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Hey guys,I have a Lil problem or maybe the world has a Lil problem.first off,I'm a geek I admit,and I wear glasses,I'm myopic (my glasses are designed,like Clark kent's own,original ray ban designers).I'm a medical student,300level.I like to think that I'm intelligent (my results so far has been awesome,glory to God).I am an introvert,very well exposed though but I prefer to observe than to talk.however when I'm in my small social circle,I'm the funniest craziest person u'd ever know (I've done some pretty crazy stuffs,jumped on a horse without a saddle and rode it,I'm did fall off sha,took d microphone from the mc in front of everyone at an occasion just to say "there is no meat in my rice ooo",it was a dare sha.Pecked a cadaver in anatomy dissection,lolz,and even used my scalpel to measure d length of his flaccid penis,and so many other crazy things,).I play football in my spare time (defensive midfielder,solid one,we came third in my uni's vc cup competition).I'm an ardent video gamer..certified..ps2,3,pes,God of war.
I also watch movies alot,like I said I'm not the social type so I spend a lot of time alone or with my best friend turned brother..I like to think I'm a good writer,my article has been published in vanguard once..I play drums as well.my taste in music is kinda different I love "the lumineers","fun","coldplay",the radical face,sleeping at last,brandi callie,Rachel yamagata,Christina perri,Ben Howard,Joe Brooks,Don Williams,Lady antebellum.the songs in my phone are not so popular but they make a lot of sense and in another universe,perhaps a better one,they would be a lot more popular.
Now to my point of writing this...I am awesome.i like to think I am,but all these things I mentioned above,you would never know all those things by looking at me . I'm that guy who stays at the back corner of the class looking at everybody and assimilating what they are doing . I've always said that if I'm to be granted one power then I want to be invisible. I like quietness and simplicity.but nigerian girls,well most nigerian girls always go for the shouty guy,you know,the guy on vintage shirt and jeans and big boots with dreads and who is always showing off.
I'm not that guy,I've always been a simple dresser,I wear my jeans ,polo and pams. I adore being free in what I wear,sometimes I might put on boots,but nothing too flashy.i don't like people noticing me at all,however on formal occasions I dress well and I have a good fashion sense..
My ex did complain about my dressing before she broke up with me,she was like she has to deal with me being casual all the time around her friends(i banged one of em after we broke up though)..you see,she was the social media type,she had so many followers on IG..Facebook,guys were literally begging her.but I'm not,I'm not on any social media except WhatsApp and this nairaland and she couldn't understand that.she wanted me to flaunt our relationship and dress to kill every time but that wasn't me..I don't need to show off,I love myself the way I am.i did not show her the kind of family I was from,I didn't want her to be there just for the money,but on her birthdays, I spent enough money on her.when people see her walking with me,they ask "besides the fact that he is fine,how did he manage to get this girl".you see people judge from d way I dress,and they believe that she was way above me,but in reality I was leagues above her..I loved her because I simply did.i gave her my Samsung galaxy 5 that time,in exchange for her infinix hot 2.but nobody knew that,they saw her with the phone and thought she is rich..he is broke.
Suffice it sure that she broke up with me around September last year and gave an excuse that we can't get married,she sees me in her dreams bla bla bla,and she left me for a dude like that,she told me bout him sha,he works in an insurance company, i saw his instagram page,he dresses well.but it turns out that he works for my uncle (mum's younger brother) insurance company.i found out his pay grade and well it's okay sha,although I am way better,if she wanted to leave me,she should have left me for someone way way way better not someone like him,although nd ways she wanted to keep me around as side bf,you know to always have sex with,but I refused.
Back to the topic,now I dunno what I have with this new girl I'm seeing,but it might be over soon.my question is why don't nigerian girls see good things??,why do they always go for the flashy things that re not real.i don't like flashy girls (I had a lapse of judgement with my ex).most times,the quiet ones are actually the best and they are real.if I decide to start dressing like all this guys I see with chains and all,I'd start getting girls like flies,but I wanna be true to myself and be who I am,but all I keep getting is just heartbreaking and unbelievable responses.lol,my guy wore my puma feinty(I hardly wear it) and borrowed my jeans,wrist watch,wore my cologne to see a girl and she was just tripping all over the place..because he dressed well,not really cause he has something upstairs (not saying he is dumb,he is a good dude).i went to a pool to swim nd met this slayqueens,i ignored em and jumped into d pool and swam for some time,brough out my s7 edge(it's waterproof) and took pics inside d pool,this attracted some of em to me and after some pics together,i struck a convo with one,it took me 3 mins to strike out,she was literally umm..i dunno.she us an english and lit student and i tried talking bout shakepeare and his weird lifestyle with her,but she just didnt even know him,i switched to charlotte bronte (jane eyre),lord of the flies,arms and the man,lion and jewel,she was fucking quiet,couldnt contribute shit.i felt bad and then i decided to talk about tonto and her divorce,mercy aigbe and domestic violence,and she picked up there
Why are people like this??okay her friend wore some kind of silk gown over her swimming bikini and I was like " you look like cleopatra, except that this cleopatra would outsmart octavius himself.she didn't even get the joke.i wanna meet a girl that is interested in intelligence,creativity,medicine,ideas...someone I can connect with intellectually,someone who can stimulate me,unfortunately I haven't..all this girls talk about is toke makinwa,kardashian,bey,tonto bla bla bla..where are the intelligent girls,girls that won't just wrote me out because of my dressing,girls that can see you,the "you " behind all the clothes..I'm not saying that I'm broke o biko kwa,I come from a comfortable home nd I don't lack whatever I need.but I want someone who would like me for my personality and not my background or what I am..
I expect some criticism here and it may look like I'm tryna boast or something but the truth is nobody here knows me..so I can rant here and go back to my normal life of being that cute tall guy u barely notice..
For those wey go shout summarise it..oga,no strength biko..so read it.its fun..i hope

