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Parpor:
Team older ladies all the way,cos they tend to be more matured from a particular angle. That should be at the right time though

Amelian:
I hear.. But I don't buy your idea on a younger guy of below 26, hoping to have sexual fun with an older lady of 30s.
Its weird having to make love or have se3x with such a young guy? Wow, I can't even imagine it..sorry but it doesn't look appealing to me at all.. It's gross

And younger ladies of 20s dating men of say 55years and above is so gross..
Anyways do whatever rocks your boat..best of luck !
And am comfortable with what rocks mine.

Amelian:
Some younger guys are like the op.
It's funny and weird when I notice younger guys of 20 to 26 saying they are inlove with older ladies in their 30s...
Sorry op, I find it weird

One of my colleague's son, he's in school. 20years old and he's infatuated with me. Cos I can't call his feelings love. He looks at me those teenage lovestruck eyes.. Lol
There was one time, he summoned courage and complimented my looks and outfit. I was like what? I didn't see it coming, then.. And there was a more matured friend of his father next to him that day. His dad's friend just looked at him and was like, wetin carry your eyes go there! See this small boy o..
Lol
The young guy had a defiant look in his eyes and replied back and so? Don't I have eyes? There is nothing wrong in me complimenting her. I felt a bit embarrassed, I then butt in and told the man, he's just like his dad.. His dad likes my outfits to work.. So u shouldn't take it that far.. The dad's friend then said, I will tell your dad when he comes
He replied, tell him nah! What's there.. I just smiled and walked away.. Lol
The young man has shown me all signals, that he's inlove... But Me, I pretend I didn't notice.. Lol
Op, I feel your story.. Lol

Onegai:
You clearly haven't been paying attention. Nigerians are calling it the will of God and praising the Lord and thanking God fo Trump. Their favourite white pastors endorsed him so that was enough. Buhari has already booked service and Mass with Oyedepo, Adeboye and Mbaka, armed with his PR crew, so he too will win re-election. Give the masses bread and circus or religion and watch your approval rating soar.

Mindfulness:
If Hillary and her team were smarter, they would have applied pathos too but they didn't so they were not as smart as they were thinking.
The problem with the establishment is that they forget what appeals to ordinary people and then they lose.

I am curious how it will play out. The way I see it, America has been on the road to decline for a long time now and I see them accelerating.
The fact that someone like Trump was even allowed to run for president shows how messed up the country is. It is nothing but a symptom of deeper core issues.

Bush fvcked the country up, Trump has the potential to destroy it. My guess is that he will be impeached.

Onegai:
That people prefer to trust their feelings, their religion and their anger over any facts, knowledge, experience and preparedness.

And it's okay to do whatever the hell you want to do, as long as you can tap into the popular feeling going around, you will win people over. And then screw them later. Very Nigerian behaviour. Which is what I have constantly said about Americans.

So most likely Ayo Fayose is our next President. You heard it here first!

Strangely, I keep seeing pictures and videos of white teens in schools chanting "go home niggurs", "cotton pickers", "white power", "build the wall" and a uni in San Diego has had an attack on a Muslim girl. Wonder what's causing all this? I mean, Trump is great for America, he's a Christian, we Nigerians (whom are Black) love himmm!!!

Mindfulness:
No but children are born with different dispositions. Some are more timid than others, as an example. All babies are not equal so they cannot be a tabula rasa.

Yeah, same symptom of fear and insecurity. Taken to an institutional level, it is called marriage, ha ha ha.

Mindfulness:
Maybe the father disvirgin -ed many girls and left them heartbroken and maybe he impregnated some and had them have abortions. Guilty conscience can haunt people for ages.

And Love is the child of freedom. Better context?

Mindfulness:
I would disagree with John Locke but I agree with your last paragraph. I would not teach my children all this 'the world is so messed up' nonsense. I would rather kill myself if I thought of the world as messed up instead of bringing any kids into it. And every generation repeats the same nonsense. I will tell my kids what is better avoided and why but also emphasize all the opportunities life has to offer and let them explore new places so that they grow confident believing in themselves.

I will not tie them to a chair just because there are sockets in the house and they may experience an electric shock when sticking their fingers in but use baby socket protection and still have them move around the house freely. That's the difference between protection and overprotection.

So true!

I do not believe that you can have the one but not the other but if I had to choose, I would go with happiness for sure.

Beautifully said. It reminds of an article I read about idleness.

There seems to be a false notion of what the term dysfunctional family means. Most NLanders think it means child neglect and divorce. I have provided more examples and overprotection is one characteristic among many.

dangotesmummy:
exactly. Look at lecturers children, pastor's children, evangelists children. Many of them are good actors WHEN they're around their parents. Wait make them marry or go for nysc.ayayayaya

You go dey wonder shey na pastor born this one.but for some reasons like looking like a perfect parent outwardly you will see lecturers begin to become overbearing with their kids till the kids leave the house and then they become the exact opposite of what you were trying to instill in them

For example Davidos mother was a lecturer and a rigid seventh Day Adventist member
she wanted to mould David to an s.u kind of boy.that his only life will be church and school. She caged that boy so much till he ran out of the house. He was sleeping IN musicians studios about.

