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why did you cheat on your wife did you think about the vowes, i mean you just flushed it down the toilet when you put your manhood in that young girl the first time, the vows don't mean nothing no more, you just got yourself back at the place before you got married, and now you want to know what you should do about the situation are you serious, you made the choice to sleep with the chick not ones but many times, so you knew what you were doing, you got yourself in this mess, now you get yourself out of it, and then i wonder why men say that we women go crazy, and honestly you should tell your wife and let her decide if she still wants to stay with someone she can't trust, cause i'm not sure how she would react if she would find out about this when the baby is born, ppffffff you've got to check yourself man,

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why did you cheat on your wife did you think about the vowes, i mean you just flushed it down the toilet when you put your manhood in that young girl the first time, the vows don't mean nothing no more, you just got yourself back at the place before you got married, and now you want to know what you should do about the situation are you serious, you made the choice to sleep with the chick not ones but many times, so you knew what you were doing, you got yourself in this mess, now you get yourself out of it, and then i wonder why men say that we women go crazy, and honestly you should tell your wife and let her decide if she still wants to stay with someone she can't trust, cause i'm not sure how she would react if she would find out about this when the baby is born, ppffffff you've got to check yourself man,

hey ya'll thanks for all your comments. . I'm not chasing him, now we only say hi and bye, or have a little chat, but that's how it is right now, i don't give him any hints of me liking him, I just keep it cool , so if he really likes me, i'll see that, but for now, i just keep things friendly, and i'm just staying classy by letting him know i'm exclusive and one of a kind, and if he knows what is good for him then he'll make the next move,

please i beg, i am against sex before marriage, I don't have lust feelings towards the guy, i think he's really nice, apart from that comment he made, that's the thing that made me think if he's for real or not, but i'm not goin to jump into bed with him ooooww, na wo oo

stevouge, hmmmmmm, there's a good point there, hmmmm

murphy, that's really a good point you made, i wasn't going to tell him anything, i think you're right about that, that he wants to see how much i want him, i will be very carefulllllll, i will just stay friendly towards him, and i'm sure very soon his true colors will shine through, thnx for your 2 cents on this murphy,

yeah i won't do the chasing, i'll just see what he'll be doing from now goin,

No he's not married, he's completly single, no no, i'm against having sex before marriage so i won't do the friends with benefits things, the without strings attached, so i won't go on that road,

hmmm, yeah the thing he also said that he likes it when a girl makes a bold step, but then i'm thinking ok but what happens after the bold step, you guys should i take it slow and see where this will end, cause he's really really cute, and i forgot to mention that he invited me to check him out at his soccer game, and that nite it did met his brothers, but yet again that doesn't say anything, or it does, so guys tell me what's up,

kokoye, thanks, i was thinking just that a moment ago , hmmm and honestly I want to be admired by the guys and not the other way around, and i guess you're right about that he's just having fun with this, otherwise he would've atleast said a word before to me,

hmmmm,

Mr-cork don't be so tight up , ok so tell me how do you feel abbout this,

hahahahahaa 190, you're funny, ok so tell me, what does that say about him, cause i don't understand that he wants it the other way around, for real, he said that even if he sees someone he likes he would let her go, and says if it should happen it will happen, with other words if the girls don't say nothin he won't even think about approaching her, so what is wrong with this guy,

190, i totally agree with, seriously, you should listen to parents advice they always see the things you don't see, even when everything looks perfect in your eyes, you parents always see the imperfection, they are older and wiser than you and have more life experience, so inorder to avoid any other painfull distaster in your life, move on and God will show you your REAL wife, and one thing, you said that you have been praying to God, for real how can you guys sleep with eachother before marriage, cause that's not biblical, and God gives you a ggod and perfect gift, so next time don't sleep with her, cause this is the problem you are facing now, cause if you did not sleep with her, i'm not sure you would've been emotional disturbed right now,

OK, so I met this guy at the company where I work, and he never said a word, we've only been looking at eachother, ok so after a few months I just went and ask about him to someone wich i knew would tell him, so from that point goin we started talking, and then we came to a point that he said that he never chase a woman, and that he feels that the woman should make the first step towards him, and I told him that we are having a problem because i don't chase guys, so for real!! this won't go anywhere, i mean even from a biblical view a man should initiate, i'm not going to lie, i'm really attracted to this guy, but honestly i don't want to waiste time on some one that believes it should come from a woman,

i've been reading this thing, wich is really really good,
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001401.cfm

So should i just leave this guy in the friend zone and not further, or do you think i should pursuit him even though he doesn't want to risk it all,

Are you for real ? well there's nothing wrong with that, I like tall guys cause i don't want to get on my knees to kiss a guy, I'm 5'10 so if a guy is 6'2 or taller I'll be very very happy , and it would be nice to wear my heels without looking like a giant next to my man , are you short yourself that you are asking this question cause this is really not an issue, i mean real talk,

well as a female i understand what you mean, but really if you a going to search for a man you can easiliy atract the wrong guy, because you're maybe getting a bit desperate, ( not saying you are completly ) but your friends are right, you just need to be patient and let mr. right come by, and you need to be happy alone first before you can be happy with someone else, no one else can complete you that's all blah, you need to be complete yourself and learn how to be alone and be happy by yourself, before putting yourself in a relationship, because if you meet someone the best way to have a succesfull relationship is to become firends first and then lovers, but hey, that's just me, you can do whatever you want to do, but from my past experience in looking for a guy, and jumping into a relationship because i was feeling lonely really put me into things i wish i never got myself into, and now i'm the same age as you are, i take things slow, and i know who I am and what i want in a guy, i learned things in the hard way, and i had to be happy with me first alone,

I think you should just call her, and be the bigger person here, ya'll messed this up, and you guys need to sit down as grown people, and stop pointing finger at eachother, she was wrong and you were wrong too, all this could've been avoided if #1. you introduced her to your childhood friend to let her know that it was all friendly and innocent, so she could've understand that you guys needed to do some cathing up since you guys haven't seen eachother for a year, #2. you should not have kicked her out of your house, that was wrong, and i'm sure you realize that now, and #3 hopefully you are sincere about this and want to work things out, cause your pride will not help you build up relationship, so you need to put your pride at the side and act like a grown man, instead of a little boy, so you either work it out or let this be, very simple, the ball is in your court, cause i can tell you this, this girl will not call you unless you are going to apologize to her since it is you that kicked her out, so you choose,