Sanada:
An igbo boy and I'm from edo

I'm igbo too and I'll admit dt there re some places in igbo dt re better off avoided..
find out ur mum's reason for disapproving it..it might be his village,but if it's just because he is igbo..
then u gotta convince ur mum and well fight for ur love or something.
hope he is worth it though..#stayWoke

hopeall:
Get her the book, cook for her and spend the day with her.
Whatever other extra activities you want to carry out, you gotta be careful knowing that the parents will come for you and your medical career will be at stake if any "mistake" happens.

thanks man..I appreciate

lol..abeg na..
una done troll me enough.u can still troll me sha but please u can quip in something advisable for me biko..

Penisman:
Take her out to a very lonely place and tell her some stories about Rats and how they successfully attacked and chased away a certain Nigerian President from office.

lolz..u are very funny.whats up with your moniker?do u collect penis??
or do u sell?...funny guy

hey guys,okay I'm back again.if u read my previous thread,you would understand what's been going on in my love life.
Anyway,my gf (don't really know if I should call her that) has stopped behaving in that stupid way of whoring me out.
her birthday is coming this Saturday and she is coming back to school to spend it with me.
I don't know what gift to buy her..here are d reasons why I'm confused..
1) she comes from a very rich family,very rich.she kinda has everything that she wants already..and I don't think she is used to people giving her gifts on her birthday.
2)...on my birthday she was sick..critically sick for a whole week,she spent the week in my room cos I was treating her (we stay in the same lodge,next door neighbours),although she went out and bought me cornflakes..those big ones,3 of them..(cornflakes is the transverse mesocolon to my transverse colon)..
3)...she has been mentioning this book "why men love bitches",she keeps saying she wants to read it..and I'm considering getting the book as gift for her..although the book sounds like one of these books that would change her life..
4)..my last relationship,my ex made birthdays a big deal,I spent a lot on her birthdays and I spent a lot on mine..although she gave me great gifts (beats by dre,original one oo,25k own,really love it).so it made me apprehensive anytime birthdays come around,although nd I don't wanna feel that way in this relationship.i just want to be free and not think of over the top gifts..
so guys what do u suggest I do??..I wanna cook for her,I kinda learnt how to cook recently.and also give her the books why men love bitches"..or do u have a better suggestion??
p.s I'm broke biko..

which tribe is he from first??..

look..I'm a guy and when a guy likes a girl or wait..when a guy respects a girl..he ain't gon put her through this shii..u are going through right now..
he doesn't love you and he doesn't respect you.u re just..well his sex robot.
so my dear,borrow urself sense,respect yourself and walk away with the Lil dignity u still have left..