The mother wanted him to be a regular church boy,go to school and live an average life like anyone else but he was intrested IN music

So anyway he kept practicing till he released his first album and then boom every one knows Davidoff today.

The mother is late now but if you were opportuned to see the mother she's no different from the typical deeper life mothers.if she were to be alive and she sees all the tattoos and ear/nose piercings she will collapse because David is a complete opposite OF his mother's ideals an belief system. Though they look alike facially but his life is very different from what his mother wanted him to live.David is a very good example of caging a child to frustration and almost at the brink of killing his inner potentials because she's a church deacon and wants to appear as a perfect mother

raumdeuter:
The bold is false. If we have 100 juvenile deliquents, at least 80% of them would be from homes that lack supervision.

n the US most of the crimes are committed bychildren from dysfunctional homes where the parent are not around to supervise their kids and leave them to the society to raise

Same as in Nigeria. Get 100 kids that are criminals and see the type of family they come from. As much as we all loved the fabled child of strict parents who became wayward, there are at least 10times more example from children from unsupervised backgrounds

KillerBeauty:

Mindfulness:
I just love it!!

Children are so carefree and so fun loving but adults, who forgot that life is supposed to be fun, think that they can teach them more than they can learn from them. When in fact the little ones enjoy life so much more until we mess it up for them and make them become like the rest who complain about the world and their lives all the time and take everything far too seriously.

The simile you have used in this context is so poignant. Let the little ones be, they have so much of what you wish you still had. Don't kill their zeal for life. Look at those sulky faces around you, they are not the faces of children.

Perfect example!

Would parents rather have a genius or a happy child?
I would not want my children to end up numbing themselves like Michael did until he died because he was not allowed to be a child and enjoy it like he naturally would. Joseph Jackson wanted the best for him, too, I am sure. And he was acting with the same arrogance many parents still do.

The benefits of play time and social learning have been long underestimated. It is with other children that they learn how to compromise, how to resolve conflicts, how to win through and gain acceptance. And it is in their free time when they do not know what to do that they develop imagination and creativity. Give them some space and time to explore and develop

Not everything is learned at home and from books and you can't teach them everything. They will learn things you won't like but they will amaze you too. Just remember that you are not a perfect role model either. Guide them but also show them that you trust them.

Like dangotesmummy has perfectly said, controlling them too much, will only make them live a double life and lie to you because they were not born to be imprisoned but learn and develop within an age appropriate time frame. They will trust you as much as you trust them.

KillerBeauty:
What if your mother and your father are married. They gave birth to two kids before you. But your mother had an affair with another man, unknowingly to your father. So the seed of another man not your father formed you. But you grew up thinking your father is your gather.

Would you have been born or someone else?

bukatyne:
I would protect both my daughters and sons.

In my opinion, tit's futile to protect your daughter while leaving your sons to wander; the wandering sons invites trouble to the daughter at home.

Looking back, I am adopting a lot from my own upbringing...

No yeye friends or outing.....'Read your books! '

Mindfulness:
I saw this thread before but decided not to comment because I wasn't feeling in the mood to be rude.
You have put it more mildly than I could and there is nothing more I can add to it.

Mindfulness:
I concur wholeheartedly and I could not have said it any better.


This is a well thought out, coherent line of argument underpinned by knowledge and topped with respect for the less privileged among us. Anyone who cannot respect people who find themselves in less fortunate circumstances should consider himself emotionally and intellectually impoverished.

but what the heck is the Dunning-Krueger effect?

Onegai:
Yes, but not in anger and not too often. Fear has its limits and the person Ooga Booga Baby E is afraid of us Himself, who glared her into silence 2 nights ago. My hand-smacking only stops for a few minutes.

however, all that will change the day i find a phone with nudey pics or makeup, a mini-skirt and an older teenage boy's contact That day, I turn into a Bolton

eph12:
Many were flogged and they took correction while others got used to the rod and even longed for it. Nobody wishes to inflict pain on the child but there are some situations you just have to.
Like I said before the environment matters.

toyeem:
Really. Can you really raise a well-behaved and well-cultured child in Nigeria without spanking? I think the way you do it and the no of times would be the issue. 'Spare the rod and spoil the child';I didn't really understand that until I became a mother.

Kachisbarbie:
[Very true @ emboldened. Ode has really lost its insulting element.

WHOEVER you're shagging?
naso you shag reach, broda KillerPrie*t?

from my own experience: I'd say white women are much more traditional, submissive, understanding, beautiful without make-up, and natural than black women