starbuck:
Op, I love your threads but hate the fact that you buy these exaggerated years internet keep dishing out

PoliticallyInco:
When you combine all these things you have described in your post it is a recipe for disaster! Big one. Especially now that most ladies realize that they can also have fun and have no strings attached relationships but still get material benefits from these men.

In your description:
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1. You say you are good looking. Let us assume that to be true.

2. You are an incurable Mr. Nice Guy. You are trying too hard to prove you are good. Even the ladies feel this is too good to be true. It is not a bad thing to be very straightforward. Nope. Please don't let anyone deceive you. It makes life easy and simple. It is almost like saying what is on your mind. It works for me. I say what I feel. And I explain it very very well. That way no one is confused or no one will say oh sorry I misinterpreted or misunderstood. You just can't do that when it comes to me. So note that you are perfectly fine being a nice guy who doesn't want to play games and foster doubts.

3. You are dating and meeting girls that do not want to be pressured into anything serious. You are somehow meeting the same age grade or girls with the same mindset, or girl from the same area or something. One way or another that we yet know about, the ladies you meet, they all have something in common controlling their psyche.

4. Depending on where you are, many ladies do not find that let's date seriously thing attractive anymore. More and more ladies in Nigeria are becoming independent. As most of our parents and grandparents pass on, the generations X, Y, Z and millennials see things differently. So, don't go rushing them into having anything serious unless they indicate interest. You are having sex with a lady and still asking her to date you? So how did you two end up in bed? So you see, you pick these type of ladies.

5. You post means you are desperate. Your desperation is something women can read a mile away. They pick it up. They know they are supposed to be the ones doing that when they are good and ready. But to impress them you give them your phone. You probably do anything and everything for them. You quickly let them into your private life. They don't have to work for it or earn it. You just hand it to them?

So this is your math:


Good looks + Nice Guy + Desperation + the set of ladies we have today = Making ladies run from anything serious.

Long story short you are the one acting like a woman and the women acting like how the man should. The relationship you offer isn't a challenge. They have nothing to fight for. Nothing exciting. No suspicion that another girl may want you. Forget the heart attack talk from one of the ladies. She is either lying to you so you don't take offense or she feels you just too "mushy" ,clingy and needy. No excitement per se. She could also feel that if you are this nice, many girls would want such a man so she runs away. Now problem is all the ladies are feeling the same way and running away. It is the same way people see celebrities or a beautiful girl and they assume she has a boyfriend. Meanwhile she notices and is praying you just approach her and say "Hello".

Remember that humans are first of all animals with instinct and then we have intelligence that we use to control, overide or enhance the instinctive behaviours. Human instinct was passed on to us by our cavemen ancestors. The men take risks. Go out to hunt. Are hardly 100 per cent available. They get a life. They chase the mammoth. You are just there available. And the women feel that many other women would want a man like this hence they can't deal.

You are trying to live for the women first. Live for yourself first. Chase your interests and passion. Don't just be available for them. Jeez why is dirt/sand which is quartz and silica not valued as much as diamond even though they are all minerals? Because diamond is scarce. Sand, you can get it anywhere. See it everywhere. Nothing exciting about it.

You simply combine all the anti-seductive characteristics.

BigDick70inch:


U see why u r weak and..can't even decode a girl secret message..

Maybe She's trying to..picking an interest in u or probably wanna get to know u more..Or do u expect to start chykin u on here before u pick up..

See the silly question you typing ehn??

Jacqueline22:
Who na told you I won’t date you?

Youngpo413:
There are so many important things to focus on apart from women...

Skmoda360:

Talk to the village girl to free you....you don offend one babe for your village way done tie your matter for rope say "no woman go marry you"....

loswhite:
lol banker that is not a flirt....lol fantabulous

Bizzyman:
What is the age range of these girls? Are they below 25?

armadeo:
Attend your uncle's wedding to walder freys daughter.

OluwabuqqyYOLO:
You're the nice guy. You don't get girls to date.