Lalas247:
When a chic starts asking you questions about another She very Insecure ! Take note = stress
Low self esteem

Ditch dat chic .... thank me later not everyone ready for relationship so don't waste ur time energy

it's kinda hard to just leave her..I've come to be her confidant and everything..and she tells me bout her insecurities..yea I know about her self esteem issues..I think it's probably d age she is at..she's 19.and she has this notion that I'm too good to be with her..

donproject:
Bro, this can't be your bus stop.

lolz,what do you mean by bus stop biko??

hey guys...howdy
Anyways,some of you are already familiar with my thread and my desire to make this my "relationship" work.
so she and I have been texting and it's kinda okay,I ve stopped d romantic playboy ish and I'm now just myself.but she keeps asking me about some girls that are my friends and she wants to know whether I've had sex with any of em.she is always like " U and b**** should have sex already,the sexual tension is too much"..."when g**** came to your place did she make any move,what was she wearing?"
At some point I started feeling angry,because she keeps whoring me out.i told her that I like her for who she is..and she is like "lies men tell,my Kitty-Cat gat you on hook".honestly,she is good okay??,but it's no longer the sex,I actually do like her..
I dunno whether it's low self esteem or maybe she doesn't even like me that much..because cause she won't admit that she is my gf,but she keeps acting like 1.

Windflower:
Just try and be observant,study her to know what she likes and dislikes. From my own view,I would say she is afraid of being committed. Throughout my stay in the university, I was never committed to any relationship because I heard stories about school love ending at the school gate and I didn't want that, some ladies have this great phobia for commitment, so don't rush her,just let things flow naturally. Make her feel very comfortable with you before making any future plans else you might just spook her and she had just freak out.

thanks a lot..I think u might be right..I do have the commitment phobia too.I'll watch it

Lalas247:
So you think that is what you call romance .... poor girl

Read below!

To the left, to the left
To the left, to the left
To the left, to the left

Everything you own in the box to the left
In the closet that's my stuff, yes
If I bought it please don't touch....

You know the rest

no..I don't know d rest..and no,no "poor girl"..
I don't know whever u typed there..wasn't born when that stuff was sang..but u were apparently,little wonder u re "irreplaceable"..u are an antique..albeit one that we have no use for..
aunty if u have advice give..if not..just shut up and go

Dillusionist:
seriously op,you need a resounding slap...will you go and face your studies..mtchew

who is dis one??..is ur brain paining u??..aunty pls carry ur old haggard ass and sit over there..yep,just beside the septogenerians..sit amongst ur people

iamadonis2:
Oh, I picked up the line where you asked if you should get back to being you. My answer: Hell yes! This whole romantic thing isn't you, right? So go back to being the aloof, annoying Human that you comfortably are.

My advice: Treat her as you would want to be treated (No matter who you chose to be).

thanks man..appreciate

Preetiex:
i pm u now send me ur pix

I've replied you

Preetiex:
show me a pix of ur cute self,anyways just be urself for sometime & forget d romantic issh,define d relationship so u wont be kiss-zone

well,maybe if u dm or pm me (dunno how dt shii works)..I'll show u

Lewaluv:
Just be yourself. Sounds like she sees right through your antics to be Mr. Romeo lover boy.

lolz. I'm not lover boy oo.I'm just tryna be one

Hey guys...
so there is this girl (if u read my former thread,u'd get d full gist) that I'm kinda dating.let me just recap a little.here it goes...
we were friends,i disvirgined her..we continued having sex and after some time I officially asked her out before she travelled home for the holidays and we kissed.
I'm a geek (medical student)..and I kinda read a lot,I wear glasses sha and I'm cute (at least that's what I'm told).
back to d main topic,after defining my relationship with her..we kissed and then she travelled home.we started texting each other alot (she is not on social media,her choice).
we text mainly at night.during one of our texting spree,I told her "it's a Sunday and u re sexting ur boyfriend(me)" and she was like "boyfriend??,i don't remember saying yes to u".
And then I replied.."I don't remember asking"
and she was like "oh,it's true".
I did finally ask her sha...and nd she was like.."girlfriend sounds dumb and is too cliché "..well suffice it sure that we still haven't picked a name for what we are..
...Now comes d tough part..I decided to text her some beautiful pickup lines..like this one for instance.."you know what's beautiful?read the first word"..
and you won't believe it..her reply was "where did u get it from??..WhatsApp status??instagram??"..to be honest..i did pick it up from d net sha..
my point is I'm not exactly d romantic guy and I can be pretty much aloof(was what ruined my former relationship)...but I'm trying to be with this girl and she is just...I don't know what to call it..
I thought girls love romantic stuffs..well this one keeps giving me replies like.."U re creeping me out with this stuff".."that is too cheesy".."someone is in a good mood"..whenever I try to be romantic..
should I stop it with all d romance stuff and go back to being me (God knows I want to)...or is she just testing me??..I really suck at girls stuff.You shoulda seen me when I was Tryna define what we have...I bleeped up alot and spewed some incoherent trashy stuff and she just kept on laughing..

