he does not answer. I just say eh sorry but really I don't know what he is talking about.

Things now have gotten seriously out of hand. He is claiming that he has it on good authority that I have conspired with some evil people that are targeting him and I am doing things on purpose to agitate him. I have tried everything I can try to explain to him that this is not true, and that I don't even know how one conspires with evil people. He says someone confirmed his suspicions and told him that I made a deal with the evil people that I will help them to make his life miserable, and in return I will get custody of the children. I have not idea who the person that told him that is and I have not idea where that theory is coming from because God knows my heart, I have never had any evil intent toward my hubby.

His behaviour has become increasingly bizarre and he wakes me up at all times of the night asking me to tell him about the conspiracy that is going on concerning him. When I say I don't know he get agitated and tells me I am such a liar. He claims the children are also being used against him to mock him (our oldest is 6). He says other people outside also mock him. There is no peace in my house, every day is a new story. I cannot have a simple conversation without being accused of mocking him or trying to manipulate him so I can laugh with the evil people. I have informed his family back home and they simply say we should pray for our marriage. I suggested to him that maybe we should try to speak to psychologist and he said a prophet already told him that the evil people and I intend to lie about him and say he is crazy.

Please can someone shed some light on this for me? It is sad and heartbreaking for me to even type this but the truth is that if I cannot understand what is going on soon and see a light at the end of the tunnel I will have to turn my back on my marriage. Please if anyone knows anything that can help me understand him and help him let me know. Thank you for reading this far.

He is mentally sick and you know it, he is paranoid, you better use your God given sense and get your kids and yourself out of that house before its to late.
I have someone who is mentally sick who is close to me and its no joke.
Move out and get him psychiatric help, the only alternative to what is causing his behaviour is drugs.

Sagamite:
I like the sound of that. You know your responsibility and working hard towards it.

Jury duty?

I have done that too.

My policy, if they are black, they guilty. .................I am Racist! (Joking)

What are you studying?

Lol @ your policy
My policy is if they are black.......I know I am black but I hate all black people.

If they are white......Why are we having this trial wasting tax payers money, he's/she's guilty...hang um high.
Moderators I'm only kidding.

I'm studying business/child development.

Bamz:
Well if it's true, no surprise afaic. I've had encounters with Guyanese and South African chicks. They're nothing close compared with our chicks here on this issue. It's a Nigerian thing I believe.

It doesn't mean that you are throwing yourself at a man, you could see something you like in him and say hello to start a conversation and if he is feeling you, you both can exchange contact information and see where it goes from there.

Bamz:
Thank goodness. Are you even sure you're a Nigerian?

I saw some girls vehemently stating they would never make any bit of move (subtle or not)... this is 2015 and it's shocking people can still be stuck up and so red-necked.

Sometime ago, a friend of mine gave me the green light, even though we couldn't take things up a notch, she respected my reason and we laughed afterwards about her whole process of giving me the green light like 10+ months after when she really did open up about it.

Lol I'm American.

tommychow:
OP, it's naij girls. They still backwards...no offense. In Jand, it's pretty normal. In fact, the naij girls there had to adapt and turn up back when I was in uni. It's just like you mentioned, they don't throw themselves at you and be like "you're really hot, I want you" NAH! They become friendly by making eye contact and saying "hello" when they see you, SIMPLE! As a sharp guyz
you'll go with the flow because she has built a welcoming atmosphere. No awkwardness, no pressure.

Naij girls underestimate the power of "hi" and a smile. Look it up, the idea of hard-to-get is about not agreeing easily to dates, sex or not being readily available. Hard-to-get has nothing to do with being FREAKIN RUDE. RAZZ GIRLS!!!

Lmao..Give this man a cookie, I agree 100% . Ladies just say hello, how are you and show those pearly whites, you will brighten his day.

Richardonald:
The Op tried.if a girl desire a guy its not bad making the move.but it should be indirectly,maybe start a convo.make some stuff to catch his attention..my girl make the move,after all i didn't use it against her.am even starting d relationshp a fresh

I agree 100%, I have no problem walking up to a man that I find interesting and starting a conversation with him, in 2015 are there still women who are afraid to approach a man?

Sagamite:
Before I even reply you, you need to explain why you always disappear for so long.

How can I get my retirement fund from you in my 2016 plans when I never even see you.

Lol Work and school are kicking my butt on top of that I'm serving jury duty,
so I've been quite busy, besides I have to continue to work hard so that I can provide for you in your old age.
So what have you been up to.

Bunchersstab:
My passion, the source of my unending happiness....
Merry christmas to you too.
Where have been?
Daddy misses you more than anything else.

*million kisses *

Thank you my luv, my heart is filled with so much joy. Baby misses you too, one trillion kisses and hugs are sent to you.

StPete:
False!

"Babe don't cum now” means you’re a regular one minute man

You can’t even do two strokes and she knows what you’re about

I agree.

mrbillz:
During sex, if a woman say "Am tired" It means she didn't enjoy your dick.

But if she says "Babe don't cum now" it means she enjoyed your dick

Ladies come help us on this

If true, how true?
If false, backup your opinion


Matured minded Please!

Lmao If she begs you not to finish it's because she hasn't reached her peek yet, if you finish before she does she will definitely be upset because you didn't get the job done.

francizy:
Well, since you wouldn't have me on your whatsapp contacts, will always stick around.. I'm doing great and I hope you're too..

I told you that I am not on any social website but I always think of you when I'm on Nairaland.

francizy:
Merry Christmas to you too boo.. Been a while since we last had a chat on here.. Hope you having a fun time?

I don't have much free time anymore but I log on whenever I do. I hope you have been doing fine as always.