Funkyswagzz:


Exactly what I was thinking.. they probably friend zone him afterwards cos he is all chattie and fun to be with. I believe it's his manner of approach

Funkyswagzz:


What kind of girls do u usually meet? Do u meet them thru social media? Have any of them spent few nights at ur house? Do u ask them out before or after sex?

Crysthaniel:

Broz no mind dem Questioning your Behaviour towards women oo.. Every one is different we are not all the same.. All those girls ehn most of them are still coming back.. After pursuing their mirage-fantasies and realising that they really need men like you in their lives..
My advice is that you stay who you are don't change for anybody.. Always don't loose your Joy very very important.. Keep good records with Em all..

Bizzyman:
What is your height?

pansophist:


Abi, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Especially when the cow carry milk give you hand without effort?

Pweetyccee:
Water

IjebuWarrior:


Going thru this thread, I can easily tell why you're the President of Ladies Reject!

Just imagine... a random lady made a pass at you and you weren't even curious? Really? WTF?

Being a man isn't by gender, not even by ur wallet, not even by ur good looks, not even by ur big d!ck neither great sex...

Being a man is Being in charge!

Bro, you're NOT in charge... ur ladies are absolutely in charge! They definitely have their ways with you... your lifestyle nvr challenge them or make them curious either. You're a pushover!

Ladies don't fall in love with men that control them, they fall in love with men that's in absolute CONTROL! They love to be under the control of a man not, a guy that tells them what to do but, a guy that tells what should be done!

Man Law #3... Never control, but always be in Control! Go figure...

anneboleyn:
Pardon me, @OP, I have just checked my e-mail but found nothing.

Pweetyccee:
Really? @op

anneboleyn:
@OP, if you wouldn't mind, I'd like to be your friend.

Oluwaice1:
Bro change the girls you meet. Particularly go for girls that are very pretty and well to do as well. Insecurity at play but i guess they not want to spill it to you.

TheManofTomorrow:


Here in this comment lies your dilemma

The problem is that you have too much peace and calmness in your life if I can call it that. Most ladies, especially the fun type, likes a little bit of drama in every man that they meet or will probably wanna date. They are not exactly bad girls, but that's just how ladies are wired. And I won't call you a Simp too.

All these overt acts you are doing to make them find solace in you being a nice guy and all is unnecessary and the cause of your problem.

Roll with multiple girls, have a bit of things to hide, be unpredictable sometimes, prank her, snub her, and things like that, and watch how the tides will sweep in your favor. Just find a way to balance your love for her while creating room for a little bit of drama.

Of course if all those things don't sit well with you, you can find a core mumu church girl to date, and that way, you still maintain your nature.

The only reason they are hanging around you is your cash and looks.

Blissquare:
Something is wrong and please don't take it the wrong way. It is not spiritual. What comes to mind is that you may be trying to date the girls who are wrong for you. Maybe they are attracted to your money only but don't want commitment. You may also have mouth odour or body odour. Your written English is play or I would have thought maybe it is bad and you want to date elite babes. Confide in one of them to give you a reason or send a spy to find out. Or do you cry too easily or talk too much about your mother... It can be an unexpected reason but simple to tackle.

Vicky99:
Change environment.

oscar4lyf:



I guess we are in the same shoe, I'm not really the type that's interested in ladies but one or two I deeply care about don't See Me as one they can date, have asked what's the issue since u said I'm nice, gentle quiet and good, yet nothing.. The thing just tire ME and even making ME lose interest in the opposite sex fastly

DaddyRochie1642:




Search that word and carefully read and understand it on Google for your own good.

OutsideTheBox:
1. If you're truly good looking as you say (though no pic for us to confirm ooo), they may think you're a player.
2. It could be you're not that cute. Some guys do tend to hype their looks.
3. You haven't met the right person yet
4. Issa spiritual something and you need to fast and pray

It's not hype...wouldn't have mentioned looks in my post but added it incase you guys think I'm not good looking ...I'm actually extremely good looking.

DaddyRochie1642:
He Is a SIMP

Mastakija:
he is a dude

Miniso:
Oh i see, i taught dis iz what all ladies are looking for. Bro it's like we need to swap the kind of gurlz we both come across