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Talkisneeded:
Love and dating will always be a capitalist market…
So treat it like that…






But again,what’s life without proper bedmatics skills seff,I’m here to solve all your woes

Dtruthspeaker:
Cooperation of girl bring sugar and boy bring garri is also dating.

Or girl bring yam and boy bring oil is also dating

Host78:
I'm just really weak this evening. Like guys I don't even know where to start from right now.

So, I have my exam next week starting from Monday.

My arrangement was with this my friend to pay my school fees.

The thing is I get paid on the 16th of this month, about a week+ from now.








So, I'll need money to pay my fees before my exams.

I made arrangements with him since he said he has funds with him.

This arrangement was about two weeks ago. He lends me the money and I pay my school fees and then pay him back on that 16th once I get my money.

I spoke with him physically last week and he assured me that he's with the money and I will get it on Thursday which is yesterday.

Since yesterday I've been trying to reach him and couldn't. Visited him multiple times but his brother kept telling me he's not around.

Today which is Friday, he came to my place this night and was telling me that he has spent the money on some clothes.

I just weak. I no even fit talk anything once he said that.

All that kept running through my mind was where do I start from?

I understand it's not my money. But why give me the assurance and then at the last minute just cut me off?

This is the same person that I gave my spare laptop to and he's currently using for his business because he couldn't afford to pay for it o.

He's the same student as much as myself and knows that this will mean extra year for me o.

How do I raise money between now and Monday eh?

If you can't help at least let me know. I knew he had money then and that was why I made the arrangements and now this?

This cut me really deep this evening honestly.

IFuckWell:
Bro I need me a car and a house, something to boost my sense of self-worth and self-regard among others. I keep growing old. However, my job pays pittance.. I spend over 80% per month on just self maintenance.

I don't have no savings sufficient enough to ever buy me a a suitable car or house. Some of my friends already have these and it's getting difficult to be able to associate with them.

I'm always ashamed whenever I walk down my street - old man like me, no car, no house or a woman (which woman go even look my side)?

dominique:
The worst disservice anybody can do for themselves is to marry an emotionally unavailable partner. Emotional neglect kills silently

Diamond098454:
hmmmmmmmmm

Goodlady:
So you're calling me a prostitute but you that's a man that's having premarital sex is what?

Goodlady:
What's women eh?
When we aren't connected emotionally nko?

Stephen0mozzy:
Owner of the house is not complaining.
Keep your respect. Ask your mom to serve him the formal notice. Else, next time na 6months e go owe.

Unless you need the rent for sustenance (which I'd say commot eye from "my mama property"

10thTenthMan:
You value in her eyes is based on your ability to walk away.

Now when you walk away, live your life. Don’t brood. Don’t be sad. Hit the gym or whatever you used to do to have fun. Keep being likable in your office.

Chase dreams and goals and achieve them. Don’t worry she is noticing and she would act like she isn’t , but she is. Even if she doesn’t notice , isn’t it for your own good to be focused on things in your life that are assets and fun and wholesome and good for your emotional and mental well being?

When they see a man that they think is a simp they start testing him and acting foolishly. Trying to see his resolve. Trying to see if he will break. Hoping he would SO THAT THEY CAN TAKE CHARGE AND CONTROL THE POWER DYNAMIC IN THE RELATIONSHIP!

The funny thing is if you had begged her and cried and sobbed and wailed, the power dynamics would have shifted.
Now the power would be with her and she can reject your pleas and tears and go home laughing about how you begged. She inflates her ego and self worth and looks for the next man to toy with. Or she takes you back on her own terms, whims and caprices.


Men. Real Men. True Men. Proper Men. Men with a brain in their heads don’t take to such expensive jokes which is a form of threat. Men don’t take to threats easily. Not to talk of coming from someone that should we want to (and if there were no laws and moral codes and intelligence) , we could just hold on and press into their necks and choke them to death at will. People that most men can literally kill with our bare hands. I am not supporting violence. I am just saying, the nerve they have shows how they don’t think things through when they act the way they do.

- When You ask to date her- she has the power
When you are someone she wants to date- You have the power.

- The moment you sleep with her -You have the power.

-When she tries to break up and you beg and cry - she has the power.

- When she asks to break up for no good reason and you man up and say ok it is fine - you have the power.

You did what a proper man would do. Focus on YOUR PERSONAL PLAN OF BETTERING YOUR

- HEALTH/FITNESS
- WISDOM, KNOWLEDGE AND SKILLS
- WEALTH
- SOCIAL STANDING (POWER/INFLUENCE)

Men are leaders, protectors, providers, creators and builders. But should we choose to take a woman seriously it should be only with a woman deserving of our precious time and attention.

SocialJustice:
Stop loving and enjoy the body. You understand? If you like dey there dey mumu.

EmperorIsaac:
She is looking for power in the relationship. She wanted you to beg her. Like Samson of old, she'd "pluck out your two eyes" if you hand her the.keys, and still leave you. Give her three weeks...and play the same trick on her.

Mariangeles:
She did the right thing by calling it off.
She just doesn't know it yet.

Who wants someone who's open to everyone?
If you want exclusive, be exclusive.
Mr most of my female colleagues come around me.
EwooO! Na you jovial pass!🙄

kkins25:
When guy say he can't get babe, i know say either you get problem, you're a 0/10, you're extremely poor, or you're dead.

Trendylove:
Alright I'm here search no more.

Glory018:
Drop your picture first for us sir🌚Make i help you locate where the problem dey come from

Kingogbotor:
Bro..... I am comfortable... Can't find love... Ehn... Na to be over comfortable..... And enjoy life....for example... I have told like two female friends to hangout with me today... But none has said anything about the hanging out... U can't force people who aren't interested in u to be interested in u. It's better to work on yourself and improve yourself... If perhaps they feel u later on... Well good for them.... Maybe I might have moved on from dere... Life itself is karma......