PeggySandas:
Your father is to be blame for your enormous retardedness. the fool should have spill d sperm that formed a miserable bastardized hermit like on the carpet less room he fuccked your illiterate imbecilic mother.


we wouldn't have to worry about a wasted hermit like you creating useless threads about on nairaland!

you better face your studies and stop rapping pre-teen girl in the secondary you attends. remember waec is around the corner! you worthless nincompoop!

wow u sound really angry.
ummm...well first of all I'm a medical student,300level (pc2/Mbbs class),and she is in pc1 (200level).I'm 22 and she is 19 years.
we re both adults and FYI I finally asked her officially and we kissed.so I'm not "rapping" anybody.
do have a nice day,dear

Kingxway:
From what you wrote, the lady in question loves you. You are already in a relationship with her. Just tell her and stop playing hide and seek with the feeling you both have for each other. Tell her or you watch someone else take over

Unlike what you think, her going today could be an end of the relationship

I finally asked her out..like I did it in a very weird way and well she has been and we re cool.although she hasn't said yes or no sha

Lalas247:
She ain't controlling u
Just grow a pair of gpballs and do the needful ! Una go dey chop cake anyhow u tink say no be relationship

I finally asked her out..like I did it in a very weird way and well she has been laughing and we re cool.although she hasn't said yes or no sha.

abujaArchitect:
@op, you wouldn't know what you have until you lose it.
That girl is madly in love with you and you're here making cowardly excuses, waiting for her to ask you out? Do you have balls at all??
Take control of your relationship, treat that girl right. She's scared that's why she's playing the jealousy card, she feels cheap for sleeping around with you without any commitment from you. So she can't bring herself to start begging you to be in a relationship with her.
When a woman loves you don't take her for a fool or a hoe.
Man up and stop being a little b1tch

okay sir...let's hope this goes well

Askance:
Hello knax,

I'm Didi. A relationship consultant.

I will advice you speak to her letting her understand that you want the best out of the relationship. Thereinafter, her response should trigger your next movement.

yea..thanks.
I think I will try that

ChaseTheCash:
very simple, invite some random girl over when you know she'll show up, act all loved up with the random girl in her presence.. you'll get all the answers you seek.

lolz,yea.
but she is travelling today and I won't see her until next month or so,do u think I should make it official or keep playing the waiting game.

ChaseTheCash:
you're already in a relationship but you dunno


congrats dear

lolz,but how,dear??
I didn't ask her out and she doesn't call me her boyfriend,besides she is always tryna make me jealous

hey everyone.this is my first post here.
okay,so there is this girl she is my junior colleague in uni.we are close friends and really enjoy each other's company.we are having sex together though,but we are not dating sha.
the sex just kinda happened and well since then it's been ongoing.
I really like this girl and I want to sort of ask her out and make it official but I'm just scared,cos my last relationship didn't go so well.
Also,I'm kinda waiting for her to make decisions first move and ask me the " what are we" or "where is this going to" question.
she keeps giving signs that she wants more but she has never really made that move and I don't want to be d first to make it.
now,she will be travelling back to her house today,she is done with her exams,but I'm still in school here sha.
Yesterday she kept on telling me bout how a guy was chyking her and stuffs like that(she tells me about guys chyking her and even text msgs they send her).She kept going on and on about how d guy said he is coming bk this evening and that they would stroll together,bla bla bla.she kept on saying "I'm going on a date".anyways I figured out she was tryna make me jealous (I was very jealous sha) and I just had ds plain face on with no emotions and then she called me a jerk.i think she lied about d date sha cos she spent d whole evening with me and kept on pretending like someone was calling her.
She would be going bk today and I wanna ask her out before she goes,but I just have ds fear holding me bk.
so guys do I try to make it official before she travels or do I leave her to go like that